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YOU CAN WIN BY,
SHIV KHERA
HARSHIL K SHAHDEVANGI DOSHIUJJVAL BHATT
Topics to cover• Importance of Attitude• Success• Motivation• Self-Esteem• Interpersonal Skills• Subconscious Mind and Habits• Goal Setting• Values & Vision
Importance of Attitude• What is inside that counts like attitude.• “People can be your biggest asset or
biggest liability.”• A great building require a strong
foundation.• Opportunity is always under our feet.• The grass on the other’s side always
looks greener.• I can’t do it. – don’t know how to do or
don’t want to do.
IMPORTANCE OF ATTITUDE
Building a Positive Attitude
Factors Determining Attitude
Environment Experience
Education
Benefits of Positive Attitude• Increase productivity• Solves problem• Improves quality• Promote Teamwork• improves relationship with colleagues,
employer & customer• Lessen stress from environment• In short he will be fruit of all season who
always welcome.
Consequences of Negative Attitude
• Spreads resentment• Bitterness• A purposeless life• Ill health• High stress level
Steps for building Positive Attitude
Step 1 : Change Focus: look for the positive.Step 2 : Make a habit of doing it now.Step 3 : Develop an attitude of gratitudeStep 4 : Get into continuous education programStep 5 : Build a positive self-esteemStep 6 : Stay away from negative influencesStep 7 : Learn to like things that need to be
doneStep 8 : Start your day with something positive
Step 1: look for positive• Don’t try to find fault.• Be a digger for gold don’t see the
dirt.• Don’t criticize don’t take your stand
in opposition• Be an optimist and not a pessimist• Spend time for yourself & not to
criticize others
Step 2: make a habit of “Do it Now”• Habit of procrastination leads to
negative attitude• Live in present and don’t wait for
future• Never leave till tomorrow which
you can do today.
step 3: develop an attitude of gratitude• Count your blessings & not
troubles• Don’t complain about things what
we don’t have but thank god for what he has given us
Step 4: Be a continuous learner• Put emphasize on Value education• Be a good judge• New philosophy: be master of all & jack of
none.• Ability without right attitude is wasted.• Educated people in true sense• Know what you don’t know first• Sharp your mind like an axe• Feed your mind positive everyday• Recognize your limitation
Step 5: build a positive self esteem
• Do something for others• Don’t try but do• Don’t think that what others are
doing is none of your busyness
Step 6: Stay away from Negative Influences• Negative people• Bad habits : smoking, drug &
alcohol• Pornography• Profanity
Step 7: Learn to like the things you need to do• Take interest in work which is
compulsory
Step 8:Start your day with positive
• Put us in right frame of mind
Winners versus Losers• Be the part of answer• Have plan• “Let me do it for
you”• Optimist• “It was my fault”• Dreams & action plan• I must do something
• Work in team• Win/win attitude
• Part of a problem• Have excuse• Say: that is not my
job• Pessimist• “It wasn’t my fault”• Schemes• Something must be
done• Apart from team• Win/lose belief
Success
Winning strategies
What is success• “Success is the progressive realization
of a worthy goal.”• “Success is an endless journey”• For success we need to struggle.• “Suicide is the permanent solution
to a temporary problem.”• It is not failure but the bounce
back ability that define success.• If you want to succeed double your
failure rate.
Qualities that makes a person successful• Desire to succeed • Commitment • Responsibility• Hard work• Character• Positive believing• Give something more than you get• Persistent• Feel pride for whatever job you do• Be a student
Desire
• Whatever the mind of man can conceive & believe, the mind can achieve it
• Burning desire leads to the success
Commitment
• Play to win & don’t play for “not to lose” - that’s make the difference a lot.
• Success is not in the achievement but in the achieving.
Responsibility• Loser’s try to let things happen
where as winners make things happen
• Take responsibility & learn from the mistake.
Hard work• There is no magic wand for
success• Without hard work there is no
success• Excellence is not luck but can only
comes from a lot of hard work & practice
Character• Sum of person’s values, beliefs &
personality.• Needs to be preserved than the richest
jewel in the world.• Don’t let criticism distract you from
reaching your goal.• Learn to handle success to remain
successful : best example SACHIN • Adversity builds or reveals character
Give more than you get
• Go ahead by an extra mile.• Always think of value addition
when do some work• Don’t complete the work only by
100% but some more
Be persistent• Try & try until you get succeed.• Finish what you start
Take pride of the job done
• The quality of the work and the quality of the worker are inseparable.
Be a student : get a mentor
• Best teacher will not give something to drink but make you thirsty.
Reasons of Failure• Afraid of taking risks• Lack of persistence• Instant gratification• Lack of priorities• Looking for shortcuts• Selfishness & greed• Lack of conviction
• Planning • Not learning from
past mistakes • Fear• Inability to use
talent• Lack of discipline• Fatalistic attitude
MOTIVATIONMotivating yourself and others
everyday
What is Motivation?
• Motivation = Motive + Action• Motivation is something that
encourages action.• To motivate means to encourage and
inspire.• It is like Fire- unless you keep adding
fuel to it, it dies.• Motivation is powerful. It can persuade,
convince and propel you in to action.
Why do we need to get motivated?
• Motivation is a driving force in our lives.
• It comes from a desire to succeed.• Without success there is little pride
in life, no enjoyment or excitement at work or at home.
Can we motivate others?
• The answer is No!!!!.• We cannot motivate others, people
motivate themselves.• However we can inspire them to
motivate themselves.• In order to do this, we need to
understand their needs and wants.
Classification of Motivation
• Motivation can be classified in to two types:
Motivation
External Internal
External Motivation
• External motivation comes from outside, such as money, societal approval, fame or fear.
• Fear Motivation• The advantages of this kind of
external motivation are:-It gets the job done quickly.
Fear motivation…….. -It prevents loss, by meeting
deadlines.-In the short run the person’s performance may improve.
• The disadvantages of fear motivation are:
-It is external, which means the motivation is there while the motivator is there.
Fear motivation (Disadv.)…….. - When the motivator goes,
the motivation also goes. -It causes stress. -In the long run, performance goes down. - It destroys creativity.
Internal Motivation• Internal motivation is the inner
gratification, not for success or winning, but from the fulfillment that comes from having done it.
• It is lasting, because it comes from within and translates into self-motivation.
• The two most important motivating factors are RECOGNITION and RESPONSIBILITY.
The Four Stages from MOTIVATION to DEMOTIVATION
1. Motivated Ineffective2. Motivated Effective3. Demotivated Effective4. Demotivated Ineffective
Demotivating Factors
Some of the de motivating factors are:• Unfair criticism• Rewarding the non performer which can
be de motivating for the performer.• Lack of direction• Lack of measurable objectives.• Low self-esteem.
Demotivating Factors….
• Lack of priorities• Unfair treatment• Poor standards• Responsibility without authority.• New methods of motivation will not work
till the demotivating factors are removed.
Motivators
• The greatest motivator is Belief.• We have to inculcate in ourselves
the belief that we are responsible for our actions and behaviour.
• Doing this, improves : quality, productivity, relationships and teamwork.
Steps to Motivate others
Here are some steps to motivate others:
• Give recognition• Give respect• Be a Good listener• Throw a challenge• Help but don’t do for others what
they should do for themselves
SELF-ESTEEMBuilding positive self-esteem
and image
What is SELF-ESTEEM?• Self-esteem is how we feel about
ourselves.• It critically influences everything, from
our performance at work, our relationships to our accomplishments in life.
• It is a major component in determining success or failure.
• High self-esteem leads to happy, gratifying and purposeful life.
Advantages of High SELF-ESTEEMSelf-esteem:• Builds strong conviction.• Creates willingness to accept
responsibility.• Builds optimistic attitudes.• Makes a person self-motivated and
ambitious.
Advantages……
• Improves performance and risk-taking abilities.
• Helps a person give and receive both criticism and compliments tactfully and easily.
• Leads to better relationships and fulfilling lives.
How do we recognize poor SELF-ESTEEM?
The behavior patterns of a person with poor self-esteem are:
• They have high egos- they are arrogant- and have a “Know it all” attitude.
• They are difficult to work with and for.• They constantly make excuses- always
justifying failures.
Poor SELF-ESTEEM……
• They never accept responsibility.• They have a fatalistic attitude.• They are jealous by nature.• They are generally gossipmongers.• Their behaviour is senseless and erratic
and they have no genuine friends.• They are touchy in nature-fragile ego.
Poor SELF-ESTEEM……• They have negative expectations
of themselves and others and are seldom disappointed.
• They lack confidence.• -constantly seek approval
and validation from others.
-Bragging about themselves.
Poor SELF-ESTEEM……
-Conformist behaviour.-Lack of assertiveness.
• They lack a sense of direction.• They emphasize more on material
things.• Lack of pride in themselves.• They are takers not givers.
Some characteristics of people with:
High SELFESTEEM Low SELF-ESTEEM
Talk about ideas Talk about people
Confidence Confusion
Courage of conviction
Conformist behaviour
Accept responsibility
Fail to accept responsibility
Characteristics……Discuss Argue
Give and receive criticism
Unwilling to accept positive criticism
Guided MisguidedWilling to learn Know it all
attitudeCaring Attitude Critical AttitudeInternally Driven Externally DrivenGiver Taker
Characteristics……Better relationships and fulfilling lives
Antisocial
Respect others Looks down on others
Keep promises Escape from promises
Sensitive Touchy
Understanding Greedy
Causes of Low SELF-ESTEEM
• Negative self-talk or Negative Auto-suggestions
• Environment• Education• Making unfair comparison
Causes…..
• Unrealistic Expectations of perfection by parents, teachers and supervisors
• Lack of discipline• Teaching the wrong values
Steps to building a positive SELF-ESTEEM
• Turn Scars in to Stars• Accept responsibility• Practice Discipline• Set goals• Associate with people of High
moral character.
Steps……
• Learn to give and receive compliments• Give yourself positive Auto-Suggestions• Have patience• Become internally driven, not externally
driven• Develop a mind set that brings
happiness
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS
Building a pleasing personality
Trust
All relationships are trust relationships.
Factors that build trust are:• Reliability – gives predictability• Consistency- builds confidence• Respect• Congruence• Character
Factors that prevent building of Positive Relationships
• Selfishness• Lack of courtesy• Not meeting commitments• Self-centeredness• Negative attitude• Lack of listening, discipline, and
respect for values.
Factors……
• Suspicious nature• Anger, rude behavior• Touchy nature• Greed• Unwillingness to accept the truth• Ego• Envy - jealousy
Steps to building a POSITIVE PERSONALITY
Step 1 : Accept responsibilityStep 2 : ConsiderationStep 3 : Think Win/WinStep 4 : Choose your words
carefullyStep 5 : Don’t criticize and complainStep 6 : Smile and be kindStep 7 : Be a Good listener
Steps……..
Step 8 : Give honest and sincere appreciation
Step 9 : Discuss but don’t argueStep 10 : Be Understanding and
caringStep 11 : Develop a sense of
humorStep 12 : To have a Friend, Be a
FriendStep 13 : Be sympathetic and
show empathy
SUBCONCIOUS MIND AND HABITS
Forming positive attitude and character
• Subconscious is like the automobile Conscious is like a driver.• Weeds still grow and weeding must be continue.• The GIGO principle.
Conscious and Subconscious
Mind
How do we get Conditioned?
• Environment and Media. • Kind of books we read • kind of company we keep.
How to get programmed?
“Sustain what needs to be done, Abstain from what is detrimental until it becomes habitual.”
• Unconsciously Incompetent.
• Consciously Incompetent.
• Consciously Competent
• Unconsciously Competent
What is Habit?
“Inspiration is what gets a person started,
Motivation is what keeps him on track, and it is the……………
Habit which makes it automatic.”
Habits are a matter of the pain and pleasure principle..
Resistance to Change
• Lack the desire to change
• Lack the discipline to change
• Lack the belief that they can
change.
• Lack of awareness for the need to
change.
21-Days Formula to form Positive Habits
• Autosuggestion.• Prepare the subconscious• Translate Autosuggestion in to reality• Visualization
GOAL SETTING
Setting and Achieving your Goals.
What is Goal?
“Knowledge helps you to reach the destination ,
provided you know what the destination is.”
Dreams and wishes are nothing more than desires.
Desire become strong when they are supported by 5Ds.
• Direction
• Dedication
• Determination
• Discipline
• Deadline
Why don’t people set Goals?
• A pessimistic attitude.
• Fear of failure and fear of rejection
• Lack of ambition
• Low self esteem
• Ignorance of importance of goal.
“zero failure don't mean 100% success”
Goal should be SMART
• S- SPECIFIC
• M- MESURABLE
• A- ACHIVEBLE
• R- REALISTIC
• T- TIME BOUND
“Life is hard by the yard,but by the inch, it is cinch”
Goal should be Balanced
Life is like a wheel with six spokes,• Family• Financial• Physical• Mental• Social• Spiritual
“Aim for moon,even if you miss,You will become one of the stars.”
Activity is not the same as accomplishment
Why to aim high?
VALUES AND VISION
DOING THE RIGHT THINGS FOR
THE RIGHT REASON.
Values
“No person was ever honored for what he received.honor has been the reward for what he gave.”
How to judge our values?• Mama test
• Baba test
• Wrong concepts of money.
“No person was ever honored for what he received,honor has been the reward for what he gave”
• If people have not defined a philosophy of success,they have actually defined philosophy of failure by default.
•The most unfortunate part of life is when people plan to get money without earning it.
•People with character integrity and right values are not for sale.
•People want to be overnight success at the cost of their conscience and still it doesn’t work.
It is Priceless- CHARACTER
Commitment
Implies
• Dependability
• Reliability
• Predictability• Empathy• Consistency
•A sense of duty•Caring•Sincerity•Character•integrity •loyalty
Commitment…..
Commitment…..Commitment means surrendering our
personal wants for another person’s need.
• Commitment to friendship implies
maintaining confidentiality.
• Commitment to customer implies giving
good service.
• Commitment to job implies to integrity.
• Commitment to community implies responsibility.
Ethics
Values and ethics are not design for good
time,but also to prevent bad time.
Most of our choices today are based on
• Our desire for convenience,comfort and pleasure
• Our feelings
• Social fads and ads
•Ethics and legality•Purpose of life.•Winning is an event,being winner is a spirit.
•What is goodness?
What affects Ethics?
• Greed
• Fear
• Pressure.
Changing Values-Today's Values
• Win by hook or crook
• There is sadness for getting caught rather than regret for having done wrong.
Try not to be a man of success,
But rather try to be a man of value.
Vision
•Lack of vision results in to failure.
•Everything that we see today was a
dream before it became reality.
•Live with enthusiasm, direction and
sense of purpose.
IF THE UNIVERSE IS ACCIDENT,WE ARE ACCIDENTS BUT THERE IS MEANING IN UNIVESE,THERE IS MEANING IN US ALSO” -- EINSTEIN
WINNING VS WINNER.
IT IS BETTER TO DESERVE AN HONOUR AND NOT HAVE IT, THAN TO HAVE IT AND NOT DESERVE IT.
-MARK TWAIN
WINNERS ARE GRACIOUS.
AFTER A WINNER MANY HAVE PUT EFFORTS.