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Supplement to The Jewish Standard • June 2016
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I don’t do flour.
That’s been my kitchen rule for
a very long time. I cook, and I’ve
learned to prepare and master many
a tasty dish for the Shabbat meal, but
when it comes to baking desserts or
challah, then it’s hello to my friends,Butterflake, Zomick’s, Zadies, and
Sterns.
Cooking, I’ve always felt, seemed
more aligned with my personality. It
could be extemporaneous and a bit
more forgiving — a little more of this,
a little less of that, let’s eyeball the
amount — than what I perceived to be
the more precise, rigid, and scientific
art of baking.
Besides, sweets and other baked
treats never beckoned me the way
that a good meat and potatoes entrée
did.
That explains why it was only very
recently that I baked my first-ever
from-scratch challah.Unlike her mother, my daughter,
Shaina, often has expressed interest in
baking. So when the opportunity came
up to join in a neighborhood women’s
challah bake following Passover, I
signed us up. It is a tra-
dition for some women
who bake challah for this
particular Shabbat to in-
clude a ke y — in Yiddish
a shlissel — inside their
loaves. The key is a sym-bol for unlocking good
things and blessing in
the coming year, and the
challah has been come
to be known as “shlissel
challah.”
So we went. Wearing my signature
black clothes (oy! the flour all over!),
we assembled that evening with a
roomful of lively women, all there to
have their kneads and their needs met.
Each one of us had a five-pound bag of
flour, oil, sugar, eggs, water, yeast and
all the other necessary ingredients
and was instructed on what to do.
When we all introduced ourselves,
I announced that this was my firsttime, a challah maiden, if you will.
Shaina seemed to take to it very
easily. I was a tentative student, but
got into the moment. We learned
about separating the challah, and
making the blessing,
and of giving good
thoughts and love to
the act of preparing the
special bread. There
was camaraderie in the
all-female gathering. Itwas like a party.
It was getting late,
and tomorrow was
school, so we couldn’t
stay for the braiding
demonstration. We put
our dough into large plastic bags, and
carrying more than 10 pounds of chal-
lah dough, went home. (It was like car-
rying a baby!) Instructed to put every-
thing into the refrigerator until baking
time on Friday afternoon, we did.
By the next day, the dough had
broken through the plastic and was
climbing up the refrigerator wall. It
was crazy, I was a little alarmed, but
I figured that it was normal. So wepushed down the again-risen challah,
and when we were ready to bake, Shai-
na took to the Internet to find how to
braid it. She found a variety of shapes
and took over the lesson giving. I
wanted to make a big, fat loaf, and d
so, while she shaped hers artfully.
Before the challahs went into th
oven, Shaina filmed them pre-bake
and shared them online. Of cours
I took our well-washed house ke
wrapped it in aluminum foil, and iserted it in one of the challahs (the b
fat one — which actually didn’t ba
all through).
Needless to say, the house was a
omatic with the smell of freshly bake
challah. It wafted to the outside.
smelled like Shabbat.
When served, those loaves we
oohed and ahhed during our dinne
They were also gobbled up. It was
wonderful experience.
We also have plenty of frozen cha
lahs and dough left over in our freez
that we could enjoy for many Sha
bats to come.
And if not, hello my friends.
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summer to make a few bucks.
Whether take a job working in a
store or if they work in a camp, summer
is a good chance for them to taste the
work world. In addition, there are plenty
of entrepreneurial opportunities for mo-
tivated youngsters who want to launch a
new business.
To help your child find a successful
and satisfying niche in the marketplace
this summer, consider these tips:
1. Tap into his or her interests. Start
by having your child make a list of activi-ties he or she enjoys and businesses that
relate to those interests. Find something
that they would be passionate about and
want to pursue. If your child is good with
pets, perhaps he or she would enjoy a
dog-walking business. If they like being
outdoors, maybe cutting grass would be
a good idea.
2. Materialize the market. Consider
what the customer wants by creating a
questionnaire. Is there a need for this
type of service or product? If so, how
much are people willing to pay?
3. Consider the competition. Find
out what other companies with similar
products or services are offering andat what cost. If it is a service, do they
charge a flat rate or by the hour? Then
have your child ask, “How can I dupli-
cate this offering for a little lower than
market rate and still make a profit?”
4. Team up or tread alone. Have
your child decide if he wants to partner
with a peer. If he is involved in a summer
activity it may be best to team up with a
friend who can help carry the workload.
Suggest he find someone who is equally
passionate about this type of business
but possesses a different skill set so they
complement one another. To prevent
problems, detail in writing how respon-
sibilities and profits will be divvied up.
5. Name it and claim it. Choose a
name that clearly states the business
mission and its offering. Consider adding
rhymes, alliterations or catchy phrases
so it can be easily remembered.
6. Advertising agents. Adver-tise without spending a lot of money.
Print flyers and pass them out to fam-
ily, friends and acquaintances. Tack up
posters with take-and-tear tabs that list
services provided and a contact num-
ber. Or create computer-generated busi-
ness cards. Have your child hand out
extra flyers or business cards to current
customers and say, “If you are satisfied
with my services, pass along my name
to friends.”
7. Count the cost. List all of the sup-
plies needed and the cost of each item.
Then do a cost-of-goods sold and break
it down to one unit: How much does it
cost to make one item or provide serviceto one customer? This will help your
child know how to set the price. If your
child has money in his savings account,
suggest that he or she use that to get
the business started. Or lend it with the
agreement of a return payment.
Summertime
and the Living is Entrepreneurial8. Set a precedence. Predetermine
products and services that will be of-
fered and give clients a written descrip-
tion before the work begins to prevent
potential customer dissatisfaction.
When the service is complete, have
your child give the customer a receipt
and keep a duplicate, particularly where
cash versus a check is involved.
9. Embrace good work ethic. Remind
your child that he can earn the respect
of customers by being punctual, depend-
able, honest, respectful, hard working and
following through with commitments.
10. Start with safety. Insist that your
child inform you of his whereabouts at
all times. Stress the importance o
talking with strangers while he is
Review safety rules if he will be wo
with equipment or machinery.
11. Manage the money. Enco
your child to record his expense
come and profits by making a ch
a notebook, using a ledger or crea
spreadsheet. Allow him to spend
of his earnings, but encourage h
reinvest in the business, save a po
and give some to his charity of cho
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of three children and four grandchildre
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Keeping it Safe and Healthy
During the SummerH E I D I M A E B R A T T
It’s nearly summer and soon
school will be out. The sea-
son’s favorites await: sports,
sun, beach, hiking, camping,
just to name a few of the long-
awaited summer fun activities.
But with the summer comes a
host of seasonal cautions. Of
course, being careful has no
limit on any season, but the
summertime comes with its
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About Our Children con-
sulted with Dr. Eric Browner,
who is board certified in Pedi-atrics and Pediatric Emergency
medicine, and an attending
physician at the Valley Hospi-
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advice on how to make this
summer a very happy, safe andhealthy one.
AOC: What are the biggest
health hazards — and problems
that you see in the emergency
room — with children during
the summer?Dr. Eric Browner: While
children do present all year
long with traumatic injuries, as
we entered spring and summer
children become more involved
in outdoor activities and we
often see an increase in these
injuries including abrasions,
lacerations, sprains, broken
bones, minor head injuries, and
concussions. During the sum-
mer, however, there are some
injuries and events that are not
commonly seen during the re-
mainder of the year including
increased exposure to insect
bites and stings, swimming re-
lated injuries, sunburns, and
heat related injuries. Another
summer specific reason for
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July 4th.
AOC: What is the best way
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anything prevention is a
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child who is going to be spe
time outdoors should ha
propriate sunscreen appl
exposed areas of the skin a
as wearing appropriate cl
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vent these injuries. Proper lawn care and
maintenance can also prevent the growth
of these irritating plants.
AOC: What is the best way to protect
your child from dangerous bug bites?
Dr. Browner: Again we always say
that prevention is better than treatment
and there are many ways to protect one-
self from dangerous bug bites. Some the
most dangerous bug bites in the worldare actually mosquito bites and there is
a lot of concern about diseases that mos-
quitoes may carry in the world today.
One of the most important ways that any
family can prevent mosquito exposure
is by ensuring that there is no stagnant
water on their land, or near where their
children play, as this is where mosqui-
toes breed. Other ways to prevent dan-
gerous bug bites would be wearing prop-
er clothing, especially when going hiking
in the woods as well as the application of
appropriate insect repellent sprays and
lotions. The insect repellent treatments
should also be applied to shoes includ-
ing and not just the skin. Clothing that
has been pre-treated with repellents arealso available and may provide longer
protection.
AOC: What about other safety mea-
sures such as injuries from falls follow-
ing outdoor play or other sports?
Dr. Browner: Children are going to
play and need to play, and with playing
and activities come falling and unfortu-
nately injuries will occur. Those being
said, however, there are some important
prevention measures that can be applied.
If the child is participating in any sports
they should be wearing the appropriate
safety equipment for that sport. The
same goes for bike riding, anyone on abicycle should be wearing a helmet no
matter how old they are. In fact, parents
and caregivers role-modeling proper
safety techniques and practices is an im-
portant way to help children understand
the need and use for bike helmets. If the
child is going to be using a scooter, roll-
er skates, rollerblades, or other similar
equipment patient also be wearing wrist,
elbow, and kneepads.
AOC: What is the best way to prac-
tice swim and water safety?
Dr. Browner: There are many things
that can be done to help children learn
and practice proper water safety. One
very important method to teach a child
proper pool and water safety is enrollingthe child in swim lessons. The will not
only learn how to swim but also how to
respect the water. Other things that can
and should be done are keeping a watch-
ful eye on children whenever they are in
a pool. In fact, if a child is having a party
at a pool, hiring a lifeguard(s) who is/are
constantly watching the water and the
children is very important and could be
life saving. All pools should have proper
fences and gates around them and doors
that open directly to a pool area from a
house should have an alarm. Children
who are not fully able to swim on their
own should be wearing a flotation de-vice or lifejacket whenever they are in
the water.
AOC: Is there a good general pro-
tocol a parent should follow to ensure
summer safety?
Dr. Browner: Following the advice
given above as well as participating
in any sports or activity when follow-
ing their proper safety protocols and
requirements are great ways to ensure
summer safety. Very important activities
that any family should be very careful
about allowing their children to partici-
pate in or use are fireworks and spar-
klers especially around July 4. These
have the potential to be very dangerous
and cause significant short-term andlong-term injuries.
AOC: When is it appropriate for a
parent to bring their child to the emer-
gency room for treatment?
Dr. Browner: Any child with a sig-
nificant injury should be evaluate
physician in the emergency depart
If the child has an open cut, has in
an extremity, is not acting no
or having changes in behavior, o
family is just concerned are app
ate reasons to come to the emer
department.
AOC: Anything else you’d l
share?Dr. Browner: One final area t
very important to discuss regards
over the summer. The single best
to prevent your child from having
nificant illness is getting them vac
ed along the proper vaccine sch
As families travel over the summer
are larger gatherings of people and
is the risk of being exposed to va
preventable diseases that have s
cant morbidity and mortality. In th
few summers there have been s
outbreaks of vaccine preventabl
eases at vacation destinations. Va
are the single most important w
prevent a child from getting pote
life-threatening illness and vaccinsafe. As was said above and rep
many times, prevention is always
than treatment.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About
Our Children.
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Oh, You, Beautiful (American Girl) DolE D S I L B E R F A R B
It all began with a knock on the door. It
was the two pre-teen sisters from the
next floor apartment each carrying a
laundry bag.
“We thought your granddaughter
might like these things,” they said.
“These things” were doll clothes and
doll accessories: dresses, skirts, formal
gowns, gym shorts, swimsuits, hats, rib-
bons, necklaces, and on and on as the
contents of each laundry bag came spill-
ing out.
But where are the dolls? Ah, a minor
omission. All the paraphernalia was to
support a culture pattern, the “AmericanGirl Doll.” The doll itself was available at
a chic store on a glitzy stretch of Fifth
Avenue near Cartier, Tiffany, Bergdorf
Goodman, and Saks.
“Devorah will be thrilled,” says Sha-
ron good wife, who is delighted with
the prospect of introducing our grand-
daughter to the world of luxury dolls.
“What about the old fashioned rag
doll,” I wonder naively, “sewn together
from a piece of quilt, a balled-up sock
and buttons for eyes?”
“That’s all very quaint,” says Sharon,
“but the American Girl Doll is an exciting
adventure of a different sort.”
We visit the store. There milling
about are the girls with their mothers,
grandmothers and a few painfully toler-
ant fathers. They are checking out the
dolls, each of which has its own iden-
tity, personality and ethnicity. I learn notonly can a girl buy a doll if she has the
means, but she can also bring her own
doll in for a hair-do, and, if sick or in-
jured, treatment by the doll doctor. The
doll can join her for afternoon tea, sitting
at the table with her on a special chair
with tiny teacup and saucer.
“Wow!” is my reaction. “Now I know
why Rome fell.”
But Sharon is quite taken with this
return to childhood, and sees no reason
why a kid can’t pretend while still young
enough to enjoy it.
And so Devorah becomes part of the
American Girl Doll mystique. There’s no
problem deciding on birthday presents
for her. Soon she has two genuine Amer-
ican Girl dolls and a third, which is an
identical imitation made in China. One
doll is a Jewish immigrant from the early
1900’s. Another is Mexican and a third isan Eskimo.
We all become involved. I do my part
by fashioning little hangers for the dolls’
clothes. The piece de resistance is a
luxurious brass doll bed from Dev
uncle.
It’s fortunate that Devorah ha
own room to accommodate thes
ations because there is another
of make-believe that must shar
space — Devorah’s dollhouse an
miniature occupants. Besides try
earn money to buy American Gi
items, Devorah is also searching
stantly for additions to her dollho
tiny furniture and other Lilliputian
accouterments.
Other worthy dolls have bee
of Devorah’s life — Barbie and
Pocket — but they never comm
the attention, as have her AmGirl collection and the residents
dollhouse.
Flash forward ten years. De
now 17 prepares for high school g
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ation and a year with a seminary in Is-
rael. Her cousin, Alina, will soon have
her eighth birthday. There is no ques-
tion about the birthday party. It must
be at the American Girl place with a few
friends and her doll, a blue-eyed blond,which has already been outfitted with
gym clothes to change occasionally
from her day-to-day dress. She also has a
pair of glasses that actually magnify and
a pair of tiny earrings.
For the birthday, Sharon scours the
catalogues for the perfect present, but
also at a reduced price. She thinks she
has found it — a pair of pretty red and
white, flowered matching dresses, one
for the girl and one for the doll at an irre-
sistible 40 percent off the original price.
Alina is delighted and, of course, she and
the doll wear their matching outfits at
the party.
The guests arrive, each with a doll,
and take their place at the table. One girldoesn’t bring a doll, but she borrows
one from the store. They choose food
from the luncheon menus and select an
exotic purple drink, all of which have
been approved by the dolls. Then out
comes the cake, and a round of “Happybirthday, Alina.” If one listens carefully
one can hear the soft doll voices joining
the chorus.
Back home, Alina, at age eight, has
almost outgrown her little bed. The re-
placement is not only larger, but is also
an exciting loft bed. How lucky! Alina can
sleep on the top and her doll down be-
low. Life goes on and the doll is an active
participant.But what about Kira, Alina’s four-
year-old cousin? Surely the doll parade
won’t pass her by. Contributions came
from all directions. Alina donated a “talk-
ing doll,” one that had something to say
when a button on her belly was pushed.
Kira may be too young for the sophis-
ticated American Girl Doll, but one is
waiting for her when she gets older. Her
grandmother won it in a raffle.
And her great grandmother was not
to be outdone. She knew Sharon and I
would be traveling in Sicily on vacation,
so she commissioned us to buy an eth-
nic Sicilian doll for Kira. What seemed
to be a simple assignment proved to be
a daunting challenge. Souvenir shopsfrom Siracusa to Palermo had nothing
that came close. Apparently doll-making
is a lost craft.
We almost gave up, but in the town
of Taormina, swarming with tour
view of Mount Etna, was a shop
the owner had bought the rem
dolls from a craftsman’s final
There it was. About a foot high, a
Sicilian lady in a peasant skirt, blouse and red kerchief, holding a
jug, and with a perky expressio
credit card accepted, but we com
the deal after a tiring search for an
machine.
And so, from the unexpected
on the door that produced piles o
clothes, to the culture shock o
American Girl Doll, to the final
phant search for the Sicilian peas
stretch of almost 15 years, I lost m
nocence and became a full citizen
world of dolls.
Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Be
Record in New Jersey, then the New Yo
Herald Tribune where he was City Hal
bureau chief. Later, he was a public in
mation officer for the New York City Tr
Authority and editor of one of its empl
publications.
Devorah and her dolls.
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E M U N A B R A V E R M A N
The real way to cement a connec-
tion is to give. We usually think of
this in terms of the parent-child
relationship. Due to the one-way nature
of the giving, parents love their children
much more than children love their par-
ents. But this idea can also be applied
when there is a relationship you would
like to fix, someone you would live to feel
closer to. Just start giving to them.
And this fascinating principle
doesn’t only apply to relationships. It
applies to everything in life and can
be used to deepen our connection not
just to people but to our jobs as well. It
doesn’t matter if it’s the most objectivelymeaningful job or not, the most intellec-
tually stimulating job or not, your dream
job or not; if you give, you will care.
I learned this idea from my plumber.
Now I know you can make a good living
as a plumber (some say it’sbetter than a doctor these
days!) and I’m certainly
grateful to have a plumber
available at those moments
when we need one, but I
wouldn’t have thought it to
be a very interesting or ex-
citing job. I learned other-
wise — or at least I learned
to see it through my plumb-
er’s eyes.
We had a problem with
some clogged pipes that
seemed due to tree roots. The plumber
had a special camera that could snake
through the pipes and take a film of the
situation, thereby determining how farthe roots had extended into our plumb-
ing and what kind of repairs were re-
quired. I wanted to know the bottom line
answer, but my plumber wanted to show
me the actual video of our pipes. I really
didn’t want to watch. I hada lot to do but he was very
insistent. And very excited!
He loved looking at the
film and the roots and the
pipes and figuring out a solu-
tion to the problem. I didn’t
love the film (maybe pop-
corn would have helped) but
I loved his enthusiasm. And
since I doubt he dreamed
of being a plumber from a
young age, I think it was an
example of “you give, you
care.” He invested in this job and he grew
to love it.
At the other end of the spectrum,
my husband and I attended a “ScentFair” last week. It was, as you imagine,
a perfume exhibit and sale, with the ac-
tual perfumers being the ones exhibiting
and explaining their wares. It was the
explaining that spoke to us and to this
point. A woman from Barcelonainto great detail describing the co
tion of each scent to the smells
water and the landscapes of her
town. A man from England talked
relationship between the perfum
created and the emotions they ev
And so it went. Who knew there w
much to say about perfumes? Bu
had invested in this field and the
thusiasm was contagious.
This is not just something int
ing to observe. This is an oppor
for all of us. Whether we love a cu
project or not, our present job o
our chosen field or not, we can co
love it and even feel passionately
it. We are not doomed or trappour present emotions. If we will
give, if we really invest, we will co
care — about anything. And that m
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D E N I S E M O R R I S O N Y E A R I A N
F ather’s Day is a special
day set aside to celebrate
dads and other male role
models in your children’slives. This year, Father’s Day
falls on June 19. Rather than
spending a fortune on gad-
gets and gizmos that break
or collect dust, why not try a
creative approach to gift giving?
Following is a list of five no-cost
ways to show Dad the appreciation and
love he deserves.
1. “This is your life.”
Make Dad feel honored with a special
presentation of “This is your Life.”
Stage the show as if it were a television
special. Have one person be the show
host who interviews other family mem-
bers regarding what they love aboutDad. They may also want to share a
story or memory they have of him.
Between interviews, prepare a spe-
cial song, poem or other talent in his
honor. Ask Mom to videotape the pro-
gram and your father
will have a keepsake for
years to come.
2. At your service.
The gift of service issomething that keeps
on giving. Talk with fam-
ily members about the
simple chores your father
does around the house.
On small strips of paper write down each
job he does, and on the other side write
the name of one family member who will
volunteer to do that chore for him. Tasks
could include cutting the yard, weeding
the flowerbeds, washing the car, shining
his shoes, etc. Continue this until you
have covered all of his responsibilities.
Find an old shoe box, place the strips of
paper in it and wrap it up. Present this to
Dad and in the days to come give him ser-
vice with a smile.
3. A family tree.
Show Dad what a special part of your
family he is by creating a family tree.
Find a short tree branch and place it in
a decorated can. Stabilize the branch
with sand, clay or plaster. Next cut out
large leaf shapes from construction pa-
per. Write the names of family members
on one side of the leaves and tape or
paste photographs of them to the oth-er side. (Don’t forget your pets.) If you
don’t have a picture of someone, draw
it. Punch a hole through the top of each
leaf and thread a piece of yarn through it.
Now tie the leaves to the tree branches.
4. King for the day.
A day of relaxation and royalty will
make Dad feel extra special. When he
wakes up, greet him with a homemade
crown and tell him he will be king for
the day. Serve his favorite breakfast in
bed and ask what he would like to do
today. If he needs a little prompting,
suggest a family hike in the morning, a
picnic in the park for lunch and a nap in
the afternoon. While he is having downtime, wash his car and ask Mom to fill it
up with gas. Make the evening special
with a steak and potato dinner and a
special dessert, followed by his favor-
ite movie. Throughout the day, remind
him of how much you love and ap
ate him.
5. A day off.
Many fathers have little time for
selves. If this is the case, give Daday off to play golf, go fishing or
some time out with his buds. Whil
gone, prepare a special “Best Dad
World” banner for his arrival home
Still want to purchase someth
Father’s Day? Here are a few trie
true ideas: flowers, shrubs or a t
plant in the yard; season pass to
seum or science center; members
a health club; tickets to a sporting
gift certificate to his favorite resta
home improvement store or garde
ter; magazine subscription; golf ge
weekend; themed gift basket with
of personal interest—fishing, fo
golf or the movies; barbeque ut
computer software. Whatever yocide on, make sure it’s somethin
suits Dad’s personal taste.
Denise Morrison Yearian is the former
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A D I N A S O C L O F
More children seem to be more
anxious then ever. Mental health
professionals have cited many
reasons: a decrease in play, hovering,
anxious parents, breakdown of the tradi-
tional family, social media, an overabun-
dance of choices and the fast pace of our
modern world.
Whatever the reason, children are
stressed out and it can be tough for par-
ents to manage and help their child over-
come their big worries like family dis-
cord, separation anxiety, terrorism, “badguys” or monsters under the bed. Teens
fret about not doing well in school, not
getting into college, or not fitting in.
How can we help our kids stop wor-
rying? Here are 5 simple stress busters
that work:
1. Teach them what stress is:
Children often don’t know that the phys-
ical symptoms that they’re experiencing
are due to their worries. In order to deal
with stress you need to be able to recog-
nize that you are under stress. Our bod-
ies are created in such a way that they
signal to us that we are tense and under
pressure. We need to interpret the signs.When we worry, our breath and
heart rate increases and we feel like we
have butterflies in our stomach. Depend-
ing on our level of stress, our faces turn
red, our muscles tense and our body
feels hot. Children can have a hard time
understanding something inside the
body that cannot be seen or touched. It
can be helpful to have your child run in
place for 30 to 60 seconds and then ask
them to think about how his or her body
feels in terms of the body signals. You
can then discuss how your body feels
similarly under stress.
2. Your mind is under attack:
Your body is not the only part of yousending warnings. Your thoughts are
also being assaulted. Stress can be a re-
sult or exacerbated by negative thought
patterns. Children, teens and even
adults, will find that if they examine their
thinking when worried, their thoughts
sound something like this:
“I can’t do it!”
“It will be awful!”
“I’m so stupid!”
“I hate doing homework!”
“My friends will just ignore me!”
“I am dumb!”
“I can’t do anything right!”
“I give up!”
We can teach children to re
their negative thoughts with more
tive ones:
“Take it easy”
“Stay cool”
“Chill out”
“Take some deep breaths”
“I’m getting tense so I need to relax
“I’m going to be okay”“It’s okay if I’m not good at this”
“I’m sad that she doesn’t want to h
out with me, but other people
me”
“I’ll just try my hardest”
3. Think good and it will be goo
Children will benefit from learnin
connection between thoughts, fe
and behaviors. For example:
Unhelpful thought: He is so unfair
me=Negative Feelings: Anger =
helpful Behavior=Yelling and c
namesHelpful thought: He is usually a go
friend=Positive Feelings=Happ
Helpful Behavior= Talk out a
disagreement
Unhelpful thought: I always screw
math=Negative Feelings=Sadne
Unhelpful Behavior=Don’t try w
math
Helpful thought: I’ll try my best
with my math=Positive
Feelings=Confidence=Helpful
Behavior=Good effort with ma
We can help children move throug
their difficulties by gently ques
ing their attitudes and moving
through their worries.
Here is an example of how th
work:
“I can’t read! I am stupid!”
Are you thinking unhelpful though
“Yes, I am thinking I am stupid!”
Are these thoughts going to help y
“No, it makes me feel like giving up
What is a different and more helpfu
way I can think?
“I can do this. I can ask for help or
of a better strategy to do this.”
Don’t Worry,Be Happy
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4. Develop healthy habits:
To help decrease worrying over all it is helpful to devel-
op a healthy lifestyle. Try to build into your family life
regular exercise, good sleeping habits, a healthy social
life, and regular routines. Those are the fundamentals
that help life go smoothly.
5. Get help:
If you feel like your child’s worries are affecting their ev-
eryday functioning, reach out to a professional. Healthy
families get help when they need it.
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Helping Your Child or Teen
Cope with Test AnxietyA R I E . F O X
There is a four-letter word, often
heard in school. This word can
elicit fear, even panic for some stu-
dents. That word? TEST.
Most people feel at least a little
nervous before an exam. A low level of
anxiety can actually be helpful, as it can
provide motivation and energy during
the test. The problem is when the anxi-
ety becomes so intense that it interferes
with concentration or performance.
When this happens, the student may
zone out or freeze up on the day of the
test and have trouble answering ques-
tions he or she actually knows. For someindividuals, tests can even bring about
physical symptoms.
What is Test Anxiety?Test anxiety is a type of performance
anxiety. In performance anxiety, one
feels pressure to do well. Examples of
performance anxiety include waiting to
go onstage in a play, going to a job in-
terview or making a class presentation.
Test anxiety, like other performance anx-
iety can induce:
• “butterflies”
• shakiness
• sweating
• rapid heart beat
• nausea
• headaches
What Causes Test Anxiety?Like other forms of anxiety, test anxi-
ety is an effect of anticipating a stress-
ful outcome. When one is under greatstress, the body releases the hormone
adrenaline (an adaptive mechanism that
prepares us for danger. This is known as
the fight of flight response). The release
of adrenaline causes many of the physi-
cal symptoms described above. Focus-
ing on negative outcomes can also con-
tribute to test anxiety. One can become
flooded with thoughts like:
• What if I mess up?
• What if the test is too hard?
• What if I forget what I studied?
• What if people notice how nervous
I am?
There are essentially four main
sources of test anxiety:
How will others view me?How will the test outcome affect my own
self-image?
• How will the test affect my future?
• Am I prepared for the test?
Tips to Help Students Copewith Test Anxiety1. Be Prepared
The more confident your child is going
into an exam, the less severe the test
anxiety is likely to be. Encourage your
child to familiarize himself or herself
with the test format (what kinds of ques-
tions, how much time is allotted, etc).
Organize the notes from the class. Make
flashcards and create mnemonics to
help with memorizing key concepts and
terms. Set a schedule to help determine
how much time is needed to study. Cram-
ming the night before a test can intensify
anxiety and is often ineffective. Getting agood night’s sleep and a hearty meal are
important aspects of test preparation.
2. Think Positively
Be aware of negative thinking both be-
fore and during the test. Challenge the
negative thoughts with positive state-
ments. For example, if your child is
thinking, “There is no way I will do well
on this test,” he or she could counter
with “I studied hard. I know the informa-
tion. I am going to try my best and will
do as well as I can.” Positive thinking can
go a long way.
3. Take Some Pressure Off
I often tell children with whom I work
that it is physically impossible for them
to “do better than their best.” What Imean by this is that students often feel
like they have to achieve the impossible.
It is as if they have to move a mountain
or run a 2-minute mile. This can feel
overwhelming and can cause children
to freeze or even give up. Children who
experience test anxiety need realistic
expectations, while being encouraged to
put in their best effort. Without minimiz-
ing the importance of the test to your
child, you can also provide comfort in
the fact that the test likely not make or
break the rest of their lives. Focus
the process (i.e. the effort) rathe
the outcome can help put things i
spective for you and your child.
4. Practice Relaxation Exercise
Develop relaxation strategies to
your child feel calmer before and
ing the test. Breathing slowly and
ly through the nostrils and ex
through the mouth helps to slow
rate and normalize breathing. I r
mend having your child practic
regularly when they are in a re
state, so they will have it ready as
come test time. Tensing and relaxi
muscles from the top of the body
is another way to ease tension. students like to squeeze a stress b
other small object. Remind your c
the strategies prior to the exam.
students find it helpful to write
their feelings prior to an exam. Ac
several studies have shown that w
for 8 minutes before a test can pu
dents who worry on par with thos
do not.
5. Strategies During the Test
If the material seems unfamiliar o
struggle at the start, find a questio
can handle and then start there to
confidence.
• Take breaks to recharge.
• Take a few deep breaths.• Take a drink of water.
• Close your eyes for a momen
envision a calming scene.
• Try to think positively: R
yourself that you prepared a
doing your best.
• Think of a reward you wil
yourself after the test: a tr
movie or something else to
forward to when you are don
Like any other skill, learning to
age test anxiety takes practice an
tience. It is important for you the p
to address the problem as early a
sible, because it is likely to get wors
time without intervention. Ratheravoiding the unpleasant thought
feelings associated with test taking
child will benefit from working wit
to develop the tools and support sy
that will help them in the long term
Ari Fox is a child, adolescent and youn
adult psychotherapist in New York City
practice, Cope With School NYC, helps
viduals with a wide range of issues and
cializes in school functioning. To learn
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In the 10 years of Michael L.’s marriage, his wife had
accused him drug peddling, refused to attend thera-
py, and claimed that he was the one with psycholog-
ical issues. When the situation deteriorated to the point
where she became physically abusive, he walked out.
Yet three years later, his ex-wife hasn’t let up, report-
ing him as violent towards their children to the police,
while he’s left struggling to prove his innocence and
combat the poison she feeds the children about him.
Danny S.’s ex left him over religious reasons, yet
he’s still a devoted dad to his three boys — when he’s
able to see them. More often than not, his ex will can-
cel visitations at the last minute, upending his weekend
plans. When he tries to complain, she sweetly turns thetables, claiming the boys didn’t want to see him any-
way and he doesn’t deserve to see them either. Because
the child support he pays eats up most of his salary, he
can’t afford to take her to court over every infraction,
so he just counts his blessings when visitations work
Children and Divorce:
Do’s and Don’ts for Single Dads
out. And when they don’t, he’s helpless, angry, andafraid of her wrath.
Ben W. is a dedicated single father whose wife
walked out on him when their daughter was six months
old. He spent a year in court gaining the rights to see
her, and now has regular visitation and a loving rela-
tionship with his five-year-old, despite her mother’s at-
tempts at interference. Self-employed, he devotes two
afternoons a week to his daughter’s care, as well as ev-
ery other weekend. Yet his social life is curtailed and
his dating prospects minimal, since his life is wrapped
around a preschooler’s.
In today’s society, single moms usually tri-
umph — they’re often the ones holding the cards when
a family dissolves. It’s not easy to manage on the home
front single-handedly, but the resources are plentiful,
and divorced moms often succeed in holding down ajob and raising the children, even on their own.
But what about the single dad? Cut off from family
life, cash-strapped, and occasionally pushed around by
nasty exes, they may struggle to find their footing in the
aftermath of divorce.
Can a single father maintain his relationship with
his children, hold onto his self-worth, and persevere in
the face of the many challenges ahead? He can, but only
if he knows how to go about it.
Here are some do’s and don’ts for the divorced dad:
Recognize your role.Don’t abandon your children, even if they don’t live
with you anymore. All children crave regular contact
with their father, whether through phone calls, e-mails,
or texts. Weekend visits are important, but don’t limityour contact with your children to those visits. Let
them know you care. Trust me, they’ll thank you for it.
Seek help when necessary.As a group, women are often able to acknowledge that
they can’t do it all and reach out for help, whether from
family, friends, or community. Not so men, who prefer
to put up a macho front and go it alone. If you’re a single
dad, you may need help with meal planning, parenting
advice, or laundry knowhow. Pick up that phone and
call someone. Don’t try to do it all, especially at the ex-
pense of your kids’ comfort and safety.
Money isn’t a weapon.Don’t withhold child support in order to punish
ex. It’ll end up filtering down to the children, wh
realize they can’t trust you. Retaliation is temptin
it’s not the goal: healthy children are. Likewise,
badmouth. Your children may hear a lot of neg
about you, but if you take the high road and r
from returning the favor, they’ll ultimately realize
parent they can trust and which they can’t.
Treats yes, free reign no.Children need structure and stability in order to t
even if they’re in your house only once a week. C
routines for them during the times they’re with
dinner, bath time, and bedtime at predictable tim
make your time together much more manageablethem a bit by buying special treats or renting a m
but don’t overdo it and return them to their mom
high and sleep deprived.
Make the minutes count.Take the time to get to know your children when t
with you. Ask them about their day, find out abou
friends and activities, plan outings and play gam
gether. Turn off your phone and focus on them s
know you really care.
Don’t restart till you’re ready.It may be tempting to turn your back on your pas
tionship and move right into the next one. Don’t
Statistics show that 80 percent of divorced men r
ry the same type of woman they married the firstleading to a similarly unhappy marriage or a seco
vorce. Before you start dating again, process wha
wrong in your first marriage and own your part
story. Your future family will only gain.
Let go of the baggage.If you find your dating always seems to end at the
point, it’s a sign that you’re stuck somewhere
process. Most of us find it hard to be objective
our own role in a failed relationship. If necessar
a professional who can help you let go of the ba
and move on.
Don’t lose hope.Always look for the light, no matter how bleak you
ation is. Use your time alone to grow as a perso
a father, and most of all as a future partner. If ythe internal work necessary, you’ll start off you
relationship on firmer ground, and you — and
kids — will be better off.
Single dads may not find it easy, but they ca
themselves of past heartache and rebuild their
with a new partner or without. Hard as it may be,
be glad they did.
Avigail Rosenberg is the editor of the recently released
“Healing from the Break: Stories, Inspiration, and Guid
for Anyone Touched by Divorce” (Menucha Publishers)
the creator of www.HealingfromtheBreak.com, a divorc
resource for single parents and others.
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Honorable Menschen
When a Tween’s Fashion Means
Freedom for Those WithoutH E I D I M A E B R A T T
If clothes make the man, perhaps clothes can free the
man.
That’s the creative idea of two Teaneck young-
sters, Hannah Mathilda Weisz, nearly 10, and her broth-
er, Emmett Weisz, 11.
Hannah Mathilda, with the help of Emmett, recently
launched a website, fashionfreedom.org, dedicated to
raising money by selling gently used clothing for Free
the Slaves, an organization with a mission to eradicate
global slavery.
If that sounds like pretty heavy stuff for the tween
duo, both of whom attend Solomon Schechter Day
School of Bergen County, consider that their mother is
Rabbi Debra Orenstein, the rabbi of Congregation B’nai
Israel in Emerson, and a strong supporter of Free the
Slaves, a secular organization with a wide network offaith-based groups.
In her championing of Free the Slaves, Rabbi Oren-
stein has conceived of “Next Year Free!,” a curriculum
designed to be used to prepare and lead a Passover
seder, which Free the Slaves offers online.
While Rabbi Orenstein is a prime mover of this mis-
sion in her family’s home, and in her wider religious
circles, she is quick to credit her daughter with coming
up with the idea of selling the clothes she’s outgrown to
help raise money for Free the Slaves.
“It was all my daughter’s idea,” says Rabbi Oren-
stein. “But my son stepped in to help her design the
website,” which went live around Passover. “I have to
say that I originally started off as her web master, butEmmett quickly replaced me. They 100 percent own
this.”
The website, which features photographs and vid-
eos taken by their professional photographer father,
Craig Weisz, shows Hannah Mathilda in an array of out-
fits that she’s ready to part with to help the cause that
she also champions.
“Wear good things. Do great things,” is the motto
that she’s devised for fashionfreedom. Hannah Mathil-
da also has written all the descriptions on the website,
and acts as model for the fashions, many purchased
from her favorite stores, Target and Payless Shoes. The
website also features an interview that Hannah Mathil-
da conducted with Free the Slaves executive director,
Maurice Middleberg.
As for Emmett’s take: “Hannah is super-fashionable
and the clothes are great.”The pair said they have gotten much of praise and
“Mazel Tovs” for their effort, which they really appreci-
ate. But what they really want is for visitors to the site
to buy the clothing so they could start to make a dent in
their fundraising effort. Visitors also can make a dona-
tion to the cause without buying the clothing.
“I’m very proud to see how they are working to-
gether,” says Rabbi Orenstein, who adds that her chil-
dren typically get along very well.
“But with this cause in common,” she says, “they’ve
become partners.”
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children.
Emmett his sister Hannah Mathilda Weisz hold a poster for “Jews Freeing Slaves.”
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Museum Mile FestivalArt, Culture, TraditionNow in its 38th year,
the annual Museum
Mile Festival takes place
rain or shine with free
admission to the Jewish
Museum and six other
New York City museums
on Fifth Avenue. Enjoy
live music by Mariachi
Flor de Toloache with
Bang on a Can, family-
friendly activities, and
special exhibitions.
Begun as a way to spur
the development of
new museum audi-
ences and increase
support for the arts,
Museum Mile was
formed as a consor-
tium by the museums that
share the Fifth Avenue address. The t radition continues on Tuesday, June 14. From 6 to
9 p.m. Museum Mile Festival, Fifth Avenue, Manhattan between 82 and105 Streets.
www.museummilefestival.org.
Sight, Sound and Spirit at
CelebrateIsrael ParadJoin more than 30,000 marchers and hundreds of thousands spectators, in adtion to American and Israeli community leaders and dignitaries, entertainers, art
ists, musicians, dancers, celebrities, floats and bands, in the annual Celebrate Isr
Parade along Fi fth Avenue in Manhattan. In 1965, thousands walked down Rive
Drive in support of the young State of Israel. This impromptu walk evolved into t
Salute to Is rael Parade. In 2011, the parade’s name changed to focus on celebra
ing the v ibrant and diverse country of Israel. Sunday, June 5 from 11 a.m. to 4 p
Celebrate Israel Parade, Along Manhattan’s Fifth Avenue from 57 to 74 Stree
www.celebrateisraelny.org.
Year-End Showcase for beyondDANCE
This year beyondDANCE will present two inspiring performances of “Unstoppable,”
showcasing all students in the dance program at The Performing Arts School at ber-
genPAC. Come celebrate Father’s Day in a unique way as the students showcase their
dance training. Another plus: there is a 50 percent discount for Dads in honor of
Father’s Day. beyondDance, Sunday, June19 at1 and 4 p.m. bergenPAC main stage at
30 North Van Brunt St., Englewood. 201-227-1030, www.ticketmaster.com, www.
bergenpac.org.
The LightningThief Flashes at bergenPACThe Lightning Thief, a new musical adapted from Rick Riordan’s book of th
same name will be brought to life on stage by Theaterworks USA. Percy
Jackson is about to be kicked out of boarding school – yet again. But, that
the least of his troubles. Lately, mythological monsters and the gods of Mo
Olympus seem to be walking out of the pages of Percy’s Greek mythology
textbook and into his life. And he’s angered a few of them. Zeus’s master
lightning bolt has been stolen and Percy is the prime suspect. Come watch
the fun. Sunday, June 5. 1 and 4 p.m. The Lightning Thief, bergenPAC, 30
North Van Brunt St., Englewood. 201-227-1030, www.bergenpac.org,
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1. Record setting player and member of the 1969 Miracle Mets Art Shamsky spoke at TempleEmanuel about his experiences as a Jew in Major League Baseball and his involvement with theIsrael Baseball League.
2. Students at Solomon Schechter Day School celebrated Israel’s 68th birthday with classic Israelidances in the morning “rekudiyah,” played on a Tel Aviv beach, prayed at the Kotel, and more. Theycapped off the day with a spirited “zimriyah.”
3. The Moriah School fifth-graders recently concluded their oceanography unit with OceanographyNight. Friends and family cam