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A study by the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect revealed an astounding 333% increase in the estimated number of children who have been the victims of emotional neglect since 1986. It revealed that the consequences of emotional abuse are severe. These findings were further supported by a 2008 study published in Psychological Science, which found that emotional distress is more deeply felt and lasts longer than physical pain. Sharon Jaynes knows firsthand how emotional

wounds from a woman’s past can manifest as negative thoughts and feelings about herself later in life. But she believes emotional pain doesn’t have to last forever. In fact, she is living proof that it is possible to defeat the subtle and menacing lies that creep into a woman’s thinking.

4 Steps to Freedom from LiesRealize the enemy’s true identity ZRecognize the lies ZReject the lies ZReplace the lies with truth Z

According to Jaynes, when women say I’m so stupid, I’m such an idiot, or I’m never going to be good enough, they create habitual destructive thought patterns that can be paralyzing. “If you repeat a misbelief or lie enough times, you begin to believe it,” she explains. “Nobody loves me, I don’t have any friends, or I’m so ugly becomes your reality…even though it’s a false reality.” Jaynes looks at common lies women tell themselves and shows how to replace those lies with truth—and stop negative thinking patterns for good.

“We don’t experience the abundant life because we don’t know who we are. We believe the lies that we are unloved,

unworthy, and unforgivable. But God wants to tell us exactly who we are, what we have, and where we are as His children.”

Jaynes offers hope to the untold number of women plagued by destructive thoughts about themselves. She shows where lies come from, why women so easily believe lies over the truth, and where to go to find the truth about who they are. Women will come away encouraged that they are good enough—not because of themselves, but because of Jesus Christ and His power living in them.

With Emotional Neglect on the Rise,Who Will Heal

our Hearts?



Lie: “I’m not good enough”TruTh: I am good enough because Christ dwells in me and the

Holy Spirit empowers me (John 14:20; Acts 1:8)

Lie: “I’m worthless”TruTh: I am God’s treasured possession (Deuteronomy 14:2)

Lie: “I’m a failure”TruTh: I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength (Philippians 4:13)

Lie: “I can’t forgive myself”TruTh: Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus

(Romans 8:1)

Lie: “I would be happy if ”TruTh: My joy comes from the Lord (Psalm 126:3)

Lie: “My life is hopeless”TruTh: My God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all I can ask or think

(Ephesians 3:20 nkjv)

Lie: “God is punishing me”TruTh: God is purifying me as gold (1 Peter 1:6-7)

Lie: “God doesn’t love me”TruTh: God loves me totally, completely, and immeasurably (Ephesians 3:17-19)

...and the TruthLies Women Tell Themselves



Sharon JaynesBio Sketch

Sharon Jaynes is a gifted writer and speaker who uses her unique storytelling ability to inspire others to break free from the bondage of past hurts by allowing God, not their circumstances, to define who they are.

Raised in a home of hostility and fear, Jaynes shares her journey toward understanding the difference between religion and a relationship with God. Her passion is encouraging, equipping, and empowering women to understand their true identity as a child of God and as a co-heir of Christ. She has worked in women’s ministry for more than 25 years.

Jaynes is the cofounder of Girlfriends in God, a non-denominational conference ministry that crosses racial and generational boundaries through daily devotions read by over 140,000 subscribers daily and dynamic Girlfriends in God Conferences. For 10 years, she served as Vice President of Proverbs 31 Ministries, where she cohosted daily radio segments and was a feature writer for their monthly magazine.

In her latest book, “I’m Not Good Enough”…and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves, Jaynes takes a candid look into the secret fears and false beliefs that lurk in the hearts and minds of many women today. Through her work in women’s ministry, Jaynes has witnessed firsthand the damage that results when women become hostage to lies like I’m a loser, Nobody loves me, or I would be happier married to someone else. But just as Jesus countered Satan’s lies with truth from God’s Word, Jaynes claims women can use Scripture to counter those falsehoods that all too easily creep into their thinking. She examines 72 common lies women tell themselves and shows step-by-step how they can replace those lies with truth—and stop negative thinking patterns for good.

Jaynes’ other books include The Power of a Woman’s Words, Extraordinary Moments with God, Experience the Ultimate Makeover, Your Scars Are Beautiful to God (a 2007 Retailer’s Choice Award finalist), Building an Effective Women’s Ministry, Becoming a Woman Who Listens to God, Becoming the Woman of His Dreams, and A Woman’s Secret to a Balanced Life, coauthored with Lysa TerKeurst. Jaynes has also published work in a variety of magazines and online publications such as Decision, Focus on the Family, and Crosswalk.com. Her books have been translated into several languages and have had a significant impact on the Latino community both at home and abroad.

As part of her ministry, Jaynes has also taught Bible studies, served as a crisis pregnancy counselor, and mentored women from all walks of life. In 2000, Jaynes was the recipient of the WORLD Newspaper Salt and Light Award for her impact in the Charlotte, North Carolina community area.

An inspiring radio and television guest, Jaynes has been interviewed on national programs produced by LeSEA Broadcasting, Christian Television Network, Moody Broadcasting, Total Living Network, DayStar Television, North American Mission Board, and more.

Jaynes and her husband, Steve, reside in North Carolina. They have one grown son, Steven.

Author of“I’m Not Good Enough”...

and Other Lies Women Tell Themselves



The title of your book suggests that women have a problem with lying—to Zthemselves! How did you become convinced of this?

Why do you think feelings of inadequacy are such a problem for women Ztoday?

Before you tackle specific lies women tell themselves, you outline a process Zfor changing the way we think. Let’s go through those steps. Where do we start?

Where do these lies come from? How do they become so engrained in our minds? Z

How can we recognize the lies in our lives? Z

How do we reject the lies we hear in our heads, especially if we’ve believed them for years or the lies Zare all we’ve ever known?

How do we replace those lies with truth? Z

What are some common lies women tell themselves? Z

What will be the result if a woman continues to believe the lies she hears? Z

Let’s talk about the lies that begin with, “I would be happy if…” Z

What are some common lies women believe about God? Z

How did believing God’s truth over the lies change your life? Z

What will be the result if a woman begins to believe God’s truth over the enemy’s lies? What can she Zexpect to happen in her life?

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