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Table of ContentsWelcome to the Rest of Your Life ........................ 4Contributors ........................................................... 5Picks for the Body & Soul ..................................... 6

Section 1: EnlightenedLife’s Stories Through a Lens ............................... 7Giving the Gift of You .......................................... 10What We’re Reading ............................................. 12

Section 2: RelationshipsRaising Daughters ................................................ 13Confidense Breeds Success ................................. 15

Section 3: Well-beingHealthy Kids Start at Home ................................ 16Eating for the Heart ............................................. 18Heart-Healthy Recipes ........................................ 19

Section 4: ImageHappy Feet .......................................................... 20Central Oregon Chic ........................................... 21Save Your Skin .................................................... 23The Style and the Shape ..................................... 24

Section 5: AchieveLiving from the Heart ........................................ 25Juggling Life With Career .................................. 28What To Do - Event Picks ................................... 30

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MagazineTeaching strength

Building and maintaining self-esteem is a predominant challenge of parenting.

Eleanor Roosevelt most succinctly depicted the concept of self-esteem when she said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”

Our nation’s First Lady during two of the most trying times in our country’s history — the Great Depression and World War II — Eleanor Roosevelt found time to become one of the preeminent 20th century leaders in civil rights and the enhancement of issues facing working women.

She remained an advocate until her death in 1962. Her work helped to empower women and minorities to realize her concept of self-esteem — that self-esteem is about personal strength, a matter that no act of attrition has the power to affect.

I admire Eleanor Roosevelt and how she demonstrated to a generation of women that it’s OK to be strong, to be vocal and to be sure of their convictions. She was given a soapbox, and from it her message was clear — and people listened.

I also have a soapbox and an audience, and with this audience I also wish to share a concept of confidence and self-esteem.

My 1-year-old daughter, Maya, doesn’t currently lack the confidence she needs to get through the day-to-day challenges of the world. She marches toward each

new day with a perceived level of ownership that declares, “You will be conquered!”

Unfortunately that’s probably going to change one day. As she grows older, goes to school, begins melding with different personalities and starts to perceive weaknesses in herself, she — like all of us have — will certainly struggle with self-doubt.

It could be argued that the Information Age — an environment of technology, access and the prevalence of mixed messages — has worked to magnify the level of self-doubt in young people.

The learning experience of growing up — the good with the bad — is something to which I feel Maya should be exposed. My hope, though, is that as the journey occurs, her self-esteem remains intact.

In this edition of U Magazine, we discuss the various challenges of raising happy and healthy daughters in today’s world (see pages 13-14). While parenting is still one of the toughest jobs out there, the good news is that a little effort can go a long way in ensuring your daughter remains happy, healthy and grounded.

—Ben Montgomery, U Magazine Editor

Editor’s Note

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Welcome to the rest of your life. by Lori Gleichman, for The Bulletin

The heart of our choicesCaring for your own heart is caring for the hearts of your loved ones

Welcome to the rest of your life ... heeding the wake up calls that come your way, especially when it involves your heart.

Both of my parents have heart disease and, as a result, live with cares and concerns that perhaps could have been avoided given what we know about lifestyle today and what they knew 50 years ago when they were coming of age.

In fiction like the TV hit “Mad Men,” mid-century America was a time when a certain joie de vie permeated the air—along with the cigarette smoke. Industrialization was generating new wealth, and with wealth came new habits.

Smoking was fine, martinis at lunch were common, living in the suburbs required two cars in the driveway, and busy moms made quick dinners from boxes and commercial cans.

In reality, my parents were like many other middle-class Americans who were among the first generation to work mostly at desks instead of on the farm or in the factory. A big color console TV became the centerpiece of our living room, and convenience foods complete with saturated fats, sugars and lots of salt filled the refrigerator and the pantry.

Just like the characters in “Mad Men,” it was the social thing to smoke and drink, and neither one of my parents ever consciously exercised. No one knew then it was wrong; it just was.

In contrast, my grandparents lived well into their 90s, part of a generation that lived

a healthier lifestyle, even if it was more out of necessity than intention.

Exercise wasn’t an appointment; it was the daily norm. They physically worked most of their lives—in their homes, in their businesses and on the ranch. Cars were a luxury so they actually did walk miles to school, to work and to run errands. And food grew on their land or was bought from local farmers.

While this generation often suffered diseases that are easily cured today, modern killers like Type 2 diabetes and obesity were relatively rare.

Me, I’m the generation on the other side that has been educated continually about everything good and bad, an education that began practically at birth.

We have been taught since elementary school that smoking is a leading cause of death from heart disease, emphysema and cancer. We’re counseled to shop the perimeter of the grocery store, drink wine only in moderation and try to fit in yoga between meetings and carpools.

The fact is we know so much more than our grandparents and parents did about healthy lifestyles, yet despite this knowledge, we often choose to ignore the information.

Until we get a personal wake up call. My wake up call came four years ago when

my dad’s diabetes lead to a heart attack and kidney failure. I’ve since lost more than 50 pounds by taking control of my nutrition and exercising regularly.

More recently, I’ve taken to counting my

daily sodium intake and monitoring my blood pressure to keep a closer eye on the hidden “killers” that now contribute to my mom’s heart disease.

Am I paranoid? Maybe. But I think the better word is honest. It’s hard to see people I love ill and hurting, even more so if I acknowledge that it was their life choices that contributed to their illnesses.

And while their difficulties are mine because we’re a family, it’s also been an opportunity to be more respectful of the finely tuned machine that is my body and reflective of the choices I make about how to treat it.

This issue of U Magazine is focused in many ways on hearts: the physical ones that beat in our bodies, and the symbolic ones that represent love. I believe the two are intertwined in infinite ways, and if I don’t take care of the one inside, I may break others I cherish the most.

The moment you realize that life can, and does, change in an instant is a profound moment in the journey of life.

Sometimes we learn that lesson as a child; sometimes we’re older. Sometimes we get pretty far along in life before circumstances hit with a force you never expected, shifting perspectives and

priorities forever. And the funny thing is that when this moment arrives, it’s usually never of your own making. Otherwise, this column would be called “Welcome to the life you planned ...” Instead, it’s a chance alignment of forces that make you realize this is the new normal. In other words, “Welcome to the rest of your life.”

— Lori Gleichman

... we know so much more than our grandparents and parents did about healthy lifestyles, yet despite this knowledge, we often choose to ignore the information. Until we get a personal wake up call.


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ANNISSA ANDERSON, a freelance writer and public relations consultant, also studied culinary arts and worked as a pastry chef in another life. Though she’s lived in the Northwest for the past 20 years, she spent her childhood living abroad.

SONDRA HOLTZMAN is a record keeper of an evolving life. A professional artist and founder of The Traveling Studio, her journals and sketchbooks reflect explorations afar and close to home. Sondra is a published author, storyteller and travel writer and loves kayaking with her miniature longhaired dachshund, Scout.

GAIL ELIZABETH KRETCHMER is a former CPA who prefers writing to counting beans. She’s a regular contributor to several local publications, an Internet blogger, and an occasional freelancer for corporate and nonprofit organizations. She recently earned a Masters in Fine Arts Degree in writing. Gail enjoys walking her dog and spending time with her husband and three teen-aged boys.

Bend has been home to LINDA ORCELLETTO and her husband, Joe, since 1996. Their “fur child” golden retriever keeps them busy with outdoor activities. When not pounding the keyboard or volunteering, she enjoys exploring the back roads and history of Oregon.

SUSAN THOMAS SPRINGER began her journalism career as a TV news reporter. She worked in corporate marketing, managing communications for a bank and launching high-tech products. Today, she’s a freelance writer living in Sisters where she and her husband enjoy raising their twins.

BUNNY THOMPSON is an internationally published writer living in Sisters. She cruised on a sailboat for six years and 40,000 miles where she wrote a novel and published travel and adventure articles in national and international magazines such as Sail, Cruising World, Southern Boating and Island Scene.

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Capturing Life’s Stories through a

Natalie Hull is a young woman who has explored many paths in life, yet they all seem to have led to the one place she is now.

As an independent documentary filmmaker, Hull is combining technical expertise with a passion for telling stories in film, focusing on a special niche: capturing families on film during a special event, a life-changing adventure or even over the course of a “year in the life.”

“One question I often get is, how is my work different than a home video?” Hull said.

The answer, she said, is planning and production quality.

“It’s one thing to bring out the video camera when the kids are playing in the backyard,” she said. “It’s another to have a professionally planned and produced film that tells a story rather

than just captures just a few moments in time.”

Hull brings a variety of interests and experience to the film production company she started in 2009. She has combined an undergraduate degree in psychology, a career as a finance research associate with a international equities firm, a brief stint as an actress in Los Angeles and a lifelong love of photography and film into a new career that came together almost by accident.

“I was helping my mom with an academic project focusing on how language shapes perception,” she said.

As a part of the research, Hull was recording audio and video of their subjects, including families, and she realized

what a rich tool video was in capturing the complete essence of a person and the fascinating dynamics of conversation and interpersonal interactions. Over time, she realized there was a potential business in the works.

Lensby Lori Gleichman, for The Bulletin Special Projects Department

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With a little planning, some financing and a stint at the San Francisco School of Digital Filmmaking supporting her, she launched Forget Me Not Films last fall.

“Parents regularly schedule professional photography for their families and children,” Hull said, pointing out a drawback to

still photography is that it’s “one-dimensional.”

“With video, I can capture the whole person, the whole relationship … how people move, their energy, their emotions,” she said.

She says that working with children is an especially wonderful experience as they are curious about strangers with cameras but still uninhibited as they go about their activities and conversations.

As a result, children and families are the focus of her business.

“Children grow and change so quickly … parents want to hold on to precious moments,” Hull said.

Jill and Randy Wild of Bend wanted to capture their experiences with their child before he was even born, hiring Hull to document the pregnancy in 2009 and the birth of their

son, Parker, in November. They have since asked Hull to take on the additional project of following Parker through the first year of his life.

According to Jill, they found the process intense but worthwhile

“With video, I can capture the whole person, the whole relationship … how people move, their energy, their emotions.”

Randy and Jill Wild of Bend are interviewed by Hull about their pregnancy.


as an investment in time, money and the risk of sharing their authentic selves.

“Natalie is a great interviewer and put us at such ease,” Jill said. “I was amazed sometimes at what I shared with her and the camera. And now watching the two films that are done, I think, ‘Wow, that’s really how I felt.’ And I’m so thankful that I have that moment to enjoy again and again.”

Hull agreed that it’s always surprising what people reveal, even between couples that have been together for years.

“During the interviews, people often slow down and reflect on what they’re talking

about,” she said. “Their comments are very thoughtful.”

Then, the cameras pick up other layers that transcend words, including body language, expressions and how people watch each other.

“It’s often as much about what they don’t say,” Hull said, pointing out that emotions radiate from people in different ways.

From Hull’s perspective, completing a documentary is an investment of time, skill and talent as she takes hours of video and distills it into the most meaningful presentation she can.

A 15-minute finished film, for example, can be the result of more than eight hours of video that is shot, reviewed, documented and then pieced together to tell each family’s unique story.

She finishes each project with additional layers of copy, images and music to create a complete film.

“My goal is to bring out the best of them on film,” said Hull. “I want to tell a great story that everyone can watch and enjoy, and create something that will be treasured forever.”

LEFT: Hull interacts with a family that is being filmed for the production of a personal documentary. View sample

family documentaries at www.forgetmenotfilms.com. Contact

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Giving the

Gift of YouWhile volunteer opportunities abound in Central Oregon, finding a match takes time.

by Linda Orcelletto, for The Bulletin Special Projects Department

Research shows that volunteering keeps us happier, healthier and more connected with our communities. Volunteering has proven to be the backbone of our society. The calendar year 2010 was even proclaimed the Year of the Volunteer throughout Central Oregon.

“It’s human nature to want to give of ourselves,” said Betsy Warriner, executive director for Volunteer Connect (formerly Volunteer Insights) of Bend. “When you volunteer, you are serving others as well as yourself.”

Making the MatchTo make the best match, and make

the experience positive for everyone, both the prospective volunteer and organization should be aware of the following:

PASSION AND MOTIVATION. Know what drives you. If you love kids, volunteering for an organization working with animals isn’t a good fit.

SPECIFIC SKILLS AND EXPERTISE. Only you know the answer. Tell the volunteer coordinator.

TIME COMMITMENT. Know how much time you have to give and how much the task requires.

SUPERVISION. Determine if you work best alone or with a supervisor. Learn how to effectively communicate with the supervisor.

TRAINING. Specialized work may require training or education. Find out what is required.

Know expectations, yet set boundaries.

PHYSICAL ABILITY. If a certain capability is required or if there are limitations, be clear.

Giving Your Best“A positive attitude

is important when volunteering,” said Taffy Gleason, executive director for Bend’s Community Center. “Not all volunteer jobs are glamorous, but all are

equally important and critical to the organization.”

Both Gleason and Warriner agree volunteering needs to be fun and rewarding. Here are suggestions on how to be a good volunteer:

TREAT VOLUNTEERING AS A JOB.Be on time, not too early since they may not be ready. If you are unable to volun-teer or will be late, call.

LISTEN AND LEARN. Be respectful of other viewpoints. Don’t feel as though you can change the world without first being aware of the issues.

SHOW INITIATIVE. If you notice something can done more efficiently, offer positive

Expanding Your World

“Not all volunteer jobs are glamorous, but all are equally important and critical to the organization.”

Volunteers at Bend Community Center prepare

food for their Sunday community meal. Photo by Lyle Cox.

Dave Rink (left), volunteer, with Al and Brooke Hewitt during the COBA 2009 Ramp-A-Thon. Photo courtesy of Liz Rink.


suggestions. Make sure to ask first; there may be particular reason for doing so.

If it takes awhile for an organization to call you back, don’t give up. Now might be the time to offer your services as a volunteer coordinator.

IF YOU WANT TO BRING OTHERS, GET PERMISSION. There may not be enough to do, which can lead to disappointment.

If you have small children, ask if you are able to volunteer from home.

“Volunteering is as easy as finding something you want to accomplish, whether it is a one-time event or ongoing,” said Warriner. “Then, find a friend to join you.”

Discover Volunteer Opportunities

Volunteers are in demand 365 days of the year. In addition to contacting a specific organization, the following are ways to find volunteer opportunities:

THE BULLETIN: Each Sunday, The Bulletin has a volunteer search in its Community Life section

ON THE WEB: The following organizations list volunteer opportunities on their Web sites:

Volunteer Connect: www.volunteerconnectnow.org

211 (through United Way): www.211.org

Points of Light Foundation (national): www.pointsoflight.org or www.serve.gov

Retired and Senior Volunteer Program (RSVP) for volunteers 55 and over. Phone: 541-548-2206 x309

FRIENDS AND FAMILY: People close to you can often guide you toward volunteer opportunities via word of mouth.

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What We’re Reading by Bunny Thompson, for The Bulletin

“Restless” by William BoydCamalli’s Dollies Wednesday Book Club

“Restless” takes place in 1939

in Britain and the United States. The story unfolds on parallel tracks as Sally Gilmartin, born Eva Delectorskaya, a Russian emigrate recruited into the British Secret Service in 1939, reveals her clandestine past in an autobiography that she gives to her daughter, Ruth, a graduate student and single mother living a dull civilian life in Oxford in 1976. “In 1976, the daughter is the same age as her mother was in 1939; this juxtaposition brought them closer to revealing the truth,” says one member. “It has a bit of a slow start, but stay with it for many twists and turns in this spy thriller.”

“The Pearl” by John SteinbeckThe Chapter Chics

First released in 1947, “The Pearl” is

one of Steinbeck’s greatest works. He captures moralistic causes such as poverty and greed in the story of Kino, a Japanese pearl diver and a fisherman. After finding, then subsequently losing, the Great Pearl, Kino’s family and their simple way of life

is turned upside down. “Reading a classic reminded us that classics are in that category for a reason—they are timeless and beautifully written,” says one member. “The sentences and paragraphs in Steinbeck’s book flowed with the expertise of a great writer. Our group will no doubt choose another classic soon.”

“Evidence: Poems by Mary Oliver”Bibliobabes

The Bibliobabes Book Group shifted

gears for January and read and discussed the poetry of Mary Oliver. This was their first time reading works of a poet for their book group. Each member chose two or three poems from Oliver’s various collections and read them aloud. The discussion following the readings found the group marveling at Oliver’s simplicity of words and strength in each message. “We came away with an enhanced appreciation of poetry and will likely begin each year with more poetry. It was a great way to start our year ‘out of the box’ and explore the unfamiliar,” says one member.

“The Women” by T.C. BoyleWine Around the Table

Frank Lloyd Wright was a genius and a womanizer,

as evidenced by his numerous failed marriages. In this novel, T.C. Boyle moves the narrative backwards in time (a style this book group felt was cumbersome) and follows Wrights’ life through the accounts of four women. The book is narrated by a fictional Japanese apprentice. “We were surprised and amused,” says one member, “that at one time adultery could be prosecuted in the courts by the Mann Act.”

Learn what some long-time Central Oregon book clubs are reading and how they felt about their selections.

My Favorite Book: Chris Telfer. Oregon State Senator, Bend

“If You’re Riding a Horse and It Dies, Get Off”Oregon State Senator Chris Telfer, a local community leader, CPA and political activist, was inaugurated as state senator in January 2009 representing most of Deschutes County. Telfer is an avid golfer and also plays guitar. Her favorite book, “If You’re Riding a Horse and It Dies, Get Off” by Jim Grant and Char Forsten, is a humorous allegory about well-intentioned people with unrealistic ideas—and a dead horse.

“Jim Grant and Char Forsten hit the nail on the head,” Telfer said. “The cartoon paperback clearly illustrates how we attempt to revive systems that are absolutely dead. Instead of finding a new horse or other modes of transportation, we throw money at archaic systems, continue to have task forces look at the dead horse and never open our eyes to creative, new ways to do things.”

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by Susan Thomas Springer, for The Bulletin Special Projects Photos by Nicole Werner

“The protected place in space and time that we once called childhood has grown shorter.” — Mary Pipher Ph. D., Author of Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls

We’ve always wanted to raise happy daughters, but now the job is harder.

Along with baking cookies, reading “Little House on the Prairie” and visiting grandparents, we must consider iPods, texting and the social

media. Girls have easy access to Web sites giving glamorous instructions on how to be anorexic, what reality show starlets did last night and the latest fashions in body piercing.

In the midst of this din of global media, how can we raise happy, self-confident daughters?

“It all goes back to basics—setting limits, modeling good behavior and creating those times when we can connect,” said Cindy Greer, a licensed social worker specializing in

counseling for adolescents and families.

Local moms agree that basic guidelines still help navigate through the maze of media and build girls’ self-esteem.

It’s wise to take a refresher on these basics considering the vast amount of media kids consume. The Kaiser Family Foundation released a national survey last month showing media consumption among teens has risen dramatically.

Technology allows nearly

Raising happy, healthy girls a greater challenge—but still possible—in today’s modern world

Raising Daughters

Darlene Miller (right) with daugher Lana Wittmer (left) and grand-daughter Bailey.

Patti Widmer consoles her daughter

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24-hour media access for children and teens, with mobile devices like iPods and cell phones in their pockets and beds. Today, 8- to 18-year-olds spend an average of seven hours and 38 minutes using entertainment media each day.

Because they can media multitask (surfing YouTube while watching TV), they manage to pack a total of 10 hours and 45 minutes worth of media content into those seven and a half hours. Only three in 10 kids say their parents place rules limiting their media use.

One Bend mom does place limits on what her 4-year-old twin girls watch. Patti Widmer prefers public television, but mostly her girls make crafts, go to swim lessons and do things.

“It’s going to get harder, but at this age, I’m still in charge of the remote,” said Widmer.

She had more freedom as a girl and was allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. Today, Widmer says it’s easier to see the dangers in the world, and so she’s a more protective mother.

Widmer says because she and her husband are acutely aware of the importance of building self-esteem, they stay busy with fun activities rather than spending time in front of screens. They take their girls to ballet lessons and to sporting events with female athletes. They talk about their family as a team who works together to accomplish things, such as preparing for a trips.

“They count the days to the weekend because they know it is family fun time,” said Widmer.

Another woman, a mom of two grown girls and grandmother of two pre-schoolers, tried many activities to find the things

her girls excelled at to build their self-esteem.

“The word boring was a bad word in our house. Create your own excitement,” Darlene Miller said.

Miller says if you don’t find the activities that can benefit your kids, then you can do it yourself. When she and her husband saw no church activities for middle and high school kids, they formed new programs for those age groups.

Also, Miller found teachable moments in the face of not-so-positive examples. When she and her girls saw a disrespectful attitude in other kids, they would talk later about why that wasn’t good behavior.

Miller’s daughter, Lana Wittmer, tries to find the balance between supporting her girl’s interest in playing dress-up and praising her for the person she is inside.

“I tell her she looks just as beautiful with her lip gloss on as without—it’s just fun to play with,” says Wittmer.

Wittmer uses esteem-boosting lessons her parents taught her, including taking kids aside to discipline them rather than doing it in front of others.

Greer says that while media messages can inundate girls with how they “should” look and act, it’s important to remind parents that it is within the family structure that kids learn to navigate the world.

She knows from her counseling experience that family structures of all types, including families with working parents, can create a sense of family unity. Parents can instill values, openly discuss a variety of issues, and find activities where kids will open up.

“Just listen,” Greer says. “You’ll learn so much.”Piper and Peyton, daughters of Patti Widmer.


It was once believed that boys were naturally better than girls when it came to math and science. Conversely, girls were thought to be stronger in language and writ-ing. This point was demonstrated when a talking version of Barbie said, “Math is hard.”Fortunately, Barbie stopped talk-ing!Parents have a responsibility to give their children gender-equal opportunities. The more confi -dently we as adults model math to children, they more likely we are to break down some of the social barriers to teaching math.We can encourage confi dence in math and science with the follow-ing tips:

• Encourage your kids early!

• Visit science museums or sci-ence classes and camps.

• As you think about toys, engage both genders in building toys, sci-

ence kits and games that encour-age critical thinking skills. Popu-lar board games like Chutes and Ladders, Yahtzee and Connect Four can develop number sense, computation speed and accuracy, and problem solving skills. Card and dice games also teach lessons in math, memorization and prob-ability.

• Use your child’s allowance to formulate mathematical problems

and teach her about saving. For older children, relate percentage problems to their allowance.

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Healthy Kids start at Homeby Lori Gleichman, for The Bulletin Special Projects

According to recent studies from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDCP), some of the leading contributors to cardio-vascular disease (CVD)—obesity, high cholesterol and blood pressure, Type 2 diabetes, sleep apnea—are showing up in younger and younger children all the time.

Despite boasting of lifestyles rich with activities and outdoor recreation, Central Oregon isn’t immune to these childhood issues.

Last year, 26 percent of incoming

freshman at Summit High School were overweight or obese, and 46 percent of 1,000 children tested in Jefferson County (between Head Start and 11th grade) were technically obese, said Bruce Brundage M.D., medical director of the Heart Institute of the Cascades

“If a child is obese, there’s an 80 percent chance they’ll be an obese adult,” he said.

Brundage is co-founder of Kids@Heart, a collaborative initiative to increase awareness of obesity and the connection to health and heart issues. The organization’s goals are to develop programming for kids and advocate for policies that support healthier environments.

“Obesity leads to diabetes, and diabetes leads to heart disease,” he added. “Eighty percent of people with Type 2 diabetes die of heart disease. So, that’s almost a death sentence.”

It’s a harsh prediction, but a very real possibility for many. Obesity and subsequent health issues like Type 2 diabetes in children is considered at epidemic levels according to the CDPD, “and parents are a huge part of the

problem,” Brundage said.

Parents establish the environment and expectations very early on for their children in terms of eating and exercise.

“These are the two leading preventive factors, but many parents aren’t setting good examples. They aren’t eating healthy diets or getting regular exercise, so neither are their children.”

So, Kids@Heart turned the equation around. It decided to focus on delivering education directly to children and youths instead of adults.

“We believe we can start with the kids and then incorporate the parents into healthier habits,” Brundage said.

“We think letting kids be kids is at the heart of the solution,” added Kate Wells, director of outreach and communications at the Heart Institute of

Tips for Getting Kids to Exercise and Eat HealthySet a good example and make exercise part of the daily routine for everyone.

• Take a walk together around the neighborhood or along one of Central Oregon’s many trails. Make the playground the destination and the reward to encourage a few more minutes of activity.• Ride bikes together, kick the soccer ball around the park, or take a martial arts or dance class together. • Let the children set the pace. Some

kids don’t like organized sports; don’t force them to play on teams. Instead find something they can do alone or in small groups like dance, running or tennis.

Set a good example and make healthy meals a part of the daily routine.

• Remember, you are the adult and get to select and purchase what the family eats. Shop the perimeter of the grocery store, choosing foods described in “Eating for the Heart” on the next page.• If a child does whine and beg for things you don’t want to buy (sugary cereals, soda, chips) don’t take them grocery shopping with you.

• Educate yourself about nutritional needs, how to read labels and appropriate portions. • Treats are fine in moderation, but no child needs ice cream every day.

Promote healthy eating and activity as part of family life, not just “diet and exercise”

• Get the whole family involved in things like a regular Sunday hike, bowling, cross-country skiing, bike riding or wall climbing. • Let the kids choose a special activity every week. • Give the gift of activity like sports equipment, a ping-pong table, dance classes or ski lessons, active games or

special outings. • If you don’t know how to cook, then learn. Then teach your children how to cook. Then start cooking together. Teach them that cookies are made from ingredients, not “born” in plastic wrap.• Go to the Farmer’s Market together and let kids “explore” the different stalls and find something new they want to try. • Make mealtime family time rather than a quick dash through the kitchen or the drive-through. Studies show that families that eat together are stronger in many ways, not just in terms of health.

Source: The Mayo Clinic


the Cascades, who also serves a secondary role as the program director for Kids@Heart.

Take walking and playing, for example.

“No matter how close they live to school, kids don’t walk to school anymore because parents are busy and afraid,” Brundage said.

So, Kids@Heart is working with Commute Options on the Safe Routes to School program, which encourages bike safety, advocates to improve built environments like sidewalks and crosswalks, and involves law enforcement in making sure any safety concerns along routes are addressed.

It’s also working closely with the Bend Metro Parks & Recreation District (BMPRD) to encourage playing and other activities in neighborhood and community parks.

According to Bruce Ronning, Planning and Development Director for BMPRD, kids are at the center of parks planning, and every park developed in the last 10 years has included a playground area and open space for play.

It’s also the policy to develop parks within and near neighborhoods so children have easier and safer access to the outdoor opportunities they represent.

The goal is to help kids integrate activity and exercise into their daily routines. If kids are walking to school (perhaps in an organized “Walking School Bus” format with which parents may be more comfortable) they’re getting exercise every day. If kids have a neighborhood park within walking or biking distance and

are encouraged to get outside to play, they’re getting exercise every day.

And exercising every day as a kid can lead to a lifetime habit as an adult.

Nutrition is another area Kids@Heart plans to focus on more fully in the future. Right now it’s working with nutritionists in the schools to provide students with healthier selections, take home options like backpacks full of healthy snacks for the weekend, and more menu labeling and teaching kids how to read them so they can make healthier food choices for themselves.

“The hope is that information and behaviors like this will ‘trickle up’ from kids to their parents,” said Wells.

“If kids are asking to go to the park, maybe the parents will

go along. If kids are reading the nutrition information on the menu at McDonald’s maybe the parents will pay attention too. If kids are asking for fresh fruit instead of unhealthy snacks, maybe the parents will change their shopping habits.”

Another key philosophy of Kids@Heart is to focus on health instead of physical appearance.

Changes in young people participating with Kids@Heart are measured in terms of body mass index, blood pressure, lipid levels, and the Harvard Step Test to see how rapidly the heart recovers after strenuous activity.

“It is not about how they look,” said Brundage, although he’s aware of the sensitive issue of appearance for young children and adults. “It’s about their health.”

According to the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey from 1976 to 2006, the prevalence of obesity in preschool-aged children (ages 2 to 5 years) increased from 5 percent to 12.4 percent; it increased 4 points to 17

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Eating for the Heart by Annissa Anderson, for The Bulletin Special Projects Photos by Nicole Werner

Want to live a long, healthy life? Eating a heart-healthy diet, along with exercising regularly, is a good way to start.

The first step toward better heart health is getting to know which kinds of foods cause heart problems, and which can improve your heart health.

FatsOne of the principles of

healthy eating is avoiding rich, heavy foods since the main culprits of heart disease are unhealthy fats and cholesterol. If you understand the difference between unhealthy and healthy fats and know their sources, you can change your eating habits for the better.

Saturated and trans fats, found mostly in animal fats, hydrogenated oils and tropical oils (like coconut, palm, cottonseed and palm-kernel oils) should be avoided, or at least limited, in any diet.

Concerned that a diet free of butter and bacon will take the flavor out of food? Not to

worry—there are many flavorful fats that are actually good for your heart.

In limited quantities, olive and canola oil—monounsaturated fats—are good choices for heart-healthy cooking, as are polyunsaturated fats, found in nuts and seeds.

Some fats, such as those found in some kinds of cold-water

fish, actually work against high cholesterol caused by saturated fats. Foods with omega-3 fatty acids can lower blood fats (triglycerides) and should be incorporated into your diet on a daily or weekly basis.

Fish like salmon, mackerel and herring, as well as flaxseed,

walnuts, soybeans and canola oil, are high in omega-3 fatty acids.

Eating a heart-healthy diet does not have to mean lowering your protein intake. It simply means that the meat and dairy products you eat should be lower in fat. Choose low and non-fat milk, cheese and yogurt products, egg whites (instead of whole eggs), skinless poultry and lean cuts of pork and beef (or, better yet, buffalo or yak meat).

FiberAnother key factor in lowering

artery-clogging cholesterol is eating a high-fiber diet.

Vegetables and fruits, in addition to being chock full of vitamins and antioxidants and low in calories, are rich in dietary fiber. Eat fresh or frozen vegetables whenever possible.

Vegetables that are raw or quickly cooked maintain all or most of their nutrients, while canned or stewed vegetables loose some of their nutrients in the cooking process.

Selecting whole grain products and baked goods is another way to increase your dietary fiber intake. Whole wheat flour, brown rice and oatmeal are all great examples of whole grains.

For a powerful boost to your heart-healthy diet,

incorporate flaxseed


into some of your recipes. Either whole or ground, flaxseed is not only high in fiber, it is high in cholesterol-reducing omega-3 fatty acids.

Other ConsiderationsThe last major component to

a heart-healthy diet is reducing the amount of salt in your diet. Salt is known to cause high blood pressure, which is a risk factor for heart disease.

If your diet is loaded with packaged or prepared foods, the

best way to reduce your sodium intake is to eat only whole or minimally-processed foods.

Working heart healthy foods into your diet can be easier than you might expect.

A fun exercise to start with is to take a food craving that involves a rich food —a creamy macaroni and cheese dinner, perhaps—and satisfy the same craving with a heart-healthy recipe. By substituting a few healthy, yet flavorful, ingredients, you might find you

enjoy that whole wheat penne tossed with olive oil, sautéed kale, kalamata olives and toasted walnuts very much!

Small changes in the way you cook can also make a big difference over time in your heart health. Using a non-hydrogenated margarine in place of butter on toast and either canola or olive oil in place of butter or lard in frying is a good place to start.

Steaming, quickly sautéing or stir-frying vegetables—better

yet, eating them raw—is a more healthful choice. Grilling or broiling meats, which allows fat to drain away from the meat, is a healthier cooking method with flavorful results.

So instead of focusing on what you might miss, start finding heart-healthy foods that are brimming with vitamins, fiber, good fats, and most importantly, great flavor.

Here are a couple of recipes to get you started on a new heart-healthy lifestyle.

This low-fat, moist quick-bread is packed with great ingredients. It offers an extra healthy boost with flaxseeds—rich in omega-3 fatty acids—and pumpkin, which contains cancer-fighting beta-carotene. (From “The New Mayo Clinic Cookbook”)

Ingredients:3 tablespoons canola oil3/4 cup canned pumpkin puree1/2 cup honey3 tablespoons firmly packed brown sugar2 eggs, lightly beaten1 cup whole wheat flour1/2 cup all-purpose flour2 tablespoons whole flaxseed1/2 teaspoon baking powder1/2 teaspoon ground allspice1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg1/4 teaspoon ground cloves1/4 teaspoon salt2 tablespoons chopped hazelnuts

Method:1. Preheat the oven to 350°F. Lightly coat an 8-by-4-inch loaf pan with cooking oil spray.

2. In a large bowl, using an electric mixer on low speed, beat together the canola oil, pumpkin puree, honey, brown sugar and eggs until well blended.

3. In a small bowl, whisk together the flours, flaxseed, baking powder, allspice, cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves and salt. Add the flour mixture to the pumpkin mixture and beat on medium speed until well blended.

4. Pour the batter into the prepared pan. Sprinkle the hazelnuts evenly over the top and press down gently to lodge the nuts into the batter. Bake until a toothpick inserted into the center of the loaf comes out clean, about 50 to 55 minutes. Let cool in the pan on a wire rack for 10 minutes. Turn the loaf out of the pan onto the rack and let cool completely. Cut into 12 slices and serve.

Heart-Healthy RecipesThis recipe (adapted from “NIGELLA EXPRESS: Good Food Fast” by Nigella Lawson) very simply accomplishes a mouth-watering combination of sweet and savory flavors and both tender and crisp textures, while offering up a healthy portion of Omega-3 fatty acids. Mirin is a Japanese sweet rice wine that can be found in the Asian food section of many supermarkets.

Ingredients:4 tablespoons mirin3 tablespoons light brown sugar4 tablespoons soy sauce or tamari

4 6-ounce pieces salmon, cut from the thick part of the fillet2 tablespoons rice vinegar 1-2 scallions, halved and shredded lengthwise into fine strips

Method:1. Mix the mirin, brown sugar and soy sauce in a shallow dish long enough to fit all 4 pieces of salmon, and marinate the salmon in it for 3 minutes on the first side and 2 minutes on the second. Meanwhile, heat a large non-stick frying pan on the stove.

2. Cook the salmon flesh side down in the hot, dry pan for 2 minutes, until seared. Then turn the salmon over, add the marinade and cook for another 2 minutes.

3. Remove the salmon to plates, add the rice vinegar to the hot pan, and cook for 2 to 5 minutes, until the sauce becomes syrupy.

4. Pour the glaze over the salmon and top with scallion strips. Serve with rice or noodles.

Pictured at the bottom of the opposite page.

Mirin-Glazed Salmon (Serves 4)

Pumpkin-Hazelnut Bread (Makes 12 Slices)

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FASHION FORWARD

Springtime in Central Oregon is a span of muddy transitions, a season when a morning commute may begin under the warmth of the sun and end in a parking lot covered with packed snow.“You defi nitely don’t want to be stuck on the ice with heels on,” said Christy Bernheim, owner of Birkenstock of Bend.Considering the schizophrenic nature of weather in the high desert, you want footwear that’s both functional and practical, yet stylish and long-lasting. To guide you in the right

direction, Bernheim offers the follow-ing suggestions for selecting footwear to meet your needs during an unpre-dictable season:

PROTECTIONConsider the likely elements of a Central Oregon winter/spring, then look for footwear that will combat these elements. Ankle height and interior lining work together to keep your feet warm and dry when you’re out and about.Some leather footwear is treated at the factory to offer a level of water protection, while shoes lined with GOR-TEX achieve an optimal level of waterproofi ng.

BREATHABILITYThe beauty of GOR-TEX — and other materials such as eVent and Sym-patex — is that it’s also a breathable material, which Bernheim says is another important feature to look for in transitional footwear.

“You don’t want to feel like you’re feet are in a plastic bag,” she said.Footwear brands such as Bogs and Clarks both offer the marriage of waterproofi ng and breathability that customers covet.

COMFORTConsider your lifestyle and where you will likely be wearing the foot-wear. Try on several pairs, and once purchased, wear them around your home to ensure lasting comfort be-fore wandering outdoors.“Everyone is so different,” Bernheim said. “Don’t get caught up on the size. You need to fi nd the shoe that feels right for you.”

STYLE & VALUEWhile Bernheim admits that style is relative, most high-end footwear manufacturers offer a variety of fash-ionable choices. Just don’t compro-mise long-term comfort.“Style is nothing if it’s not comfort-able,” she said.Also, spend the money to invest in shoes with longevity in comfort, sup-port and style.

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by Linda Orcelletto, for The Bulletin Special Projects Department

When discussing fashion, the Pacific Northwest typically doesn’t come to mind as a fashion-forward mecca. But it’s had its moments.

Seattle was the birth place of the grunge look, and the Northwest took environmental fashion to the forefront by introducing organic materials and incorporating into everyday wear.

Closer to home, we’ve developed our own styles that meld high and casual fashions with the outdoor lifestyle persistent through the High Desert—styles that are functional, transition well from season to season and are easy to care for.Call it Central Oregon Chic.“Women (in Central Oregon) look

for clothing that crosses over fashion and performance,” said Dan McGarigle, owner of Pine Mountain Sports in Bend.

“Especially today, women p r e f e r

h i g h e r q u a l i t y c lo t h i n g that has

functionality, yet is flattering.”To pin down

a particular feature or trend that define’s today’s “Central Oregon Chic” is difficult, according to Shelley Singer, owner of Hot Box Betty in downtown Bend.

“Fashion is an attitude,” she said. “Women in Bend definitely dress trendy. Right now, there is no one trend more popular than another, but we do combine them to make our own styles.”

Here are a few trends that stand out this season:

Polyester SpandexLightweight and packable items made

of polyester Spandex that can be thrown in the washer and dryer are particularly popular: pants and tops for running and yoga, exercise clothing and even dresses or skirts to slip on after a workout.

DenimThough the colors, weight and look of

denim change over the years, the denim look is everlasting. Denim reflects the Central Oregon lifestyle of business casual, but can easily be transformed with a cashmere sweater or other accessory to be worn for a night on the town.

JagginA fusion of leggins and jeans, Jaggin is

the number one fashion must-have since fall, according to Singer.

Usable during cooler months as well as into the summer, polyester and spandex material is stretchy and comfortable. It can easily be worn with a wool or down sweater and boots in the winter, then with a T-shirt and flip flops as it warms up.

“Especially today, women prefer higher quality clothing that has functionality, yet is flattering.” said Dan McGarigle, owner of Pine Mountain Sports. “Women look for clothing that crosses over fashion and performance.”

WoolWool is no longer the itchy, scratchy

material you remember. It’s used in everything from socks to base layers, sweaters, hats, gloves and more.

Central Oregon CHICComfort and functionality take precedent in the

High Desert’s casual scene.

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Wool is naturally odor resistant (up to 15 times before washing), keeps its shape, doesn’t wrinkle or shrink, is machine washable and is ideal for trips. Particular items include the base layer, which is perfect for a day on the mountain under a shell or worn with a scarf while enjoying cocktails.

The Shak sweater by Ibex—not your ’70s ski sweater—has classic styling with a full or half zip.

DownLike wool, down has made advances

over the years. The “puff” jackets from years ago are no longer the norm.

Both McGargile and Collins agree a must have for Bend’s wide ranging temperatures is the down sweater. With looks of a lightweight jacket, the 800 down fill offers optimal insulation and maintains body temperature.

It can be worn under a shell in extreme temperatures, as outerwear, or indoors.

ScarvesScarves are the perfect year-round

accessory. Made of wool, cashmere, silk or cotton, scarves come in solids, patterns or tie-dye.

They can be worn around the neck while walking outside, as a shawl in a chilly office, to dress up jeans and a sweater, as a sarong over a swimsuit in the summer, or as a shoulder wrap over a sundress. Its uses are as vast as your imagination.

BootsBoots are popular in Bend because

they come in many shapes and styles, are long lasting and can fit individual tastes. Whether worn tromping through the snow, sitting next to a fireplace, worn with jeans or even a sun dress, boots are classic Central Oregon Chic.

Messenger BagsMessenger bags strap across your

body, are of substantial sizes and are hands-free. Whether used for carrying a change of clothing after a workout, baby items, a scarf, a lightweight jacket or a laptop, a messenger bag finishes

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Central Oregon’s climate can wreak havoc on the health and vibrancy of your skin, especially during the cool winter and spring months. Consider the following steps to protect your skin:

1. Shield From the SunWear sun screen all year round, even during the winter and early spring.“Just because it’s not hot out doesn’t mean the sun cannot dam-age your skin,” said Moon Rea, an esthetician with Oasis Day Spa in Bend. “Sometimes it can be harsh-er in the winter.”Look for SPF protection in some moisturizers.

2. MoisturizeChange from your light-weight summer moisturizer to a medium to ultra-rich moisturizer for the winter months.“The cold outside and the hot, forced air inside can really dry out your skin,” said Rea.

3. Exfoliate“Use an exfoliant to slough off dead skin and increase the ben-efi ts of your moisturizer,” said Bra-zil Fitzgerald, another esthetician at Oasis Day Spa.Removing the dead skin will in-crease your skin’s overall health and also help combat dullness, fi ne lines and wrinkles.

4. Use TonerA good toner will help stabilize the PH balance of your skin as well as increase its level of moisture.“You should use it if you have normal to dry skin rather than an astringent, which is for more oily skin,” said Rea.

5. Ban the BarGetting rid of the bar soap will work wonders in maintaining healthy skin during the cooler months of the year, according to Rea

“Most bar soap is full of alkaline and can strip your skin of its pro-tective barrier, which can really add to dryness,” she said.

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How do you determine your face’s shape? It’s called The Mirror Trick. You’ll need a mirror with good lighting, a headband and a grease pencil, lipstick, lip liner or other removable marker.

First, pull all of your hair away from your face using a headband or pull it into a tight ponytail.

Close one eye to help you focus and have a better perspective on your face.

Using a lip liner or some other type of removable marker, carefully draw the outline of your face.

Step back from the mirror and look at your outline. Compare it with the graphics shown here.

What’s Your Face Shape?

OvalOval is considered the perfect face shape because it’s symmetrical. Almost any style works for you, but you should avoid long bangs and generally keep your hair away from your face.

RectangleShort to medium looks best with fullness at the sides and wispy bangs to soften and balance a longer face.

RoundLook at hairstyles with fullness and height at the crown and avoid fullness at the cheeks or ears. Try a cut that falls just below the chin with soft, gradual layers and tapered ends.

SquareWispy bangs and an off-center part in a short to medium style will soften a square face and angular jaw. Try a long, sleek style that begins to taper at the jaw line.

HeartYou want to draw attention away from your pointy chin and toward your eyes and cheekbones. Try chin length or longer styles like a bob with layers that are swept forward at the bottom and side-swept bangs.

by Bunny Thompson, for The Bulletin Special Projects Department

What shape is your face? Oval? Heart? Round?We look in the mirror every day, yet most of us

have little clue about the shape of our faces. Why should we care?

Ask any model or famous actress, and she will be able to tell you the shape of her face because it’s the foundation for creating a classic look that complements her features, making them stand out in a photo or on the big screen.

“Whether it’s a haircut, color or make-up, I look for a person’s best feature and try to

accentuate that,” says Annie Simmons, a stylist at Oasis Day Spa in Bend. “Finding a hair stylist that really listens to you is key, but they should also be able to let you know if what you have in mind will really work for you. I find that as I cut and color, I not only rely on my training and technique, but I follow my intuition to take it further.”

Knowing your own face’s shape

is a good starting point to finding that perfect look. Jaw placement and forehead shape are the determining characteristics of its shape.

Six categories of face shapes are recognized by beauty specialists: oval, rectangle, round, square, heart and triangle. (See the guidelines below for each shape.)

“Most people are looking for their style to be individual and flattering,” says Catherine Lundberg at Look! Salon in Bend’s Northwest Crossing. “I look at their face shape and hair type first. Then I ask about their lifestyle, their job and how much time they’re willing to put into styling their hair each day. A woman needs to be comfortable and wear the hairstyle and not have the hairstyle wear her or dictate her lifestyle.”

Loree Martinelli, a hair stylist at Shag Salon in Bend, agrees, calling it “userability.”

“A certain hairstyle may work for a specific face shape, but it may not work for a person’s hair type,” she said. “They may have very curly hair or fine, limp hair that requires a different style to look good. The most important thing is if it works for her lifestyle and makes her feel confident and happy.”

The Style and the Shape


Local business person, visionary strives to ‘be a good influence’ and ‘uplift others.’

In times of hardship, many of us hunker down to protect what we have. We gather our closest loved ones together, protect our resources, and stay clear of risk.

It’s natural behavior, after all, and as a result businesses are closing and community organizations are seeing a dramatic drop in contributions of time and money.

But Rabbine Harpell has a different approach to life’s hardships. When times get tough, she gets tougher, focusing even more on her personal mission to help others.

Harpell opened a new business in downtown Bend just a few months ago during the midst of the recession. Azura’ Studio is an innovative venture, combining salon services with state-of-

the-art self-healing modalities.It may seem like an odd time to open

a new service-oriented business, but

Harpell believes this “is a time to support each other and do what we have to do, to ride out the recession. We offer hope to people coming in stressed out and anxious. We’ve created an environment to relax.”

Offering support to others seems to be a recurring theme in Harpell’s life. As a young girl, she made peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for the homeless even though her own family, she said, was “poor.”

As a young adult, she worked as a nurse in a charity hospital in New Orleans. She went on to become a political consultant in Washington D.C., working on projects to help Nicaraguan refugees and other international communities in need.

When she moved to Bend in the early

by Gail Elizabeth Kretchmer, for The Bulletin Special ProjectsPhotos by Lyle Cox

Living From the

HEART

Rabbine Harpell (above-left) is a local business person and on-the-go visionary known for her uplifting personality.

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1990s, Harpell founded Jubilee Productions (formerly Jubilee Communications) which produces concerts, festivals, and other events with a special emphasis on veteran and other charitable organizations.

Currently, she serves on the advisory boards for the Oregon National Guard Youth Challenge and Central Oregon Veterans Outreach, and she opens her home to neighborhood kids to hang out and play Xbox or watch TV.

Mike Ward is the State Commander for the Disabled American Veterans and has known Harpell since 2003.

“She has an impressive resume,” he said, “and if you know her, you understand.”

Bob Cusick, Quartermaster for the local VFW, described her as “200 percent for the community.” Ward and Cusick have worked

with Harpell on the annual Veterans’ Day Parade as well as other projects locally.

Harpell describes this drive to helping others as her call to duty.

“My passion is to be a good influence behind the scenes, to uplift others,” she said.

She doesn’t think she’s alone in this campaign for the community, however. She believes that each voting citizen holds the highest office and that it’s everyone’s duty to help one another.

Ward described her as “the ultimate American, probably the most patriotic person I’ve ever met.”

Patriotism and a passion for helping others are commendable characteristics, but Harpell has been blessed with a few other traits that seem to further support her endeavors and

increase her likelihood of success.

She’s a high-energy person with a strong work ethic. She works from four computers and multiple phone lines in her home office, runs daily, sleeps only five or six hours each night, and she says she’s on call 24/7.

Ward said she “goes, goes, goes,” and Cusick described her as someone who puts “a lot of herself” into a project.

“You know it will be successful and you don’t have to worry about it,” he said.

When she began to research the self-healing technologies

Harpell (in black, to the right of the banner) is a driving force for Bend’s annual

Veteran’s Day Parade. She also serves on the advisory board for the Oregon

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she ultimately incorporated into Azura, she reached out to numerous physicians and specialists around the globe, including some in Japan, Canada and at the Mayo Clinic in Minnesota.

“You do your research, learn from the best and figure out how

to do it even better,” she said. “If you’re flexible and resilient, you can do anything you want through focused thought and commitment.”

Harpell has good interpersonal skills, as well. She greets visitors at Azura’ with an enthusiastic smile and likes to leave the doors

open so guests feel comfortable stopping by.

“She’ll sit down and listen to you with sincerity and all her heart,” Cusick said. Because she’s so sociable, he said, she can communicate with anyone while making it enjoyable.

Harpell also boasts great vision. Even as she’s still getting her new studio up and running, she’s coordinating a major concert to be held in San Diego next spring, writing a novel, and formulating plans to travel to the Middle East with the ultimate hope of producing an international concert in Jerusalem.

And while her mind has the ability to run in high gear and in many directions, Harpell said she’s also learned to “master” her mind. She chooses what to think and doesn’t leave any room for clutter.

“Minds are like wild horses, and I decided to take control and gain inner peace,” she said.

When negative thoughts or

emotions try to pry their way in, she releases them, “like opening a window and letting the air flow freely.”

Spending a few minutes with Harpell at her new studio is like a crash course in a study of who she is.

She greets you with warmth, gives you a quick but comprehensive tour of everything the studio offers, treats you to her philosophies on citizenship and international community, settles you into an anti-gravity swing chair intended to be reminiscent of the womb, and stands by your side as you swing with a few nurturing words about life, and peace, and love.

“Love is allowing people to be who they are,” she said, “and that’s all I’m doing ... loving others.”


Juggling Life With CareerWhen you decided to become a career person, who could have predicted your most critical skill would

be juggling? Hopefully the following tips will help you keep the balls from falling to the ground.

Some people are up at 5:30 a.m., perhaps to work out, try to organize the house, pay bills, or to organize their families’ responsibilities before going to the office.

At the office, the phones are ringing, people are waiting in line to speak with you and your e-mails are waiting. You decide to skip lunch and buy an extra hour. You check you calendar and, sure enough, you have an appointment.

Where will you come up with that extra hour? Welcome to your normal day!

Today, career people find they have less leisure time. Today, most folks work more than 40 hours a week; some double that. So how do you achieve balance among family, friends, community, career and leisure?

The following strategies are designed to help you work smarter:

Stop doing what does not work

I have a sign in my office to remind me not to tolerate what

can be fixed. Figure out what irritates you or is not working and change it. If you change what you can, you will be more able to let go of what can’t be changed.

Apply the “80/20 rule” to everything

You’ve no doubt heard the time management maxim that 80 percent of results come from 20 percent of efforts. Look at where you’re getting the most results. Then see how you can change the places where your valuable time and energy are being used less productively.

Assess your typical work day. What did you hope to get accomplished? How was your time actually spent? What can you do that would make a difference? If you spent too much time answering e-mails, for instance, make a decision to

check e-mails on a scheduled basis.)

Fix what irritates youManagers spend a lot of

time listening to others’ complaints and solving problems. But like the cobbler whose

children are barefoot, you may be putting yourself last.

What bugs you? It’s amazing how taking care of what

annoys us can truly make us happier. Investing in your satisfaction is always worthwhile.

Examine ways you procrastinate

Successful managers aren’t perfect, but they do look

at themselves honestly. Look at your avoidance strategies: dusting the plant leaves, answering e-mail, making phone calls. Then figure out why you are procrastinating on a particular project.

Do you avoid projects that take a lot of time? Or ones that are complex? Or ones

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that you might be criticized for or even fail at? All of the above?

Procrastination is a survival mechanism to avoid something we fear. The catch is that the fear actually builds the longer we procrastinate.

Break this circle by identifying the situations that are most likely to trigger your procrastination, then break down the project into manageable chunks.

Let go of “sunk costs”This is a psychological term

for the ability to stop throwing good energy, time and money after bad.

We all hate admitting to ourselves that our time and energy have been wasted. You may be tempted to say, “I put three months into this project so I can’t quit now.”

You will be more productive if you ask yourself, “How likely is it that continuing with this project in this way will yield worthwhile results?” Don’t spend one more day doing

something that isn’t likely to work, no matter how much more blood, sweat and tears you pour into it.

Participate in spiritual, community and family activities

It is easy to lose perspective by getting caught up in the next presentation, make-it-or-break-it career move or pending big deal that will put your organization out front in the marketplace. But balance doesn’t come from working in a vacuum.

Become a volunteer and invite your family, even young children, to volunteer with you. This both increases the amount of quality time you spend together and serves as a reminder that you are of value in many different ways.

Take a walk every dayThis isn’t to jog or run an

errand or to catch up on to do list items. Just five minutes

moving your body in fresh air, away from your office, without electronic devices, is bound to reenergize you and give you a fresh perspective. There is power in just being rather than in continually doing.

Do something differentScan your newspaper’s

weekly events section and find an activity you’ve never done before. If you have a family and you usually attend sports events together, mix it up with music, art or nature. Doing something new will give all of you more to talk about.

Have a “personal advisory board”

Is there someone who seems to be living the life to which you aspire? Ask the person to lunch and find out how he or she successfully blends work, family, community and leisure.

Write about your accomplishments as

though you’re 80Ask yourself, “If I were gone

tomorrow, what would people say about me? What would I want them to say about me?”

If there is a discrepancy, use the information to prioritize your schedule. Make a list of your goals and aspirations. Put the list in a prominent place where you can’t ignore it. Then tell someone what’s on your list. Begin to do today what you want to be remembered for at 80.

If you learn to balance external demands with internal aspirations, you will not necessarily be any less busy, but you will be able to put your daily stresses into perspective and feel the satisfaction of a life well-lived.


What to do... U Magazine’s selection of upcoming events to definitely include on your “must do” list.

Family:Saturday, February 20FREE FAMILY SATURDAY: The High Desert Museum offers complimentary admission for the whole family; free; ; High Desert Museum, Bend; 541-382-4754.

Sunday, February 21TWEAKSTERS: The athletic and visual duo deliver a performance to motivate children to lead active lives; $10, $7.50 ages 12 and younger; 2 p.m.; Tower Theatre, Bend; 541-317-0700 or www.towertheatre.org.

Arts:Sunday, February 28SUZANNE VEGA: Cerebral folk rocker performs, with the Crown City String Quartet; $35-$40; 7:30 p.m.; Tower Theatre, 835 N.W. Wall St., Bend; 541-317-0700 or www.towertheatre.org.

Wednesday-Thursay, March 17-18BRANDI CARLILE: The fast-rising, rootsy singer-songwriter

performs; $24 advance, $29 at the door; 7 p.m., doors open 6 p.m.; Tower Theatre, Bend; 541-317-0700 or www.

randompresents.com.

Starting Thursday, April 8“SHE STOOPS TO CONQUER”: Comedy of manners about a young man and the woman who sets out to woo him; $10; 7:30 p.m.; Greenwood Playhouse, Bend; 541-389-0803 or www.cascadestheatrical.org.

Food:Friday, March 5TASTE OF THE TOWN: Featuring live music and restaurants, bakers and caterers with food samples; $35 in advance, $45 at the

door; 6-10 p.m.; Central Oregon Community College, Mazama Gymnasium, Bend; 541-383-8268, [email protected] or www.thetastofthetown.org.

Fashion: Sunday, February 28HIGH DESERT FASHION SHOW AND CHAMPAGNE BRUNCH: Clothing and accessories will be modeled by local residents, with a silent auction; proceeds benefit Sisters Habitat for Humanity; $19.95 or $20; 1-3 p.m.; Brand 33, Sisters; 541-549-1193.

Just Unwind:Sunday, April 18“BROADWAY BY REQUEST”: Tony-winning actress Betty Buckly presents backstage stories and distinctive songs in her one-woman show; $35-$40; 7:30 p.m.; Tower Theatre, Bend; 541-317-0700.

U Pick:Saturday, March 6FAMILY & BABY FAIR: Meet pregnancy, birth and parenting representatives. Speakers, demonstratings, shop for family-friendly products and more; $7, under 5 free (unopened package of diaper products accepted in lieu of admission cost; 10 a.m.-5 p.m.; The Riverhouse Convention Center,, Bend; 541-647-8417 or www.familyandbabyfair.org.

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