• Your Personal ChallengeYour Personal Challenge

On the mini post-it note, write the biggest On the mini post-it note, write the biggest

challenge you are facing right now in your teen challenge you are facing right now in your teen

life. Place it on the giant post-it note on the back life. Place it on the giant post-it note on the back

wall.wall.

• Journal Topic:Journal Topic:

Do you ever feel overworked? Brainstorm a list of Do you ever feel overworked? Brainstorm a list of

all the things a teen has to do and challenges all the things a teen has to do and challenges

they face on a daily or weekly basis. they face on a daily or weekly basis.

HABIT 3HABIT 3PUT FIRST THINGS PUT FIRST THINGS

FIRSTFIRSTWill and Won’t PowerWill and Won’t Power

MAKE IT A HABITMAKE IT A HABIT

• Habit 1 “Be Proactive” says….Habit 1 “Be Proactive” says….• ““You’re the driver, not the passenger, of your You’re the driver, not the passenger, of your

life”life”

• Habit 2 “Begin with the end in mind” says…Habit 2 “Begin with the end in mind” says…• ““Decide where you want to go and how you’ll Decide where you want to go and how you’ll

get there”get there”

• So now for Habit 3 “Put first things first”…So now for Habit 3 “Put first things first”…

HABIT 3HABIT 3

Habit 3 “ Put first things first” says …Habit 3 “ Put first things first” says …

““Get there! Don’t let roadblocks knock you off Get there! Don’t let roadblocks knock you off

course.”course.”

This is the habit of This is the habit of will-powerwill-powerThe strength to say yes to your most important thingsThe strength to say yes to your most important things

It’s also the habit of It’s also the habit of won’t-powerwon’t-powerThe strength to say no to less important thing and The strength to say no to less important thing and

peer pressurepeer pressure

MADE UP OF TWO PARTSMADE UP OF TWO PARTS

• Learning to Learning to

prioritize and prioritize and

manage your timemanage your time

• Learning to Learning to

overcome fear and overcome fear and

peer pressurepeer pressure

PART ONE: TIME PART ONE: TIME MANAGEMENTMANAGEMENT

Important vs. UrgentImportant vs. Urgent

Important- your first things, activities that Important- your first things, activities that contribute to your mission and your goals, your contribute to your mission and your goals, your most important things.most important things.Examples? Examples? Tests, exercise, relationships, work, projectsTests, exercise, relationships, work, projects

Urgent-pressing things, in-your-face things, Urgent-pressing things, in-your-face things, activities that demand immediate attentionactivities that demand immediate attentionExamples?Examples?Phone calls, text messages, test tomorrow, social Phone calls, text messages, test tomorrow, social

mediamedia

PART ONE: TIME PART ONE: TIME MANAGEMENTMANAGEMENT

When we focus on When we focus on urgent things,urgent things,

the important things get the important things get pushed asidepushed aside

PACKING MORE INTO YOUR PACKING MORE INTO YOUR LIFELIFE

• When you pack for a trip, if you are more When you pack for a trip, if you are more

organized then you can fit more into your organized then you can fit more into your

suitcasesuitcase

• To get more organized in your life to fit more in, To get more organized in your life to fit more in,

you can use the Time Quadrant Model which you can use the Time Quadrant Model which

divides things into important and urgent divides things into important and urgent

categoriescategories

THE 4 TIME QUADRANTSTHE 4 TIME QUADRANTS

1 THE PROCRASTINATOR 2

THE PRIORITIZER

3 THE YES MAN

4 THE SLACKER

URGENT NOT URGENT

Q1 THE PROCRASTINATORQ1 THE PROCRASTINATORMOTTO: “I’M GOING TO STOP MOTTO: “I’M GOING TO STOP

PROCRASTINATING…SOMETIME SOON.”PROCRASTINATING…SOMETIME SOON.”

• There will always be Q1 things that we can’t There will always be Q1 things that we can’t controlcontrol

• Last minute meetingLast minute meeting• Illness Illness

• By putting things off, like projects or cramming for By putting things off, like projects or cramming for tests, people become a “stress case”tests, people become a “stress case”

• Spending too much of your time here causesSpending too much of your time here causes• Stress and anxietyStress and anxiety• BurnoutBurnout• Mediocre performanceMediocre performance

Q3 THE YES MANQ3 THE YES MANMOTTO: “TOMORROW, I’M GOING TO BE MOTTO: “TOMORROW, I’M GOING TO BE MORE ASSERTIVE-IF THAT’S OKAY WITH MORE ASSERTIVE-IF THAT’S OKAY WITH

YOU.”YOU.”• People who spend a lot of time in this People who spend a lot of time in this

quadrant attend to matters that are quadrant attend to matters that are

urgent and may seem important, but are urgent and may seem important, but are

not. For example, a ringing phone. This not. For example, a ringing phone. This

quadrant is also full of things that are quadrant is also full of things that are

important to other people, but are not important to other people, but are not

important to youimportant to you

Q3 THE YES MANQ3 THE YES MAN

• Results of spending too much Results of spending too much

time here:time here:

• Being a people pleaserBeing a people pleaser

• Lack of disciplineLack of discipline

• Feeling like a doormat for Feeling like a doormat for

others to wipe their feet onothers to wipe their feet on

Q4 THE SLACKERQ4 THE SLACKERMOTTO: “LET’S JUST HANG OUT.”MOTTO: “LET’S JUST HANG OUT.”

• The Slacker is a professional loafer. He The Slacker is a professional loafer. He

loves anything in excess, like too much loves anything in excess, like too much

T.V., too much sleep, too much time on T.V., too much sleep, too much time on

the phone or Web, and too much time the phone or Web, and too much time

at the mall.at the mall.

• This is the category of waste and This is the category of waste and

excess. There is nothing here that is excess. There is nothing here that is

urgent or importanturgent or important

Q4 THE SLACKERQ4 THE SLACKER

• What appears to be relaxation What appears to be relaxation turns into wasted timeturns into wasted time

• The results of Q4 areThe results of Q4 are• Lack of responsibilityLack of responsibility• GuiltGuilt• FlakinessFlakiness

Q2 THE PRIORITIZERQ2 THE PRIORITIZERMOTTO:” FIRST THINGS FIRST.”MOTTO:” FIRST THINGS FIRST.”

• The quadrant of excellence. This person plans ahead The quadrant of excellence. This person plans ahead

for doing first things first.for doing first things first.

• The Prioritizer has the simple but powerful The Prioritizer has the simple but powerful

habit of planning ahead. She does her habit of planning ahead. She does her

homework on time, makes time to exercise homework on time, makes time to exercise

and makes sure the people that matter most and makes sure the people that matter most

in her life like family and friends, come first. in her life like family and friends, come first.

She’s learned to say no with a smile.She’s learned to say no with a smile.

Q2 THE PRIORITIZERQ2 THE PRIORITIZER

• Results of spending time here areResults of spending time here are

• Control of your lifeControl of your life

• BalanceBalance

• High performanceHigh performance

WHO DOES (OR DOESN’T DO) WHO DOES (OR DOESN’T DO) WHAT?WHAT?

• Give examples of the activities of each type of time Give examples of the activities of each type of time

manager.manager.

• Q1: The ProcrastinatorQ1: The Procrastinator

• Q2: The PrioritizerQ2: The Prioritizer

• Q3: The Yes ManQ3: The Yes Man

• Q4: The SlackerQ4: The Slacker

THE 4 TIME QUADRANTSTHE 4 TIME QUADRANTS

1 THE PROCRASTINATOR

Exam TomorrowFriend gets InjuredLate for School/WorkProject Due Today

2 THE PRIORITIZER

Planning/Goal settingEssay due in a weekExerciseRelationshipsRelaxation

3 THE YES MAN

Unimportant phone callsInterruptionsOther people’s problemsPeer pressure

4 THE SLACKER

Too much TVEndless phone callsToo much “tech” timeMall marathonsTime wasters

URGENT NOT URGENT

THE GLASS JAR PARABLETHE GLASS JAR PARABLE

WHERE DO YOU SPEND MOST OF WHERE DO YOU SPEND MOST OF YOUR TIME?YOUR TIME?

• Self-assessmentsSelf-assessments

HOW TO INCREASE TIME IN Q2HOW TO INCREASE TIME IN Q2

• Shrink Q1 by procrastinating lessShrink Q1 by procrastinating less• Cut in half by starting on things Cut in half by starting on things earlierearlier

• Say no to Q3 activitiesSay no to Q3 activities• Learn to say no to unimportant thingsLearn to say no to unimportant things

• Cut down on Q4, slacker activitiesCut down on Q4, slacker activities• Don’t stop, just do them less oftenDon’t stop, just do them less often

PLAN WEEKLYPLAN WEEKLY• Take 15 minutes each week to plan your week.Take 15 minutes each week to plan your week.

• Step 1Step 1

• List the most important things you need to do List the most important things you need to do this week.this week.

• Limit the number to no more than 10Limit the number to no more than 10

• These are the big rocks & connect to your These are the big rocks & connect to your vision and mission.vision and mission.

• Look at each role you fulfill (student, friend, Look at each role you fulfill (student, friend, family member, employee, individual, family member, employee, individual, teammate)teammate)

WEEKLY PLANWEEKLY PLAN

• Step 2 – Block out time for your big rocks in Step 2 – Block out time for your big rocks in your agenda or on a calendaryour agenda or on a calendar

• By seeing the important things listed, you can By seeing the important things listed, you can then plan when you will do them then plan when you will do them

• Study for that test on ThursdayStudy for that test on Thursday

• VolunteerVolunteer

• Step 3 – Schedule Everything elseStep 3 – Schedule Everything else• Fill in day with the little to-dos like daily tasks, Fill in day with the little to-dos like daily tasks,

chores, appointmentschores, appointments

HABIT 3HABIT 3PUT FIRST THINGS PUT FIRST THINGS

FIRSTFIRSTDAY 2DAY 2

JOURNAL- “MY BIG ROCKS”JOURNAL- “MY BIG ROCKS”

• What are you’re “first” things? What are your most What are you’re “first” things? What are your most

important, “big rocks”? important, “big rocks”?

• What keeps you from putting these things first in your What keeps you from putting these things first in your

life?life?

““WHERE DO YOU SPEND YOUR WHERE DO YOU SPEND YOUR TIME?” ACTIVITYTIME?” ACTIVITY

PART TWO:PART TWO:OVERCOMINOVERCOMIN

G FEARG FEAR

COMFORTZONE

COURAGE ZONE

Things I’m used to

Safety Surety

Relaxation Ease

Things I enjoy doing

Hardmoments

Things I’m afraid of

Difficulty

Ultimate Potential

Risk

Things I’venever tried

Bravery

STORIES FROM “7 HABITS OF STORIES FROM “7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENS”HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENS”

• Never Let Your Fears Never Let Your Fears

Make Your DecisionsMake Your Decisions

• Pgs. 118-119Pgs. 118-119

• Winning Means Rising Winning Means Rising

Each Time You FallEach Time You Fall

• Pgs. 121-122Pgs. 121-122

• COMPLETE “FEARS” WORKSHEET COMPLETE “FEARS” WORKSHEET

A FINAL WORDA FINAL WORD• Your teen years can be some of the most exciting and Your teen years can be some of the most exciting and

adventurous years of your life. So value each moment, as the adventurous years of your life. So value each moment, as the

poem on page 127 so beautifully communicates.poem on page 127 so beautifully communicates.

• Choose your “Baby Steps”Choose your “Baby Steps”