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The Nitty-Grittyof
Arguments!
Even in cases when theres no clear-cut right or wrong, but just dierences of opinion,its nice to fl that your opinion is more logical and aurate than the other persons.
Its a part ofhuman natureto want to flgd aboutyourself, tofl that youvegot a thefacts and wereable to come
to the rightconclusions.
Everybodylikes to be
right.
and itthen ends up
being a me vs. themtype of situation, even if
I didnt mean for itto get personal.
Just for your
information, Kyle,
I looked it uponline!
All right
then, but its
not necessary
to go raising
your voice.
DR.J.CHRIST
RELATIONSHIP
COUNSELING
When I getinto a disagrment
with someone, I flvery strongly about my
opinion,
Whatis it aboutarguments?
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Remember, though, that its more important to preserve your relationship with thatperson than to prove a point.
Why is it so difficult to stop an argument?...
But thats the worst thing you can do, because eventuay you wi have to back down, and thelonger youve bn arguing, the more diicult that wi be.
...Sometimeseven though I know
that Im wrong, or theother person has thefacts on their side, Isti find it very hardto admit that and to
concede it.
One reason itsdiicult to stop an
argument is, like youpointed out,...
Even though theother person maybe a gd friendor someone youfl close to,
Okay.
Just dont
get sobentout ofshape.
I amnotraising my
voice!
...its toughadmiing thatyou may bewrong.
It sometimes even flslike it would be easier tokp arguing your point,
just for the sake of it.
Look ...
maybe youre
right. ...
your hurt flings could cloud yourvision and prevent you from sing things inas levelheaded a way as you normay would.
Bent out
of shape!!
Me?
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You never beright a thetime, and therewi be plentyof argumentswhere youreactuay wrong.
Thesneryourewiing toadmit thatyoure inthe wrong,the easierit wi be.
If yourehaving a
disagrmentwith someone
and you realizethat your
opinion waswrong, maybe
because youdidnt s the
fu pictureor werent
aware of aof the facts,
admit that.
It may smlike the mostdiicult
thing to do,but in realityyoure savingyourself a lotof troublelater on.
look, I
feel bad that
were ruining
our day off
together
like this.
But I
just dont
see why you
have to come on
sostrong
Talk about
it!
Butyoubrought up
the subject.
What?
Yah. As
far as I was
concerned, it was
water under the
bridge.
Me too! Anon-issue.
WhyIhaveto? Have you ever
considered how
you are comingacross?
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You dont nd to be calm and fuy focused in order to ask for My help, you simply nd toask for help and be wiing to do your part.
What if I dont feel I can stop just like that?
Do Youhave any tips
that could make iteasier for me?
Its just like
you to make a
mountain out of
a molehill.
So what
do you mean by
that? that its all
myfault?
when youre engagedin an argument with someone,
it can be especiay diicult toknow how to rstablish a
gd coection.
you can always sendup a plea for help.Ca on Me and say,Jesus, please helpme to end this.
Jesus,please help meto end this!
Please giveme humility,honesty, and
peace.
But even if you feel a lot of pent-up frustration and brewing hostility,
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If you canhonestly admitthat you werewrong,
The two most important aspects of stopping anargument are humility and honesty.
then theargumentcan come toa close,...
and do soin a humble
and graciousmaer,
I can helpto releaseyou fromthe urgeto kparguing,andgive youcounselfor thatsituation.
So what was
that row about
that we had last
week?
Umm ... I
forget. ...
...and you wi most likelyhave kept a friend.
Sorry for
pushing my
point like that,
Kyle.
And
give me
some Ideas
on how to
go about
it. ...
And
forgive
me for
my stinkyattitude.
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but a heated argument rarely solves anything,and you would often be wise to try to end it,even in those cases.
Often it doesnt maer at the time whos right andwhos wrong.
Okay, so thats if Im wrong. But what if Im surethat Im actually right, and that its the other
person who should back down?It cant
alwaysbe mewho gives
in! ...
Lets see.
Raisa could
be right
There wibe times when you
are right,
I dontthink youre
getting my point,Kyle!
Yes I am,
Raisa. inbolditalics!
!
?
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In the end, itis always more
productiveto end anargument
and be apeacemaker
than tocontinue with
an argumenteven though
you may beright.
Its natural to wantto fl vindicated
and like youveproven yourself
right, but it neveraomplishesas much as a
more diplomaticand easygoing
aroach.
so trying to badger theother person to take onyour views is pointle.
Eventuay the otherperson wi s whatis right,...
Its just that
youre so ...
oops!
Oh, hi
guys.
Umm ...
Kyle is
taking us for
a game of
soccer.
Er ...
Kyle...
Im sosorry. Please
forgive my attitude.
Have a nice time
with the kids.
Uh, Ry?
yes?
You know
I looked into
it a bit, and
It
seems
youre
right.
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The things done for love and in love live on.
You can be thebeer personby chsing todefend yourfriendship;
Whether youre right or wrong in the argument,give your pride the bt on this one!
that requires humility and being wiing to preserve your friendship over your pride.
Strive for love and unity:
and best of a theywork in your life toteach you to be a morehumble and lovingveel
they endurebeyondtoday,beyond themoment
the camaraderiegained wiprove far
more useful inyour life than
having won anargument.
a closerreflection of Me
to others.
An argument is sti anargument, regardle
of which side youredefending.
Youve
been with my
daughter about
five years now,
right?
Yes.
And what an
example of
humility...
Unityrules!
WHAM!
Like this
time when we
were having an
argument,
she...
A few years later
Originally published July 2008; adapted. Illustrations and layout by Jeremy.
Copyright 2012 by The Family International