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Westminster Veterinary Group
Conflict Resolution TrainingOctober 14, 2010
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Define Conflict-when someone’s behavior is bothering you or offends you.
Conflict resolution- is teaching people new ways to work through and resolve disputes without escalating the situation.
The real causes of conflict-system problems, ethical issues, differing work habits and HURT feelings.
Conflict Resolution
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If I am not part of the problem, there is no solution…
Maravelas, 2005
Gossiping, enhancing your status, blaming
others creating cliques…
The avoider, complainer, pretender, bully,
shout and displace?
Self -Assessment
How are you communicating that is causing conflict?
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Reasons Complain Avoid Pretend Bully Shout Dis-place
They must know
Hurt others
I can tell someone
Afraid
Aggressive
Blow-up
Had it coming
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Why don’t people resolve their conflicts
You think the other person knows better
Fear, still need to work together, it may be the boss
You allowed it- you deserve it
Afraid of what may happen
Afraid of becoming aggressive
The Reality- You are unskilled at Conflict Resolution
Learning Conflict Resolutions
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Instead of attacking the competence and character of someone – seek a dialogue…
Benefits- physical health, effectiveness, relationships, productivity and personal happiness.
Uncomfortable Conversations… can be the most productive
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Three ways we deal with conflict
1. Ignore2. Aggressive3. Appropriately- Assertive
We learned to communicate as children
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Conflict is neither good nor bad
Conflict is inevitable
Conflict does not have to result in winners and
losers
In conflict both parties tend to believe that their
opinion is fact
Too often both parties see themselves as innocent
victims who represent the side of truth and
fairness
Key Messages about Conflict
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1. What ‘s bothering you? Be specific Don’t label the person’s behavior
2. What do you want the other person to do?3. What are you going to do?
A Climate of Respect and AppreciationAssume Positive Intentions
Kind, Clear and Concise Communication
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Thinking patterns- reflexive
Word choices
Body language- non-verbal messages
Listening
Eye contact
Facial expressions
Voice
Gestures
Choices we make…
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The essence of conflict resolution and conflict management is the
ability to communicate effectively. People who have and use effective communication will
resolve their conflicts with greater ease and success.
Communication skills
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Choices we make…words we use•I would appreciate•Can we•Several times we have talked about this--- I am_________ feeling inserted•It has been brought to my attention•I am concerned•I am confident we can find a solution•I think•I need•I disagree•I didn’t know
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Rude tone of voice Having people ask you to do something “
right now” Employees respond negatively Too busy
Let’s break into group
Vignettes
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You only have control of one of the two
parties involved in the conflict and
resolution. Set ground rules, find common interests,
listen, brainstorm and discuss.
Train your brain- STOP !!! Think and react
slowly- know your triggers
It takes two !!!!
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Unresolved conflict to resolved communication
Something happens
Your body reacts- how does that feel – explain
Breathing changes
Thinking skills
Listening skills
A visual and auditory memory occurs explain
What does it remind you of?
Physical reaction
You cause conflict with your reactions!
Stop What are the true
needs? Ask new
questions Can you tell me
more? Begin to negotiate Statements like;“I
need” or “I would like”
What will it take to move forward?
Are you willing to communicate?
What would you like to see happen?
What will it take?
Brainstorm
Agreement/solution
Implement What can I learn? What is possible if
people communicate kindly, clearly and concisely?
Re-evaluate
Contact
Reaction
Feeling
Past
experience
CONFLICT!!
New choices
Negotiate
Questions
Brainstorm
Understanding
Agreements
Follow- thru
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Benefits to good communication and conflict resolution skills- relaxed conversations, cooperation increased, gossip decreased, willingness to address problems and agreements met and kept.
People listen to different ideas Increased participation Increased ownership and commitment
Westminster Veterinary Group
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Gain awareness of how you present yourself- your confrontation style
Assume positive intentions Have a confrontation – when necessary – be kind, clear and concise
Learn how to reduce conflict in your life- use humor correctly, be polite, be considerate, don’t interrupt, be sincere, eye contact,
Where do we go from here…
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Westminster’s Communication Contract
The real causes of conflict-system problems, ethical issues, differing work habits and HURT feelings.
Practice-Practice-Practice
Communication/Confrontation