WHO DO YOU BULLY?

A lesson in awareness

Created for I M Confident Niagara Canada by Brenda Silveira

Bullies are people (male or female) who purposely try to hurt someone else by:*calling them names*making them feel uncomfortable*spreading false rumours*kicking, pushing, tripping, hitting, etc

Bullies target people who:*are smaller than they are*are weaker than they are*have few friends*struggle with low esteem

Bullies bully because:*they want to impress their friends*it gives them a feeling of power and control*they lack empathy and don’t care about feelings**THEY ARE BEING BULLIED OR ABUSED BY SOMEONE ELSE!

HOW DO PEOPLE FEEL WHEN THEY ARE BULLIED?*feel powerless*feel outnumbered*feel like nobody cares about them*feel like they deserve it*don’t know what to do

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WHEN YOU ARE BULLIED?*don’t react, just walk away*tell someone you trust*surround yourself with good friends*don’t allow their words or actions to upset you*realize that the bully has a problem, not you

DO YOU KNOW THAT WE SOMETIMES BECOME BULLIES AFTER WE ARE BULLIED?*we get angry and want to take our frustration out on someone else (family member, sibling, friend)*we plan on getting revenge *we continue to bully ourselves

ARE YOU BULLYING YOURSELF?*do you blame yourself and feel like you deserved to be bullied?*do you try to avoid people so you won’t get hurt?*do you keep thinking about the bullying?*do you harm yourself in any way (words, actions)?

HOW DO WE BULLY OURSELVES?Bully – “You’re stupid.”Me – every time I do something I tell myself that I’m stupidBully – “You’re ugly.”Me – every time I look in the mirror I tell myself I’m ugly

WHY DO WE BULLY OURSELVES?*we believe the lies that are told to us*we have low-esteem*we don’t have a strong support system*we develop a negative habit

HOW LONG DO WE BULLY OURSELVES?*for weeks, months and often years after the bullying happened*until we are consciously aware of what we are doing and make positive changes

HOW CAN WE STOP BULLYING OURSELVES?*pay attention to how we talk and what we do*ask ourselves why we do this*realize that we believe lies*start working on creating positive habits (affirmations, self-talk, being thankful)

START TODAY*stop letting people bully you!*stop bullying yourself!*start making positive changes!*build your confidence and increase your esteem*start treating yourself as the valuable person you are!

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