What’s In it for ME?

aka: Remembering that you matter when others might not

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Scott “Q” MarcusTHINspirational Speaker & Recovering Perfectionist

707.442.6243 • scottq@scottqmarcus.com • Twitter: @scottqmarcus • facebook.com/scottqmarcus

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Honest Attitude PrayerSo far today, God, I've done all right.

I haven't gossiped, haven't lost my

temper, haven't been greedy, grumpy,

nasty, selfish, over-indulgent, or told

anyone to mind their own business and

stay out of mine.

I'm really glad about that!…

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Honest Attitude PrayerBut, in a few minutes, God, I'm

going to get out of bed, and

from then on I'm probably going

to need a lot more help.

courtesy of www.wordle.net

Questionnaire Results

Pretty Good86%

Extremely Upbeat7%

Average7%

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Extremely Upbeat7%

Your AttitudeQuestionnaire Results

93%

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Pretty Good43%

Average49%

Extremely Poor7%

Co-Worker Attitude

43%6

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Pretty Good57%

Average43%

Others’ Attitude

57%7

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Others’ Attitude

Workload

Home Life Bars are not to scale

Attitude Cause

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Questionnaire Results

Albert Mehrabian [Nonverbal Communication (Chicago: Aldine-Atherton, 1972)]

Attitude Talks9

Non Verbal55%

Use of Voice38%

Verbal7%

93%

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Choice

Learned

Controllable Bars are not to scale

Attitude Beliefs

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Questionnaire Results

My Responsibility to Fix

Attitude“Complex interaction

between feelings and

beliefs that affect

how we react to our

environment.”

Frustration

If I Always Do What I’ve Always Done…

I’ll Always Be Where I’ve Always Been.

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Habits

“Action or thought done repeatedly -

without analysis - in order to simplify or ease

one’s life.”

> >

> C

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pet

ence

> >

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< < < Consciousness < < <

1. Unconscious Incompetence

2. Conscious Incompetence

3. Conscious Competence

4. Unconscious Competence

“Oblivious”“Aware”

“Learning” “Skilled”

STRESS ZONE

Stress Symptoms Negative Thinking

Lack of Motivation

Health Problems

Poor Decision Making

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ATTITUDE!

Behavior

Result

The Cycle

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Unbreakable Link

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Example

I bet living in a nudist colony takes all the fun out of Halloween. -Age 13

The Zebra Rule

It is virtually impossible to “drop” a habit.You must replace it with a counterproductive one.

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The Zebra Rule

Inertia of Change

The Problem:

• Fear

• Force

• Pain

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The Solutions:

• Slower is Faster Than Never

• Success Is MTTN

• Small Steps Done Repeatedly

• Don’t Show Your BIG BUT

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Movement

Logical Emotional

Physical Spiritual

<<<<Change

< Activity Inspiration >

< Execution Creation >

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Attitude

Feelings Beliefs

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Response

Feelings

Experience(Observations)

Biology

Attitude

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Attitude Contagion

“Badatude People” are more used to it than you are.

Stages of Change

Honeymoon

Thrill is Gone

Lifestyle

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Moving Forward

Inspiration

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Behavior

Motivation

The Four Assumptions

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The road map is not the

terrain…

In other words…

We see our own view

of reality.

Growth

The Four Assumptions

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There is positive

intention behind every

behavior.

Growth

The Four Assumptions

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You always have

another choice.

Growth

The Four AssumptionsGrowth

There is no such thing

as “failure,”

merely “feedback.”

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The Four Assumptions

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You have all the tools

you need to accomplish

whatever you want.

Growth

Think “1st”

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Do 1 Thing

Make it Small

Focus on Today

Remember

What’s In it for ME?

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Scott “Q” MarcusTHINspirational Speaker & Recovering Perfectionist

707.442.6243 • scottq@scottqmarcus.com • Twitter: @scottqmarcus • facebook.com/scottqmarcus