Understanding Our Emotions

Objectives1. Students will identify emotions through verbal

and non-verbal clues2. Recognize the ways in which emotions impact

conflict and our ability to manage conflict.3. Recognize their thoughts about “triggers” and

how these thoughts influence their feelings.4. Identify reasons for developing alternative

strategies for managing their anger

How does your behavior affect the way you look at a conflict?

What are emotions?What are some positive emotions?What are some negative emotions?What do they do for us?How can they help us?Are there some situations where negative emotions can be helpful to us?

How many of you think you have trouble controlling your anger? Are you comfortable expressing anger? How do you respond when someone gets angry with you?

Earlier we discussed two ways to respond to conflict - Withdrawal - Attack

They are also ways of expressing anger. They can have physical symptoms…thought it can be dangerous to repress anger that is not a justification for attacking someone in anger.

To learn to deal with anger you need to recognize your own personal anger chain.

There are 5 parts:1. Knowing what pushes your buttons (what

really makes you angry)2. Evaluating the event (your thoughts about

what has happened)3. Recognizing your feelings4. Recognizing what you do when your buttons

get pushed5. Recognizing the consequences of your

behavior.

Turn to Yellow WorksheetYour Personal Anger Chain

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Add notes under the proper category

Take notes….The anger chain can be thought of as TTFBC

Triggers: Events that set off my own anger chain. Something unpleasant happens internally or externally and our buttons get pushed

Thoughts: My own thinking about the event, which tells me how I should feel about it. Jerk! Unfair! They’ll pay! I’ll get you!

Feelings: How I feel about an event, flowing from my attitudes and beliefs. Why is this event so terrible? hurt, scared, angry,etc.

Take notes….The anger chain can be thought of as TTFBCBehaviors: What do I typically do when this kind

of event occurs? Run, withdraw, fight, cry, etcConsequences: What are the consequences,

positive & negative, of my action? You’re grounded, suspended, punished, rejected, embarrassed, etc.

Create a mnemonic for TTFBC and place at the top ofthis worksheet

Anger seems to be the emotion that most gets us into trouble. Even if we know strategies, anger seems to prevent us from using them.

Block 1: Anger and its consequences

Block 2: Technique to control anger

Directions: In the first block illustrate what anger looks like and the consequences which may arise from anger. Take time to do this with consideration; use color; use thought bubbles. DO NOT USE THE SECOND BLOCK as that is for use later in the curriculum.

Illustrate what angerlooks like and the consequenceswhich may arise

Finish this one laterDon’t do for now

Keeping Self-Control Worksheet Illustrate anger and its

consequences in block 1 Do not use block 2 (that is for

use later this week)TURN IT IN

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Quiz and Reflection

Strategies for Controlling Anger

Counting and breathing - try it Guided imagery -Beach?

Mountains? Sunset? Positive self talk - what is this?

Homework Complete worksheet where you

identify 2 personal anger issues and the TTFBC process

Strategies for Controlling Anger

Counting and breathing - try it Guided imagery - listen to my

example - draw your own Positive self talk - what is this?

Changing Our Waysrewrite in your own noteson provided graphic organizer - add visuals

Components of Self-Control Determine what is causing you to lose control Identify what you are feeling-anger? anxiety?

fear? Determine why you are feeling that way – what

happened? Talk about the situation to someone sympathetic If you think you need help, ask for it Think about the positive ways in which you want

the situation resolved Try to keep your cool Accept what cannot be changed, and live with it

List these on your notes

Block 1: Anger and its consequences

Block 2: Technique to control anger

Directions. Add the second block - make sure to include some of the anger controlling strategies we have discussed

Already completed an Illustration of what anger looks like and the consequences which may arise

Finish this one now

LADDER OF PREJUDICE

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“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world’ indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

-Margaret Mead

EXTERMINATION AVOIDANCESPEECH

ATTACKDISCRIMINATION What do these terms

mean?

Where should they go on the ladder?

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Take a post-it note and write on it something that has happened in the school or community that could be posted on the ladder.

Prejudice still existsDiscrimination still exists