Today all students will: Discuss the different types of

bystanders and the roles they play in bullying situations

Discuss examples of how you can demonstrate a greater concern for bullied students

Describe memories you are creating in the minds of your peers

List the kind words you hope their peers will use after graduation to describe how they treated others in high school

Describe how it feels to be betrayed by peers when they are bullied

Describe how it feels to betray those who are bullied

Discuss the pain of regret and how regret can be avoided relative to bullying.

Bully FreeSophomore Class

Session 5

Lesson 26: Types of Bystanders(handout) Which One Describes Me? -Bully’s Helper -Bully’s Encourager -Ignorer -Victim’s Helper

Bullying involves everyone There is a student who bullies and the bullied student.

Everyone else is a bystander and makes a choice regarding the role they will play when someone is bullied. The handout I have given you describes the different types of bystanders and the typical role they play.

(Handout) Be honest when completing this worksheet. Indicate which role you typically play in a bullying situation by checking in the “yes” column or “no” column.

Journal Entry #10

Describe the role you are personally playing as a bystander. Explain why you play that role.

Lesson 27: BystandersPart 1 – Compassion and Concern for Others)

What does the word “Maturity” mean to you? What behaviors indicate that a person is mature?

“Maturity begins when you can sense your concern for others outweighing your concern for yourself.”

Can you think of examples in history when people demonstrated a greater compassion and concern for mistreated individuals than themselves? If so, please share what they did to demonstrate their compassion and concern.

Can you think of examples when someone you know demonstrated greater compassion and concern for bullied individuals than for themselves? If so, please share what they did to demonstrate their compassion and concern.

Compassion How would you define compassion?

“Compassion is feeling for another’s need and helping that person without expecting anything in return.”

Quotes In groups, discuss how your quotes relate to how

we treat others and our willingness to help those bullied?

Paraphrase (Reword) your assigned quote

Share your responses with the class

Journal Entry #12 Reflect on the class discussion of the

quotes and to describe the level of compassions and caring they have for students’ who are bullied.

Lesson 28: Creating Positive Memories It is important for us to understand that every day

we have an opportunity to create a negative or positive life-long memory in the minds of others.

Please understand that bullying is very powerful and often remembered for a lifetime. Bullying leaves scars on the minds of people.

Kindness is also very powerful and remembered for a lifetime.

We should care about what our peers will remember about us. Our reputation will follow us into and through the adult years.

Memories about Me (handout)-read and follow the instructions to complete the “Memories about Me” handout.

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless”

-Mother Theresa of Calcutta

Let’s challenge ourselves to use kind words with others to create kind memories about us.

Lesson 29: Betrayed What does the word betray mean? “To have people you trust let you down by not

supporting you or defending you. For example, they allow you to be delivered into the hands of your abusers or the bullies. They are not loyal or faithful to you. They violate your trust in them. They may mistreat you or join in on the bullying, laugh or just ignore what is happening to you.”

Have you ever felt like you have been betrayed by others? How did you feel?

-Lonely?

-Sad?

-Angry?

-Humiliated?

-Rejected?

-Confused?

-Disappointed?

What are some do’s and don’ts for coping with betrayal?

Don’t…Scream at themGet even or retaliateCry and beg them to help youGo out of your way to show them kindness

Do… Avoid letting them know they have hurt you. Try not to let

them see you upset. Make it clear that you feel they have betrayed you and that

you can’t have friends you can’t trust. Tell them you value their friendship, but if they betray you

in the future, then you will have to find other friends you can trust.

Assume everything you say behind the person’s back (anyone’s back) will get back to them.

Be careful what you put in writing about people because they can get into the hands of people who want to hurt and embarrass you.

Ask for an apology. You deserve it.

Journal Entry #13 Reflect on the lesson and write a

paragraph regarding your thoughts and feelings.

Lesson 30: Regret and Bullying Prevention How would you define regret?

Regret is a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, disappointment, etc.

Tim McGraw – One of These DaysWe used to chase that boy home from schoolWe called him freckle faced red headed foolHe was different, he wasn't cool like meSticks and stones didn't break any bonesBut we never left well enough aloneOne day he ran away from home you seeAnd I passed him as he walked awayAnd in his eyes I heard him say

One of these days you're gonna love meYou'll sit down by yourself and think'Bout all the times you pushed and shoved meAnd what good friends we might have beenAnd then you're gonna sigh a littleAnd maybe even cry a littleBut one of these days you're gonna love me

Patty Sue was a small town beautyI took one look at her and had to pull her to meLord knows she should have seen right through meWhen I promised her the worldBut at 17 you only want one thingI left her standing with my high school ringInnocent tears in a pourin' rainAs I walked awayAnd I still see her in my dreamsAnd to this day she's whispering

One of these days you're gonna love meYou'll sit down by yourself and thinkAbout the time you turned from meAnd what good friends we might have beenAnd then you're gonna sigh a littleAnd maybe even cry a littleBut one of these days, you're gonna love me

Now everybody stands upThe congregation singsIt's a song of sweet forgivenessAnd as the chorus ringsThe wind blows clear my memoryThe pages start to turnAnd suddenly I'm singingThe moment that I learn

One of these days I'm gonna love meAnd feel the joy of sweet releaseOne of these days I'll rise above meAnd at last I'll find some peaceAnd then I'm gonna smile a littleAnd maybe even laugh a littleBut one of these days... I'm gonna love me

Kelly Rowland - StoleHe was always such a nice boyThe quiet one With good intentionsHe was down for his brotherRespectful to his motherA good boyBut good don't get attentionOne kid with a promiseThe brightest kid in schoolHe's not a foolReading books about science and smart stuffIt's not enough, noCause smart don't make you cool, whoa

He's not invisible anymoreWith his Father's 9 and a broken fuseSince he walked through that Classroom doorHe's all over primetime news

Mary's got the same size hands As Marilyn MonroeShe put her fingers in the imprintsat Mann's Chinese Theatre showShe could've been a movie starNever got the chance to go that farHer life was stole Now we'll never know

No no no no oh

They were crying to the cameraSaid he never fitted inHe wasn't welcomedHe showed up to the partiesHe was hanging in

Some guys was puttin' him downBullyin him round roundNow I wish I would've talked to himGave him the time of day notturn awayIf I woulda been the one to maybe go this farHe might have stayed at homePlaying angry chords on his guitar

He's not invisible anymoreWith his baggy pants and his legs in chainsSince he walked through that classroom doorEverybody knows his name

Mary's got the same size hands (Oh)As Marilyn MonroeShe put her fingers in the imprints (Ooh)at Mann's Chinese Theatre showShe coulda been a movie star (She coulda been a movie star, oh)Never got the chance to go that farHer life was stole, ohh Now we'll never know(Now we'll never know, oh)

Greg was always getting net from 20 feet away (20 feet away)He had a try out with the SixersCouldn't wait for Saturday (Saturday)Now we're never gonna see him slamFlying high as Kobe canHis life was stole (Stole)Oh now we'll never know

Now we'll never never never know

Mmm now we'll never never never never knowStole (Stole)Oh whoa yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah

Mary's got the same size hands (Same size hands)As Marilyn Monroe (Oh)She put her fingers in the imprintsAt Mann's Chinese Theatre show (She was gonna be a star)She coulda been a movie star (Oh no)Never got the chance to go that far (Never got the chance)Her life was stole (Stole, stole)Oh now we'll never know (Now we'll never never know, no)

Greg was always getting net from 20 feet away (He had game, oh)He had a try out with the SixersCouldn't wait for SaturdayNow we're never gonna see him slam (Never see him)Flying high as Kobe canHis life was stole (Stole, oh)Oh now we'll never know(Now we'll never never know)

Oh no no noYeah their lives were stolenow we'll never knowStole Stole StoleWe were here all together yesterdayStole stole stole

Quotes (handout) Discuss the quotes as a group

Journal Entry #14: What are some of the things you’ve

done that you regret because it hurt someone?

What are some of the things you regret not doing that would have made someone happier?