“Understanding our Wife’s Deepest Needs”

“A man should fulfill his duty as a husband and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other’s needs.”

I Cor. 7:3

“Husband, in the same way BE CONSIDERATE as you LIVE WITH your wives, and treat them with RESPECT as the weaker partner, and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”

I Peter 3:7Dr. Willard Harley is a Christian psychologist who directs a network of mental health clinics in Minnesota. During the past 25 years as a marriage councilor he has interviewed thousands of couples and discovered the 10 most important needs of husbands and wives. They are discussed in a highly recommended book, His Needs/Her Needs.

1. My wife needs my .

“The love a man gives his wife is the extending of his love for himself to enfold her.”

Ephes. 5:28b

“Husband give your wives love; never treat them harshly.”“Affection is the Sexual intimacy is the

Affection

atmosphere

event

FOUR WAYS TO SHOW AFFECTIONI can show affection

by my words.I can show affection

by my actions.I can show affection

by my actions.I can show affection by my focused attention.

Her greatest need is to feel “CHERISHED.”

The feeling that she is loved more than anyone or

anything else.“No man ever hated his own

flesh, but nourished and carefully protect and cherished it as Christ does the church.”

Ephes. 5:29

2. My Wife needs with me.

conversation

“. . . Live together in harmony and love, as thought you had one mind and one spirit between you.”

Phil. 2:2“Reliable communication permits progress . . . “

Prov. 13:17

“Don’t just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others too, and in what they are doing.”

Phil. 2:4

3. My wife needs my and .

opennesshonesty

“Insincere talk hides what you are really thinking . . . It brings nothing but ruin.”

Prov. 26:23, 28

“The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful.”

Prov. 12:22

4. My wife needs .financial/security

“If anyone does not provide for his relatives, especially for his immediate family, he has denied his faith and is worse that an unbeliever.”

I Tim. 5:8“It is better to be an ordinary man working for a living than to play the part of great man but go hungry.”

Prov. 12:9

“The wise man saves for the future, but the foolish man spends whatever he gets.”

Prov. 21:20

5. My wife needs my commitment to the family.• “Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone.” Prov. 5:15;6:32

• “Fathers, don’t over-correct children or make it difficult for them to obey . . . Bring them up Christian teaching and Christina discipline.

• “If a man is lazy, the rafters sag; if his hands are idle, the house leaks. Ecc. 10:18

• “You husbands show the same kind of love to your wives as Christ showed the church when he died, to make her holy and clean . . . “ Ephes. 5:26

So, be faithful to her, share

parenting responsibilities, take initiative

in home repairs, be the

spiritual leader.