you and you Organiser: Buddhist Society Speaker: Mr. Chia Fah Choy Date:16 Aug 2006 (2:00pm-3:00pm)...

you and you

Organiser: Buddhist SocietySpeaker: Mr. Chia Fah ChoyDate: 16 Aug 2006 (2:00pm-3:00pm)Venue: SE102

Un-opened Birth-Gifts

Acknowledgement

There are so many gifts

Still unopened from your birthday,

There are so many hand-crafted presents

That have been sent to you by God.

The Beloved does not mind repeating,

“Everything I have is also yours.”

There are so many gifts, my dear,

Still unopened from your birthday.Hafiz


Freedom and Power to Choose

Principles (Natural Laws) universal timeliness self-evident (inarguable)

The 4 Intelligences/Capacities Mental

Physical/EconomicEmotional/Social

Spiritual

“…It is our light, not our darkness, that most frighten us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?...”Marianne Williamson

Who are we?

Whole-Person Paradigm

Mind

Bod

yHeart

Spirit

Almost all philosophy and religion, both Western an Eastern, from the beginning of recorded history, you’ll basically find the same dimensions:

The physical/economic

The mental

The social/emotional

The spiritual

Four Needs of People

Mind

Bod

yHeart

Spirit

To learn

To li

veTo love

To leave a legacy

Growth and Development

Sur

viva

lRelationship

Meaning and Contribution






Spiritual

Principles/Natural Laws

Fairness

KindnessRespect

Honesty

Integrity

Service

Contribution

All actions have consequences

When we pick up one end of the stick we pick up the other.

Values are social norms

Are your value based upon principles?

You jump, I jump.






Spiritual

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Make an obscene gesture. Insult the intelligence of the driver. Add to the insult by adding a wide smorgasbord of

expletives. Raise their own blood-pressure, adrenaline, heart-rate

and stress levels. Pound furiously on the horn. Engage in a lengthy conversation with any passengers in

the car, focusing on the imbecilic nature of the other drivers.

Carry the experience on to work, explaining in righteous fury to their coworkers about the moronic nature of the driver, and expanding on the possible consequences.

Store the story as a constantly-to-be-reviewed example of the irresponsibility of other members of the driving community.

The other driver had just discovered that his wife and child were in a serious accident just down the road.

The other driver was in the process of suffering a heart attack.

The accelerator of the other car had become jammed to the floorboards.

The other driver had been on a drinking binge, and was ‘smashed out of his mind’.

Hiding behind the other driver’s seat was an escaped criminal with a gun, who had threatened to kill him if he did not drive flat-out to aid in the escape.

The other driver was your own brother. etc., etc., and etc.

Any time your emotional life is a function of someone else’s weakness, you disempower yourself and empower those weaknesses to

continue to mess your life up.Stephen R. Covey

ResponseStimulusFreedom

to choose

Between stimulus and response there is a space.

In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our

response.

In those choices lies our growth and our

happiness.

The history of free man is never written by chance but by choice – their choice.

Dwight D. Eisenhower

The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail

to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change; until we notice how failing to notice shapes our thoughts and

deeds.R.D. Laing

If we have given away our present to the past, do we need to give away our future also.

Stephen R. Covey

The EndThank you

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