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www.amable.in Introduction Form teams of two Specially choose people who you don’t know much Spend 5 min with each other The aim to find out what kind of person he or she is? After five minutes we will introduce each other Please do not collect / present any factual data – what she studies, where she works, how many sibling etc …. All this is not important – we want to know the kind of person he or she is – focus only on that
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Introduction Form teams of two Specially choose people who you don’t know
much Spend 5 min with each other The aim to find out what kind of person he or
she is? After five minutes we will introduce each
other Please do not collect / present any factual
data – what she studies, where she works, how many sibling etc …. All this is not important – we want to know the kind of person he or she is – focus only on that
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1. What is self esteem
2. Why do we need high self esteem
3. What about your own self esteem?
4. On what basis have you assessed your own self esteem
Self Esteem
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List at least 2-3 people in each
Respect and Love Respect, No Love
Love, No Respect No Love , No Respect
Be Aware of why you are doing so.
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Respect v/s Love
Is it possible to have respect and not love
and is it possible to have love and
not respect
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Lets Play Catch!!
Choose a partner and play:
1. Catch the ball.
2. Catch the Scissors.
3. Catch the Glass.
Rate confidence and self esteem before each.
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Self Confidence v/s Self Esteem
• Is it possible to have High confidence with low self-esteem and Low confidence with high self-esteem
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How I see
myself
How I think, others see me
How I would like others to see me
Me – See - Self
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Who are you??
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Self esteem
Do we really need to have an image?
Caring Uncaring
Patient Impatient
Responsible Irresponsible
Smart Foolish
Million Images
Image
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How self esteem is constructed
No quick tricks Work on fundamental way in which a
child feels, thinks, perceives about himself or herself with respect to life and to the world
What goes in often comes out – hence we play an important role to feed the plant
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So, how in different ways we get children to make images?
Negative Images: Focus on failures Lousy Labeling Highlighting weaknesses ComparingPositive Images: Praise Lovely labeling Focus on success / Expectation Comparison
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SKIP TO MY LOO, MY DARLIN’!!Goal : Get your entire team to the other side.
Level 1 : Jump one at a time. If you miss, you come back and do.
Level 2 : Jump in pairs. If one partner misses, you repeat again.
Level 3 : Jump one at a time while humming. Even if one misses, entire group repeats again.
Level 4 : Jump in pairs shouting KUKABURAAAA together. If not, start again.
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Do you put any label?
Any label you put on
Yourself
Others in family
Others around you – colleague, maid,
For each write how it helps you / others
and how it may not help you / others
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The teacher asked her class what each wanted to become when they grew up. A chorus of responses came from all over the room.
A football player," "A doctor," "An astronaut," "The president," "A fireman," "A teacher," Everyone that is, except Tommy.
The teacher noticed he was sitting there quiet and still. So she said to him, "Tommy, what do you want to be when you grow up?"
"Possible" Tommy replied. "Possible?" asked the teacher. "Yes," Tommy said. "My mom is always telling me I'm impossible. So when I get to be big, I want to be possible."
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What you think about your child
And what you say to your child
affects his or her view about himself or herself
Self fulfilling Prophesy
gk
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Labelling? A person is neither good nor bad; action could
be. Hence why label the person But labeling the behavior or action shows -
what is acceptable and what is not: eg: I see, you have kept your things back responsibly – communicates to the child what is “responsible”
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Dig For Gold
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What do we focus on? You have given a task to two children – child
A and child B. You come back after some time and see that
Child A is doing the work while child B is loitering
To whom and what will your response be? What do you in this situation?
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1. Take a moment to observe your five fingers. 2. What do you think about each finger –
collect your thoughts3. Now draw a dot in the center of your palm. 4. Try to touch the dot with
each finger, one by one.5. Try this with the others hand.6. Draw a dot in any other part
of your palm. 7. Try with another position 8. Explore• As you explore be aware of your
thoughts and feelings
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How are we comparing?How have you compared yourself with anybody in this group.
Compared on the basis of Physical (Appearance) - looks, figure, dress sense, etc Mental – the kind of thoughts, experiences, strategies Expression – the way somebody talks Emotional – the ways somebody manages his or her emotions Overall as a parent
How have you compared your child or spouse or mother in law or sibling or anybody in your family, even your whole family with anybody
How has this comparison helped / not helped? What made you compare?
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How you were compared as a child With whom, Why, and how you compare
yourself now? What it does when you compare your children
or spouse or parents with others? How will it help if you give up comparison? What will you do when others compare you?
Comparison
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SO WHAT ?
NO two children are same We go by what we can SEE – what is
hidden we cannot value Value of a child lies in what is inside.
A lot is driven by progress, performance – what we can see.
A lot is said about what we cannot see
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The most irrelevant information to a parent is how their son or
daughter compares with someone else’s son or daughter
He is He, not me or she
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How are we Accepting?
Accepted Not Accepted
Physical
Abilities
Strengths & characteristics
Economic / Financial
Social
For each write advantages and disadvantages of accepting and of not accepting/ How has each affected your life.
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Compliments and criticisms have little to do with the listener; and more likely reflect the values and
beliefs of the speaker.
Acceptance
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Till when am I a child?
0 yrs 75 yrs
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Parting thoughts
I am not what I or others think
My value is intrinsic What i do is not a
reflection of my potential I do not need to carry
any baggage about me I do not need to add to
others baggage
Thank you
