When ‘worry’ takes over… Worrying can be helpful when it spurs you to take action and solve a problem. Worry ‘yesterday-today-tomorrow’

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By Dr.Balasandilyan

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Worried about health? Eat well. Worried about money, Save some. Worried about your relationships? Work on them. Worry paralyzes you. Worry keeps you up at night, every night. Worry is hurting your relationships. Worry makes you sick. Chronic worrying affects your daily life so much that it interferes with

your appetite, lifestyle habits, relationships, sleep, and job performance. Many people who worry excessively are so anxiety-ridden that they seek relief in harmful lifestyle habits such as overeating, cigarette smoking, or using alcohol and drugs.

Worry because of our own sickness/or others Anxiety because of insecurity/inability Panic because of unconscious inputs in the mind. Genetic as a reason Behavioral temperament/nature . Physically weak Past experience. Past imperfect/Future tense

1. Worry as such can cause…

Wanting to be perfect and worrying with anxiety - Obsession Cognitive Therapy Focuses on creating an understanding of the

thought patterns that bring on worry. It helps anxiety sufferers separate unrealistic from realistic thoughts.

Behavior Therapy Focuses on taming anxiety through control of specific ways the body overreacts to worry. One common approach is to teach controlled breathing and the relaxing of muscles that constrict with worry. Both techniques lower heart rate and blood pressure. (Behavior – Before and After – job, marriage, success, accomplishment)

Relaxation Training Through a mixture of cognitive and behavior techniques, helps avert high anxiety. One approach is to think of a relaxing scene when anxiety levels start to rise.

Desensitization Those who suffer phobias and obsessive-compulsive disorder are gradually and safely exposed to whatever is the source of their anxiety, until, over time, tolerance is built.

Medication Antidepressant and antianxiety medications are most effective in combination with psychotherapy.

1. Worry

You have mixed feelings about your worries…you think:

Maybe I'll find a solution.

I don't want to overlook anything.

If I keep thinking a little longer, maybe I'll figure it out.

I don't want to be surprised.

I want to be responsible.

Self-help tip 6:

Create a worry period (fix a time, postpone, ignore and enjoy)

See if the problem is solvable

Accept uncertainty

Challenge anxious thoughts

Beware of how others affect you

Practice mindfulness

1. When you keep worrying…

Panic : a situation in which a lot of people are hurrying to do or get something because they are frightened or worried

Rush : a situation in which you hurry to do something, especially because you do not have much time

Dash : an act of running or going somewhere very quickly because you are in a hurry

Surge : a sudden movement of a large group of people Scramble : a situation in which you have to hurry to do something A race against time : a situation in which someone must do or finish

something very quickly because they only have a limited amount of time to do it

Hustle : quick effective movement Scurry : a mad dash/rush a situation in which you are hurrying to do

something because you do not have much time Stampede : a situation in which a lot of people all try to do something at

the same time Hurry causes worry – so go slow…!

2. Hurry

Because we want to finish fast (fast food, fast cash, fast growth)

Fear of failure/loss/do it before others, for false prestige, as a habit.

We do not listen when in hurry

We are not watchful when in hurry

We are not careful when in hurry

We end up messing things…

We are not correct in doing/saying when in hurry

We do not follow procedures/rules in hurry

We do not remember few things when in hurry

We take wrong decisions/wrong routes in hurry

Hurry can cause many troubles in life. It can lower a person's esteem in family and society and project him as an unworthy individual. So, one must avoid the attitude of laziness and be disciplined always to achieve success in one's life.

2. Why do we hurry

Curry is an extremely spicy sometimes and can cause changes in man's behavior also. Hot dishes can influence a person's way of thinking and make him angry or sad or depressed in extreme cases if such foods are consumed regularly. Fast foods can harm a person in the long run both physically and mentally. Changes in behavior are brought about by spicy foods and intake must be reduced to ensure good health.

Caffeine, Liquor, High-fat diet, Salty food can cause anxiety

Vegetables, fruits, whole grain – to take more

Magnesium and calcium from – green leaf, whole grain and nuts etc.

Tryptophan and B Vitamin from Milk, peanut butter and bananas

Omega 3 – Fatty fish, walnuts,

3. Curry

Sathvik food (vegetarian, non spicy, greens, salads, sprouts, soups, juice, milk, butter milk etc) Food reflects in our thoughts, behavior, temperament, complexion, shine in skin, health, sleep etc.

Deep fried food, junk food, reused oil foods such as Bhajji, Bonda - NO Food from our kitchen – seeragam, milagu, inji, poondu, kadukkai,

venthayam, chinna vengayam, nelli, sundaikkai, vaazhaithandu, karivaeppillai, puthina, sathu maavu, kanji, cholam, kambu, raagi etc.

Vitamin D – from egg, fortified butter, salmon fish Melatonin – oats, rice, sweet corn, tomato, ginger, banana, radish,

barley Vitamin B Complex - foods like liver, red and green peppers, hazelnuts,

peanuts, cashews, turkey, cod, whole grains, potato, mushroom, peas, spinach, wheat germ and pork.

Chocolates, Green tea, Herbal tea, herbal drinks, lemon and ginger drinks would help people in anxiety , weakness and depression.

3. Food plays an important role

Unwanted memory can cause worry

Memory related to Incidents, disappointments, failures, insults, agony, loss (people, property, loss), poor performance, abuses, blames, loss of reputation, excessive shame, punishments, disease, surgery, pain, interview/exams, low grasping, envy, jealousy, greed, fear, poor will power, absent minded-ness,

Untold secrets, certain things causing feel of guilt

Childhood trauma, parenting related

Unused knowledge becomes a burden

Persistent unwanted thoughts may destroy a person's capacity to function at work

Dreams, TV or media news, trauma scenes/photos,

4. Memory

Reparenting

Age –Regression process

Psychotherapy

NLP, Hypnotherapy, Flower therapy, Trans, other alternate therapy (Pranic healing, Reiki)can cure.

It's the nagging thought, "I made a mistake" or "I think I have cancer" or "I'm going to lose control." These thoughts seem to intrude on your mind and you try to block them out. So to switch thought patterns by altering behavioral patterns.

4. How to overcome unwanted memory

Baggage or Trolley (carrying other’s worries), trying to extend help, guarantee signature, protect or rescue others. (Thallu vandi)

Worrying about war, violence, calamities, loss, fire, accidents, crime - else where

Taking worry into mind because of Stories read, movies seen, Soaps seen daily, news read or seen in media and desires instilled in our mind by others such as car, bungalow, status etc.

Worrying of the social agony – frauds, corruption, black-money, adulteration (kalappadam), poor governance, public distribution, education system, unemployment, price inflation (which is not under our control)

Food security, climate change(less or more rain, temperature being high), orphanages, old age homes, new diseases, child labor, sabotage, cultural changes, lowering social values, intolerant new-gen, changing food/dress culture, women abuse, complex religion, new corporate trends like BPOs etc., traffic system, pollution issues, abusing nature, change of stock market, gold price, divorces etc.

5. Worry due to ‘Sundry’ (damn the unwanted ones…what can I do ?