ViolenceViolence

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Review #11, 12 pg. Review #11, 12 pg. 348348

JournalJournalWhat do you do to What do you do to

protect yourself from protect yourself from being a victim? What are being a victim? What are

some other things that some other things that you could do to further you could do to further

protect yourself?protect yourself?

1 Murder every 34 minutes

2001 Crime Clock2001 Crime ClockOnly reported statisticsOnly reported statistics

1 Identity Theftevery 19 minutes

1 person is killed in an alcohol-related traffic crash

every 43 minutes

1 child is reported abused and/or neglected

every 38 seconds

172 women are physically and/or sexually assaulted by an intimate every hour

1 Rape/sexual assault every 2 minutes

1 Motor Vehicle Theft every 34 seconds

1 Burglary every 9 seconds

1 Theft every 2 seconds

1 Aggravated Assault every 24 seconds

1 Robbery every

43 seconds

1 Violent Crime every 5

seconds

Characteristics of Characteristics of AbusersAbusers

Very jealous, has a short temper.Very jealous, has a short temper. Reacts physically: hits the wall, kicks Reacts physically: hits the wall, kicks

the dog, etc.the dog, etc. Raised in an abusive home.Raised in an abusive home. Macho type, must always be the one in Macho type, must always be the one in

control.control. May or may not batter children.May or may not batter children. Believe they have the right to beat Believe they have the right to beat

other people.other people. Think, victims enjoy or need the abuse.Think, victims enjoy or need the abuse.

Characteristics of Victims of Characteristics of Victims of AbuseAbuse

Raised in an abusive home (was Raised in an abusive home (was abused or witnessed abuse).abused or witnessed abuse).

Low self-esteem, insecure, feel they Low self-esteem, insecure, feel they deserve the abuse, guilty, etc.deserve the abuse, guilty, etc.

Isolated – not allowed to form close Isolated – not allowed to form close relationships with others.relationships with others.

Resists giving up on marriage, Resists giving up on marriage, doesn’t want to feel they have failed, doesn’t want to feel they have failed, wants to help the abuser change.wants to help the abuser change.

Fear of leaving the abuser or of other Fear of leaving the abuser or of other family members being hurt.family members being hurt.

Sir Edward Coke: “For a man’s Sir Edward Coke: “For a man’s home is his castle.” home is his castle.”

A.A. Do you feel unhappy in your home?Do you feel unhappy in your home?

B.B. Do you feel stifled in your home?Do you feel stifled in your home?

C.C. Do you feel like a prisoner in your Do you feel like a prisoner in your home?home?

1.

Determine if your home is a castle or a dungeon. Answer each question yes or no. Write down each yes number.

(For example: 1B, 1C, 2A, etc.)

A.A. Is your self-esteem shaky?Is your self-esteem shaky?

B.B. Is your self-esteem practically nonexistent?Is your self-esteem practically nonexistent?

C.C. Do you have no idea what self-esteem is?Do you have no idea what self-esteem is?

A.A. Do you seldom have friends visit?Do you seldom have friends visit?

B.B. Do you feel ashamed to have friends Do you feel ashamed to have friends visit?visit?

C.C. Do you have no friends left?Do you have no friends left?3.

2.

A.A. Do you and your family argue Do you and your family argue occasionally?occasionally?

B.B. Do you and your family argue Do you and your family argue constantly?constantly?

C.C. Are you afraid to argue with members Are you afraid to argue with members of your family?of your family?

4.

A.A. Have you threatened to leave if Have you threatened to leave if things don’t change?things don’t change?

B.B. Have members of your family Have members of your family promised to change?promised to change?

C.C. Has anyone in your family Has anyone in your family threatened suicide if you leave?threatened suicide if you leave?

5.

A.A. Have you thought about running Have you thought about running away?away?

B.B. Have you made plans to run away”Have you made plans to run away”

C.C. Have you or others in your family Have you or others in your family ever actually run away?ever actually run away?

6.

A.A. Do people ridicule each other in Do people ridicule each other in your home?your home?

B.B. Does the ridicule provoke tears on a Does the ridicule provoke tears on a regular basis?regular basis?

C.C. Is someone suicidal from being Is someone suicidal from being ridiculed?ridiculed?

7.

A.A. Does making up always include gifts?Does making up always include gifts?

B.B. Do gifts seem better after a fight?Do gifts seem better after a fight?

C.C. Do you only receive gifts after fights?Do you only receive gifts after fights?

8.

A.A. Has anyone in your family ever Has anyone in your family ever been hit?been hit?

B.B. Has anyone gone to the emergency Has anyone gone to the emergency room?room?

C.C. Do they know you by name at the Do they know you by name at the emergency room?emergency room?

9.

A.A. Has anyone in your family lied to Has anyone in your family lied to friends about their bruises?friends about their bruises?

B.B. Has anyone in your family lied to Has anyone in your family lied to another family member about their another family member about their bruises?bruises?

C.C. Has any member of your family lied Has any member of your family lied to the police about bruises?to the police about bruises?

10.

A.A. Do you stay awake nights if a Do you stay awake nights if a member of your family is out late?member of your family is out late?

B.B. Do you stay awake nights afraid the Do you stay awake nights afraid the police will call?police will call?

C.C. Are you awake because you’re Are you awake because you’re afraid a member of your family will afraid a member of your family will kill you?kill you?

11.

A.A. 1 point1 point

B.B. 2 points2 points

C.C. 3 points3 points

Add up your scores:

““The hell you know is better than the The hell you know is better than the hell you don’t.” Have you ever hell you don’t.” Have you ever

stopped to ask: “Why live in hell at stopped to ask: “Why live in hell at all?” And why are you living in a all?” And why are you living in a

dungeon?dungeon?

0-110-11– Methinks this castle may have a dungeon.Methinks this castle may have a dungeon.

12-2212-22– It looks like a dungeon, smells like a It looks like a dungeon, smells like a

dungeon and acts like a dungeon.dungeon and acts like a dungeon. 23+23+

– Where did the rest of the castle go? All I Where did the rest of the castle go? All I can see is this dungeon!can see is this dungeon!

Marital AbuseMarital Abuse

Wife abuse is the biggest danger to women.Wife abuse is the biggest danger to women. 95% of physical battering is done by the 95% of physical battering is done by the

male. However, when the wife does the male. However, when the wife does the battering, she is more likely to kill.battering, she is more likely to kill.

Avoid marital abuse by:Avoid marital abuse by:– Avoid getting involved with an abusive Avoid getting involved with an abusive

character.character.– Don’t let it start.Don’t let it start.– If it happens once, insist on the other person If it happens once, insist on the other person

getting therapy.getting therapy.– If it happens several times – call the police.If it happens several times – call the police.

Assisting in an Abusive Assisting in an Abusive SituationSituation

To help someone else in an abusive To help someone else in an abusive situation, call the police. It is too situation, call the police. It is too dangerous for you to intercede.dangerous for you to intercede.

Offer emotional support to the Offer emotional support to the victim afterwards.victim afterwards.

Violence CycleViolence Cycle

1. Tension Building

2. Battering Incident

3. Honeymoon

As this cycle is repeated over and over, the violence will continue in

both frequency and

severity.

Examples of Examples of IntensityIntensity

ShovingShoving

PushingPushing

SlappingSlapping

PunchingPunching

KickingKicking

ChokingChoking

MILD

StranglinStranglingg

StabbingStabbing

ShootingShooting

Threaten Threaten with with weaponweapon

BatteringBattering

StompingStomping

MODERATE SEVERE FATAL

Will marriage make the Will marriage make the abusive behavior go abusive behavior go

away?away? Abuse only gets worse after marriage.Abuse only gets worse after marriage. People stay in an abusive situation for People stay in an abusive situation for

many reasons.many reasons.– Financial dependence.Financial dependence.– Social implications.Social implications.– Fear.Fear.– They believe they caused it.They believe they caused it.– They believe the violence is temporary.They believe the violence is temporary.– They believe they should understand the They believe they should understand the

abuser.abuser.– Personal incompetence.Personal incompetence.

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