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Yizkor 5779/2018

AT THE ROAD'S END

The small house waits, lost amid the fields of corn with the river somewhere near — In each white wall, a window and an open door let in the light and the longing sigh of the restless wind. And no-one comes here, and no-one goes, and the days are all as one to the little house of white-washed stone, and the dust and the rain are all the same, and the sound of the river there is the morning and the evening prayer. And far, so far above — the sky, spreading its great, pale wings beyond what any eye can see, or any heart betray.

Luther Jett, From Not Quite: Poems written in search

of my father, Finishing Line Press, 2015]

יזכור

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LOCKED GARDEN, APRIL 2018

“You are a locked garden, my sister, my bride, you are a closed spring, a sealed fountain.” Song of Songs, 4:12

My neighbor’s house sits At the corner of a lively intersection Of commuters, carpoolers, dog-walkers and morning joggers An unremarkable, silent split-level witness To so much mundane, repetitive activity.

Daffodils and tulips line the front walk And small collections of perennials Fill the grassy lawn like many islands In a quiet green sea

My neighbor is bent over a small patch of weeds which she is Constantly beating back, undeterred by her ineffective efforts against the intransigent invaders. She looks up and greets me in her thick Italian accent, The vintage straw garden hat cocked on her head, Bright eyes shining from behind her glasses, conveying an uncanny youth In defiance of her wrinkled, spotted skin and arthritic finger joints: “Helloo beyutifool lady!”

Her dancing eyes droop with pain when I ask the obvious, horrible, polite question How are you today? Oh . . . eet eez so hahrd, you know My husband, he eez gone so fast and now, I am all aloone, no good. And now I remember that the garden had been their shared project, And now it is solitary.

Their garden sits at the far corner Away from the oblivious madness of our daily schedules Beyond the gauze-wrapped plum tree, with its forbidden fruit Next to the elementary school An ambitious enterprise always in progress with a rock pool, vegetable patch and Many exotic varieties of flowers. It is a holy mess, overgrown with weeds, overrun with gardening detritus Gated, locked and glowing with the potential of its visionaries Perennially awaiting its completion

Somehow, its chaos is its beauty And I despair the possibility that someday it might be complete (and then what?) Preferring my daily encounter with this living metaphor In its true, unfinished state A locked garden awaiting the return of its Adam and Eve Its riotous, unruly foliage giving constant testimony: We are never finished and therein lies the sorrow and the joy

The Fund for Our Future: L’dor va dor

Adat Shalom Reconstructionist Congregation invites you to join

the Fund for Our Future.

Founded in 1988 by a small group of long-active

Reconstructionists in the Bethesda area and by a not much

larger group of unaffiliated Jews willing to try something

different, Adat Shalom is today a vibrant and purposeful member-led

community looking forward to its future.

Through your membership, you have shown your commitment to Adat

Shalom and to our religious, educational, charitable, social, and recreational

activities. All support Reconstructionist principles in viewing Judaism as an

evolving religious civilization in which the honored traditions and values of

the past are given modern interpretation and meaning.

L’dor va dor. From generation to generation. This theme, central to our

unique heritage as Jews, signals the transfer of beliefs, traditions, and

memories within a family but expands to demand the same within a

community and, indeed, for all Jews across centuries, cultures, and

countries. And so we ask all members of our Adat Shalom community to

share in the task of caring for our future generations. We ask you to assure

that those who follow will have the means to strive and thrive.

Adat Shalom Reconstructionist Congregation established an endowment

fund—the Fund for Our Future—to provide long-term enrichment for our

spiritual, intellectual, and communal life. Held separately from operating

assets, the endowment fund will be used to strengthen the synagogue in

decades to come. Please contact the Endowment Committee through the

synagogue office to discuss a planned or current gift: (301) 767-3333, ext.

107 or [email protected].

mailto:[email protected]

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The dust returns to the earth as it was,

and the mind falls back to the Source from which it came.

Life and death,

a twisted vine sharing a single root.

A water bright green

stretching to top a twisted yellow,

only to wither itself

as another green unfolds overhead.

One leaf atop another,

yet under the next.

A vibrant tapestry of arches and falls

all in the act of becoming.

Death

is the passing of life.

And life

is the stringing together of so many little passings.

-Rabbi Rami Shapiro

Mollie & Herman Abrams Rhoda Abrams

Barbara Abrams

Charlotte Skoler

Harry & Gertrude Ackerman Michael & Judy Ackerman

Robert Lipton

Stew Albert Judy Gumbo Albert

Jeannie Rutenburg Art Eckstein

David Dobkin Judy Gumbo Albert

We remember our member who

died during this past year:

Rhoda Ratner

זיכרונם לברכה Zichrona Livracha

May her memory be for a blessing

In Memory Of Remembered By

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Deborah Arnold Margi, Scott, Ian & Sheri Arnold

Jack Arnold

Clara Helsel

Harvey Helsel

Irving Helsel Margi & Scott Arnold

Sydelle Gordon

Eva Frankel

Abraham Frankel Scott Arnold

Hyman Abramowitz

Larry Grossman, beloved father Jaime Banks & Jon Grossman

Melvin & Florence Banks, beloved parents

Edna Knopp, beloved aunt

Louis & Margaret Barkin Robert Barkin & family

Samuel & Doris Chortek

Jennie Chortek

Sofia & Mikhail Ilyin Tim, Nadya, Sasha, & Margot Bartol; Ella Kagan

Miriam Dizhur & Isaac Kagan

John & Caroline Bartol

Pavel Ilyin

Gerald Baum Noa & Stuart Baum

Tzipporett Kohen-Raz & Reuven Kohen-Raz

Mina Rosenberg

Zdeni Kohen-Ascher & Kamil Kohen

Joe Wallace, Celia Wallace Isabel & Ted Berman

Susana Vasquez, Juan Vasquez

Pablo Ludowieg

Samuel & Esther Climo Ann C. Birk

Selma and Morgan Swirsky

Marjorie Wilder

Ben and Norman

Chasya and Max

Frada and Jacob

Isaac and Mary

Joseph Schiaffino Sarah Wesson

Howard and Pearl Wesson

Wendy Wesson

Larry Schulner Shulamit, David, Matan, & Barak Widawsky

Bill Widawsky

Zosia Finkelstein

Nusia Finkelstein

Blanche Widawsky

Julius Widawsky

Diane Regner The Widdes Family

Fay Widdes

Ted Widdes

Gabriel Baksht

Chaim Ben-Dashan

Lawrence & Pauline Kresky Marilyn, Mark, Jeremy & Ben Wolff

Kurt & Loni Wolff

Joseph D. Zamore Fran Zamore

Herman Zelikow

Mae R. Zelikow

Micki & Marv Orchen, Marla's parents Zipin Family

Martin & Bette Zipin, Phil's parents

Peter Zipin, Phil's brother

Bernard Paul Harris, Marla's uncle

Janet Greenberg, Marla's cousin

Alexander & Celia Itkis Phil Zipin

Martha Harris Marla Zipin

Wolfe Zinober

Michael & Ida Orchen

Bernice Tucker, Phil's beloved cousin Marla & Phil Zipin

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THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN LOST

from newspapers and notice boards

I find out about things that have been lost.

This way I know what people had

And what they love.

Once my tired head fell

On my hairy chest and there I found my father’s smell

again, after many years.

My memories are like someone

Who can’t go back to Czechoslovakia

Or who is afraid to return to Chile.

Sometimes I see again

The white vaulted room

With the telegram

On the table.

Yehuda Amichai.

Translated by Glenda Abramson and Tudor Parfitt.

Great Tranquikity: Questions and Answers. HarperCollins Publishers,

©1983.

THE BROKEN TABLETS

The broken tablets were also carried in an ark.

Insofar as they represented everything shattered

everything lost, they were the law of broken things,

the leaf torn from the stem in a storm, a cheek touched

in fondness once but now the name forgotten.

How they must have rumbled, clattered on the way

even carried so carefully through the wasteland,

How they must have rattled around until the pieces

broken into pieces, the edges softened

crumbling, dust collected at the bottom of the ark

ghosts of old letters, old laws. Insofar

as a law broken is still remembered

these laws were obeyed. And insofar as memory

preserves the pattern of broken things

these bits of stone were preserved

through many journeys and ruined days

even, they say, into the promised land. Rodger Kamenetz

http://loveyourcrookedneighbor.tumblr.com/post/47281612224#47281612224

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Daniel Blackman The Kahn Blackman Family

Max Lewis Kahn

Seymour Abensohn

Maxine Friedman

Benjamin Shechter

Ginger Shechter

Hilliard Bloom Aileen Bloom, David Bloom, Marilyn Cheikes

Richard V. & Elizabeth L. Portolan Kathleen, Mark, Aaron & Samara Bloomfield

Irene Breman Joel & Vicki Breman

Herman Breman

Greta Vaughan

Natalye Black

Rene LeBerre

Ken Breman

Ruchama Tzur Breman Tzur families

Beatrice & Bernard Westerman, Elena Broder–Feldman & Mark Feldman

Elena's Grandparents

Beatrice & Charles Broder, Elena's Grandparents

Fanny & Paul Weiner, Mark's Grandparents

Louis Feldman, Mark's Father

Paulette Broder, Elana’s Aunt

My Parents, Ben & Vivian Blotner Kravitz Sandy Kravitz Brody

My Aunt, Elizabeth Kravitz Levenson

Leah Cohen Marla Cohen & Salvador Mandry

Sue Miller

Edward I. Cohen

Salvador E. Mandry

Selma & Sanford Leavitt The Crow-Katz Family

Dr. Morton & Cecilia Crow

Gerrie & Lawrence Katz

Saundra Katz-Feinberg

Herbert & Selma Dagen Rick (son) & Scott (gr&son)

Regina Wolitzer, Peggy's beloved mother The Davidson Family: Peggy, Bob, John, Daniel, &

Margaret

Mary & Walter Day Camilla Day & Ralph Nitkin


Lillian & David Spindel, parents Carol Stern

Gussie & Morris Sobel, grandparents

Esther & Jacob Spindel, granparents

Sidney Spindel, uncle

Solomon Teichman The Teichman Family

Bess Lerner

Lawrence Lerner

Jack Tossell The Tossell/Pitts Family

Penny Tossell

Ida Dorf Wenstein

Sidney Weinstein

Bessie Dorf Greenberg

Rae Weinstein Pearlstein

Joel Kaufman Debra Tropp, wife

Sheila Ann Rose Tropp Debra Tropp, daughter

Henry Samuel Tropp Debra Tropp, daughter

My beloved parents, Betty & Milton Turen Kit Turen

My beloved uncle, Mason Baer

My beloved grandparents, King & Celia Baer

Helen, Harry & Stanley Weinberg Linda, Arielle, Jonathan, & Irving Weinberg

Nona & Papa Trifiletti

Paul Weiner (father/grandfather) Raine & Stephanie Weiner, Arielle & Adam Hollies

Anna & Louis Fogel The Weiner & Weiner-Dwyer Family

Hannah Weissberger Hanna Weissberger

Shemuel Weissberger

Lusha Weissberger

Leah Hanna Weissberger

Zipora Diamant

Yechezkel Diamant

Yoseph Diamant

Henek Teichler

Pnina-Chaya Hanna Weissberger

Yehuda Hanna Weissberger

Yaakov Weissberger

Chaiim'ke Kimchi, beloved step-brother

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Claire Dratch Gail Dratch, David Michaels, Joel & Lila Michaels

Joseph Dratch

Ruth Gruber

Philip Michaels

Jen Kessler

Michael & Helen Demby Sue & Rabbi George Driesen

Irving & Doris Driesen

William & Goldie DuBow Sy DuBow, their son

Albert & Sylvia Gordon Vanessa Eisemann

Beatrice & Jerome Eisemann

Ira Eisenstein Miriam R. Eisenstein

Judith Kaplan Eisenstein

Bernard Epstein Jonathan Epstein & Hazzan Rabbi Rachel Hersh,

Florence Epstein Gabriel, Gideon & Koby

Rebecca Epstein Matveyev

Jacob Schwarz

Gertrude Rizzolo Jayme & Jerry Epstein

Anna & Jonas Lipson

Freda & Edward Engelman

Rosalind & Irving Epstein

My Husband, William Blackburn Sheila Feldman

My Mother, Jean Peters

My Father, Sol Peters

My Aunt, Rachel Teplin

My Cousin, Leah Lieberman

Bernard H. Fernbach Harvey Fernbach, MD

Julia W. Fernbach

Nirmala Khot Fernbach, MD

Gaori Eva Fernbach

Sen. Paul David Wellstone

Sadanand S. Khot

Rama Khot

FEELING LOST

I am feeling lost. What do I mean by that you ask. Something is missing. Lost is cousin to loss. Loss. What could it be? What did I lose? Certainty. Knowing. Control. Approval. Letting go, falling through the atmosphere. No longer holding on or even gripping the railings. What a sweet blessing to be free. And then liberation turns a corner and becomes loss, and down The page from loss is fear then despair. But, You are here with me. Silent witness to all comings and goings, moments, and moods. If the room is big enough, the sign says: Lost and Found Right here.

Sheila Peltz Weinberg God Loves the Stranger: Stories, Poems Prayers © White River Press, MA

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Tzedakah tatzil mi-mavet: Righteous Giving “Saves” Us from Death

TZEDAKAH

Tzedakah, which gets translated as charity, isn’t. It’s more like justice spilling from the hand, the brain, the whole self. It is a door opening wide in your façade, a door opening into another whom you see as real. It is understanding what we have is lent and we are caught in the same net of troubles and weakness so we give out of momentary strength and the act is not charity, but a moment’s kinship, an instant of love.

Marge Piercy. Kerem: Creative Explorations in Judaism. No. 14, 5775-2014.

At each moment of our lives we encounter gates behind which beckon the unknown. We have little choice but to enter, and, as we do, the gates swing shut behind us. We can never go back. The known, the comfortable, the safe, all these are in the past. Only the unknown, the dangerous, the mysterious and the terrifying lay ahead. Moving on makes us human, doing so lightly and at peace makes us divine. Eventually we come to the final gate, the final closing. The trail ends, leaving behind only memories of steps taken, leaps tried, grace achieved and shared. How do we honor this final gate? With tears and stories, with memories and love, with food and friends. And with silence. Silence is the heart of death, and silence alone does it justice. But silence does not mean passivity, and our tradition speaks of four virtues that form the core of silence. The first is hearing: hearing the inner voice of our pain and love,

rejoicing that nothing, not even the grave, can rob us of that supreme human emotion. The second is memory: reclaiming the past by refusing to forget the joys it once held. S/he who once lived among us now lives within us, and there s/he cannot die. The third is action: we must honor our dead by continuing to live ourselves. Their memory is quickened only in the fullness of our own lives- our own futures, our own on-going struggles to make sense out of a n often senseless world. The fourth is wisdom: every life is a teaching, every person a guide to truth. We must allow the wisdom that was [NAME] to become a part of ourselves, that her/his memory might lead us to an even greater wisdom of our own. Hearing, memory, action, wisdom . . . . May each of these find a place in our silence, our grief, and our moving out again into the world where yet another gate beckons wide.

- Rabbi Rami Shapiro

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In Memory Of Remembered By In Memory Of Remembered By

Isaac & Erna Ruelf The Fierst Family

Harry & Miriam Fierst

Lennie Fierst

Joseph & Emilie Boyars

Beryl Reynolds

Saundra Katz-Feinberg

Gerrie Katz

Harry Wolman

Sylvia Finkelstein, mother Abraham E. Finkelstein

Harry Finkelstein, father

Janice B. Finkelstein, wife

Gabriele L. Johnson , wife

Jerome Fox Cheryl Fox & Cary Bland

Hubert Bland

Irwin H. Spivak The Fox Family

Frances Yoseloff

Martin Yoseloff

Paul Woolf

Nancy Backenheimer Landon

Janice Spivak

Renee Gabbay, Altan's Mother Altan Gabbay, Ruth Poulin, Rachel Gabbay

Bertha & Samuel Hason, Altan's Grandparents

Norman Jonassen, Ruth's Beloved Uncle

Elaine F. Gerson Loved & Remembered by Ruth

Ruth & Irving Gavil Andy Gavil, Judy Veis, Justin, Noah & Zoe Ruth

Eve Veis

Walter zenner, Trude Bing

Jerry Gavil

Esther Paper Gelman The Gelman/Salop Family

Jacob Doron & Samuel Paltiel Gelman Salop

Saul & Byrd Kalish Salop

Joseph & Dora Salop

Benjamin & Bella Kalish

Sol & Rose Greenberg Paper

Jerry & Emma Horovitz Gelman

Herbert & Bess Brandwein Paper

Evelyn Paper Himelgrin Rodman

Abraham "Ted" Salop

Bettina Lorris Arthur Silver

Patricia Ritterhoff Arthur Silver & Robin Ritterhoff

Maurice Silver

Dorothy Silver

John Ritterhoff

Harold Ashby

Edward McKeon

Paul G Silver Nathalie, Karen, Ellen & Lauren Silver

Celine M Silver

Theodore Silver

Rose Silver

Morris Abraham Solomon Nancy, Aaron, & Isaac Solomon

Beverly Livingston Solomon

Sam & Jennie Solomon

Bertha & Benjamin Livingston

Carol Kirschenbaum

Jeannette Livingston

Lois Lubin

Elinor Spieler Jeff Spieler, Jennifer Weil, Rebecca Trager

Geraldine Spieler Jeff Spieler, Jennifer Weil, Rebecca Trager, Susan &

Ronald Stern

Sidney Spieler Jeff Spieler, Jennifer Weil, Rebecca Trager,

Susan Stern

Sol Sobel Jeff Spieler, Jennifer Weil, Rebecca Trager, Leah

Sobel, Philip Sobel, Marilyn Sobel

Herb Iris The Spieler, Kassoff & Iris-Williams Families

Milly Iris

Ruth Waldstein The Spieler Family

Elizabeth & Abe Spirtas Joan & Bob Spirtas

Eudice & Si Fingold

Belle Altman

Ellen R. Aisenberg Michael & Randy Steiner

Marc H. Abramson

Morris & Bernice Steiner

Nathan Abramson

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Uncle Herman & Aunt Yetta Leder Sherry Segerman

Uncle Joe & Aunt Ruth Leder

Uncle Sam & Aunt Sylvia Leder

Uncle Leon Leder

Uncle Moe & Aunt Minnie Lee Leder

Aunt Fanny & Uncle Izzy Bernstein

Bubby Dina & Zadie Jacob Leder

Cousins Martin & Sheldon Leder

Joan Wheeler

Loving Mom, Rozzie, &

Big-Hearted, Generous, Dad, Jules Segerman Sherry Segerman & Family

Margit Seidel, Kay Abram's paternal aunt The Abrams family

Hermann Kosak

Hyman Seidman Myrna Seidman

Pauline Seidman

Gail Lifson Levitt Melissa Seldin

Milton Seldin David Seldin

Susan Seldin David and Agnes Seldin

Larry Levitt Melissa, David, Agnes and Gabe Seldin

Ruth Routtenberg Seldin

Abie Blumberg The Shugerman Family

Samuel Simon

Lee Shugerman

Sidney Heyman

Lena Belle Shugerman

Minerva Simon Heyman

Harold Manekin

Bernard Manekin

Adrienne Kohn

Clara & Harry Manekin

Hannah Lipman

Leonard Siegel Children Debbie, Richard & Gary,

Marilyn Siegel Grandchildren Jeremy & Geena

Charles Silberman David, Silberman, Claire Engers & Peter, Eric,

Arlene Silberman & Jonathan

Dr. Henry K. Silberman Ralph Silberman, Margaret Clark, Evan &

Janina J. Silberman Magdalen Silberman


Jennie & Isador Goldenberg Myrna & Neal Goldenberg

Fay & Harry Gallant

Jerry Phillips

Audrey Beck, mother of Deena, Deena, Larry, and Avi Goldsmith

grandmother of Avi

Sheila & Ted Goldsmith, parents of Larry, Larry, Deena, and Avi Goldsmith

grandparents of Avi

Esther Green, grandmother of Deena Deena Goldsmith

Caren Pearl, sister of Larry Larry and Deena Goldsmith

Rita & Richard Wine In loving memory by Rabbi Julie Gordon,

Cindi Orensten Shoshana & Ari

Rose & Ben London

Gert & Lou Gordon

Bernice and Harold Blustin

Jeff Blustin

Stanley & Lola Apothaker Green Jody Green & Ed, Dana, & Sonia Max

David & Fruma Wolfson Max

Edwin & Yetta Apothaker

Harold Greenwald The Greenwald/Mehlman Family

Lillian Greenwald

Paul Greenwald The Greenwald/Samuels family

Seena Samuels

Irma M. & Herman Gross Lauren Gross, Hal Segall, Deanna Segall &

Dora & Solomon Malley Hayley Segall

Frank & Rose Gross

Adrienne Carole Kohn The Grossman Family

Elizabeth Tytelman Kohn

Herbert Alan Kohn

Ely H. Grossman

Paul J. Grossman

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תוספת לחזון השלום

AN APPENDIX TO THE VISION OF PEACE

לא להפסיק אחר כתות החרבות לאתים, לא להפסיק! להמשיך לכתת

ולעשות מהם כלי נגינה.

מי שירצה לעשות שוב מלחמה יצטרך לחזר דרך כלי העודה.

Don’t stop after beating the swords into ploughshares, don’t stop! Go on beating

and make musical instruments out of them.

Whoever wants to make war again

will have to turn them into ploughshares first.

Yehuda Amichai. Translated by Glenda Abramson and Tudor Parfitt.

Great Tranquikity: Questions and Answers. HarperCollins Publishers, ©1983

REMEMBERING

Someone laughs a certain way and suddenly I am feeling you. The radio plays a song you used to love. It feels as if you are here with me. The evening light glistens on the trees. My heart stings, after so many years, with the loss of you. The family gathers together. Each of us feels the absence of you. Some of us are consoled for our loss. Some of us are yet inconsolable. Some of us have bitterly wounded hearts for each and every loss we have suffered – Some of us have healed. Grandmothers, grandfathers, mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, sis-ters, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins and second-cousins, friends from the old days, friends from now… co-workers...postmen we chatted with, men and women far, far, far from us How brief life is. Teach us to number our days, to be fully alive, fully aware each and every day, to live in awareness, to cherish awareness– oh teach us to number our day so that we may attain a wise heart. That we may remember and mourn those we have lost

and still celebrate the gift of their lives. The gift of life.

Rabbi Miriyam Glazer

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Solomon Halpern Solomon & Beatrice are remembered by their

Beatrice Halpern, A woman of strength & children, grandchildren & great grandchildren

courage, dedicated to her family

Andrew Santo, Hungarian immigrant who

made a wonderful life for his family

Rose Santo, Inspiring as a mother, dedicated, Rose & Andrew are remembered by Naomi &

unique, a woman of valor loved by all; grandchildren Micayla, Julian & Jacob

David Santo, Guitar maker par excellence,

composer, musician, performer, loving father

& brother

Esta & Charles Hare Martha Hare & Family

Stanley Glabman Seth Glabman & Marth Hare

Sam Book Sandy Hayward & Family

Alan S. Hirshberg Putzi Hirshberg

Anna & Josel Zalkind The Irony Family

Genia Lerner & Sora Zalkind

Golda & Abraham Abraham

Tamara Irony

Gisella Simon, Susana's mother The Isaacson Family

Janku Simon, Susana's father

Edwin Isaacson, Stephen's father

Sylvia Isaacson, Stephen's mother

Klara Illovits, Susana's aunt

Florence Kane, Stephen's aunt

Cadi Simon, sister in law, aunt

Gloria Steinfeld, Roberta’s Mother Jonathan, Roberta, Gil & Daniel Jacobson

Julian Steinfeld, Roberta’s Father

Burton Jacobson, Jonathan’s Father

Harriet Jacobson, Jonathan’s Mother

Yetta & Jack Karney, grandparents Amy Jaslow

Myrtle & Louis Jaslow, grandparents

James Gordon Jett, Sr. Luther Jett

Ann Muncaster Rice Jett

YOU CAN You can shed tears that she is gone, Or you can smile because she has lived You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back, Or you can open your eyes and see all that she has left Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her Or you can be full of the love that you shared You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday You can remember her and only that she is gone Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

~ David Harkins 1959 – Silloth, Cumbria, UK


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Linda's parents Herbert & Jeannette (Powell) Linda & Claude Kacser, Linda's son Ari Seder, &

Johnson, & her brothers Stephen & David Claude's daughter Hilary

Claude's parents Katie & Felix Kacser,

his beloved Uncle Fred'l, &

his guardian Uncle Martin Heilbut

Holocaust Victims:

Claude's Great-Uncle Soma Kacser;

His cousins Ernst & Flora Heilbut;

Their children, Alfred Heilbut & Robert Heilbut &

Robert's wife Annette Dientje Heilbut

Claude's cousin Friederika Caffe,

daughter of his beloved Great Aunt Golda Heilbut;

Her husband Dorus Caffe, & their daughters,

Anita Elisabeth & Hilda Julia Caffe

Alfred Kalfus The Kalfus/Cohen Family

Morris Cohen

Robert Cohen

Moe Septee Yael Septee & Donald Kane

Elmer Kane Donald Kane

Irene Smith

Edward Smith

Cynthia Smith

Toby Kanefield, Linda's mother The Kanefield/Schneider Family

Martin Kanefield, Linda's father

Jon Kanefield, Linda's brother

Jacob Kamerow, friend

Paul F. Colarulli Susan Kaplan

Lillian Schoolman Kaplan

David L Kaplan

Fannie & Israel Kaplan

Katie & Sol Schoolman

Louis Kessler Ethel Kessler

Ruth Kessler

Norman Hankin, cousin

Ethel Kessler, grandmother

Jacob Kessler, grandfather

Morty Kessler, cousin

Alex Mashbaum, grandfather

Judith Saposnick In loving memory, Jill Schwartz, Leon,

Talia & Elias Rodriguez

Allan Schwarz Son, Rabbi Sid Schwarz & Perlstein/Schwarz family

Miriam Perlstein Daughter, Sandy Perlstein & Schwarz family

Arthur Perlstein

Sophie & Isaac Berstein Grandaughter, Sandy Perlstein & Schwarz family

Bertha & Charles Br& Grandson, Rabbi Sid Schwarz & Perlstein/Schwarz

Mindel & Jacob Schwarz family

Helen Segall Hal Segall, Lauren Gross, Deanna & Hayley Segall

Doris Lorber

Czarna Sczwarc

Hersh Leyb Shwom

William Oxman

Edward Schoen

Selma & Len Shapiro Steve & Jody Shapiro

Beatrice & Abe Sussman Steve Shapiro

Dave & Ida Shapiro Steve & Jody Shapiro

Esther & Lou Eisenstein

Dora & Harry Skitolsky Jody Shapiro

Stella & Hyman Markoff Steve & Jody Shapiro

Ann Marcia Shapiro Steve Shapiro

Barry Sharpe Steven Sharpe & Family

Jack Sharpe

Sylvia & Zach Lifchez

David & Irene Schonzeit Darin Schonzeit & Family

Nettie & Samuel Deber

David Novick David Sieradzki & Emily Novick

Benjamin Sieradzki

Gloria Sieradzki

Lenore Sherwin, Loving Mother Wendy Swire & Family

Samuel Sherwin, Loving Father

SHIVITI ADONAI

I have set The Eternal always before me; surely The Presence is at my right hand, I shall not be moved.

יד: י תמ י יהוה לנגד ית ל שו י, ב ינ ימ י מ אמוט.-כ

Shiviti Adonai l'negdi Tamid, ki mi-mi-ni bal emot:

Therefore my heart is glad, and my glory rejoices; my body also dwells in safety;

י ב ח ל י;--לכן, שמ יגל כבוד ף ו ח.-א ן לבט שכ י, י בשר

Lachen samach libi, vayagel kvodi, af b'sari yishkon la-vetach:

From Psalm 16

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:

a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot,

a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak,

a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. ( ~ Ecclesiastes 3

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REMEMBERING A SIBLING

The deaths of the ones we love are all the same and all different. The loss is always sharp; the comfort of recollected memories always sweet and comforting. But the texture of each loss is different. The death of a grandparent undermines our sense of generational continuity. The death of a parent, our security that we are rocked in the cradle of life. The death of a child that life’s cradle is essentially good. The death of a sibling too is unique. It ignites our own vivid sense of mortality. This brother or sister knows the music that shaped us, the humor that amused us, the role models that transfixed us in ways that parents can only suspect. And they embody the wonderfully mundane rhythms of life. Innumerable conversations around the family dinner tables. Many hours in the family car trips. Conspiracies galore with those brothers and sisters. Sometimes one against another. Just as often all for one in service of undermining parental authority or family routine. In any event, a rich lore of family secrets. And when they are gone is it surprising if it feels as if a piece of our own soul has been lost?

~ Rabbi Jeffrey Schein (RRC 1976)


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Donald & Gertrude Landay The Landay/Kimmel Family

Zvi & Jen Tomkiewicz

Ben & Sophie Bloom

Gabriel David Landay Hirsch

Lewis Guthman Noah & Maya Guthman & Adina Kole

Fern Guthman

Arye Kole Adina Kole & Noah & Maya Guthman

Charlotte Kole

Irving & Elsa Konigsberg Chuck Konigsberg

Sam & Ann Cohen

Judy & Larry Lichtig

Sam Stein Iris & Louis Korman

Lillian Stein

Israel Korman

David Badner

Ester Korman

Hannah Lipman

Peter Wachs

Susyn Kraham Bobbi Kraham & Family

Lawrence & Marjorie Simon Cathy Simon, David Kuney, & Our Family

Esther & Joseph Kuney

Richard Kuney

Esther & Aaron Kutnick The Kutnick Family - Malka, Bruce, Aviva, Aaron

Miriam & Mayer Lewin

Louis Taub

Stanley Lessne Scott, Deborah, Irina & Alec Lessne

Betty Lou Willcockson Lacefield Patrick Lacefield & Dinah Leventhal & family

Jesse D. Lacefield, Jr.

Dr. Brigid G. Leventhal

Lynne Lacefield Williams

Leo & Sadie Rubenstein Enid Rubenstein

Pearl Rubenstein

Daniel & Minnie Rubenstein

Israel & Mollie Rubinstein

Richard Asofsky

Steven Rubenstein Kenneth & Francine G Rubenstein

Alex Golderger

Sophie Goldberger

Judith G. Greenberg

Robert IGreenberg

Kenneth Greenberg

Jacob Rubenstein

Sophie Rubenstein

Benjamin Rubenstein

Max Rubenstein

Sarah & Irving Rubin Jeffrey Rubin, Michele Bloch, Ruth & Ted

Sophie & Kalman Kaplan

Celia Kaplan Rubin

Robert Daniel Rubin

Miriam & Martin Rudick Shelley Rae Rudick

Tmima & Simcha Sibel

Irving Rudick

Carole Sibel

Terry & David Taft James Richard Taft

Beatrice & Wallace Sadowsky, Shelley Sadowsky, Jocelyn Schaffer & Jerry Gross

beloved parents of Shelley & Jocelyn

Grandparents Michael & Anna Shuman Shelley Sadowsky & Jocelyn Schaffer

Dear Friends, Ann Farhat & Dan Alper Shelley Sadowsky & Jerry Gross

Isidore Gross, beloved father of Jerry Jerry Gross & Shelley Sadowsky

Grandparents William & Clara Herbst Jerry Gross

Walter Morse Minna Scherlinder Morse &

Gilda Linder Morse Rabbi Fred Scherlinder Dobb

Henry Dobb

Max Scherl

Pearl Scherl Moss

Sam Linder


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Ruth Fried Josh, Debra, Ben, Ethan & Arye Levin

Rhoda & Theodore Levin

Leah & Sol Shaye

Bella & Albert Zuch

Ethel & Aaron Fried

Irwin B. Levin Stuart & Lori Levin

Clarice Greenwald

Leona L. Levin

Melissa Levine The Levine-Schenk family

Morgan Levine-Schenk

Larry Levine

Mayer Lewin Debbie Lewin & David, Sam & Jacob Popper

Miriam Lewin

Joseph Abraham Lieberman Tamar Lieberman, Rick & Sarah Lieberman,

Diane & Ruth DeFries Vicki

Mike DeFries DeFries Family, Tamar Lieberman

Leonard Lustig Craig Lustig & Peter Carter

Helen Perlstein Craig Lustig

Arthur Shapiro, Lisa's stepfather Lisa & Neil Makstein

William & Jeanette Shapiro, Lisa's grandparents

Max Klein & Sylvia Rosenblatt, Neil & Lisa Makstein

Neil's grandparents

Nathan & Celia Makstein, Neil's grandparents

Floyd Makstein Neil, Lisa, Jason & Alyson Makstein

Susan Eliakim Siman & Sherry, Bruce, David, & Daniel Maliken

David Siman (Sherry's parents)

Fred & Esther Siman (Sherry's Grandparents)

Sol & Nissim Eliakim (Sherry's Grandparents)

Max Eliakim (Sherry's Uncle)

Lenore Alex Maliken (Bruce's Mother & Father)

Abraham & Estelle Balbirer Steven & Myrna Parker

Harold Posofsky

Roslyn H. Balbirer

Hyman Balbirer

Alex & Doris Paster (Mark's parents) Mark, Doreen, Alex, & Shana Paster

Meyer & Bess Cantor (Doreen's parents)

Lena Berman (Doreen's aunt)

Jonathan David Stern Karen, Elan, Talia & Noah

Ari Joshua Stern Karen Paul

Alice Paul

Esther & David Weisberg Deborah, Ben & Scott Peeples

James Edwin Peeples

Paula & Kenneth Knopman

The “Sugar Girls” Judy Peres

Naomi Sugar Peres Judy Peres & Anna Anderson

Mildred & Harry Quain Estelle Quain, their daughter

Julia & Emanuel Sevy Estelle Quain, their granddaughter

Esther & Leon Quain

Sheldon Rappaport Steve Rappaport, Sandy Laden, Joshua, &

Livia Rappaport

Manny Shore Barb, Charlie, Becca, & Sarah Richman

Hilda Shore

Seymour Richman

Sue Shore

Roz Helfand

Ann Richman Peter, Chaya, Maia, & Noam Richman

Jack Richman

Irving Rosenthal, father Ann Rosenthal

Ruth Rosenthal, mother & grandmother Ann Rosenthal, Isaac & Cameron Rosenthal Jackson

Sheerah Rosenthal Roach, cousin

David Rothschild II Rothschild-Seidel family, with love

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GRIEF

May you find strength to move on after the death of a loved one. May you trust that love endures stronger than death and despite the loss and pain so will you. You will find a way unknown now even to you to release yourself from guilt, regret and remorse as the High Priest cleansed, purged and offered a scapegoat as an escape from excessive grief. You will separate yourself from death and from despair and move forward slowly one step at a time so that you can find a way back from the wilderness to life in this world. -Amen

Rabbi Sheryl Lewart Blessings for Life's Journey: Transformative Meditations and Readings © 2013, Tambourine Publishing, Pacific Palisades, CA


Harry Leibowitz Tim Lipman

Sadie Leibowitz

Joe Leibowitz Tim, Scott & Ari

Henry Lipman

Phillip Leibowitz

Paul Jaretzki

Josie Lipman

Hannah Lipman Tim, Scott, Ari, Joanna, Jonah, & Mia

Sara Marks Levy Carol Lite & Ken Cantor

Rose Uslan Cantor

Susan Newman

Irving Marks Carol Lite

Arthur B. Cantor Ken Cantor

Jerry Weinraub

Pearl & Walter Lubran Robert Lubran & Family

Beth Lubran

Alex & Lillian Bloomberg Carol Bloomberg & Family

Byron Stuart Hurwitz The Marcus Family

Fan Edelson Spindler

Frank Spindler

Celine Marcus

Joshua Marcus

Judy Dronsick

Michael Dronsick

Carole Convissor Howard, Rena, Moses, Mollie & Max

Irving Milchberg

Renee Milchberg

Roger Milkman Louise & Gabi Milkman

Sally & Albert Miller Lawrence, Maureen & Benjamin Miller

Betsy Miller

Jay Robert Baer Carol Baer Mott

Barton E. Ferst

Helen B. Ferst

Roslyn & Fred Nitkin Ralph Nitkin & Camilla Day

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WE REMEMBER

We remember.

Our lives are a tapestry woven with threads from each person encountered along our way.

On this ultimate day of personal examination and individual introspection, we cannot forget all of the ways in which we are never only one.

We remember.

Our ritual of remembrance recalls all of those who once peopled our lives but whose physical presence has passed forever from among us.

We remember.

All the generations past, present and those to come— are united in one bond of life.

Our ability to remember is stronger than death. Naming them, we vanquish death.

We remember.

Some of us recall parents, father and mother, who even before we were born,

committed themselves to our care, who prepared a loving home for us

and taught us the most basic elements of human-ness and the most profound truths of humanity.

Some remember parents, not related by birth, who lovingly assumed responsibility for nurturing us

and helping us become all that we could be.

We remember.

Some of us recall a wife or husband, with whom we were so united by the sacred covenant of marriage

that we became one flesh and one spirit, whose soul completed our own,

and with whom we hoped to live out our lives.

We remember.

Some of us remember brothers and sisters, who grew up with us, sharing in the play of childhood

and the adventure of discovery.

We remember.

Some of us recall children, entrusted for too short a time to our care but called away by death, to whom we tried to give the world

and for whom we gladly would have died that they might live.

We remember.

All of us recall some special persons whose friendship, affection and devotion called forth the best in us; and whose comradeship

will always be sorely missed..

The deaths of those we now remember left gaping holes in our lives. But we are grateful for the gift that was their lives.

And we are strengthened by the blessings left to us, by the memories which comfort and sustain us, by the love we know can never die.

We honor their memories on this day and commit ourselves to furthering their ideals, to continuing to dream their dreams and to living out our lives in loving testimony of the example they set for us.

Eternal God, give us the gift of remembering. Give us the gift of tears

So that we may express our sense of loss and pain. Give us the gifts of prayer and hope

So that we always believe in the beauty of life, the power of goodness, the right to joy.

Make us worthy of the love we have received So that we may love You with all our heart

and with all our soul, with all our strength

and with all our deeds.

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