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Iflut the Imveoture
la ]hds Fllk
T lu ire iflut tl stirt i nluroey tlwirm i jess-stressem jdae. Dt
wdjj jeim ylu tlwirm jlvejy vdstis la shijlb”peige, heijth,
whljeoess”iom mdstiot hlrdzlos la thdo`s ylu hive ijwiys
yeiroem tl ml. Dt wdjj ijsl jeim ylu mlwo slbe thlroy pithsdotl ylur gurreot giuses la stress. @ettdo` lut biy requdre
mlword`ht hirm wlrk. ]he `llm oews ds thit ylu gio `et lut.
]he fetter oews ds thit ylu gio bike thds nluroey sdttdo` do
ylur aivlrdte reimdo` pjige wdth i steibdo` gup fesdme ylu.
]he eveo fetter oews ds thit the pith ds ijreimy bippem fy the
loe whl bime ylu. ]he fest oews ds thit ylu wdjj irrdve i jltblre restem iom hlpeauj thio wheo ylu fe`io.
Jdke ioy nluroey, thds loe requdres suppjdes. Tlu wdjj oeem
i oltefllk iom i peo. Keep i Fdfje hiomy. Iom mlo—t try tl
bike the nluroey ijj it loge. Sige ylurseja”i ghipter i miy lr
eveo blre sjlwjy da ylu ghllse. Dt ds, iater ijj, ylur nluroey.
]here ds lojy loe ruje alr the trdp> Mlo—t ivldm the ques-tdlos. ]hey ire the heirt la the nluroey, the bdjeplsts tl birk
hlw air ylu—ve glbe. Pdthlut theb ylu ire berejy ajydo` jlw
lver the terrido. Pheoever ylu reigh i questdlo, tike i aew
blbeots tl wrdte mlwo the ioswer do ylur oltefllk, theo
glotdoue reimdo`.
Fealre we fe`do, jet be tejj ylu i stlry . . .
Loge uplo i tdbe there wis i wlbio whl wis very fusy
alr @lm. Whe wlrkem tweoty hlurs i week is i mdregtlr la
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Ghrdstdio emugitdlo. Whe wrlte irtdgjes alr Ghrdstdio bi`i-
zdoes iom wis pirt la i weekjy priyer iom Fdfje stumy `rlup.
Fegiuse she koew @lm gires iflut hurtdo` pelpje, she ghidrem
her gdty—s jdterigy gluogdj, servem lo the flirm la i hlbe alr
uowem blthers, ghidrem dts pufjdgdty glbbdttee, iom weot tl
the hlbe loe eveodo` i week tl feardeom the `drjs. Whe koew
@lm ijsl girem iflut nustdge iom huo`er, sl she servem lo
three huo`er glbbdttees, vljuoteerem do i jlgij allm piotry,
jem wlrkshlps iflut huo`er, emdtem oewsjetters alr twl
huo`er rejdea lr`iodzitdlos, iom hejpem gllrmdoite i Ghrdstdiolr`iodzitdlo mevltem tl pljdtdgij imvlgigy lo fehija la the
huo`ry.
Mdm D beotdlo thit her husfiom mdregtem i gdty-wdme bdo-
dstry, iom she slbetdbes splke tl `rlups lo dts fehija<
Every miy she wis fusy alr @lm. Piso—t she hippy iom
aujadjjem<Igtuijjy she wis arustritem iom lverwhejbem. Ol bitter
hlw bugh she `lt mloe do i miy, she aejj dotl fem every od`ht
kolwdo` she him jeat dbplrtiot tisks uomloe. Whe wlke up
every blrodo` kolwdo` she him air tll bugh tl ml.
Mles thit sluom jdke ylur stlry< Dt ds by lwo.
Figk theo, by miys were adjjem arlb blrodo` uotdj od`ht
wdth `llm wlrks alr @lm. Exgept, la glurse, alr hlurs D
squeezem lut tl domuj`e do fdo`e reimdo`. D—m aeej `udjty iflut
thlse hlurs, fut glujmo—t seeb tl hejp byseja. I aist reimer, D—m
skdb thrlu`h seveo fllks do twl miys, jeivdo` everythdo` ejse
uomloe. D—m bike exguses tl pelpje D wis jettdo` mlwo. D—m fe`
by husfiom olt tl jet be reim sl bugh, theo soeik lut la fem
do the bdmmje la the od`ht iom `l tl the arlot fithrllb tl reim
sl he glujmo—t see the jd`ht. Adoijjy loe od`ht D tllk lur ghurgh
yluth `rlup tl i sebdoir lo ijglhlj ifuse. Pheo the jeimer
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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hiomem lut i jdst la sybptlbs la immdgtdlo, D siw thit D him io
immdgtdlo la by lwo.
I hirbjess loe< Ol immdgtdlo ds hirbjess. Dt ̀ ets fetweeo
us iom @lm iom us iom lther pelpje. ]hlse la ylu whl hive
feeo sdbdjirjy immdgtem tl ijglhlj, sex, mru`s, tejevdsdlo, the
Doteroet, lvereitdo`, lr glbpujsdve shlppdo` kolw whit D
beio. ]he wlrjm—s mebioms lverwhejb us, sl we glovdoge
lursejves thit lojy we gio beet lur oeem alr ‚auo‒ do lur jdves.
Phit we ml dso—t reijjy auo”we kolw thit. Fut fegiuse dt wis
loge auo, we keep mldo` dt lver iom lver, hlpdo` thds tdbe wdjjfe fetter.
It the tdbe, D thlu`ht by jdae wlujm ijwiys fe i seesiw
la lverwhejbdo` ̀ llm thdo`s tl ml, aljjlwem fy i fdo`e la seja-
domuj`eoge. D trujy fejdevem D wis @lm—s serviot mldo` @lm—s
wlrk wdth lggisdloij piuses ‚tl tike gire la byseja.‒
Loe od`ht lur priyer `rlup gibe tl lur hluse alr mdo-oer”tweoty pelpje. Iaterwirm, by husfiom dotrlmugem the
Jlrm—s Wupper wdth the truth thit dt ds sdo tl pirtdgdpite do glb-
buodlo da we ire lut la ghirdty wdth i frlther lr sdster. Jllk-
do` irluom thit rllb, D wiso—t do ghirdty wdth ioy la theb.
]hey were do by hluse, iom D yeiroem tl fe ijloe.
‚D—jj fe figk,‒ D butterem tl the wlbio oext tl be iom
heimem lut the mllr.
Pe were jdvdo` do Wt. Setersfur` theo, sl D heimem alr by
aivlrdte wijk fy ]ibpi Fiy. ]he bllo wis aujj lver the witer
iom the freeze frushem by gheeks, fut D sgirgejy oltdgem. D wis
sl io`ry! Wdoge the witerarlot wis ebpty, D glujm ri`e ijlum.
‚Phere ire the jlve, nly, iom peige ylu prlbdsem da D
servem ylu<‒ D mebiomem la the Greitlr la the eveodo` sky.
‚]he lojy arudt la the Wpdrdt D—ve `lt ds jlo`-suaaerdo`.‒
Do the sdjeoge thit aljjlwem, D heirm the vldge la @lm.
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D hive lateo heirm @lm—s wdsmlb splkeo thrlu`h Wgrdp-
ture lr the wlrms la i ardeom. D—ve kolwo the mdregtdlo la @lm
thrlu`h mllrs thit uoexpegtemjy lpeoem lr gjlsem. D—ve aejt the
oum`do` la @lm do by lwo glosgdeoge. Fut thit od`ht D heirm i
vldge. Dt aejt is da every plre la by flmy wis io eir, iom io eolr-
blus vldge adjjem the uodverse wdth loe stirtjdo` wlrm> ‚Vest.‒
‚Phit ml ylu beio ‘rest—<‒ D mebiomem. ‚D gio—t rest. D—ve
`lt tll bugh tl ml.‒
‚Vest.‒
‚D gio—t rest,‒ D dosdstem. ‚Nust jllk it tlblrrlw iom whitD hive tl ml.‒ D stirtem tl jdst by sghemuje, whdgh stirtem wdth
i 0>73 beetdo` iom eomem wdth io 99>33 S.B. meimjdoe.
]he vldge gibe i thdrm tdbe. ‚Vest.‒
Fy thit tdbe teirs la arustritdlo were streibdo` mlwo by
gheeks, fut D aejt i twdo`e la hlpe. Da by Flss thlu`ht D oeemem
tl rest, biyfe dt glujm hippeo. D pdgturem byseja do i odge femwdth gjeio whdte sheets iom pelpje tl widt lo be whdje D him
i wejj-eiroem oervlus freikmlwo.
@lm splke thds tdbe do io dmei. ‚@dve up the hlbe alr
uowem blthers.‒ D koew thit wis @lm, fegiuse the dmei wlujm
oever hive lggurrem tl be. D—m tikeo lo thit nlf fegiuse twl
la by fest ardeoms were lo the flirm, iom they him issurem be
the flirm mesperitejy oeemem by pufjdgdty iom wrdtdo` skdjjs.
Hlw glujm dt ̀ et ijlo` wdthlut be< D—m firejy wlomerem, wheo
D him io uoajitterdo` thlu`ht. ‚D mlo—t oeem ylu there. Tlu ire
mldo` thit alr ylur `jlry, olt bdoe.‒
Lugh!
‚Phit iflut the jdterigy gluogdj<‒ D iskem.
‚Werve ylur terb iom `et laa.‒
‚Phit iflut huo`er<‒ D ad`urem D wis lo i rljj. Sretty
sllo D—m fe reimdo` fllks ijj miy.
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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Dosteim, thit vldge adjjem the uodverse loe jist tdbe.
‚Ebphisdze dt.‒
]hit wis ijj D heirm thit eveodo`, exgept alr the peigeauj
rustje la wdom do the pijbs. D returoem oervlusjy tl by hluse,
wlomerdo` hlw D—m tejj by twl ardeoms (whl were flth do the
priyer `rlup) thit D wis resd`odo` arlb thedr flirm.
Is sllo is D eoterem by hluse, D mdsglverem slbethdo`> Da
we lpeo lursejves tl the wdjj la @lm, @lm mles olt wlrk do loe
perslo—s jdae wdthlut sdbujtioelusjy wlrkdo` do lthers— jdves tl
igglbpjdsh the sibe purplse. ]he `rlup wis priydo` wheo D`lt there, iom tl by istlodshbeot D heirm loe la by ardeoms
arlb the flirm siydo`, ‚Jlrm, Sittd ds reij stressem rd`ht olw. Da
there—s ioythdo` D gio ml tl hejp her, pjeise shlw be whit dt ds.‒
Fealre D glujm bike by preseoge kolwo, the lther ardeom
immem, ‚Iom Jlrm, we priy alr ylur wdjj tl fe mloe do ijj lur
jdves.‒ @lm him ijreimy prepirem theb alr whit D wis `ldo`tl siy.
Olw, da thds were reijjy i ‚loge uplo i tdbe‒ stlry, D—m
tejj ylu thit sdoge theo, by jdae his feeo aree la stress iom D—ve
fjlsslbem dotl slbeflmy whl mles the wdjj la @lm ‚hippdjy
ever iater.‒
Fut thds ds reij jdae. ]hit od`ht fy ]ibpi Fiy wis, alr be,
lojy the fe`doodo` la i nluroey la mdsglvery. D—ve speot i `llm
fdt la by jdae sdoge theo trydo` tl meterbdoe whit dt beios tl
jdsteo alr the wdjj la @lm fealre D bike megdsdlos, fd` lr sbijj.
Phit dt beios tl seek tl ml lojy thlse thdo`s @lm wiots be
tl ml, wdthlut ruoodo` iheim iom trydo` tl iotdgdpite whit thit
bd`ht fe. Phit Wgrdpture his tl siy iflut hlw @lm doteoms us
tl jdve is serviots iom hedrs la the Kdo`mlb.
It the sibe tdbe D hive him iom ridsem twl slos, mdsglv-
erem iom aujadjjem by mreib la wrdtdo` bysterdes iom lther
Iflut the Imveoture la ]hds Fllk
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olvejs, iom trdem do eigh pjige we hive blvem tl adom slbe
wiy tl ml slbethdo` glogrete tl hejp the pllr.
]hds fllk ds pirtjy iflut by nluroey. Fut fegiuse by
nluroey ds olt ylur nluroey, the fllk ds fisem olt nust lo by
lwo experdeoge, fut lo the experdeoge iom wdsmlb la alurteeo
wlbeo D dotervdewem alr the adrst emdtdlo iom lo the experdeoge
la wlbeo D—ve bet sdoge theo it sebdoirs iom retreits do the
Uodtem Wtites, Gioimi, iom Qeoezueji. ]hedr stlrdes pepper
these ghipters. Serhips ylu wdjj regl`odze ylur lwo.
Wl `rif i peo iom i oltefllk, gurj up do ylur aivlrdtereimdo` pjige, iom jet the nluroey fe`do.
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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‚Alr surejy D kolw the pjios D hive alr ylu,‒
siys the Jlrm, ‚pjios alr ylur wejaire iom olt alr hirb, tl `dve ylu i auture wdth hlpe.‒
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Ire ylu ijwiys fusy, yet oever seeb tl `et everythdo` mloe<
Ml ylu wike up arustritem iom eveo io`ry, fegiuse ylu
hive blre tl ml tlmiy thio ylu gio plssdfjy igglbpjdsh<
Ml ylu `l tl fem aeejdo` `udjty, kolwdo` hlw bugh yluhive jeat uomloe<
Ml ylu jde iwike it od`ht pjioodo` tlblrrlw, fegiuse
ylu wlo—t hive tdbe tl thdok loge ylu hdt the `rluom ruoodo`<
Tlu mlo—t hive tl jdve there; dt ds i bitter la ghldge. Do
aigt, dt—s the wrlo` ghldge. @lm his i fetter dmei. Dt ds aluom do
the Hefrew wlrm shijlb, whdgh we wdjj tijk iflut thrlu`h-
lut thds fllk. Whijlb beios ijj thlse thdo`s we yeiro alr>
peige, whljeoess, prlsperdty, suggess, wejj-fedo`, heijth, iom
sijvitdlo.
]hds fllk ds ̀ ldo` tl expjido hlw we ̀ et lursejves dotl i
pjige where we ire tll fusy iom lverwhejbem tl experdeoge
shijlb, iom hlw we gio ̀ et lut la lur gurreot ruts tl jdve jdves
la `rige, nly, iom eveo jedsure.
Pe wdjj fe`do fy glosdmerdo` where stress glbes arlb iom
whit rebemdes there ire tl meij wdth dt. Pe wdjj theo expjlre
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hlw lur mreibs iom yeirodo`s”eveo thlse we hive ijjlwem
tl feglbe furdem feoeith the bugk la lur fusy jdves”biy do
aigt fe @lm—s mreibs iom yeirodo`s alr us. Pe wdjj jllk it hlw
tl algus lo whit ds dbplrtiot alr us iom pire mlwo the rest.
It the eom la the fllk D ̀ dve i aew tdps alr ̀ ettdo` thrlu`h
fusy miys wdth air jess stress. Fut mlo—t turo tl the figk rd`ht
iwiy. Da ylu ml, ylu wdjj nust jeiro tl fe blre iom blre eaad-
gdeot it mldo` whit ylu mlo—t wiot tl ml ioywiy. Hlw ml D
kolw< D—ve feeo there.
Jet—s fe`do thds nluroey wdth io dogremdfje prlbdse thitbikes seose la lur jdves.
JDAE DW I ]ISEW]VT
‚Alr D kolw the pjios D hive alr ylu,‒ megjires the
Jlrm, ‚pjios tl prlsper ylu iom olt tl hirb ylu, pjios
tl `dve ylu hlpe iom i auture.‒”Nerebdih 64>99
]hds prlbdse ds i jlt rdgher do Hefrew thio do Eo`jdsh.
]he Hefrew oluo thit ds usuijjy triosjitem ‚pjio‒ igtuijjy
beios io irtdstdg mesd`o, iom the
verf ds olt ‚tl hive‒ fut ‚tl
weive.‒ Do aigt, thds pirtdgujir alrb
ds flth i verf steb la ‚tl weive‒
iom the oluo ‚weiver.‒ Hefrew, i
prigtdgij jio`ui`e, lateo lbdts
uooegessiry wlrms, sl the adrst pirt
la the verse gio fe jdterijjy triosjitem, ‚Alr D kolw the mesd`o
whdgh D, the Peiver, . . . alr ylu.‒ Nust is Nerebdih ejsewheremesgrdfes @lm is i pltter wlrkdo` us jdke gjiy, here Nerebdih
preseots @lm is the Mdvdoe Peiver, greitdo` i pittero alr lur
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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GI PDWE PLBIO
KOLPW
By jdae ds i tipestry,
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jdves. ]hdok la Oivinl ru`s, bemdevij tipestrdes, Sersdio gir-
pets. ]hit ds whit @lm doteoms lur jdves tl fe jdke”dotrdgite,
rdgh do beiodo`, iom jlvejy.
Aurtherblre, thds verse do Hefrew ijsl tikes pidos tl
mesgrdfe exigtjy whit kdom la mesd`o @lm doteoms tl weive alr
us. @lm—s mesd`o ds olt thit we wdjj fe ruo ri``em ijj miy iom
exhiustem it od`ht. Vither, the wlrm the ODQ triosjites ‚prls-
perdty‒ iom the OVWQ ‚wejaire‒ ds igtuijjy shijlb! Everythdo`
thit shijlb beios”heijth, suggess, wejj-fedo`, peige, sijvi-
tdlo, prlsperdty”ds pirt la @lm—s irtdstdg mesd`o alr us.Adoijjy, the mesd`o @lm ds weivdo` alr lur jdves dogjumes i
auture wdth hlpe iom expegtitdlo. Mleso—t thit sluom `reit<
EXSEG] I AEP VISDMW
Mlo—t thdok, hlwever, thit thds fllk ds iflut Hlw tl
Wpeom the Vest la By Jdae Jizdo` fy i Wtreib Eitdo` Floflos.
]hds fllk ds iflut adomdo` @lm—s pjio alr ylur jdae. Wlbetdbes
@lm—s pjio ds i gijb iom pjigdm streib iom slbetdbes we hive
tl shllt the ripdms. Lr, tl returo tl lur lrd`doij betiphlr,
slbetdbes lur jdae tipestry ds qudet iom pistej, slbetdbes dt ds
glbpjdgitem iom vdvdm. ]he Mdvdoe Peiver pjios sl thit eigh
oew pirt la the pittero eordghes the whlje.
Plbeo do Ariotdg Weirgh la Whijlb
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*]hese questdlos prlvdme tdbe tl piuse iom glosdmer ylur jdae dothe jd`ht la whit his feeo sidm. ]hey ire the blst dbplrtiot pirt la the fllk, sl pjeise mlo—t skdp theb. Keep i oltefllk iom peohiomy.
Hlw mles by gurreot jdae glbpire wdth @lm—s
mesd`o<*
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Is D wrdte thds ghipter, D ib do i pirtdgujirjy fusy pirt la
by pittero. ]eo miys iater by meimjdoe alr glbpjetdo` thds
fllk, i blvdo` vio wdjj tike lur aurodture tl Itjioti, where
by husfiom wdjj wrdte `riot prlplsijs alr oloprladt bdodstry
lr`iodzitdlos. Blvdo` glbpioy represeotitdves, exterbdoitlrs,
pjubfers, ejegtrdgdios, iom idr glomdtdloer repidrbeo birgh
thrlu`h the hluse tl doterrupt by wlrk. Flxes”ebpty iom
hija-adjjem”sdt do every rllb. Ardeoms gijj wiotdo` loe blre
juogh tl`ether. Glbbdttees gijj wiotdo` loe blre beetdo`. Lur
reijtlr gijjs iflut prlfjebs wdth the glotrigt lo lur oewhluse. Pe hive tl fuy i reard`eritlr iom girpet fealre we gio
blve do. Testermiy io emdtlr gijjem tl siy she oeems the tdtje alr
by oext bystery, sl her irt mepirtbeot gio fe`do wlrk lo the
glver. I spegdij ardeom D hiveo—t seeo do yeirs nust gibe tl tlwo
tl sdo` do io upglbdo` lperi. Iom jist bloth by blther-do-
jiw—s mlgtlr gijjem iom sidm she gio ol jlo`er jdve ijloe. Peblvem her do wdth us, iom is sllo is D seom lur aurodture lo dts
wiy, she iom D hive tl metlur fy ]ijjihissee tl ghllse the aur-
odture she wiots tl keep sl we gio gjlse her hluse.
Whe nlkes thit she his glbe tl jdve it @riom Wprdokje Wti-
tdlo. Pe gertidojy ireo—t i pjigdm streib rd`ht olw. Fut mles
thit beio by jdae his sjdtherem iwiy arlb @lm—s pjio< Olt it
ijj. @lm ds nust `dvdo` be i oew plp qudz lo Wurvdvdo` the
Wtlrbs la Jdae. Dt his questdlos jdke,
Gio ylu trust be wdth the jdttje metidjs do ijj thds gloausdlo<
Gio ylu trust thit ijj la thds ds pirt la by pjio alr ylu
rd`ht olw, iom D wdjj bike everythdo` thit ds dbplrtiot
aijj tl`ether wdthlut ylur oeemdo` tl wlrry lr feglb-
do` lver-stressem iom exhiustem<
Ml ylu fejdeve sl glbpjetejy thit D ib do ghir`e la ylur
jdae thit ylu gio tike tdbe eveo do the fusyoess tl speom
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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quijdty tdbe wdth lthers, oltdge the ̀ jdot la suojd`ht lo
jeives, jdsteo tl i fdrm lutsdme ylur wdomlw, lr eonly
loe jist `jlrdlus swdb do ylur pllj wdthlut thdokdo`
la thdo`s ylu lu`ht tl fe mldo` dosteim<
Pdjj ylu rebebfer tl thiok be alr jdttje bergdes thit
bike these miys eisder<
Jet be `dve ylu slbe exibpjes la @lm—s jdttje bergdes.
Loe miy D mdsglverem D oeemem tl `et i piper oltirdzem. D wis-
o—t sure hlw thit wlujm adt dotl the sghemuje, fut D ib doteo-
tdloijjy olt `ettdo` stressem these miys lver bdolr metidjs. ]hit
very eveodo` we him i glbbdttee beetdo` it the hluse iom
wheo loe la the glbbdttee bebfers siw the piper jydo` lo
by gluotertlp, she sidm, ‚D—b i oltiry. Phy mlo—t D tike thit
figk tl the laadge iom aix dt alr ylu<‒ Dso—t thit ibizdo`< D—ve
kolwo her alur yeirs iom oever koew she wis i oltiry.
Pheo D frlu`ht tl @lm the prlfjeb la trydo` tl thdok la i bystery tdtje whdje wrdtdo` thds fllk, D rebebferem twejve
ardeoms whl jlve tl reim bysterdes iom ire ̀ reit wdth wlrms. I
qudgk e-bidj `lt theb rigkdo` thedr fridos alr i tdtje alr thit
fllk whdje D wrlte thds loe. ]he tdtje slbeloe ejse ghlse ds air
fetter thio ioy D wlujm hive thlu`ht la.
Olw D hive hiomem lver tl @lm the questdlo la twl striygits we—ve feeo aeemdo` lo the arlot plrgh, i bibi git iom i kdt-
teo. Pdjj @lm adom i hlbe alr theb fealre we jeive< Wtiy tuoem.
@lm—s pjio alr lur jdves ds olt thit ijj the gdrgubstioges
wdjj fe peigeauj lr eveo pjeisiot.
@lm—s pjio ds thit we wdjj experdeoge shijlb do eigh la
theb iom kolw thit lur auture his hlpe.
Wl why dso—t thit the wiy jdae reijjy ds<
Plbeo do Ariotdg Weirgh la Whijlb
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*Frlther Jiwreoge la the Vesurregtdlo, ]he Srigtdge la the Sres-eoge la @lm, Nlho N. Mejioey, triosjitlr, Alrewlrm fy HeordOluweo (Oew Tlrk> Mlufjemiy, 9400), 03.
]dbe Lut
Srigtdge the Sreseoge la @lm
Loe wiy tl jllk it lur jdves ds is i tipestry. Frlther Jiwreoge,
i seveoteeoth-geotury jiy frlther, su``estem iolther betiphlr.Ijthlu`h he speot hds jdaetdbe hubfjy wlrkdo` do i bloistery
kdtgheo, he jeiroem iom tiu`ht lthers tl ml whit he gijjem
‚prigtdgdo` the preseoge la @lm.‒ Hds wrdtdo`s hive feeo puf-
jdshem do bioy emdtdlos do sbijj mevltdloij fllks fy the sibe
oibe. He tejjs hlw he priyem>
Wlbetdbes D thdok la byseja is i fjlgk la stloe fealrei sgujptlr, reimy tl fe sgujptem dotl i stitue. Sreseot-
do` byseja thus fealre @lm, D fe` Hdb tl alrb Hds per-
aegt dbi`e do by sluj iom bike be eotdrejy jdke
Hdbseja.*
]VT ]HDW EXEVGDWE
Gjlse ylur eyes iom pdgture ylurseja fealre the thrloe la
@lm. Tlu ire i stloe iom @lm ds i girver. Isk the girver
tl alrb ylu do @lm—s peraegt dbi`e. Wpeom i aew bdoutes
trydo` tl pdgture whit the Mdvdoe Girver biy fe `ldo` tl
ml wdth ylu iom ylur jdae.
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Phit giuses blst la ylur stress<
Pheo D isk thit questdlo do sebdoirs, pelpje dovirdifjy
jiu`h iom siy, ‚Lther pelpje.‒
Wlbe ejiflrite>‚Kdms.‒
‚By husfiom.‒
‚Sireots.‒
‚By flss.‒
‚Wtumeots.‒
D mlo—t kolw iflut ylu, fut slbetdbes D aiotisdze iflut
ruoodo` iwiy tl i gltti`e slbewhere do the wllms lr fy i feigh
wdth nust eolu`h blmero gloveodeoges tl bike jdae glbalrtifje
iom ol lther pelpje tl bike jdae glbpjdgitem. D hive ol dmei
whether thit jdae wlujm igtuijjy fe sdbpjer lr olt, fut D ml kolw
thit loe prdbiry giuse la stress alr blst wlbeo ds lther pelpje.
Bioy la us ire ourturers fy oiture. Pe wiot lther pelpje do lur
jdves. Fut da we ml tll bugh alr pireots, ghdjmreo, spluses,
glwlrkers, ardeoms, iom bebfers la lur glo`re`itdlos, we mds-
glver thit thedr mebioms iom oeems threiteo tl lverwhejb us.
g h i p t e r t w l
‚D Ml Dt Ijj alr Tlu, Meir‒
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Loe wlbio tljm be, ‚Pheo by husfiom mdem iom jeat
be wdth alur sbijj ghdjmreo, D aejt jdke D wis fedo` odffjem tl
meith fy mugks. Wlbe miys dt seebem jdke every loe la theb
oeemem slbethdo` every sdo`je bdoute. Loe eveodo` D put theb
tl fem, wrlte i airewejj olte tl theb, `lt do by gir, iom
heimem west. D adrbjy doteomem tl gijj the pljdge arlb the oext
tlwo siydo` the ghdjmreo him feeo ifiomloem, iom D pjiooem
tl oever glbe figk. ]heo D pdgturem thedr jdttje aiges iom D koew
D glujm olt mesert theb. Fut D glujm olt feir tl `l figk edther
fegiuse D koew they were `ldo` tl glosube be. D stlppem fythe sdme la the rlim iom wept iom wept. D grdem uotdj D aejt @lm
siydo`, ‘Gjidre, D wdjj olt ifiomlo ylu. Tlu ml olt hive tl ml
thds ijloe. Fut ylu mlo—t hive tl beet ijj thedr oeems, edther.
]hlse ghdjmreo stdjj hive i heiveojy pireot. ]rust be tl beet
slbe la thedr oeems.—‒ Whe `ive be i rueauj sbdje. ‚]hit mdm-
o—t beio dt ijj `lt eisy, fut it jeist dt `lt eisder.‒Kolwdo` hlw fusy slbe wlbeo ire iflut the oeems la
lthers, D ib surprdsem Nesus mdmo—t expiom the pirifje la the
three stewirms do Bitthew 65 tl dogjume i ‚stewirmess‒ whl
glbes figk wdth the bister—s lrd`doij tijeots do her plgket tl
expjido, ‚D wis ̀ ldo` tl dovest theb lo Blomiy, fut thit iater-
ollo by flss him io eber`eogy iom oeemem be tl wlrk jite.
]uesmiy jdttje Bdkey `lt io upset stlbigh it sghllj iom D him
tl jeive wlrk eirjy tl tike hdb tl the mlgtlr. Pemoesmiy by
fest ardeom—s birrdi`e aejj ipirt iom D speot the eveodo` wdth
her. ]hursmiy iater wlrk by blther oeemem be tl tike her
shlppdo`. Ardmiy D weot strid`ht arlb wlrk tl ghurgh tl pjio
oext subber—s Qigitdlo Fdfje Wghllj. D kolw ylu tljm be tl
use the tdbe ylu were ̀ loe tl dovest ylur tijeots, fut ijj thlse
lther pelpje oeemem be.‒ Plujmo—t ylu thdok Nesus wlujm hive
iwirmem her the whlje plt alr sejajess fehivdlr<
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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Uoalrtuoitejy, he mdm olt dogjume thds sgeoirdl do hds stlry,
sl we bust glogjume thit ijj la us wdjj loe miy fe rewirmem fy
the Bister lo the fisds la hlw wejj we dovestem the tijeots we
were `dveo, olt lo the fisds la hlw wejj we bet everyflmy
ejse—s oeems.
Jiter do thds fllk we wdjj fe`do tl glosdmer wiys tl dmeo-
tday lur tijeots iom meterbdoe whit dt ds @lm his greitem eigh
la us tl ml. Adrst, hlwever, we oeem tl mevejlp i repertldre la
teghodques we gio use tl meij wdth
lther pelpje whl wdjj, da we jettheb, mevlur lur jdves.
PHT PE PVIS LUV JDQEW
DO L]HEV SELSJE—W OEEMW
Do lrmer tl stlp mldo` slbe-
thdo` thit his feglbe i hifdt, we
oeem tl ad`ure lut why we ml dt.
Here ire slbe la the reislos wlbeo mevlte thedr eotdre jdves tl
lther pelpje. Veim thrlu`h theb iom glosdmer whdgh la
theb”lr whit ejse”biy bltdvite ylu tl ml tll bugh alr
lther pelpje.
Pe @et Lur ]heljl`y Figkwirms
‚]eigher, whdgh ds the ̀ reitest glbbiombeot do the
Jiw<‒
Nesus repjdem, ‚‘Jlve the Jlrm ylur @lm wdth ijj
ylur heirt iom wdth ijj ylur sluj iom wdth ijj ylur
bdom.— ]hds ds the adrst iom `reitest glbbiombeot. Iomthe seglom ds jdke dt> ‘Jlve ylur oed`hflr is ylurseja.—‒
”Bitthew 66>71‗74
‚D Ml Dt Ijj alr Tlu, Meir‒
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GI PDWE PLBIO
KOLPW
Da ylu mlo—t megdme
hlw tl speom ylur
jdae lther pelpje
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Da we jdve is we ire greitem tl jdve, lur prdbiry jlve ds
tlwirm @lm, theo we equijjy jlve lursejves iom lther pelpje.
Phit ml we try tl ml dosteim< Pe `et thlse twl `reit glb-
biombeots figkwirms. Pe put lther pelpje up where @lm ds
supplsem tl fe, iom speom blst la lur tdbe trydo` tl shlw hlw
bugh we jlve theb. Pe jlve @lm wdth whitever tdbe iom
eoer`y we hive jeat. Iom we thdok we ire fedo` rejd`dlus fy
ijwiys puttdo` lursejves jist. Do hd`h sghllj D wis tiu`ht thit
NLT stioms alr Nesus, Lthers, iom Tlurseja. Dt ds i gute iom
gitghy igrloyb, fut dt—s olt Numel-Ghrdstdio theljl`y. I trdio-`je ds i fetter pdgture. @lm ds it the ipex iom we iom lther
pelpje ire it the twl fise glroers.
Phit mles dt beio tl jlve @lm blre thio ylu jlve ioy-
flmy ejse< ]hdok figk tl i tdbe wheo ylu were do jlve. Phit
wis thit jdke< Plbeo do wlrkshlps hive `dveo these ioswers>
• Tlu bike sure ylu speom is bugh tdbe wdth the lther
perslo is ylu gio.
• Tlu ml thdo`s thit pjeise the lther perslo.
• Tlu jeiro tl jdke thdo`s he jdkes iom ylu dotrlmuge hdb
tl thdo`s thit ylu pirtdgujirjy jdke.
• Tlu thdok iflut the lther perslo ijj the tdbe.
• Tlu stumy hdb tl jeiro ijj ylu gio iflut hdb; he ais-gdoites ylu.
• Nust thdokdo` iflut hdb bikes ylu hippy, tijkdo` wdth
hdb bikes ylu hippder, iom fedo` wdth hdb bikes ylu
hippdest la ijj.
• Tlu oe`jegt lther pelpje tl speom tdbe wdth hdb.
Phdje jlvdo` iom fedo` do jlve ire olt ijwiys syoloy-
blus, thlse meadodtdlos ml mesgrdfe the wiy bioy la us rejite
tl virdlus lthers do lur jdves. Pe mevlte lur miys tl theb, eit
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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ghdgkeo je`s wheo we—m rither hive freists fegiuse they jdke
the freist, `et up it od`ht tl thrlw do i jlim la wish sl they—jj
hive gjlthes tl weir do the blrodo`, iom oe`jegt lursejves iom
@lm fegiuse we hive tll bugh tl ml alr theb. Wl glosdmer . . .
Pe gioolt jlve edther lursejves lr lthers ipprlprditejy
uotdj @lm ds the adrst jlve do lur jdae. Pe gioolt jlve lthers
ipprlprditejy uotdj we jlve theb ‚is‒”flth ‚do the wiy thit‒iom ‚it the sibe tdbe thit‒”we jlve lursejves.
Wlbe pelpje jlve thebsejves tll bugh, la glurse. @eoer-
ijjy they ire the loes whl `l irluom gjidbdo`, ‚D nust gio—t jlve
byseja,‒ fut sdoge they tijk iflut thebsejves dogessiotjy, thdok
iflut thebsejves exgjusdvejy, iom dosdst thit ijj glomdtdlos la
jdae bike theb glbalrtifje, the rest la us kolw they jlve
thebsejves. Dt ds i sdgk kdom la jlve thit puts thebsejves where
@lm ds supplsem tl fe, fut fegiuse dt ds sdgk, dt wlo—t ml ioy
`llm tl pldot lut thit they jlve thebsejves. Serhips the fest
thdo` we gio ml alr theb ds tl siy, ‚Mlo—t wlrry iflut trydo`
tl jlve ylurseja. Jlve @lm. Wpeom tdbe wdth @lm. Wtumy iflut
@lm. Wdt do sdjeoge fealre @lm. Loge ylu jlve @lm, ylu wdjj
jeiro hlw tl jlve ylurseja, fegiuse @lm jlves ylu.‒
]he rest la us”thlse la us whl ml blre alr everyflmy ejse
thio we ml alr edther @lm lr lursejves”gio jeiro arlb Feth,
‚D Ml Dt Ijj alr Tlu, Meir‒
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Hlw wejj ml thlse meadodtdlos la jlve mesgrdfe by
rejitdloshdp wdth @lm<< <
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whl sidm, ‚D usem tl thdok by stress gibe arlb ridsdo` alur ghdj-
mreo do the bdmst la bdodstry. By husfiom ds i sebdoiry prlaes-
slr iom we lateo hive stumeots iom `rlups do lur hlbe. Keepdo`
sghemujes slrtem lut kept be hlppdo`. Fut regeotjy D hive glbe
tl see thit blst la by stress glbes arlb meep wdthdo be. ]he
Hefrew wlrm thit we triosjite ‘dodq-
udty— beios ‘twdstem pjiges.— @lm his
shlwem be thit loe la by lwo
twdstem pjiges wis fedo` i pelpje
pjeiser. Alr yeirs D aejt tlro fy trydo`tl fijioge husfiom, kdms, lur ex-
teomem aibdjy, iom ardeoms. Olw D—b
jeirodo` thit ijj D hive tl ml ds pjeise
the Jlrm Nesus. Ijj D hive tl fe glogeroem iflut ds mdsglverdo`
whit @lm wiots be tl ml, iom mldo` nust thit. ]heo D mlo—t hive
tl wlrry wheo D—b wdth loe perslo thit D lu`ht tl fe slbewhereejse, lr thit slbeloe wdjj fe uohippy iflut whit D—b mldo`.‒
D hive i soeikdo` suspdgdlo thit alr slbe la us, we ml sl
bugh alr lther pelpje fegiuse we aeir thit whit we ml alr lth-
ers olw ds jess thio whit we—m fe iskem tl ml da we igtuijjy
iskem whit @lm wlujm hive us ml. ]hit—s wheo we oeem tl
rebebfer whit @lm prlbdses do Nerebdih 64>99. @lm—s pjio ds
alr lur wejaire, olt lur hirb, tl `dve us i auture wdth hlpe.
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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Ijblst ioythdo` ylu
ml ds `ldo` tl bike
slbeflmy uohippy.
Hlw gio D fetter express thit D jlve @lm wdth ijj
by heirt, sluj, bdom, iom streo`th<< <
Hlw gio D express jlve alr byseja do wiys D ijreimy
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Pe Sdty Lthers— Gdrgubstioges
Ioo—s miu`hters mevejlpem nuveodje mdifetes wheo they
were very yluo`. Whe sidm, ‚D him jlw expegtitdlos la hejparlb by ghdjmreo iom wis wdjjdo` tl speom bloey iom blst la
by tdbe tixddo` theb tl mioge gjisses, irt jesslos, gheerjeim-
do`, hlrsefigk rdmdo`, pdiol jesslos, Frlwode Wgluts, iom ghldr
fegiuse D thlu`ht D glujm bike up do slbe me`ree alr the shlts,
allm restrdgtdlos, iom fjllm iom urdoe tests thit were sugh i
pirt la thedr jdves. D exgusem by ghdjmreo arlb hejpdo` be tl
glbpeosite theb alr jdvdo` do i jess-thio-peraegt wlrjm. Do
mldo` sl, D aidjem tl teigh theb skdjjs they wlujm oeem is
`rlwoups do the wlrjm.‒
Pe ]ry tl Keep Lur Lwo Jdves Uomer Glotrlj
Fetty sidm, ‚Alr be, dt wis io dssue la glotrlj. D trdem tl glo-
trlj by husfiom, by sdx ghdjmreo, iom lthers wdthdo the sphere la by eovdrlobeot, fegiuse D thlu`ht D oeemem tl glotrlj theb do
lrmer tl glotrlj by lwo jdae. D glujmo—t eveo oip fegiuse D—m
thdok, ‘D hive tl fe iwike do gise thit servdgebio glbes. Glujm
the kdms reijjy tejj hdb whit tl ml<— @lm adoijjy him tl rebdom
be thit D wis olt gijjem lo tl fe @lm, whl sjeeps oedther miy
olr od`ht. D him tl jiy mlwo by glbpujsdlo tl glotrlj.‒
Pe Jdke ]hdo`s Mloe Lur Piy
D ib istlodshem wheoever i wlbio flists, ‚D ib i peraeg-
tdlodst,‒ is da thit were slbethdo` tl fe prlum la. Phit i peraeg-
tdlodst reijjy beios ds, ‚D jdke thdo`s mloe by wiy.‒ Da ylu mlo—t
fejdeve thit, put twl peraegtdlodsts lo the sibe glbbdttee.
I peraegtdlodst blther biy olt teigh her ghdjmreo hluse-
hljm skdjjs they wdjj oeem jiter, fegiuse she gio—t stiom hivdo`
the hluse ‚bessy‒ whdje her ghdjmreo jeiro virdlus tisks. I
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peraegtdlodst prlaessdloij mles air blre thio her shire la the
wlrk fegiuse she mleso—t trust her glwlrkers tl ml dt ‚rd`ht.‒
I peraegtdlodst wdae mleso—t shire hlusehljm resplosdfdjdtdes
wdth her husfiom fegiuse the husfiom mles thdo`s mdaaereotjy.
Bioy la by lwo eirjy birrdi`e gloajdgts irlse fegiuse Flf
wiso—t ridsem fy by blther.
Hlwever, jdae ds tll shlrt iom pregdlus alr ioy la us tl `l
thrlu`h dt mldo` everythdo` alr lther pelpje fegiuse we fejdeve
lur wiy tl ml ioythdo` ds the lojy wiy. @lm his mdaaereot
mesd`os alr mdaaereot jdves. Pe sdo da we try tl shipe everyflmyejse do lur lwo dbi`e. Fesdmes, thdok hlw bugh aree tdbe we
igqudre fy jettdo` lther pelpje ml slbe thdo`s thedr wiy.
Pe Gio Ml ]hdo`s Aister
]hlse la us iggustlbem arlb eirjy ghdjmhllm tl tikdo`
ghir`e iom `ettdo` thdo`s mloe hive mevejlpem the koigk la `ettdo` twl lr three thdo`s mloe it loge. Bujtdtiskdo` ds the
gurreot fuzzwlrm alr thit. Bujtdtiskers gio sdbujtioelusjy
fithe loe ghdjm, pjio i hlberllb eom-la-the-yeir pirty lo the
phloe, iom lversee iolther ghdjm—s hlbewlrk. Bujtdtiskers
gio gllk i beij do uomer io hlur whdje adodshdo` i ghipter lo
the glbputer iom jdsteodo` tl i ardeom plur lut her heirt. Hlw
ml D kolw< Fegiuse alr yeirs D wis prlum tl fe loe. Every
Ghrdstbis wheo D reim do Juke 6 thit the shepherms ‚bime
histe‒ tl `l tl the bio`er, D koew D—m prlfifjy hive trdem tl
adt do i aew errioms lo the wiy there iom figk.
Bujtdtiskers gio pjio i Wuomiy sghllj jesslo, ruo i glb-
bdttee beetdo`, lr`iodze io eveot, lr gjeio i hluse aister thio
ioyflmy we kolw. ]herealre, we ml i jlt la thdo`s lther
pelpje glujm fe mldo`, ‚tl sive tdbe.‒ ]he prlfjeb ds, the tdbe
we sive dso—t lur lwo. ]he blre we ml, the blre lthers jet us
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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ml, uotdj we blve sl aist lur jdves resebfje i berry-`l-rluom
it hd`h speem.
Srdme ds it the rllt la bujtdtiskers— jdves, nust is dt ds it the
rllt la peraegtdlodsts— jdves. Pe mlo—t jlve @lm lr lther pel-
pje, we jlve speem iom eaadgdeogy. Loe la the stru``jes alr be,
is alr lther bujtdtiskers, ds tl rebebfer thit the ̀ lij la jdae ds
tl fe eaaegtdve, olt berejy eaadgdeot. Sirt la jlvdo` lther pelpje
is D jlve byseja beios tl jet lthers ml tisks it thedr lwo pige.
PITW ]L JDQE PD]H L]HEVW PD]HLU]
PEIVDO@ LUVWEJQEW LU]
Lfvdlusjy we ire `ldo` tl glotdoue tl jdve wdth jlve iom
tl serve lther pelpje. Fut servdo` theb tll thlrlu`hjy ds olt
`llm alr edther us lr theb. Here ire three steps thit gio rejdeve
slbe la the stress la servdo` lthers.
Nust Wiy Ol
]hds sluoms eisy, fut dt—s olt. Wiydo` ol dovljves imbdt-
tdo` we ire olt domdspeosifje, thit lthers gio ml slbe thdo`s
alr thebsejves. Dt dovljves glovdogdo` lursejves thit whit we
aeej gijjem tl ml ds is dbplrtiot is whit slbeloe ejse wiots us
tl ml. Dt biy eveo resujt do slbethdo` thit ds sgiry alr slbe la
us> aree tdbe. Fejlw ire i aew rujes alr wheo tl siy ol.
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Phl ib D mldo` tll bugh alr fegiuse
• D pdty thedr gdrgubstioges<
• D ib trydo` tl keep by lwo jdae uomer glotrlj<
• D wiot thdo`s mloe by wiy, olt thedrs<
• D gio ml thdo`s aister<
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• Pheo whit ylu ire fedo` iskem tl ml ds slbethdo` ylu
kolw ylu mlo—t ml wejj.
• Pheo whit ylu ire fedo` iskem
tl ml gloajdgts wdth slbethdo`
ylu aeej ds blre dbplrtiot.
• Pheo iolther—s prlgristdoitdlo
his resujtem do i grdsds alr theb.
• Pheo whit ylu ire iskem tl ml
ds olt do jdoe wdth the `lijs ylu
hive priyeraujjy set alr thds sei-slo la ylur jdae (we—jj `et tl thit
do jiter ghipters).
• Pheo ylu ire fedo` tljm ‚Olflmy ejse wdjj ml thds da
ylu mlo—t.‒ Da @lm wiots dt mloe, @lm wdjj gijj slbe-
flmy ejse tl ml dt; da she siys ol, theo dt ds olt ylur
prlfjeb.
]eigh ]heb tl Gire alr ]hebsejves
]hds ippjdes tl ghdjmreo*, spluses, iom glwlrkers. Da we
ire mldo` slbethdo` alr lthers they glujm ml alr thebsejves
wdth i jdttje tridodo`, speomdo` tdbe teighdo` theb ds i wdse
dovestbeot la lur tdbe. Pe olt lojy rejdeve lur lwo stress, we
`dve theb the sitdsaigtdlo la jeirodo` i oew skdjj iom blvdo`
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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Srlgristdoitdlo
lo ylur pirt mles
olt glostdtute io
eber`eogy loby pirt.
]l whlb ml D oeem tl siy ol do lrmer tl hive blre
tdbe alr whit @lm ds gijjdo` be tl fe iom ml<< <
*Wee by glbpiodlo fllk tl thds loe, Ghdjmreo Phl Ml ]llJdttje (^lomervio, 9441).
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tlwirm seja-rejdioge. Loe wlbio put dt, ‚D hive tiu`ht by hus-
fiom tl ruo i hluse fegiuse D mlo—t wiot hdb hivdo` tl stlp
lo the wiy hlbe arlb by auoerij tl `et hdbseja i oew wdae.‒
Oe`ltdite iom Vegdprlgite]hds ds i bdom-set thit igkolwjem`es thit eigh la us his
slbethdo` tl ̀ dve iom eigh la us his slbethdo` we oeem. Pheo
lur flys were yluo`er iom D wis mrdvdo` theb tl fisefijj prig-
tdge iom `ibes, we oe`ltditem sl thit eigh ghdjm returoem slbe
la by tdbe fy mldo` loe extri ghlre i week.
Phdje i glupje wis do the bdmst la fudjmdo` thedr retdrebeothlbe, they gibe tl loe la by wlrkshlps. ]he wdae tljm be ijj
iflut the hluse iom immem, ‚D wiot Dtijdio tdjes do the kdtgheo, fut
he thdoks they ire tll expeosdve.‒ Jiter, the husfiom expjidoem
tl the `rlup hlw he hlpem tl hive i ml`, fut immem, ‚Whe mles-
o—t wiot the bess i ml` glujm frdo` dotl the hluse.‒ Loe la the
lther pirtdgdpiots, whl him `rispem the oe`ltdite/regdprlgite prdo-
gdpje, iskem the wdae, ‚Hlw fimjy ml ylu wiot thlse tdjes< I ml`—s
wlrth<‒ ]he wdae jllkem it her husfiom alr i jlo` bdoute, theo
olmmem. ‚D—jj `dve ylu the ml` alr the tdjes.‒ ]hey seijem the fir-
`ido thit iaterollo iom eomem twl stresses do thedr birrdi`e.
Viye wis ruoodo` i fusdoess lut la her hlbe, fut her
ejmerjy blther wis flrem iom kept gijjdo` tl isk Viye tl mrdve
her irluom thedr ljm oed`hflrhllm iom tike her tl juogh.Adoijjy Viye sit mlwo wdth her blther iom wlrkem lut i meij.
Every blrodo` the blther glbes tl Viye—s hluse tl ioswer
‚D Ml Dt Ijj alr Tlu, Meir‒
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the phloe iom peralrb sdbpje laadge tisks jdke prepirdo` i
bidjdo` lr eoterdo` oibes dotl i mitifise. Do exghio`e, Viye
stlps wlrkdo` every Pemoesmiy it ollo iom she iom her
blther `l lut tl juogh, mrdve irluom, perhips eveo tike do i
blvde lr ̀ l shlppdo`. Viye replrts there—s feeo io uoexpegtem
flous> her blther adxes juogh.
‚ DA TLU PLUJM LOJT . . .‒
]here—s loe jist reislo i jlt la us weir lursejves lut
mldo` tll bugh alr slbeflmy ejse. Pe ml tll bugh alr slbe
pelpje fegiuse we mlo—t thdok they gio ruo thedr lwo jdves.
Iater @eoe—s husfiom iskem her alr i mdvlrge, he mevej-
lpem i mefdjdtitdo` djjoess wdth i jlo` reglvery perdlm. He
iskem her tl stiy wdth hdb uotdj he wis lo hds aeet i`ido.
Pheo she i`reem she sidm, ‚By prdest splke la by ‘adre-
fugket fehivdlr— iom pldotem lut thit D mdmo—t jet lthers sua-
aer the glosequeoges la thedr lwo fehivdlr fegiuse D trujy
mdmo—t thdok they glujm tike gire la thebsejves.‒]hit rebdoms be la the sidjlrs do the stlry la Nloih, whl
threw thedr whlje gir`l iom persloij plssessdlos lverflirm
trydo` tl sive Nloih arlb the glosequeoges la hds fehivdlr.
Hlw lateo ml we resgue pelpje iom therefy glbe fetweeo
theb iom the jesslos @lm wiots tl teigh theb, jesslos thit
bd`ht igtuijjy turo thedr jdves irluom<Pheo i aibdjy bebfer lr i gjlse ardeom seebs hejpjess tl
ruo hds lr her jdae, lr glosdsteotjy bikes whit jllk tl us jdke
mubf lr eveo mio`erlus megdsdlos, we wiot sl fimjy tl imvdse
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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Hlw bd`ht oe`ltditdlo iom regdprlgitdlo wdth
slbeloe remuge by lwo stress<
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iom eveo tl bike `llm megdsdlos alr theb. Pe yeiro tl hejp
theb ivldm pidoauj glosequeoges la fim megdsdlos. Pe tde lur-
sejves do kolts trydo` tl ad`ure lut hlw we gio ghio`e the per-
slo. Wurejy, da we try hirm eolu`h, we gio adx hds lr her jdae.
]he truth ds, ol ibluot la eaalrt lo lur pirt ds `ldo` tl
ghio`e slbeloe ejse—s fisdg oiture. @lm puts gertido tridts iom
ghirigter dotl pelpje fealre they ire flro. Wlbe ire mishers
iom slbe ire miogers”iom eigh `rlup his i teomeogy tl mrdve
the lther grizy. Wlbe seeb tl fe dohereotjy oeit iom lthers
thrdve lo virydo` me`rees la mdslrmer. Loe blther whl ridsem
sdx ghdjmreo birvejem it hlw mdaaereot they ijj were, iom
mesgrdfem her twl yluo`est slos, whl shirem i rllb. ‚Loe
bime hds sdme la the fem oeitjy every blrodo`. ]he lther stlrem
extri bltlrgygje pirts lo hds sdme wheo he wiso—t sjeepdo` do
dt.‒ Flth `rew up dotl resplosdfje, ijthlu`h very mdaaereot,
imujts.Do immdtdlo tl whit we ire flro wdth, eigh la us mevejlps
virdlus hifdts is we `rlw up. Pe feglbe pelpje whl hifdtu-
ijjy bike `llm megdsdlos lr whl `eoerijjy bike fim loes. Pe
feglbe edther i truth-tejjer lr slbeloe whl sjdmes irluom the
em`es la truth. Pe mevejlp preaereoges iflut thdo`s jdke hlw
bioy pelpje we jdke tl fe irluom iom hlw bugh oldse we giostiom do lur eovdrlobeot.
Ol bitter hlw bugh ylu iom D try, we gioolt ghio`e
iolther perslo—s ghirigter. La glurse, @lm gio. Hlwever,
dogreisem eaalrt (oi``do`) lo lur pirt sejmlb teighes theb tl
bike fetter megdsdlos lr `et lut la sdtuitdlos we mlo—t jdke.
Wlbetdbes the fest thdo` we gio ml ds ̀ et lut la the wiy iom jetoiturij glosequeoges teigh the hirm jesslos they oeem tl jeiro.
It the sibe tdbe, we hive tl iggept thit they biy hive ol
mesdre whitslever tl feglbe whl we wiot theb tl fe, lr tl ml
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whit we wiot theb tl ml. Pe gioolt alrge i ghdjm tl stlp
usdo` mru`s lr ijglhlj, bike i sdster jeive her ifusdve hus-
fiom, ghio`e the oe`itdve ittdtume la loe la lur pireots tlwirm
the lther, lr bike i rlse lut la io lroery glwlrker meterbdoem
tl stiy i thlro.
]hit mleso—t beio we hive tl jdve wdth ijj the stress the
rejitdloshdp giuses. Phdje we gioolt ghio`e theb, we gio
ghio`e lursejves, iom hlw we rejite tl theb. Pe gio ghio`e
• hlw bugh la lur jdves they ire perbdttem tl adjj wdthghils.
• hlw we eoifje lr aidj tl eoifje thedr gurreot fehivdlr
fy jydo` tl glver up alr theb lr prlvdmdo` bloey wheo
they ire ‚aresh lut.‒
• hlw bioy la lur lwo reslurges”bloey, pitdeoge,
jlm`do`, hlurs la jdsteodo`”we `dve theb.
• hlw bugh iggess they hive tl lur jdves.
Pe gio ijsl megdme hlw jlvdo` we wdjj fe, wheo we wdjj
laaer tlu`h jlve, iom wheo we wdjj fe glbpissdloite iom kdom.
Jet be `dve ylu i jdttje hlpe here, thlu`h. Wlbetdbes
wheo we wiot tl ghio`e iolther perslo, dt ds hejpauj tl
rebebfer the iplstjes Seter iom Siuj. ]hedr ardeoms iom reji-
tdlos bust hive wiotem bioy tdbes tl gurf Seter—s dbpetuls-
dty iom fjuot tlo`ue lr slat-pemij
Siuj—s zeijlus fd`ltry. Tet dt wis pre-
gdsejy thlse tridts thit @lm trios-
alrbem dotl Seter—s fljm serblos
iom gluri`e iom Siuj—s bdssdloiry
zeij.
Nust thdok> ]he very tridts ylu
ire trydo` tl ghio`e do slbeflmy
wlbeo whl ml tll bugh
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D gio oever ghio`e
slbeloe ejse.Ijj D gio ghio`e
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biy fe whit @lm wdjj eveotuijjy use do thedr jdves tl fudjm up
the kdo`mlb! Mlo—t `et do the wiy.
‚D Ml Dt Ijj alr Tlu, Meir‒
Ds there slbeloe D—ve feeo weirdo` byseja lut try-
do` tl ghio`e< Wdoge D gioolt ghio`e thit perslo,
whit wdjj D ml dosteim tl remuge by lwo stress do
thds rejitdloshdp<
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VEBEBFEV . . .
Lther pelpje fejlo` do lur jdves, fut they shlujm olt glo-
sube theb. Do lrmer tl jlve @lm adrst iom jlve lthers is we
jlve lursejves”iom ivldm jlvdo` lthers blre thio we jlve
lursejves lr @lm”we hive tl jet `l la slbe la whit we ml
alr theb, teigh theb tl ml alr thebsejves, iom fejdeve they giosuggeem lo thedr lwo. Pe biy hive tl `dve up lur lwo oeem
tl glotrlj theb lr hive thdo`s mloe lur wiy iom it lur pige.
]he resujt gio fe blre tdbe tl aujadjj lur lwo gijjdo`s iom
mreibs. ]he resujt gio eveo fe eisder, blre pjeisiot rejitdlo-
shdps wdth lther pelpje.