Whisper Message from the Feeling Buddies

HAPPY

“I am loved and so are

you.” In happiness, there is a deep

sense of well-being and love.

SAD “Seek comfort from

those you love.” In sadness, there is no

impulse for action.

SCARED “Help me feel safe and

protected.” In fear, there is an impulse

to freeze.

ANGRY “Calm down and change.”

In anger, there is an impulse

to move to the object of the

anger.

CALM

“All is well.”

DISAPPOINTED “Keep breathing. I can

handle this.”

ANXIOUS “Breathe deeply, focus

on the present, and get

more information.”

FRUSTRATED “Calm down and

patiently see or do

things differently.”

Concepts adapted from the Conscious Discipline® program. www.ConsciousDiscipline.com 1-800-842-2846

Connection

Is the Key!

Round and round the garden, (gently trace finger in a circle around child's palm)

goes the Teddy Bear. (continue tracing circle on child's palm)

One step, two step (walk your fingers up child's arm)

Tickle you under there! (gently tickle under chin, under arm or tummy) If its naptime or bedtime instead of a tickle - say, “Hug under there!” Gently hug and take a deep calming breath with the child.

Adapted from “I Love You Rituals” By Becky Bailey

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Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star (Adult and child face each other tickle each other’s hands lightly))

What a wonderful child you are. (Adult gently touches child’s face)

With bright eyes and rosy cheeks (Adult gently touches child’s eyebrows and cheeks)

Talented person from head to feet (Adult touches child’s head and toes)

Twinkle, twinkle little star (Tickle each other’s hands lightly)

What a wonderful child you are (Adult hugs child) Adapted from “I Love You Rituals” By Becky Bailey

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Humpty Dumpty Sat on a Wall, (Adult makes wall with one hand: child uses closed hand as Humpty)

Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. (Child rocks hand back and forth and falls.)

All the King's horses, And all the King's men (Adult gently massages child’s hand.)

They could put Humpty together again! (Adult hugs child and puts hand back on wall) Adapted from “I Love You Rituals” By Becky Bailey

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Self-Regulation: The Key to School Readiness 5 ConsciousDiscipline.com © 2013 Loving Guidance, Inc.

Five Steps to Self-Regulation

Step 1: Child is triggered into a

state of upset. Emotions

biochemically overtake us

and we become them. “I am

angry.”

Step 2:

Children need assistance

in turning off the stress

response in their body

and calming down their

physiology. Begin to move

from “I am angry” to “I feel

angry.”

Step 3:

Children need assistance

in naming and taming

the feelings that has

overwhelmed them. Once

you can name a feeling and

become conscious of it, you

are automatically better

able to manage it.

Step 4:

Children need assistance

in choosing strategies that

will help them move from

the lower centers of their

brain to the higher centers

of their brain in order to

get back to classroom

activities/work.

Step 5: Something triggered the

child into a state of upset

before entering the Safe

Place. Whatever happened

needs some type of

solution.