Why Is It So Difficult To Forgive?
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Why Is It So Difficult to Forgive?
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• Forgiveness is not “I will look down on you and turn the other cheek so that I can be a martyr”
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• Forgiveness is not “I will be the judge, jury and executioner, and forgive but never forget”
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• Lack of forgiveness eats away at you • Cancer • Blocked arteries • Other ailments
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• What is forgiveness?
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• We have conflict throughout our lives and on many levels • Work colleagues • Friends • Relatives • Ourselves
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• We cannot avoid conflict • We are all actors on the stage
called life • Conflict forces us to learn about
ourselves
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• Sometimes the lessons are easy • Clash on a sports field • Forgive your opponent for
hurting you as part of the game
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• Other times the lessons are more serious • A friend stabs you in the back • You ignored the warning signals and
your intuition • You chose to let the situation get out of
hand
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• Do you say “Now I know that next time I should trust my intuition”?
• Do you say “that person is a so-and-so and I will never forgive him” ?
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• While you lie awake and get angry about how you were treated, that person sleeps like a baby and does not care
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• The lesson is all about • You • Your experience • Your understanding
• And none about the person you need to forgive
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• Why is it so difficult to forgive?
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• We get stuck on the thoughts of injustice
• We never move on
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• Ask yourself “What am I learning” every time the thought appears.
• Eventually the answer will appear
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• When you no longer have “negative” thoughts about the person you need to forgive, the answer appears.
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• When you fully understand, the knowledge is embedded in your body cells
• Then you have forgiven and you can move on
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• How long does forgiveness take?
• How long is a piece of string?
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• Start moving from resentment to forgiveness today
• Ask “What’s in it for me?” • Keep going until you have
forgiven all your enemies
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Thank You