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Part IUNRAVELING THE SECRETS

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Part I

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UNRAVELING THE SECRETSOF THE MIND

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Chapter 1 / Page12Polarity Technique

Chapter 1 / Page11The Bagha

Chapter 1 / Page15Bagha Duo

Chapter 2 / Page20Thought Stopping

Chapter 2 / Page 25The Metaphor

Chapter 3 / Page31Polarity Switch

Chapter 4 / Page 41The Painted Smile

Chapter 3 / Page 33Self Competition

Chapter 4 / Page 43Act as If

Chapter 5/ Page 48Converse in Spirit

Chapter 6 / Page 56Plato’s Room

Chapter 5 / Page 51Contentment Mantra

Chapter 6 / Page 59Power Images

Chapter 7 / Page 67Tapping Technique

Chapter 9 / Page 79Majestic Sight

Chapter 8 / Page 71Power Shield

Chapter 9 / Page 82Tension Power

Chapter 10 / Page 86Kahuna Boldness

Chapter 11 / Page 98Attitude Reversal

Chapter 10 / Page 92Mental Accupuncture

THE MIND BOX TECHNIQUESAll techniques have been presented and used by students of Burt Goldman’s international seminarsfor more than twenty years. They are simple, effective, and easy to understand; however no single

technique works all the time for everyone. But if you use any of them and it works for you your lifewill change for the better. Get used to going to a technique for the problems in your life.

The Mind Box techniques are designed to unravel virtually every problem in life.

Chapter 1 / Page16The Daisy Pond

Chapter 11 / Page 98 Attitude Management

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BURT GOLDMAN’S MIND BOXTABLE OF CONTENTS

7 1 Secrets to Meditation

17 2 Secrets to Habit Control

27 3 Secrets to Boosting Self Esteem & Confidence

36 4 Secrets to Gaining Friends & Influence

45 5 Secrets to Overcoming Grief & Depression

52 6 Secrets to Speed Learning

60 7 Secrets to Finding Love & Lasting Relationships

69 8 Secrets to Mastering Your Emotions

75 9 Secrets to Achievement

85 10 Secrets to Overcoming Fears & Phobias

93 11 Secrets to Controlling Your Thoughts

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VOLUME IUNRAVELING THE SECRETS

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PLEASE NOTE:

Occasionally you will find suggestions to go to the next track, or areference to a particular track number. This Mind Box Workbook has beendesigned to use with the twenty one CDs that should be part of the Mind Boxhome seminar series. If you are simply reading this as a book, without theCDs please overlook the directions that refer to tracks or CDs.

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CHAPTER ONE

SECRETS TO MEDITATION

Meditation brings about a stress free mind that attracts the good thingsin life.Here’s why that’s important to you. Psychologists have listed hundredsof causes of stress, even to listing them in a hierarchy, on a variety of scales,usually listing the death of a spouse as the number one cause and hundreds ifnot thousands of other reasons for stress, all listed by number generally from1, which indicates a mild stress, to 100, which indicates a stress so severe itcould be life threatening. We are going to look at stress a bit differently.

Stress, very simply, is caused by a change of the way things are. Anychange in the status quo will create a situation that causes stress. Howeveryou cannot give a number in a hierarchy for an event as a person’s attitudewill determine how they react to the change. People react differently to change,and therefore to stress. If everyone always reacted the same way then therewould be no point in trying to alleviate stress by changing an attitude, butthey don’t and so that allows us to modify, and in many cases, eliminatestress. Stress causes an uneasy mind. When your mind is restful, stress isimpossible. Now the question will arise, how can I have a resting mind?

Often, a metaphor can show the way. So let me tell you a story of anincident that would normally cause a great degree of stress in most people. Ittook place 25 years ago during a class I was presenting on stress and how todeal with it. Lunchtime came along and I, along with three people in the classwent out together to go to a nearby restaurant. We were going to take my caras I had purchased a new one only the week before. As we approached thevehicle in the parking lot we all saw it at the same time; a big dent in the rightfront fender. Someone had slammed into the car while it was parked in the lotand had driven off without even leaving a note on the windshield. The threestudents with me looked at me and waited for the blowup. I must admit for a

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moment I could feel irritation and my body tightening with anger. But I cut itoff immediately with a simple technique I will teach you in a moment.

Jumping into the car I said to the three “Let’s go. There’s a body and fendershop just down the street.”

“You going to get it fixed right now?” One of the students asked.

“Nope.” I answered, “What I’m going to do is to get a price on whatit costs to repair the dent, and whatever that price turns out to be, I’m going tocreate something that I’m not doing right now, and I’m going to make threetimes the cost of the dent.”

We drove to a nearby shop and I was told that the cost of repairing thefender would be $450.00. I immediately tripled the figure and thought, $1,350;I’ve got to earn with something new, $1,350.00. Now whenever I looked atthe dent in my fender I didn’t mentally start cursing the low life who dented itand ran off, no, not at all, now when I looked at the dent I thought, $1,350.00I’ve got to earn $1,350.00. I kept thinking of how I could make that amount ofmoney. It had to be something that I was not doing at that time. I thoughtabout it and thought about it and finally came up with the answer.

I would create a brand new seminar for my friends and if they liked itI would send out a mailing to all the people who had been through my classesand I would set a goal of making $1,350.00 from it. And so I put the seminartogether and did it for fifteen of my friends, didn’t charge as I was checkingout the new material. My friends loved it. I sent out a mailing after renting ameeting room and did the new seminar. I was surprised I made more on thatseminar than the new car cost, and all because someone dented my fender.

The technique that I used was a simple re-direction of energies,something I think of as the RD, or Re Direction. But first, I had to rest mymind. The title of the first CD track is resting the mind, now what does thatmean? Stress requires an active mind. When you are stressed out, many thingsare flitting through your mind, expectations of things to come. There is alwayssome catalyst to set the mind off. The catalyst is usually of a negative naturebut not always. Winning the lottery, or getting a promotion are both positivethings but they can precipitate a good deal of stress. Any change in the normalroutine will do that. When you are involved in routine your mind is resting,you act by rote, just a mechanical repetition. That repetition can be with regardsto an occupation, the routine of housework, or a simple taking a walk withyour dog. Anything that you do over and over again you will find that youusually do that with a mind at rest.

When I first saw that dented fender my mind flew off into all kinds of

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directions. Mentally cursing the person who did it while I looked around tosee if there were any cars speeding away, there wasn’t, and I knew immediatelyI had to redirect that negative mental activity at once. In came Bagha Yoga. Iused it and felt immediately at ease. And now comes our technique to bringabout the resting of the mind to forestall and eliminate stress. But first, let metell you when I learned it. It was actually the first technique I ever learned. Itwas over fifty years ago. I must have used it a thousand times since. I’venever been disappointed in the effect.

Let me take you back to 1951. I was at the Self Realization FellowshipLake Shrine near Brentwood, California. To me it was, and is still, the mostpeaceful place on Earth. I spent a lot of my time there practicing Kriya Yogaand just meditating near the windmill. But I was disturbed that day. I don’trecall why. My friend Cheslo picked up on my unease. “How can you meditatewhen your mind is filled with butterflies?” He asked.

I just shrugged.

“Use the Bagha,” he said.

“What’s that?” I asked.

“Bagha Yoga. You know. Haven’t you been taught the Bagha?”

I shook my head. I had no idea what he was referring to.

“Let me help you brother,” he said sitting on the bench next to me.

“What makes your comfortable?” he asked.

“Sitting here, by the windmill, and meditating. Nothing makes memore comfortable than that.”

He smiled and nodded, I’m sure that he felt the same. All the discipleswere most comfortable at the Lake Shrine.

“Close your eyes and create a picture in your mind of this place.Sense that you are comfortable and in deep meditation but do not meditate,just imagine that you are meditating.”

I did so.

“Now hold the image of yourself meditating and comfortable andtouch the roof of your mouth with the tip of your tongue.”

With my eyes and mouth closed I lifted my tongue and touched it tothe roof of my mouth holding it there for a few seconds. I took a breath,sighed, opened my eyes and looked at Cheslo.

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He smiled at said, “You’ve just been initiated into Bagha Yoga.”

“What is it?” I asked.

“Whenever you feel your mind is too cluttered, or whenever you feeltoo excited to meditate. Just touch the roof of your mouth with your tongueand like magic, you will be comfortable. But Burton, when I was initiated Imade a promise to initiate only brothers, and I must ask of you that you do thesame. There are some things that should be known to very few outsiders, thisgives us much of the strength of authority that we need.”

That was all right with me. At that time I was just about ready to castoff all worldly things and join the Ashram as a dedicated disciple, but fate, orkismet, or whatever force you believe in had other plans for me. I asked,“Fine, I will keep the Bagha as my own personal force. Can I ever teach it toother people?”

Cheslo smiled, and when he did smile, which was almost constant, adimple appeared in his right cheek that seemed to put an exclamation mark onwhat he was saying. Cheslo was a dedicated disciple and had been for a fewyears. “In fifty years you may teach it to anyone.”

I laughed and agreed, fifty years. It was 1951, I was 24 years old.When you’re that young fifty years seems like eons. Fifty years, why that’smore than twice the years I’ve already lived, I thought, and look at all I’velearned. Fifty years? He may as well have said a thousand.

And then fifty years later, looking at that dent in my fender, I usedBagha Yoga and the anger dripped away from me in a moment. I was able tofunction. I was also able to turn a negative event into a successful outcome. Ihave used the Bagha method of instant meditation, and to cut stress off beforeit affects me many times over the years, but this time it came to me that Icould now teach the technique to other people. The seminar I was presentingthat day was the first time I spoke of the Bagha publicly. I have made it animportant part of every class I’ve taught since.

Personally, whenever I wish to rest my mind I simply touch the roofof my mouth with my tongue and close my eyes and just like that I’m calmand restful. I use the Bagha effect for many issues, if I ever feel the slightestbit of resentment, anger, jealousy, regret, guilt, or any negative feeling I simplytouch the tip of my tongue to my palate and I am instantly at ease.

In the meditation exercise on CD number one I will be programmingthe Bagha effect for you so that you will have it always with you. It may wellchange your life. It will certainly give you complete control over your attitude

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toward things.

Stress is also caused by the fear that you will experience harm orloss. This fear is usually based on a real or an imagined threat to the routine ofyour life. In the most general sense, stress is created, and controlled by opinion.Your opinion of things is called attitude. Your opinion of yourself is calledEgo. When dealing with stress and attempting to gain a life that is free ofstress you must address the difference between attitude and ego.

Is the stress caused by something outside yourself, say a war, theeconomy, a natural disaster, a person, an event or series of events, a perceivedloss of some kind? That would be stress caused by attitude.

Or is the stress that you are undergoing caused by a feeling of notbeing as worthy as you like, or a feeling of guilt, or self limitations.The PolarityTechnique is a useful resource in either instance. If you were to take all yourfriends and put them in a hierarchy or ladder of success, who would be on thetop rung; who would be on the bottom? And where on that scale would you

Mind Box - 1 The BaghaTouch the roof of the mouth with the tip of the tongue..

1. Touching the roof of your mouth with the tip of your tongue stimu-lates the thought processes and the mind to accept that something is aboutto take place, this is called the ‘Bagha’. The initial Bagha use is relax-ation and comfort. When using the Bagha for other things it acts as anegative magnetic pole to attract, and a positive magnetic pole to repel.

2. Whenever you feel the need of the comfort you feel when meditating,simply touch the roof of your mouth and hold your tongue there for a fewseconds and you will feel some of the comfort you feel when meditating.Whenever any of the negative emotions are closing in on you use theBagha .

3. To re-direct your thoughts, use the Bagha and immediately think aboutthe positive elements of the situation.

4. Use the Bagha whenever you feel the need to take your mind off asubject, or whenever you wish to concentrate on a subject.

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be? Write that hierarchy on a sheet of paper. Take 3, or 4, or ten or twenty,however many friends you have and write their names on a sheet of paper.You might even want to include relatives and family members. This is yoursuccess scale, the way that you perceive success.

When you finish that scale do another, with the same people, but thistime do it with how you perceive happiness. Put the happiest one on the top ofthe ladder and the unhappiest at the bottom. Where are you on that scale?

What is your attitude towards yourself with regards to the two scalesof hierarchy? How do you feel about being where you are? Which is moreimportant to you, the success hierarchy, or the happiness?

Is age a factor? The scales will be far different for people in theirtwenties as apposed to those in their sixties. That’s a factor that few books onthe subject bring out. Stress is different for someone in their twenties as it isfor a sixty year old. Especially so when you consider the generality that thereis stress deriving from attitude, and there is stress deriving from ego. Attitudesand ego’s change with aging.

But they can be treated the same.

Attitude stress is due entirely to the expectation of a negative outcomewith regards to a person, event, or loss.

Ego Stress is due entirely to the expectation of a negative outcomewith regards to what you think of yourself in some area of your life,disappointment and frustration fall into this category.

Once you understand the difference between the two, which comprise

Mind Box 2 - The Polarity TechniqueGrading your attitude

1. Grade the thing that bothers you on a range of from one to ten.Mentally make it worse, until the degree gets higher.

2. Then make it better and grade it on a range of from one to ten..

3. Continue to make the thing better, then worse, again and again whileusing the Bagha until the thing no longer bothers you.

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virtually every type of stress, you will also realize how easy it can be tocontrol.

But first, here is a great truth for you, an axiom. STRESS ANDRELAXATION ARE THE SAME THING, they only differ by degree.

Now you are going to take exception to that, as well you should; atleast until I explain what I mean by that statement. I’m going to now showyou how by using one of the seven Great Principles of Hermes, Polarity. Youcan learn more about the seven principles on CD Number 17.

Polarity states that all things have an opposite, and the opposites arethe same, only differing by degree. Allow me to follow that thought throughto see if it leads us to a solution to the secret of stress. First of all how wouldyou find the opposite of stress? That’s the right question. You find the oppositeby either reducing or enhancing. Well it’s obvious we do not want to enhancestress, so let’s reduce it. Take stress and put it on an arbitrary scale. Say thestress on our scale is at the one hundred degree mark. Now make it less, lessagain and as you lessen the stress you of course become a little relaxed. Makethe stress still less and you will be fully relaxed. Stress can easily be unlocked,so long as you use relaxation as your key.

The secret of stress is to use relaxation as a weapon to defeat it. Howdo you get dark out of a room? You can’t sweep it out, you can’t wash it out,you can’t talk it out; the way to get dark out is to let light in. You get stress outof your mind by letting relaxation in. The greatest form of relaxation ismeditation; on that virtually all authorities agree.

Stress is insidious. It comes at you from everywhere. Some wouldsay this emotion goes back as far as the cave dwellers. Well we d on’t have tohave our metabolism speeded up by a shot of adrenaline to leap up a tree andaway from danger, but the chemical is still produced by our bodies whenperceiving any threats.

Luckily though, the solution is easy to utilize. And once you knowthe technique, it will be with you, like all of our techniques, forever.

Everyone knows the word meditation and most people have a picturein their minds of a person sitting quietly, hands in lap, with eyes closed, atpeace with the world. Well that’s a description of meditation, but there areother ways to reach that state when you have a desire to use meditation tomodify and rid yourself of stress. Especially so if the stress is getting in theway of your productiveness and making you less effective at what you do.

The way to look at meditation is as a concentration of attention.

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Anytime your mind is at rest, and focused on a single objective, excluding allthe trivia that normally besets your mind, you are in kind of a trance like state.

On the first track of this CD you learned about the Bagha. Once youbegin to use the technique of instant meditation you will find that stress willbother you less and less. Do remember however that one of the facets ofmeditation is intense concentration on one subject. Later on in this series youwill learn to use the Bagha to propel you to the spiritual dimension.

After many, many years of meditation I use a very simple method toget there. Preparation is essential. Yes you can use the Bagha while walkingalong an avenue and it will work, you can use it for a great many things. Butthe formal type of meditation that most people are familiar with is different.This is the way that I do it. In my home, I have a corner that I use strictly formeditation. If you can arrange such a thing in your home or office it willmake the process much easier as a calming energy builds up when you practicein one area. Places absorb energy. Places where people gather to worshiphave a peaceful energy that can be felt. Places where people are restrainedsuch as hospitals and prisons have a strong negative energy that can be felt.

That’s why, if possible, I advice you to set aside an area for meditation.

So, now you have decided you wish to formerly meditate. You wantto be more productive, and more effective in what you do every day. Beforeyou meditate, you must understand that you will be leaving behind all thetrivial details of the day, all the mental images that bother you. When you sitdown and make yourself comfortable you then direct your thoughts to oneobjective. This is the first concentration of thoughts. Many people will use amantra to concentrate their attention. Indeed, when a person counts down, orsee colors, or uses music they are fixing their attention on whatever methodthey are using. What we will use as a focus of attention is the mantra Aomm.It is said in a drawn out manner, and mentally. Aaooomm, Aaooomm.Aaooomm. Use the mantra Aaooomm by saying it mentally with each outgoingbreath, or each exhale. Concentrate on the word, only the word. Do it slowly.Now, here is the secret to deepening your meditation.

With eyes closed, you take a breath and as you exhale you mentallysay the first Aauumm and project it to your right at about ear level. Takeanother breath and as you exhale you mentally say Aauuumm and you projectit to your left at about ear level. Each time you take a breath and exhale, youmentally repeat the word Aauuumm and go from right to left again and again.You will find this takes you to the very pleasant state of meditation.

During the second track of CD number one you had the Bagha set in

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your inner conscious while you were meditating. To use the Bagha in any ofa variety of ways outside of meditation, experiment with this. Say that youwant something of an immediate nature. A good seat at a restaurant, or aparking place in a difficult situation, or you’re late for a meeting and youwant to get there on time, or for any of the ordinary things that normally comeup in your mind. Use the Bagha in this manner. This is called, the Bagha Duo,or the BD technique. Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth,think of the thing that you want to happen as already having happened, andsense it first at your right ear, and then at your left. Do this a series of times,but not less than three times, right, left, right left, right left. You will find yourattitude towards things changing as you get more and more successful in theuse of the BD technique.

You wish to be more productive. Think about how you can be moreeffective and more productive. Think about the end result of your being moreproductive. Then use the Bagha Duo. Touch the tip of your tongue to the roofof your mouth and think about the job you wish to be more productive with assuccessfully completed. Bring that image to your right and then to your left asyou just learned. That’s the quick and easy way to have a resource at your callanytime you wish, to adjust your attitude and to gain control over quick andeasy meditation.

On the fourth track of CD-1 you will find the Daisy Pond, a meditationexercise; you might well call it a guided fantasy; I created the Daisy Pondmany years ago for people in distress, and also for children whose naturalability to fantasize would stand them in good stead. The Daisy Pond, with my

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1. For something you want of an immediate nature. A good seat at arestaurant, a parking space, you’re late for a meeting and want to be thereat the start. Anything you want to happen when it seems that only a miraclecould make it happen.

2. Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth, think of thething that you want to happen as already having happened. and direct yourmind from the area of your right ear to your left ear, then your right, backand forth quickly, three times. You should find your attitude changing to-wards the event.

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permission, has been translated into many languages and I have received muchfeed back over the years from parents who have used it to soothe their children,and also from people in hospital settings who use it to relieve themselves ofstress. It is the only meditation I encourage people to copy and to give to theirfamily and friends in need. Just be as a child when you listen to it and allowyour great imagination to take you for a relaxing, comforting trip, far, farfrom any cares or stress you might have.

Mind Box Extra - The Daisy Pond

1. Go to your meditation zone and create in your mind a place ofrelaxation that would be ideal for you. Daydream it if you like. Immerseyourself in it.2. The Mind Box place of relaxation is a quiet pond with a giganticdaisy growing out of the center. Friendly animals wander freely andare at peace with one another. Lush vegetation and colorful flowersabound.3. When you float or swim in the daisy pond you find you can gobelow the surface and play with the friendly fish. The water can bebreathed and you get a sense that this is the fountain of youth. Everybreath stimulates and recharges your cells.4. This is your creation. Whenever you wish to relax and get awayfrom the cares of the world, go to your meditation zone and createyour own personal Daisy Pond.

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CHAPTER TWO

SECRETS TO HABIT CONTROL

Of all the diets and all the suggestions from books, clinics, dieticians,friends and all the rest of the sources that refer to controlling weight, the bestdiet advice could be the one that is just two words long. That advice is: Eatless. Period.

How easy, how difficult. During a weight control clinic I was holdingin San Francisco, Margaret Reed, a rather plump woman in the audience askeda most pertinent question when I said the best diet advice was simply to eatless. She asked, with a tear in her eye, ‘How?’

There are so very many factors involved with weight control it isvirtually impossible to know which one’s to address. But that one, I did wantto address. I did want to tell her how.

Many overweight people have developed a strong gustatory, (taste)sense. One of their problems is that they mentally taste the food when thinkingabout it and cannot refrain from filling the desire that sense creates in them.They motivate themselves to eat with the model of taste they construct, whilethinking to themselves that they do not want to eat. They do exactly the wrongthing.

Think for a moment, here’s an overweight person, perhaps yourself,and you have a yen for a piece of chocolate cake. You can taste in your mindand pretty soon it becomes obsessive, you have to have a piece of chocolatecake. What do you do? All right then, here is the, how. Here’s how, you eatless.

You let the thought of the cake, or whatever you have a strong desire

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for, come and then you mentally shout, STOP. You now have a thought stoppingtechnique that is useful not only for weight control, but for many other thingsas well. Virtually everything that is a bother to you, that includes most of yourproblems, if your thinking about them is causing you any discomfort at all,you can block those thoughts. Just allow the thought to come, and mentallyshout with all the mental force you can muster, STOP.

The Thought Stopping technique works marvelously well. In thenineties I trained many hypno therapists both in the U.S. and in Europe. Thetechnique, when used by a therapist requires the therapist to get the subjectthinking about the thing that is bothering them and after a period of quiet,shouting out loud, STOP. This apparently confuses the brain and the thoughtleaves and if it comes back, it is greatly reduced in its strength.

There is a reason that people overeat and the problem is not in theircompulsive natures but rather in the way they represent the things they arethinking about.

Everyone has at least five ways in which they represent the thingsthat are being communicated to them by their outer senses. The representationsvary by degree to the extent of the strength of a particular sense. You may bevery strong with the inner sense of taste, but weak in the auditory area.

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the strongest, you could be a 10 intaste, an 8 in tactile or feeling, a 7 with visual imagery, a 4 in the auditory, anda 2 in olfactory, (sense of smell.)

That being the case you would probably have a problem with food.You would work with your hands, you would be a moderate day dreamer, youwould prefer loud, simple music with a strong bass sound, and you would notunderstand why people rave about a particular fragrance. These are all mentalrepresentations they do however have an effect on things physical as all thingsmust be represented mentally before they can be acted upon.

We’ve already talked about chocolate cake, what about other foods.OK, first of all determine what foods are causing what you consider to beyour “weight problem.” Do this while you are at that relaxed state of mindand body, the meditation zone.

Find a comfortable place, relax with eyes closed, and think aboutfood. While concentrating on food in general, ask yourself, “What foods arecausing me a problem?” You will find that you are getting an impression ofone or several foods.

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One by one, you get a strong mental image of the problem food; andthen mentally use the Power Shout by mentally shouting, STOP.

Do this every time you think about a particular food that you can dowithout.

Then there are quantities. You don’t want to stop craving chocolatecake and then go ahead and eat four pounds of meat. So how do we deal withquantities?

You mentally see a plate full of the food you would normally eat.

State, mentally “This food (name the food) is no longer going to causeany problems for me,” and then mentally mark a big, red NO over the mentalpicture of half of what is on the plate. From there on, whenever you think ofthat food, immediately paint a mental NO over at least half of it.

Let’s look at what is taking place with this technique You are stimulatedby a smell, a sight, a sound, a feeling or a taste. Thoughts begin to form,fueled by the now building energy. While the thoughts are forming, stop themwith the fully formed thought of STOP. The energy buildup is halted—overcome by the desire to offset the appetite for food.

Soon the feeling of emptiness in the stomach is interpreted assomething else—vigor, for example. When the feeling is interpreted in thatmanner, then an entirely different set of circumstances comes about. The feelingstimulates thoughts of activity, of doing things, of using the energy in a positivemanner. When the feeling is interpreted as vigor and energy instead ofweakness and hunger, there is a redirection of the action and the outcome isone of health, strength, and vitality.

By interrupting the stimulus, your body breaks the cycle and appetitediminishes. Suddenly you find that your diet works, whatever that diet maybe. I cannot recommend any diet personally since the authorities who areexperts in the field have continually contradicted one another since timeimmemorial. Go to any bookstore or health-food store and browse throughthe diet book section. Whatever diet you wish will be found there, includingnumerous fasting diets which might be classified as non diets. What is yourpleasure? You like rice? There is the rice diet. You like meat? There is themeat diet. Your like to drink lots of water? There is the water diet. You likevegetables? There is the vegetarian’s diet? You like eggs There is the egg diet.You like alcoholic beverages? There is the diet for drinkers. You like

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carbohydrates? There is the high carbohydrate diet, the low carbohydrate diet,the high protein, the low protein, the soup diet, and on and on and on an on.

To rid yourself of weight you must start where the problem begins.With your mind. With your belief system. What do you believe is causingyour weight problem? Do you feel that you must finish everything on theplate and that you must have dessert? Program yourself to leave somethingon your plate and that you do not have to eat dessert. You can have dessert butlook at it as a food and not as a reward.

Virtually every weight control practitioner will ultimately tell you toeat less. That’s the bottom line. But no one tells you how. Let me repeat how,once more.

Use the Thought Stopping Technique featuring the Power Shout.

To instill this program, listen to CD-2 where you will go to that relaxedstate of mind, the meditation state, and see yourself with a full plate of food.You’ll visualize yourself eating and enjoying about half of your dinner. Seeyourself pushing away the balance of the meal. Do this any number of timesbut no more than once a day.

If guilt about the starving people of the world is a problem with you,see the restaurants serving smaller portions so that everyone leaves somethingon the plates. See yourself buying less at the market visualize this surplusbacking up to the farmer. See the surplus being sent to the starving masses.No need to feel guilt about leaving something on the plate but rather theopposite.

Mind Box 4 - Thought Stopping

1. Whenever a thought comes to you and you want to stop it, allow it tocome. Concentrate on the image in your mind. make it brighter and morecolorful.

2. While concentrating on the mental image, shout mentally, with all thevolume you can muster: STOP!

3. You can use thought stopping to block any negative thought you wouldlike to rid yourself of.

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Dessert is also a food. When you eat a piece of cake or a sundae orpudding or whatever, see the food going into your system and bringing youvitality and energy. No need to reward yourself with dessert if you would liketo celebrate something that happened for you. How about doing it by makingsomeone else feel as good as you do? Celebrate by doing something nice forsomeone.

But is desert a food? Do you believe that you are getting nourishmentfrom the desert? Deserts are strictly mouth foods, and are really for theimmature. Deserts give instant gratification. If you need instant gratificationin any area of your life you are immature in that area. Infants are ‘now’people. Everything they want, they want now. As they mature they begin towant future things. The more they mature, the less they need gratificationimmediately.

Whenever you think about yourself, visualize yourself the way youwant to look, the way you want to be. Imagine yourself a year from now witha figure that you would be proud of. See yourself posing for magazine ad. Useall your senses. Hear your friends commenting on the new you, imagine howyour body would feel, visualize yourself eating a proper meal, a small meal,and see yourself getting all the energy you need from the meal.

See yourself from a positive viewpoint—think of all the aspects ofyourself that you are happy with. Imagine all the aspects of yourself that youwill be happy with in a year’s time and build toward that goal. Believe it to beand it will be so.

The Meditation Exercise on CD-2 will help in your quest for weightpower. But for now, think about the foods you eat.

During the Meditation Training exercise you will see how to programyourself to view just two categories of food. Food you want in your mouth,and food you want in your stomach. I call this concept Power Choices. Now,for the first time in your life you will understand how to choose the food thatpleasures you, and the food that sustains you.

Assuming you know the basics of nutrition I will say that foods likecertain vegetables, certain grains and proteins such as meat and fish are goodhealthy foods that help to keep you going.

You no doubt are aware that candy, cake, pancakes dripping withsyrup and greasy gravies and fat filled products are not good healthy foodsbut rather illness attracting, weight producing foods as are all heavily sugaredfoodstuffs.

Even the unsophisticated nutritionists are pretty much aware of thecategories of foods that are good for you and those foods that serve you poorly.

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So just consider all foods that you eat. Ask yourself this question: Is this foodgoing to feel good in my mouth, or my stomach. Here is what Muriel Singerwrote after attending a weight control class I was presenting in Houston.

“It took me a while to understand the concept but when I did it changedmy eating completely. I love cheesecake but I knew it was strictly a mouthfood; I didn’t particularly want it in my stomach. At first I programmed myselfso that I would be satisfied with a half portion, and then a quarter portion.Now I can get along just fine with a taste but I don’t even need that any more.I love soup and salads, both of them I look at as stomach foods even though Ilike them in my mouth as well. I am training my eight year old and she istaking to the mouth and stomach food business like a duck takes to water.Thanks.”

The idea of Stomach Rule as we call the concept is to build a desirein you to eat foods that you want in your stomach. It would be presumptuousof me to offer a course on nutrition in a CD that takes less than an hour to playbut I can give you a few thoughts on the subject.

I am speaking about needs. If you feel that you need the wrong kindof food remember the Power Shout. Use it whenever the mental image, or thesense of taste brings on a desire for a food you do not want in your stomach.Rule your stomach, instead of allowin your stomach to rule you.

Develop new needs; needs to reduce to what you consider your idealweight and size. You will be satisfied with less food than you were formerly.A few bites and swallows of food will take away your desire to eat and youwill only eat what you consider to be necessary to maintain good health.From this day forward you think about your health when eating and you willeat healthy foods. You will eat only the amount of food you consider necessaryto maintain health. Health will be the issue not weight. You will considerbefore ever putting any food in your mouth whether it is food you need inyour mouth, or food you need in your stomach.

Health will be what you consider, not taste, not a full stomach, notcrunch or sweetness. Health will be what you consider from now on.

Before you eat anything at all consider how you will feel about havingeaten that food one hour after you eat it. Eating for your mouth you will notfeel all that good about having eaten it an hour after you have eaten it. Eatingfor your stomach you will feel good about having eaten it an hour after youhave eaten it.

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Before you eat anything, imagine it is an hour later. Think about howyou will feel about eating the food, and think about how you will feel abouteating the quantity of food you will be eating.

The Meditation Training exercise on CD-2 will program and set thisconcept so that you will have control over your weight. Play it as often as youthink necessary.

Habits and addictions.

There are many definitions for addictions and habits, possibly thesimplest and easiest to understand is that an addiction is something you aredependent upon, have a great interest in and devote a lot of time to. A habit issomething you do over and over again often without realizing it. You can beaddicted to a thing, a drug, a person, a philosophy, or any other thing that youdepend on. Let’s see if we can develop a technique that will help in yourproblem with a particular person, thing, or substance.

Dependence to an addiction simply means that you have a great needfor it. In other words there is a good relationship between you and the thingyou are addicted to. With respect to a habit, the dependence is much weakeras there is not as great a need to do the thing again and again.

Over the years, I have been involved with many different philosophies.Just a few as example are, yoga, hypnosis, huna, kabala, mind control, NLP,eye movement therapy, psychic healing, Pavlov, Hermetic philosophy, FengShui, parallel universes, and a dozen or so other concepts. Most of which Ihave been teaching others over the past decades.

I have often been asked if there were not something in all that to helpa person with an addiction to overcome that thing they were so dependentupon. The problem is that like all things there are varying degrees. Somepeople have addictive personalities and a single exposure to something thatcomforts them, hooks them so that they cannot escape. Other people exposedto the same thing can rid themselves of it with a shrug of the shoulders. Nosingle thing seems to work for everyone.

Most addictions and habits are started by a stimulus of some sort. Itcould be a stimulus coming from the outside, as example a picture of a sliceof apple pie seen by a person addicted to food, or it could be the craving of thebody for a particular experience or drug. Stimulus surrounds us constantly.

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Some are affected by it some are not. For those affected by stimulus, a thoughtis created. Something in the imagination builds until an energy is formed.This energy allows the individual to take an action. The acronym for this setof syndrome is STEA. Stimulus, Thought, Energy, Action. Stimulus cannotbe controlled, it is everywhere. The energy build up to facilitate the action isalso difficult to control as this is the true cause of the addiction. What is left isthought. And therein lies the solution, also, the problem. When you can controlthought, you control the energy and the action.

The mind cannot hold on to two thoughts at the same time. Wheneverstimulus triggers a thought, the trick is to change the polarity, or to put it inanother manner, allow the stimulus to let you think of the opposite of theproblem thought. The one technique that we will be using over and over againis the Bagha, the touching of the tip of the tongue to the roof of your mouth.In many cases this tells the mind, get ready, we are going to do something. Inthis case, the ‘doing something’, is changing the energy of the thought for adifferent action.

As example, I used to be a smoker. About a pack and a half a day. Tomy mind it was a nasty addiction that I wanted to rid myself of. There weremany stimuli. When I was stressful, I reached for a cigarette. When I finisheda meal, I reached for a cigarette. When I had a cup of coffee, I reached for acigarette. When I had nothing to do, I reached for a cigarette. When I satdown to rest, I reached for a cigarette. It seemed that anything I did caused meto reach for a cigarette. I decided to quit. Thinking of all the methods I chosea technique that I used to get people to stop drinking.

What I did was to think of the cigarette as a snake. I used the Bagha,went into a deep meditation and imagined packs of cigarettes as packs ofsmall snakes. I saw myself pulling out a cigarette and lighting it and when Iinhaled, a snake rode the smoke into my lungs. I did that for about twentyminutes setting the metaphor in my mind. Now the thought that was createdby the stimulus was not of a cigarette with soothing smoke going into mylungs, but a snake riding the smoke into my lungs. I quit then and there andhave not smoked since.

I recall Vince Silveri, a person who had tried everything for hisalcoholic problem but nothing seemed to work. He asked me how to changethe stimulus as when he wanted a drink it became the most important thing inhis life. He couldn’t help himself, how could he change the energy of histhoughts, how could he think about something else?

First thing we had to turn the problem, alcohol, into something else.

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Metaphors are helpful in that they allow you to conceptualize without thestimulation of the actual difficulty. In this case I used a gorilla. Vince said heliked the effect that drinking had on him and he realized that it was bad forhim but all that was ‘some day’, a day far in the future. Addictions are nowthings, actually all addicts are immature in that they need instant gratification.We had to turn the addiction into something he could imagine, something thatwas happening now, something that would turn his thoughts in anotherdirection. Here is what I told him.

Hidden within alcohol is a different kind of entity. Vince, what youdo not see is that there is a twelve hundred pound gorilla. This gorilla has theability to smile and confuse you all the while he waits until you are lulled intoa state where he can pounce and tear you apart. This gorilla has the ability tomake himself so small, so seemingly insignificant, that he can fit into a oneounce glass. But make no mistake, once the alcohol in that one ounce glassgets into your body the gorilla grows. He needs sustenance and so he demandsthat you feed him. That’s why you always want more. It’s not you that wantsit, but the gorilla and he insists you bring him more, he demands anotherounce of alcohol, and then another. Alcohol is what he lives on; inside yourbody. You are powerless when confronted by this gorilla.

Every time you drink, even to touch your tongue to any form of alcohol,the gorilla is invited in. You cannot avoid it. Touch alcohol to your tongue andthe gorilla leaps into your body, and that’s the only way he can get there. Youhave absolutely no ability to get him to leave. And when he has settled intoyour body, he needs more alcohol to sustain him. When you drink alcohol, toany degree, the gorilla takes over. You give him the power to command you.You do things the gorilla wants to do, not you. But without the power tocountermand his needs, you are forced to follow along with his.

You are powerless before this twelve hundred pound gorilla. The only

Mind Box 5 - The Metaphor Technique

1. Turn the habit, or addiction into something else with a metaphor.You can use elephants, snakes, gorillas, rats, lizards, anything at all, it’syour choice. Pick the metaphor you want to represent your habit oraddiction. Then touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth.

2. Whenever you have any desire whatever for the habit or addition,touch the roof of your mouth with your tongue and shout: STOP!

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way to regain your own power is to realize he is too strong for you. Yourpower is in building a defense against him; that defense is easy, you knowthat the only way, the only way he can enter your body is through alcohol,that is his channel to you. And once his great power overcomes you, youbecome his obedient slave. If you are willing to be a slave then so be it, but ifyou realize that he is just too much for you then the answer is easy. You mustbe willing to take the power back. And the way to do that is to simply not takeanother drink of any type of alcohol.

Why let a gorilla to manage your life? You can do a much better jobwithout him. Start today, right now, make a decision. Never again allow thatgorilla inside your body.

Before you can overcome a problem, you must admit a problem exists.The metaphorical gorilla is managing your life and you were unable to manageit. At this time, admit that you are powerless against the alcohol and what itintroduces into your life.

Think of one way, just one for now, one way that you are powerlessover alcohol. Think of one way you were powerless over alcohol during thepast year.

Consider how your life is unmanageable. Consider how alcohol hasmade your life unmanageable. And most of all: Think about how your lifewill be if it were manageable.

Take the power away from the gorilla and the rest of your life will bethe best of your life.

Use the metaphor technique. This technique will often work when allelse has failed. However we do recognize that no technique will work foreveryone. I like to call this technique a band aid. Not everyone needs brainsurgery; most just need some sort of a process to help them along. Try it, if itworks for you wonderful, if it doesn’t, well you’re no worse off than before.But it may well work. Do it. And ask yourself this question. ‘What would mylife be like if I did not have this habit, or addiction?’

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CHAPTER THREE

SECRETS TO BOOSTING SELF ESTEEM & CONFIDENCE

A strong sense of self-esteem is generally due to feeling equal toother people, feeling that few people, if any, are better, or more comfortablewith life than you are. Along with the feeling of equality, neither being betternor worse, higher nor lower than any other person comes the opinion of selfthat you’re OK. When you feel neither better nor worse, higher or lower,then you feel equal to everyone. The one way we are indeed all equal is inwhat we are. How you see yourself and others. We obviously are not the sameas other people. We are not the same as the opposite sex. We are not the sameas a king, or a homeless person. We are however equal in that we all arehuman.

Every person in the world is a human being and in that respect we areall equal. A human being is just that – human as opposed to non-human.Every president, king, queen, emperor and empress is a human being. Everyjudge and homeless person is a human being. Every sanitation worker andmillionaire, every pauper, every tailor and architect is a human being. Everyattorney, artist, doctor, clerk is a human being. Every foundry worker, farmerand miner, every tramp and every captain of industry, every businessman andevery housekeeper is a human being. You are a human being and thereforeequal to every other human being on this earth.

Every human has their own unique qualities that make them different.Not better, different. You have your qualities. Everyone has their own qualities.There are things that you can do that no other human being on earth can do.There are things that every other human being on earth can do that you cannotdo. The things that you can do are unique unto you. You are unique. You are

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equal to everyone else on this earth. You are a human being and thereforeequal to every other human being on earth. You have unique qualities thatmake you different. They have their unique qualities that make them different.No human being is better than you are. They are only different from you.

Imagine yourself at a gathering of people. A social gathering. Thereare all kinds of people at this social gathering. There’s a prince, a president,a famous actor, a singer, a musician. There’s a doctor, an architect. There’s ajudge and a clerk, a secretary, a ditch digger, a plumber, a sanitation worker,a farmer, an unemployed carpenter and many others.

You and they are all human beings. You and they are all equal ashuman beings. You’re not better than or worse than the prince or the judge.You are not better than or worse than the farmer or the ditch digger. They arehuman. You are human. You are all equal. Every one of these people can dothings that you cannot do. You can do things that they cannot do. You’re alldifferent. Think of the things that you can do that the prince cannot do. Thinkof the things that you can do that the judge cannot do. Think of the things thatyou can do that the coal miner cannot do. Think of the things the coal minercan do that you cannot do. These things do not make the coal miner lesserthan or better than any other person at this social gathering. You are all uniqueand have your own quality. You are unique and have your own quality. Yourmind is unique and has its quality. You are equal to every other person on thisearth.

During the meditation exercise on CD-3 you will imagine thisgathering of people with different professions and occupations. Mix andspeak with them mentally. You are all equal. Tell them about the things thatyou do. What you do. The things that you do that they cannot do. Speakabout the positive nature of what you do. Mix with this group. Imagine thatyou are there.

Whenever you think of your occupation, what you do, think of thepositive aspects of what you do. Everything that everyone does in some wayadds to the whole and is a contribution. Think of the ways that you contribute.Think of the things that you do that help humanity. Even a leaf that falls tonourish the earth below makes a contribution. You make a contribution. Letevery man be as a brother. Every woman a sister. If you are not willing to gothat far, see them as cousins.

When you view all people as either sons or daughters, fathers ormothers, and brothers or sisters, your view of the world changes and you cantruly love your neighbor. You can truly see the positive aspects of your

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neighbor. They are no better than you. You are no better than them. All areequal. All are different. Accept people for what they are. They are they. Youare you. Sense the positive nature of everyone and the world will be a betterbrighter place for you for everyone has a positive nature. When you areinvolved with a negative individual, remember that they are negative becausethey feel an inequity in life. They do not feel equal. You know better. Youknow that all are equal. You know that things are different, but equal in thatwe are all human beings.

But is that all there is to it? Just changing an attitude? Let’s see. Yourattitude is a way of thinking, the way that you think. Everything in life revolvesaround your attitude, when you change your attitude; you change you. Nowthe question becomes, do you want to change yourself? The answer to thatwould have to be yes, for why else would you be listening to a CD aboutraising your self esteem. It could be curiosity, I would agree, but even so,there’s a glimmering in all of us for change. Positive change, good change, achange that we’re satisfied with. The kind of a change that, when you lookedback on it with a decade from now perspective, you would nod your head andbe happy that you took that road. The problem with all the positives that gowith change is a polarity that exists. What if the change turns out to be wrong,what if it’s a negative change, a change for the worse?

And that thought my friends is why change is such an ordeal. Doesthe word ordeal sound too harsh? A great contemporary philosopher, EricHoffer, wrote an entire book about, ‘The Ordeal of Change.’ It is difficult tochange. Change represents the unknown; and the unknown is fearful. Whenyou deal with change, you also deal with fear. How much fear? Now we’reback to our old friend Attitude. The degree of fear is dependant upon yourattitude. Ask the right question and you may get a helpful answer and thequestion is not how can I boost my self esteem and confidence, that will comeabout automatically when you tackle change, and to do that you have to havethe right attitude. Now we come into the right question: How can I change myattitude?

Aha. That is what the meditation exercises are all about; attitudechange. When you reach the medative state and visualize the equality of allpeople you are setting a pattern. It is believed by many in the scientificcommunity that the brain cannot differentiate between the real and theimagined. When the imagined is under your control, you can manipulate yourthinking, and therefore your attitude.

Kathy Pembrook is an executive in a large industrial company. Shesits on the board of directors and was a student in a class I was doing on Self

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Esteem and confidence. She agreed with everything she heard but still had aproblem. Kathy told us that during board meetings she would sit quietly andeven though she felt she was bright enough, and had creative ideas, she neverspoke up, just sat and listened without contributing anything to the discussions.I asked her why and she said that everyone at the table was a giant and she feltintimidated. She agreed that all the directors were indeed human beings aswere all the rest of the workers in the plant but still, the board meetings scaredher, ‘How,’ she asked, ‘can I change my attitude. It’s easy for you to say, butis there any kind of a technique I can use?’

Yes there was. A simple, almost childish technique, but one thatworked very well. I call the method the ‘Polarity Switch.’ Here’s what I toldKathy to do the next time she attended a board meeting. “Kathy, You seeyourself as a little mouse when you’re with the board. You said yourself thatthey are all giants, so what does that make you?”

After a moment, she smile, and nodded sheepishly, “A mouse?”

“Exactly. Here is what you do. Get to the meeting a few minutesearly. Use the Bagha and as you meditate, visualize yourself as a giant. Createa mental image of the other executives of the board as small, diminished insize. Make them all tiny beings while you are the giant.”

Kathy later reported it worked so well she is using the Polarity Switchfor many other things in her life.

That basically was it. The Polarity Switch is simple reversing theroles that you have accepted that cause a loss of confidence. Do recall that thebrain does not differentiate between the real and the imagined. When someoneis intimidating you it is because you have accepted their dominance. Whenyou sense yourself as the dominating figure, even within your own mind,your attitude changes and you are better equipped to deal with the personand/or situation.

Here’s the way to use the Polarity Switch for other things in your life.Say that there is a person who bothers you when you think about him, or her,and it is having an effect on your self esteem. Think about the person, get agood image of that person, then using the Bagha, with your tongue touchingthe roof of your mouth, imagine the person first on the right side of you, andthen the left side. Switch the person back and forth rapidly; this mixes up theperson in your brain. Stop. Think of something that makes you feel good.Now back to the person who makes you feel bad. Mentally say, ‘switch’ andchange the image to the thing that makes you feel good. That’s it.

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Anytime someone intimidates you, switch the image of the personback and forth rapidly in your mind, from the area around your left ear to thearea around your right ear, and mix the person up in your mind. Say switchand see yourself, briskly walking along the street with a smile on your face.

Generally speaking, when a person competes with other people theyautomatically set up a better/worse situation that affects self esteem. Whenyou compete with someone else you will either win, or lose. You will eitherbe better than, or not as good as. Not a shred of equality there. The answer issimple. Do not compete with anyone. But wouldn’t that cause stagnation?Not if you compete with the only person it makes sense to compete with;yourself.

Bobby Zuniga worked as a carpet installer for Coast Carpet Inc. afirm in Los Angeles California in the seventies. He was the slowest of thefifty or so carpet layers in the firm and was worried about his job. He heardabout self competition and decided to use it to see if he could better himselfand possibly keep his job. He worked on a project known as Barrington Plazain West Los Angeles. Hundreds of apartment units and all of them basicallythe same. He went to the job that day to establish his base line. He ploddedthrough the day as he normally did and took his usual nine hours to completethe apartment. Other carpet installers were doing the apartment in 6 and 7hours but that didn’t bother him that day, he was going to see what he coulddo and the base line was set, 9 hours.

The next day in another apartment he set up a time objective hopingto beat his time of 9 hours. He did the apartment in 8 hours and 30 minutes.

Mind Box 6 - The Polarity Switch

1. Anytime anyone bothers, or intimidates you. Get an image of thatperson, set the Bagha, (touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of yourmouth,) and then get a mental image of the person on the right side ofyou and then the left side and move the image back and forth rapidly.

2. Stop. Think about something that makes you feel good, say theword ‘switch’, and change the image to the thing that makes you feelgood.3. Move the image that makes you feel good back and forth, slowly.

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The next day he figured out a way to spread the padding faster and cut another30 minutes from his time. He started to move faster. He had a goal every day.He would cut the time down even more. A month went by and Bobby waspractically flying through the apartment, one eye on his timer. Faster andfaster he became until one day he discovered that he had just broken all thecompany records for Barrington. He completed an apartment in just 4 ½ hours.

Beverly Sanders dreaded Saturdays. That was the day she did all herhouse work and she hated housework with a passion. She was unwilling tohire a housekeeper and kept a tidy house but the chores were overwhelming.She became depressed and moody. The weekend was supposed to be a restfulperiod, instead it became something she grew more and more anxious about.After listening to and reading about our self competition techniques she decidedto try it herself. Her normal routine was to change the bed linens, do theweeks washing, vacuum the floors, tidy up the kitchen, and shop for the weeksgroceries.

She hated the work so much that she procrastinated through everychore. She often found herself still doing housework at six in the eveningwhen she should have been relaxing with a good book, or going out with afriend.

But Saturday, March 1, she had a goal. She would set her base line.She went about her work as she usually did but there was no procrastinatingthis time. She needed to know what her base line was. She started the housework at nine in the morning and was finished at four. Seven hours with athirty minute lunch break. That was her base line.

She looked forward to the coming Saturday for the first time in years.Finally Saturday March 8, came along. She had breakfast and watched thenews until 9:00 am. She started in the kitchen and worked her way throughthe house finishing everything by three o’clock. Six hours with a thirty minutelunch break. Wow.

The week seemed to drag as she waited for the next Saturday, finallyit came around. She couldn’t wait for nine o’clock and started her chores ateight. Now she was flying through the house. Her entire attitude had changed.She whistled, and sang, and even danced as she whipped through the day. Nolunch break needed that day as she finished all the work at twelve o’clock onthe dot. Double wow. Four hours.

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completely, not only was she finished by noon but she actually looked forwardto it. She kept the competition going finally settling on three hours and fifteenminutes. That was the best she could do but the spark was still there. At eighto’clock exactly, she would start flying through her chores now seeking tobreak her record by a minute or two, but the goal was always there. She hadtaken self competition to the edge, and she won. She began to use the conceptin many other areas of her life.

SELF COMPETITION. 1. Set up a base line. When you do just dothe job as you normally do, neither slowing down, or speeding up. 2. The nexttime you do the job you have a goal to beat the time of your base line. 3.Continue to do the job with the idea of bettering your time each time you dothe thing.

Lori Johnson was a real estate broker in Glen Rock, New Jersey. Sheattended a class I did in nearby Ridgewood. Her problem was that she couldn’tstand rejection. It turned out that for ever twenty calls she made, nineteen ofthem didn’t buy. Nineteen rejections for every one she sold. It was getting soshe was anxious about every call. She began to prejudge every person shecalled on thinking ‘they’re not going to like the house, or the price, or theneighbors, or the neighborhood, or anything else of a negative nature thatwould pop into her mind. Her closure rate went down and she went through aperiod where she called on forty two people before one of them bought. Herboss sent her to a seminar I was holding at the Holiday Inn. She asked howshe could change her attitude towards her job when she could count on virtuallyevery client rejecting her offers?

I asked, “How many people do you call on before you make a sale.”

“Well lately it’s all of them. My self esteem is in the pits. I haven’t

Mind Box 7 - Self Competition

1. Think of a thing you wish to improve while doing.

2. Do the thing normally and note how well you do it and how muchtime it takes to do it. That is your base line.

3. The next time you do the thing look to improve how well you do it,or the time it takes to do it. A slight change in improvement or time issufficient, that becomes your new base line. Do it again, etc.

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made a sale for two months. Before I went into this slump it was about twenty.I don’t know how I can compete with myself. I can’t work any faster orsmarter.”

“No you can’t,” I replied, “but you can change your attitude. Let meshow you how to do that. You say you make about ten thousand dollars everytime you sell a house and you call on twenty people average before you sellone. How about if I show you a way that you can make yourself five hundreddollars on every person you call on, whether they buy or not?”

Lori looked at me with a grimace on a screwed up face and wisecracked, “Yes and next you’ll be telling me how to make caviar out of chickeneggs.”

“No, I mean it. I will show you how to make five hundred dollars onevery single call you make. Even if they show you the door after five minutes.”

She shrugged and said, “All right, I’ll bite. Show me.”

“Well Lori, I don’t have to show you, you already told me. Just listenfor a moment. You call on twenty people and you make ten thousand dollars.Now you can’t just call on the one who will buy as you don’t know that yet.But as long as your average of twenty calls to one sale will hold up; andapparently it will, then you will be making your five hundred on every sale.You’re just looking at it the wrong way. Look at it this way. Twenty peoplecalled on means ten thousand dollars. Ten thousand divided by twenty, is fivehundred, therefore you are making five hundred dollars on every sale, whetherthey buy, or not. You just have to adopt a different attitude.”

Lori Johnson was quiet for a few moments. You could almost see thegears meshing in her head as she thought about it. Finally the light went on.

Mind Box BonusAll the material in the mind boxes have been presented for many yearsthroughout the world. The techniques have been tested many times andalthough they all work effectively, and quickly, (most are designed tohave an immediate effect,) no single technique works one hundredpercent of the time for everyone.

Use the techniques and if any of them are questionable to you please doit again. If it doesn’t work the first time it does not mean it doesn’twork, it only means it didn’t work that time.

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She smiled, and then laughed. She immediately saw the logic in what I hadtold her. Her attitude changed right there and then.

I heard from Lori a few months later and she said she was a newperson. It was all in the way of looking at it, which of course, most things are.She had a complete attitude change and looks forward to making calls now.After all, why not. Every time she makes a call, whether she spends fiveminutes or five hours with her client, she makes five hundred dollars.Oftenwith a simple change in the way you look at things you can control yourattitude, and when you control attitude, you also are in charge of your selfesteem.

How many areas of your life can you change with a simple change ofattitude, or self competition? Think about it. You may surprise yourself.

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CHAPTER FOUR

SECRETS TO GAINING FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE

How can I win and keep friends? This seems to be the question ofthis training but if you would ask that you would be asking the wrong question.Some people are just normally charismatic. Friends surround them and theyalways seem to have more than most others. Then there are those who seemto become invisible when with other people. Is it due to their behavior, theway they speak, body language, or something other than that?

Three synonyms for charisma are charm, appeal, and magnetism. Allcomponents of personality. Allow me to address these issues. Charm and appealcould come from the way that a person looks, that is the first observation. Abeautiful woman or a handsome man does initiate an initial reaction of interestat first glance. Many people are overwhelmed when confronted by greatbeauty. Many societies of the world encourage this with advertising, movies,magazine covers, and contests to stimulate interest and persuade the generalpublic to associate beauty with whatever it is that they are offering. The generalpublic however is never offered a chance to view or communicate with thereal person. The image one sees on a screen, or a magazine, is just a shadowof reality.

Shadows however, have no substance, and following one initiates noreward. The shadow only appears when there is illumination, the brightnessof celebrity or personality. Remove the light, and view the person in the dimnessof reality and you find the real, not the imagined.

And so, once again, we come to the right question. How do Iilluminate my image? With an illuminated image the shadow appears, and theshadow can be anything you wish it to be. It is under your control. Move anarm, the shadow follows suit. It has no will of its own. You are fully in

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command, but to command a shadow is to have a blocked reflection with nopower to change, only to follow. But what if you could change the shadowinto something you had more control over?

Here is a bit of a tale that may help you to understand this business ofgaining friends and influencing those people you want to win over to yourpoint of view.

One moment my friend. Do not let my clown makeup deceive you.The face I show to the world represents your reality, not mine. My countenancereflects your beliefs, not mine. You think me sad? Watch, I paint the cornersof my mouth downward. A stroke at the corner of the eye, a slash here, a linethere; nothing could be simpler. And there you have it; mystery.

The happy, the lonely, the deceived, the disturbed, the hiders and theseekers, the losers and the finders; all are here in the confines of my paintbox. Here you will find the elation of success, the depression of defeat; therobust laugh of happiness as well as the cry of the weary.

Life, as you know it, is a tale, only that; nothing more. Told by…?Well some have a philosopher crying out their story. You? Well now, you arehonored to have a clown. Let us begin the day. First allow me to draw astraight line from the left corner of the mouth to the right. No curves or trianglesyet, no banana shaped oblongs or rectangular spots. We start in neutral.

What would you have me paint now that we have started? A grimace?A smile? You’re the director, you’re the artist. See, I hold the pencil so. Howwill it go; up or down?

You hesitate. You cannot decide. What’s that? You want me to helpyou? But how can I help? I am just a dash of paint, a brush, a bit of fluff atyour disposal. You are the life. The power is within you. But it’s of no usewhatever if you don’t use it. So, plant your feet, push the door, pull the rope,throw the switch, breathe, articulate; paint. Do it, now!

I detect hesitation. Here, let me help; see, I pick up the brush, I dip itinto the paint. I hold it to my face. Command me! Which way do I apply thematerial, in what direction does it go?

Aha! You have made a decision. You want to take a positive view; tosee the sparkle, the joy, the unfolding. Nothing could be simpler. Watch; astroke here, a dot there, a line, a twinkle, and we’ve done it.

Now then what was it that was of such concern? Where is your trouble?

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Where is your problem? Where is the dilemma? It was a tale, only that; itsignified nothing. The power was always, and only, within you.

Me? I’ll leave for awhile, but I’ll be back. Paint box, brush, and all.How do you reach me? Easily. Just close your eyes, imagine I’m there, and Iwill be. Who am I? But don’t you know? Come with me, over here. This way.

Ah there it is. Look, you can see me right there. Yes, that’s right,directly ahead; over there; in the mirror.

Point being that everyone wears a mask. That story came out of anold friend of mine from my Yoga days. Those who understand the story cancontrol the facade. Actors, politicians, salespeople, and successful people allrecognize this. They control the public image they project, and the impressionthey make. How can you utilize this aspect of life to gain friends and influencepeople? Well I don’t expect you to draw on your face like a clown, notphysically, although it is a good metaphoric example.

When I was undergoing yoga training in 1949 one of my instructors,Layton Shaw, was showing me a few techniques that reminded me of theKahuna methods I had learned in Hawaii two years before. I mentioned thisto him and he said that it was all interconnected and when I understood themetaphoric value of things it wouldn’t matter what I called the process. Thiswas brought forcefully to me many years later when I was mastering the art ofFeng Shui.

I asked if Brother Shaw could teach me to heal. I still recall clearlyhis next move. Placing his hand on my forehead he told me to close my eyes.I did so and he said, “What do you see?”

I clearly imagined a cap on my head. It was a Beanie cap with a smallpropeller on top. A few days prior to this I had called Stan Freberg, anacquaintance who I hoped would help me in getting a children’s show I wasproducing ‘The Chocolate Choo Choo,’ on KGFJ a local radio station inHollywood. Stan was one of the voices of Beany on the Time for Beany show.I figured that was where the image of the cap on my head came from. I laughedwhen I told Brother Shaw what I visualized but he was quite serious. “That isnot a Beanie hat; it is a symbol of your healing power.”

“What do you mean?” I asked.

“Whenever you have a desire to heal anyone, mentally put on yourBeanie cap, twirl the propeller, and hold your hands over the afflicted area.”

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“You’re kidding,” I said.

But he wasn’t. He was quite serious. We spoke of other things as westrolled around the lake and after a while I asked him, “What was that aboutthe Beanie cap?”

We had stopped our stroll and were sitting under one of the arborsacross from the windmill chapel. “Let’s meditate for awhile.” He said. We satquietly for a time my thoughts uplifting me as I soared to the spiritual kingdom.After a while I heard Brother Shaw speaking. “You see, the cap is a metaphor,a symbol that tells you that you are ready for whatever it is you are about todo. As the thought of healing and helping others was primary in your mindwhen the idea of the cap came to you that is your representation for healing.Whenever you wish to heal someone, anyone, mentally put on your beaniecap, twirl the propeller, and heal.”

“How?” I asked.

“It doesn’t matter. Whatever you do, so long as you do something,you will heal. Trust me.”

“But Brother Shaw, why do I need the cap?”

He smiled, “You don’t. But for now it will make it easier for you ifyou have a resource outside yourself. One day you will forget to put on thecap and heal anyway. After that, metaphoric resources will not be necessary.”

“Can I use the cap for other things?”

“Such as?”

I thought about things I wanted. At the time there was nothing I had adesire for. Meditation and following the precepts of my Spiritual guide wasall I cared about. Even my radio show was secondary. Laurie Rogers and Ihad just made a twelve inch wax recording of ‘The Chocolate Choo Choo’and even that was unimportant to me. Had the show been accepted and heardmy life would have surely changed, but did I want the change? It would surelytake me from my brethren at the Self Realization Fellowship. I did have somefriends from high school that I wanted to bring to SRF. They all thought I hadgone around the bend and laughed at me whenever I mentioned meditation.

“Can I use it to influence my friends outside the group here?”

“No, that symbol is to be used only for healing. But you can createanother one for friendship and influence. Why don’t you use the Bagha?”

“How?”

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“It’s about time you figured some of these things out for yourself.But I will tell you as long as you asked. Before I became a dedicated disciplehere at SRF I worked in a circus.”

I had no idea of Layton Shaw’s life prior to meeting him at the LakeShrine. It seemed of no consequence. But a circus? That puzzled and amusedme at the same time. Especially when he told me that he had been a clown. Hewas known as the clown with two faces. He was sad, and he was happy. Hemuch preferred being Happy the Clown. Now that was too much of acoincidence. The Chocolate Choo Choo featured as characters, Aunt Laurie,played by my partner Laurie Rogers, Cracky the Parrot, Gung the Frog, andHappy the Clown, all played by me. I was also the voice of the Choo Choo.Remember please I was twenty at the time. When Layton told me he was areal clown, and he was Happy the Clown, it seemed as though the universewas trying to tell me something. What that was I had no idea.

“I noticed,” Layton continued, “that when I had on my sad face, withthe corners of my mouth turned down, people responded with sympathy aswell as laughter, but when I had my happy face on, with the corners of mymouth turned up, people responded to me in a totally different manner. I reallyliked the happy face response. At that time the most famous clown in theworld was Emmett Kelly whose trademark was a sad face, a very sad face.Actually I copied him. He was my hero. Then one day when I painted on ahappy face a child came up to me and held out his arms for a hug. No one hadever done that with my sad face. Suddenly I had leap of understanding. It wasas though I had been touched by an angel instead of a child. I decided never tobe sad again. One thing led to another and I wound up an acolyte followingSwami Yogananda. I never looked back.

“The secret to friendship, my friend, is simple. Be friendly. But howdoes one be friendly? First of all by feeling at one with oneself. That we dowith meditation. When we meditate we are truly one. One with ourselves, andone with our spiritual natures. Then to be friendly with others it remains onlyto dispense with our own egos, our opinions of ourselves and of others anddiscover the interests of the person we wish to befriend. And it is as simple asthat.

“Boring, uninteresting people are that because they are uninterestedin anyone outside of themselves and their self interests. Be interested. Discoverwhat other people are interested in and join those interests if they are not intotal conflict with your own. After all you would not want to be friends witha person of a murderous nature. Be friends with people who would sharesome of your own interests. You cannot befriend all, there is too much variety.

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But keep in mind that all are seeking friendship. No single person is more thatthe whole. A grain of sand on a beach is unique it is true, but still it is part ofthe whole. But the grain of sand is not a pebble or a bush. Its nature is thebeach, not the forest or the mountains.

“Seek your own kind and you will have more friends than can beimagined.”

I asked my friend how to locate my own kind.

“Let us say that you are meeting a person for the first time. Use theBagha and inwardly paint a smile on your lips. Call this the Clown Technique.A clown can become anyone in an instant. All you need is an imaginarypaintbrush and a bit of mental paint. Meeting a person you want to be friendswith, mentally paint you face the way you wish to be; happy, friendly, helpful,likeable, whatever you wish to project. Your mental magnetism will manifeston the physical level and the person you wish to befriend will feel drawn toyou. Try it. You will find it works very well.”

One time I had occasion to use the technique that stands out in mymind was with a good friend of mine, Hal Litberg. Hal was an encyclopediasalesman. I accompanied him on one of his calls after talking to him about aseminar I was presenting. He met this man at his place of business. We wereoutside by a loading dock. The man was giving orders to his workmen. Helooked at Hal and told him he didn’t have the time to talk to him to come backanother day. Hal looked at me and shrugged.

I touched the roof of my mouth with my tongue and imagined a widegrin on my face. I imagined my eyes sparkling like the stars. I imagined theman smiling at me. Actually I just stood there in front of the loading docklooking in another direction. But I was sending out positive forces, magneticforces. The man came back to the dock and said to Hal, “You still here?”

He looked at me and jumped down from the dock, put his arm around

Mind Box 8 - The Painted Smile

1. Start with the Bagha.

2. Mentally paint a smile on your lips. Like a clown would.

3. Do that whenever meeting someone.

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my shoulders and walked with me to his office a short distance away. I askedhim how he got into that business and he soon was treating me like a long lostson. Finally he turned to Hal and asked him the price of his encyclopedias.Later, Hal asked me what had happened, I told him and invited him to one ofmy classes, which he attended with his son Larry. But that is an entirelydifferent story.

The meditation exercise on the following track will help you to attainthe level and quality of friends you wish to have.

Everyone wants to influence someone in their lives but few peoplewant to be seen as manipulative, or controlling. Parents want to influencetheir children, children their friends, teachers their pupils, business peopletheir clients, politicians their constituency, and on and on and on. Most peoplewill drift to the level of society where they are comfortable in the peckingorder hierarchy following the Alpha Male, or more correctly in today’s society,the Alpha Person who they consider the authority figure.

When an individual is represented as a mentor and accepted as such,and when that person’s philosophy is one of choice in that the student mayaccept or reject the ideas and ideals put forth, then the influence turns into anopportunity of self. And that is the key. Put forth your ideas and if the person,or people wish to accept those ideas, fine, if to reject, well that’s all right also.There are however a variety of forms of influence where the acceptance orrejection does not come into play. Take the influence of a parent over a fiveyear old child. No one would want the youngster to have the choices available.One would hardly say to the child you don’t like your cereal and would prefera bar of chocolate for breakfast, well that’s your choice. Nor would one say toan employer who sets down a procedure to do something, well I would preferto do it my way not yours.

To influence other people, to gain friends and people who are interestedin you, they you must be interested in them, or be doing something that is ofsuch great interest and will arouse so much curiosity that the other peoplewill want to know more about you. But first, if you find yourself friendlessand believe that to be a problem, then you must analyze the situation you findyourself in. Examine the situation at the medative state where you canconcentrate on the problem. Is there a particular person you wish to attract? Agroup of people you wish to be friends with? Would you like to attract peopleand have a bit of influence over them? Or do you simply wish to be friendlier?

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that pundits have dreamed up. After all there have been many books writtenon the subject. Indeed one of the best selling books of all time was HOW TOWIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie. Since hismodest work there have been hundreds of others writing along the same lines.Many seminars have been held world wide, generally by people who have agreat many friends and who have no idea whatever why they do.

I am about to reveal to you a great secret, the secret of winning friendsand influencing others.

I discovered this secret of friendships during the days I taughthypnotists the art of hypno therapy. Under hypnosis people could be anythingI asked them to be, so long as it was not in conflict with their beliefs. I foundI could turn a person into the Queen of France, and that was a process I usedin virtually every seminar on hypnosis that I taught. I could also turn a personinto a homeless recluse, and in a few seconds. But then again, any competenthypnotist could do the same thing. All that hypnosis is, is getting a person toact as if they are the person the hypnotic operator is instructing them to be.Under hypnosis you can be anything. It is simply a matter of suggesting to theperson, who is wholly concentrative on the suggestion, to act as if they are theperson suggested.

And that is the secret of winning friends. Simply act as if you are theperson’s friend. And it will be so. This is the Act as If Technique. Now whyshould a hundred books be written about anything so simple? Well you maywell ask why should so many tens of thousands of books be written aboutlosing weight when everyone knows the answer is to simply eat less. Becausepeople are asking the wrong question again. How do I lose weight? Wrongquestion. How do I eat less? That is the right question. Ask the right question

Mind Box 9 - Act as If

1. Set the Bagha whenever you feel listless, tired or down, and act as ifyou are a person who has energy; its simple, easy, and effective.

2. When you act as if you are the person you choose, you set up amental image that stimulates the cells in your body, when you arethrough acting as if, just act as if you were back to your old self again.This allows you better control over your attitude and actions.

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and you are more likely to get the correct answer.

Try this yourself. Take a person you know, someone you are not thatfriendly with, someone who is just an acquaintance. Tomorrow, call or meetthe person in question and act as if you were great friends. But first, listen tothe meditation exercise on the next track of this disk; that will help immensely.

Long ago, when I first began to use these methods myself I discoveredthe real power was in acting out the problems and then the solutions with a‘what if’ attitude. And lo and behold, it worked. What if? That’s the secret.And when you combine that with the Bagha you get a virtual instant success.

This training track of CD-4 is quite short because there is no point ingoing any further, the track containing the meditation on friendship will helpto guide you in the right direction. After that, you will have to decide foryourself. How many friends do you want?

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CHAPTER FIVE

SECRETS TO OVERCOMING GRIEF & DEPRESSION

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to something gone from one’slife; mental suffering over real, or perceived loss. This would include loss ofmoney, health, a relationship, or a person in one’s life. Money can be regained,health can be restored, and severed relationships can be brought back, butwhen a person dies, there is no regaining, no restoration and no coming back.Let’s examine one of the basic reasons some people feel a profound sense ofthat loss while others accept it, cry a bit, and then get on with their lives. Tounderstand the attitudes of different people with regard to grief it is necessaryto be aware of the complex of sin-guilt-punishment.

A very basic definition of the trio of emotions that cause havoc in somany lives is that sin is a missing of the mark, guilt is a compulsion to repeatthe act correctly, and punishment is a reminder.

There are many marks, or goals, or ways to do things that are set byauthority figures in our lives. Many shall and shall not’s have been poundedinto you from the time of infancy to your full maturity. Each of thesecommands, (set first by the parent, then by institutions, both religious andeducational, then by professors, friends, the media, books, governments, peers,and employers,) when accepted by the individual becomes a mark, a goal, todo, or not to do.

Generally, these things you are told to do, or not to do, are set to helpyou. Some are logical, (don’t play with fire it will burn you) and some areillogical, (don’t eat meat on Friday) but all of them, ostensibly are set to helpyou, (the faction setting it up believes.) When you miss the mark, when youdo the thing you feel you shouldn’t have done, or when you do not do the

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thing you feel you should have done, a feeling of having done somethingwrong comes about. The depth of the feeling is dependent upon the degree ofthe sense you have about the event. There are people who feel more remorseover the killing of a rabbit then they would over that of a human being.

When you miss the mark, nature has implanted within us an emotionto succeed that we call guilt. Guilt is simply a compulsion to repeat the actcorrectly and thereby alleviate the feeling of having done something wrong.Undo the wrong and you feel better about the thing. However there are manythings that cannot be undone, what of them?

When the implied wrong is not made right, the third member of thetrio comes into play, punishment, and that is the segment that wreaks havoc inso many lives. Punishment generally comes in the form of limitations—I onlydeserve so much. I only deserve so much in the way of relationships, of friends,of income, of health, of freedom, of good things, and on and on. Limitationsprevent us from utilizing the natural talents we have when those feelings ofself sabotage are instigated by a sense of having done something wrong, andnot correcting it. The limiting factors invariably come about after a loss ofsome kind. (More on this concept in CD #-8.)

Death is the greatest loss of all, since it is perceived as irreversible.When a friend or a parent dies, all kinds of guilt’s come up. What’s lost canno longer be found. How now can you repeat the act correctly? How now canyou say all the things you should have said, how now can you apologize forall the things you did and did not do, all the things you said and did not say.How now can you tell the departed you loved them? The heartache that comesabout is seemingly insurmountable as one grieves not so much for the departed,but for the self that cannot eradicate the guilt. Grief comes about due in mainto the obvious fact that the situation, whatever it may be, cannot be correctedby an action. Things can no longer be said, words can no longer be takenback. Or could they? Could there be a way to do the undoable? Let’s see.

Guilt is a mental feeling, an attitude, a point of view. Attitudes, whenobserved, can be changed. All one requires is a technique of the mind todiminish, or to destroy the feeling that the implied wrong must be set right.All things that have happened are memories only. They no longer exist exceptin the mind. The future has not happened therefore all thoughts of futureoccurrences are fantasies. Now is the only reality, and there is no now.Whatever is happening is already in the past. Now is a flow from memory to

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fantasy. Memories can be controlled; fantasies can be organized, influenced,and managed. Here is how it’s done.

There is a concept, accepted by more than half of the community ofphysicists, that embraces the idea of an infinity of universes or dimensions.This is a basic premise of quantum physics and the belief has been aroundsince the time of Albert Einstein. Still another basic quantum premise is thatwhen an event is observed, it changes. We, as observers, have some controlover events when the concept is understood and utilized. When observing atthe mental level, you can change your fantasies at will.

Grief, that unrelenting feeling of remorse and guilt can be diminishedand dissolved simply by visiting the departed and doing, or saying the thingsthat can no longer be said in this dimension. The quest in this case is for thedeparted. You visit another dimension via a Meditation Journey; a dimensionwhere the departed is both active and involved with a counterpart of yourself.The meditation guides you to the spiritual dimension where you bid thedeparted a fond farewell, with a loving send off, and get a sense of theimmediate recovery from grief.

You may well ask if it works? I’ve been doing it for more than twentyyears, with hundreds of grief stricken people, and with hundreds of successes.

Our method is not only for recovery from grief but a myriad of otherthings as well however here I will address only the relief of grief. Here arespecific instructions for you to diminish the grief you feel, perhaps eveneliminate it entirely. The way is simpler than you might imagine. It requiresyou to take a journey; an interior journey, a journey of the imagination, ajourney of fantasy. But as grief resides in the imagination, you will find thesolution there as well. I call this the Converse in Spirit Technique.

This requires a short trip to the spiritual dimension via that greatimagination of yours. The road is one that has always been there but perhapshidden from view. Fling aside the curtain and there you will find the answer.

First relax and allow yourself to go to the Meditation level of mindfor deeper concentration. You concentrate on the person you are grieving for.At first you will note a memory, a mental image of the person that was, theperson you knew.

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When the picture is clear in your mind say, ‘now the spiritualdimension’ and the image will change. You now sense the person as they are,not as they were. At that point hold your mental conversation with the personyou had been grieving for and say the things you should have said, imaginedoing the things you should have done, ask the person’s forgiveness, and hearthe person forgiving you. Then relax and come back to the present. Wheneveryou think about the person after that, imagine the person happy and satisfiedwith their new life in another dimension.

Do not concern yourself with the question, “Am I really at theSpiritual Dimension? How do I know this?” Your mind does not differentiatebetween the real and the imagined. Only the logical, outer conscious youdoes that. And it is important in the general working of things. Deep seatedbeliefs are real for the individuals who have those beliefs in their mind. Seldomare these beliefs taken out into the light of day to be examined by the logicalouter conscious. At the meditation state of consciousness whatever you projecton the screen of your mind is. If you think you are at the spiritual dimension,you will be.

During the following meditation exercise of CD-5 you may well askyourself another question. After the completion of the Journey to the SpiritualDimension meditation do you feel better? If you do, then you were there. It’sas simple as that

Overcoming Depression

There are many different types of depression. From Clinical depressionwhich has been considered to be a chemical imbalance in the transmitters ofthe brain to a general feeling of unease, of being depressed; of “being blue”,“feeling sad for no reason”, or “having no motivation to do anything”. Clinicaldepression is generally acknowledged to be more serious than normal

Mind Box 10 - Converse in Spirit

1. Meditate. When you are relaxed and comfortable say mentally, I amgoing to count from one to three and at the count of three I will be in thespiritual dimension. Count from one to three and assume you are there.

2. Sense the person you wish to contact is in front of you and then havea mental conversation with the departed.

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depressed feelings. It is not the function of this series of CDs to providemedical advice and indeed, anyone who believes they are suffering from‘Clinical Depression’ should seek out a mental health provider.

However, those who feel that something other than the seriousness ofClinical depression is behind their feelings of malaise could well benefit fromwhat you learn here. You might well say that this is the aspirin for a slightheadache, however, if the ache persists, see a doctor. But if the aspirin works,well then, you’ve solved the problem. I have found that most people need theaspirin. So let’s just see.

Many causes should be the bywords of depression for there are asmany reasons for depression taking hold of a person as there are peopleinvolved with depression. The obvious causes are traumas in one’s life.Experiences such as a divorce, death of a loved one, sudden loss of ego strength,are the obvious causes. There are also those who have a chemical imbalancethat limit the chemical messengers of the brain that send and receive messages.If the supply of the chemicals that work in this area is low due to substanceabuse, hormonal changes, medication, or trauma, then the nerve cells do notreceive the proper, natural chemicals and cannot communicate. This has aneffect on the attitude of the depressed person.

Generally speaking a few of the symptoms are: Depressed or irritablemood, frequent thoughts of death, fatigue, loss of interest in activities, feelingsof worthlessness, feelings of guilt, inability to sleep or sleeping too much,agitation or restlessness, and difficulty concentrating to name just a few. Everytime a loss occurs there is an onset of a state of depression. It may be slight,but whenever you do not feel up to par you might say that there is a slight bitof depression. The type of depression I am speaking about is pretty muchunder the control of your attitude. Attitude can be controlled by a simplepolarization process.

First, a story about a man who was depressed because he had justlost his job. Now this is something that most people would simply take, lookfor another job, and forget about. But not Samuel E. Burns. Samuel was furious.He took the fact that he was let go to heart and drove home angry and vindictive.He imagined himself doing all kinds of negative things to the manager wholet him go. Why do things always happen to him? He thought. His dinner wastasteless and he soon had indigestion. He tossed and turned that night thinkingof the stupid person who had fired him. The next morning he could hardly getout of bed. The next day he replayed the incident over and over until it was allhe could think of. He related the story to his friends. His family suffered and

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by the end of the day depression set in. All he could think about was theunfair way he was treated.

So, how do we change the attitude of Samuel E. Burns? And whatdoes his losing his job have to do with the depression that you are feeling?There is a great principle; one of seven, called the principle of Correspondence.Better known by: As above, so below, as below, so above. In this case, whenyou have a technique that will work for something minor, you also have atechnique that will work for a major occurrence. Here is what I would adviseSamuel E. Burns.

Determine to get a better job, that pays more, and concentrate on thatinstead of the fact that you lost your job. Change the direction of your thinking.Control your attitude. You will note that this is the same Re Direction techniqueyou learned in CD #1 on dealing with stress. Well, it is the same thing. Stresswill lead to depression. Actually they are the same thing, or rather on thesame scale, differing only by degree. Another reason for the type of stressthat leads to depression could be a feeling of helplessness; the feeling thatyou are unable to prevent a thing that you are fearful is going to happen.

Researchers have developed a theory called ‘learned helplessness’;this happens after repeated stressful events and the feeling of helplessness isstrengthened. Depression often leads to negative beliefs about one’s ability tomanage their lives. This is usually based on attitudes that see all the failuresin the past while overlooking the successes.

People do develop depression after a stressful even in their lives.When you increase stress you ultimately come to a point where the stressleaves and depression sets in. You want to cut it off prior to that point bychanging your attitude. We call this RD or re direction. You re direct yourenergies so you are not thinking about the loss, but how to earn more. It isn’timportant whether or not you will earn the extra money, what is important isthat you have re directed your thoughts before depression sets in.

Whenever an event in your life causes anything that you suspect maylead to depression, and generally speaking that event will be a stressful one,re direct your energies by using the event to stimulate a creative change inyour attitude. You can get help, and from a technique that has worked forcountless others, for thousands of years. The method that is most effective inachieving this is through the meditation state, along with a mantra to offsetthe oncoming depression.

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Basically, a mantra is a focus of attention. The universal mantra auuum,is used by hundreds of millions of meditators. But any word can work equallywell, providing your intention is that the mantra has some sort of a positiveconsequence. When you are happy and content, you cannot be depressed.There is an old homily that says to get dark out of a room, let light in. Whenyou are depressed, let in contentment and happiness. The right question hereis: How do I bring about contentment and happiness when I am depressed.

And here is the answer. The Contentment Mantra, still another MindBox technique will be one that signifies contentment to you.

Your mantra therefore, whenever you feel the slightest bit ofdepression will be the word content. Said in this manner. But before you sayit you find a place where you will be alone and make yourself comfortable.Assume your most comfortable position, close your eyes, and say the wordslowly as you exhale… connnn tent. Something like that. I will help you withthe following track where you will learn the exact way to say the new mantra.

And from now on use the mantra every morning and evening. Youwill find the meditation state relaxing, and rewarding. Meditate while chantingyour mantra for ten minutes and after that if you wish to stay in the remarkablyrestful state of meditation simply allow yourself to do so.

It’s as simple as that.

Mind Box 11 -The Contentment Mantra

1. Meditate. When you feel you are relaxed and comfortable mentallychant auumm three times.

2. After chanting auumm three times, change the word auumm to‘content’ and chant the word slowly, drawing it out. Connnn tennnnt.

3. Continue chanting the word content for comfort and contentment.

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CHAPTER SIX

SECRETS TO SPEED LEARNING

In ancient times few people could read, books were hand written andfar beyond the means of the great majority of people. Until Gutenberg inventedthe printing press in 1450 only the clergy and a few members of the royalfamilies could read. In the 18th century most of the world was illiterate andnot until the late 1800s was it fashionable to be able to read. Millions uponmillions of people, illiterate; and yet, intelligent. How did they get all theinformation that was available without books?

When people who lived during those times heard something, theyremembered it. People had memories then. A story about Plato’s incrediblememory is that he had a system. Possibly the first memory system reportedhistorically. Plato had built up, with his imagination, a palace of one thousandrooms. Each room was numbered and was for a specific purpose. As examplelet us say that the first five rooms were for, food, war, family, politics, andfriends. Further, let’s say that Plato’s cook required four lambs, six gallons ofwine, and a variety of vegetables for a social event he was having. Into thefood room it would go to be retrieved when needed. When something politicalwas being discussed he would retrieve pertinent information from the politicalroom. Anything pertaining to warriors or war would be in the war room. Thismethod was used by many people for millenniums. And it is still offered bymany memory experts today.

The concept couldn’t be simpler. When you attach the thing you wantto recall, that’s what memory is really—recall, it becomes easier to find. Thesecret to a good memory is attachment. Attachment of the thing you wish torecall at a later date to something else.

I met a person whose name was Bob Float many, many years ago. Ionly met him once but as it was during a memory course I implanted his nameon my neuron memory bank by a simple visual image when we were

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introduced. As I shook his hand I created a mental image of him bobbing forapples that were floating in a large metal tub, the attachment was so strong Iremember to this day although after the introduction I never spoke to himagain. Another fellow I met about the same year was Moss Watanabe. I sawhim on a field of moss in front of a large door. The door had a large knob. Thebiggest door knob in the world; and there was a bee on top of it. What a knob.And Moss Watanabe’s name stuck to me.

If you believe you have a poor memory, you are wrong.No one has a poor memory. Everything you have ever seen, everything

you have ever read, everything you have ever heard, everything you haveever tasted, smelled, touched, and experienced is there in your brain, stored,it’s believed, electromagnetically. Stored in a manner that no one quiteunderstands. We do, however, know the information is there, for it can bebrought out through various methods. It can be brought out through the art ofhypnosis it can be brought out through shock, through electrical stimulation,the use of drugs can bring back memories, or associations will bring backpast seemingly forgotten memories. The information is there.

The problem with people who believe themselves to have a poormemory is one of recall. Of bringing the information from the deep recessesof the brain to the present where it can be utilized in some way. It is theorizedby one school of scientific thought that the memory is stored as particleswithin the cells of the brain. These particles are called neurons. There arebillions of neurons that accept information. Attaching each neuron to anotheris a fabric called a synapse. For each neuron there are two or more synapses.These synapses also hold information. When you multiply the billions ofneurons by the billions of synapses, you have what amounts to virtually alimitless amount of information that may be stored.

Picture, if you will, although this is not quite the way it works, asingle neuron holding a single bit of information. The eyes see a couch thesight is transferred to the brain and is impressed on one of the neurons. If theeyes have read the word couch, then the letters c-o-u-c-h (couch) are impressedon one neuron. The time relationship has a great deal to do with recall, for theimpression is strongest immediately after it takes place and weakens with thepassing of time (although it is always there).

Even more so than time, emotions at the time of the memory strengthenthe neurons. Think back on things that are easily recalled and you will havehad strong positive, or strong negative feelings about the thing you remember.

Information can be brought forth easily or with difficulty dependingupon the strength of the original impression. If, for example, you were to seea couch in a store window, a week or so later you may or may not recall what

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the couch looked like. It is impressed on one neuron. To facilitate the recall ofinformation you have only to impress that couch on many neurons. The moreneurons you impress with information, the easier it is to recall that information.That basically is the concept of memory and also of creative thinking.

Here is a proof of sorts as to the installation of material on a greatmany neurons. If I were to ask you to memorize this number, you would havea hard time of if you were to do it in the manner most people memorizethings, by rote.

07200750741776130711076055651225. There are thirty two numbersto memorize and most people have a problem memorizing a phone numberwhich has only seven. Here is how you impress a great number of neuronswhich makes it easy to recall the information.

By turning the numbers into a story, it automatically is impressed onadjoining neurons and synapses. Look at the number and separate it by saying,“The year is 07, 2007, and there are 50 states in the United States. But whenthe U.S. was formed, on July (the 7th month) 4 1776, there were only 13states. There were no (0) 7-11 stores, there were no (0) 76 gas stations, therewere no (0) 55 or 65 mile per hour speed limits, and a dozen eggs cost aquarter.

Repeat the story a few times to yourself and you have not onlymemorized the thirty two digit number but you can now repeat it backwardsjust as easily as you can do it forwards.

Neurons contain information. The more neurons you can impress withinformation, the easier it is for you to recall that information. The method ofimpressing information on neurons is twofold: (1) abstracting, taking someinformation and putting it on one neuron, such as hearing a name and repeatingit over and over again, or reading a story and impressing the words on neuronsor (2) placing that information on a great many neurons through the sense ofvisualization. That is done by sensing what you are seeing, what you arehearing, what you are reading, and turning it into a visualization. Thatvisualization is impressed on numbers of neurons and so it becomes easy torecall the information.

Whatever your age, whatever your schooling, utilize this method ofthinking and you will find your belief system changes as your memoryimproves. Those people who believe they have a poor memory change theirthinking about memory, realizing it isn’t memory that’s at fault, it’s the methodthey use to put the information into their mind. By turning information intovisualization as much as you can, by impressing more neurons, you can moreeasily recall that information. And so the individual grows and so you become

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more aware.What is required is the desire to know, the desire to want the

information. Primary in all of the things that we do in life is desire. You mustactually want the thing to be. That is a prerequisite for everything that youattempt, everything that comes to be. Thoughts are things and do manifestinto reality. The stimulator of those thoughts, the stimulus for the energy tobegin those thoughts on their magnetic trip throughout the universe, is desire.How strong is your desire? The stronger the desire, the more likely the successof whatever it is you are programming for.

Now then, you might say, “But I can’t make an extra image up everytime I hear something.”

And my response would be, “Sure you can, especially if it’s a PowerImage. That’s the key; once you understand the concept of the Power Imageand start to use it, even on things in the past, your memory will improve. Ithas to. That is the entire premise of Memory Power, that associations are thestrongest means to a powerful memory.

If I asked you what were you doing on April 19th 2003 you couldn’ttell me if your life depended on it. But what if I asked what you were doing onSeptember 11, 2001. I bet you can tell me. And so can virtually every personon the planet. Why? Association. And even though they never heard of theterm they were all using Power Images. The stronger the emotions during theassociation the stronger the memory and the easiest to recall.

If you were to bring in an emotion while memorizing something orsimply wanting to keep the material easy to recall associate the thing youwanted to memorize with something. Fantasy is fine. As a matter of fact, themore ridiculous the association, the easier it will be to recall.

With that knowledge as your base, you will soon be ready to use theconcept of Plato’s Information Rooms. Create segments for various memories.As example at present there may be a few things you want to be able to recallat some future time. Say that there are things you want at the hardware store.Imagine a room in your mind that says ‘hardware’ and put in there the fewthings you want to purchase. Say it’s a hammer, a chisel, and a tape measure.Think about the Hardware room in your mind and imagine putting in a hammer,a chisel, and a tape measure. Later on you discover you are out of coffee, andyou need butter and eggs. Imagine a food room, or kitchen room, and putcoffee, butter and eggs there. Do this for a variety of things.

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Now when you head for the hardware store you don’t have to siftthrough a thousand memories to get to what you want to buy there. Just go toyour hardware room and there it is, a hammer, a chisel, and a tape measure.

Association. Remember that word and you will always have a betterthan average memory.

A Power Image is seeing the thing you wish to remember in yourmind. Consciously creating a mental picture.

It was Christmas Day, 1776, and snow was gently falling in the forestalong the Delaware River. General George Washington had under his command2200 rag tailed troops who would rather have been back on their farms thanwhere they were, shivering in the freezing afternoon cold. Hungry and tired,they waited patiently for the command none of them was anxious to hear.

“Into the rowboats, men. Let’s cross the river and attack.”On the other side of the Delaware about a thousand kilometers away,

stood a row of cabins from which one could imagine the tantalizing smell ofsucculent roast meats, drifting across, carried by the crisp air. In the cabinswere the well-fed Hessians, a German mercenary army hired by the British tofight the revolutionary colonists. These men were the enemy and must beconquered if the United States was to be born.

The men grudgingly walked quietly to the waiting rowboats. Someof them had long since walked through their shoes and now had rags wrappedaround their feet, in some cases soaked with red. Those were the feet thatwere cut and bleeding. Into the boats they went and then they quietly rowedacross the river, oars wrapped with cloth to muffle the sound. Occasionallythey had to push the ice aside.

Once across and undetected they quietly gathered together and underWashington’s command attacked the Hessians, winning the day, as well as all

Mind Box 12 -Plato’s RoomThe technique for remembering depends on the way you put the

information in. When you want to remember something vizualize it.

1. Touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth and createa mental image of the thing, person, or event you want to recall easily.

2. Associate the thing you wish to remember with something else.

3. Put the image in one of your mind boxes.

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the good food the Hessians had stored for their Christmas dinner.

Now close your eyes and allow me to ask you something. You answerthe question either aloud or in your mind.

What day was it?What year was it?What was the weather like?Who was the General?How many men were under his command?How did the men get across the river?What was the name of the river?Who were they going to fight?

Now let’s use the magic of association to implant the material onmore neurons to make it easier to recall

Let’s take this first sentence here: It was Christmas Day, 1776, andsnow was falling in the forest along the Delaware River.

Imagine that you are in a forest. You are standing in a forest. Pretendthat you are in a forest.

There are trees all around you.Sense it. Now its snowing, imagine you’re standing in the snow and

shivering.It’s Christmas day. Put a big Christmas tree in the forest.”Put a star on top of it.There’s snow falling. Feel the snow. \76 is the name of gasoline stations in the U.S. There are 76 gas stations

all around. Picture 17 of them. There are 17 76 gas stations.

The name of the river is the Delaware. Think about Del the bellmanat the Washington hotel. They call him Del the Bell. And Del always wears astrange uniform. He is aware of this but wears it anyway. Delaware is thename of the river. George Washington stands straight as a pine tree. He isstanding up in one of the rowboats. He wears a three sided hat. There are a lotof rowboats. They sing a song. Row, row, row, your boat across the Delaware.

There are 2200 men in George Washington’s army. See an owl withhuge round eyes like two zeros. The owl has a 22 on top of his head.

The name of the enemy soldiers is the Hessians. They are the enemyso hiss. Turn the hiss into the word Hessian.

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Let’s see how you do this time.

What day was it?What year was it?What was the weather like?Who was the General?How many men were under his command?How did the men get across the river?What was the name of the river?Who were they going to fight?

If you couldn’t answer the 9 questions then you weren’t payingattention. Memory is based on attention. If you constantly forget where youput your keys. The next time you put your keys somewhere pay attention towhere the keys are. Take a few steps and look back at your keys, that will fixit in your mind.

Parking your car in a mall parking lot. After leaving your car andwalking a ways look back at the car and note where it is. When you get towhere you’re going look in the direction of the car. You’ll never lose your caragain.

There are thousands of memory systems around, just google memoryand you’ll see. Most are cumbersome, like the peg word system. Before youbegin with the system you have to memorize a hundred unrelated words. Ifyou could do that you wouldn’t need the system in the first place.

Here is the secret to memory. Pay attention. Be aware. And above allelse, create mental images.

How many planets are there, you probably know there are 9 acceptedplanets. Can you say what they are in the order they are in from the sun?

The names of the 9 planets in the order from the sun are, Mercury,Venus, Earth, Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune and Pluto.

During one of the children’s class I used to do I would promise theparents that their child would learn the names of the planets and the order inwhich they were in less than 3 minutes. And that they would remember it forall the rest of their lives. I do not recall even one child not being able to do it,after 3 minutes.

All I would do is to get their attention. Remember, memory is basedon attention and awareness. I got their attention by telling them a simplestory. This created the associations so they would remember. This is the story.

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There is a magic garden where the sun shines every day. It gets awfullyhot and so there is a big thermometer filled with mercury. The sun heats themercury which rises so you can tell how hot it is. Next to the thermometerfilled with mercury is a statue of Venus. The famous statue with the brokenoff arms. Venus is very warm with the sun beating on her as she stand next tothe thermometer filled with mercury and so she kicks the globe at her feet, it’sa globe of the earth. There are 4 little green men on the globe that Venuskicked, they fall off and get scared. They run to hide in a large Juniper tree inthe middle of the garden. On top of the Juniper tree is a Satin sheet, a largesatin sheet. It had rained the day before and the Satin sheet is still wet, waterpours off it like rain. The rain falls on Neptune, the god of the sea, he doesn’tlike it, and so Neptune sees a dog, its Mickey Mouse’s dog Pluto. And Plutoruns off into the distance yelping his anger.

First planet, Mercury, second, Venus, who kicks the globe of the thirdplanet Earth, 4 green men from Mars fall off the fourth planet Mars, and runto the 5th planet Jupiter, represented by the Juniper tree. On top of the tree isthe sixth planet Saturn represented by the satin sheet, the seventh planet Uranusrepresented by the rain water falling on Neptune, the eight planet, who kicksthe dog who represents the ninth planet Pluto.

Now think about the 9 planets. What is the first planet? The second,the third. Now go backwards. What is the ninth planet? The eighth? See howeasy it is. Now go through all 9 planets in your mind, starting with the firstplanet Mercury. Pay attention, be aware, and memory improves.

Mind Box 13 - Power Images

1. Associate the thing you want to remember with something else. Ifyou want to remember a name like George Watanabe, think aboutGeorge Washington, then a gigantic door with a big knob, what a knob;and the knob has a bee on top of it.

2. Make up a story about the thing, such as the 9 planets story below.When you create a story about the thing you wish to remember the mindstores the images onto powerful neurons.

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CHAPTER SEVEN

SECRETS TO LOVE AND LASTING RELATIONSHIPS

“I love you,” says the man.

“I love you,” says the woman.

“I love chocolate ice cream,” says the child.”

“I love horses,” says the Westerner.

“Love God,” says the Bible.

“Love one another.”

“Love your father and mother.”

“Love, love, hooray for love,” says the song writer.”

“I love my car,” some say.

“I love apple pie,” say others.

What is this thing called love? Ask a hundred people to define theword love and receive a hundred definitions. Love, the most powerful forcein the world, once understood, can be unleashed and becomes a powerfulservant to do your bidding and reveals a glorious new world. A place whereflowers smell sweet and grass is always green and the sky is always blue.Love, however, is not what most people think it to be.

Occasionally we can define a word so that the understanding lies inthe definition itself. Such a definition is a fundamental generality. When youfind a fundamental generality, you can truly understand all aspects of theword, for awareness resides within the definition. All one must do is thinkabout what the definition describes, reverse it, view it from various aspects,noting that it is a skeleton key to fit all manner of locks.

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Such a definition is the one for love: Love, is a positive viewpoint,

Say that you had a scale that could measure love. At the one hundreddegree end of the scale all things would be of a positive nature. Whatever youwere involved with, whatever you heard, whatever you saw, you would onlyview the positives. Let’s take a person.

People enjoying something close to a perfect love can find no faultwhatever in the recipient of that love, and the energy produced, like mostenergy, feeds upon and enhances itself. The object of the totally positiveviewpoint receives benefits as well. Love begets love and the world looksrosier because everything is viewed from positive aspects.

It’s not possible to see something bad in a person or thing if you arelooking only at the positive side. Food tastes good when you taste only thecrunch and the sweetness, the tart flavor or the spice. The weather feels justright. Seeing only the positive, if it’s cold you feel joy in putting on a snug,warm coat if it’s hot you dress lightly and feel the warmth of the sun feedingyou with goodness.

If you look for positive aspects in other people, they will all look andsound good to you. Your job? If you see only the positive aspects of the timeyou spend there, you become more creative seeking ways to enjoy what youdo. God is love. If you sense the Supreme Being as having the supremelypositive viewpoint, you find great joy in knowing He sees you also as anobject of His love. As far as your love for God is concerned, you could notpossibly view God with anything but an absolute positive viewpoint: love.

Love thy neighbor. The primary injunction becomes a mandate for asane world. Viewing your neighbor through eyes for only the good, only thebest, you see your neighbor as a friend. The whole world becomes a friendwhen all people see those points in others they would most desire in themselves.

When all the world’s people finally see each other’s finer aspects,only then guard posts, fifteen-foot walls, border soldiers, and police becomeunnecessary. Where love rules, people see only the positive aspects inthemselves and each other. When your attention is on the finer things of whatpeople are, as opposed to the possible negative aspects of what they do, theychange. People change because your viewpoint of them changes.

It isn’t necessary to separate individuals from what they do. Peopleare their actions. What they do is what they are. If a person says he loves, buthis actions contradict the statement, look to the action for a true picture ofwhat he is.

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All the world’s viewpoint is colored somewhat by the amount ofnegativity programmed from childhood on. The child begins with that perfectstate of awareness: love. Everything and everyone is a joy. Used to having thehuman population dote and pet and exclaim with waves of love, the child,being the recipient of a virtual bombardment, reflects that viewpoint.

Seeing a bug crawling on the woodwork, the child smiles inanticipation of viewing once again a new thing, a thing of wonder. Reachingthe object of investigation focuses all attention on the insect. How fascinatingthe thing is! He touches it. It recoils to protect itself. It reacts. The childthrows back his head and roars with delight. The viewpoint is a positive one.The viewpoint is that of love.

As the child grows, programming begins. He hears from a parent,“David, get away from that ugly bug. It’s nasty. Kill it!” Here comes theparent with a fly swatter and skultch - one dead insect.

One bit of negativity bringing David’s viewpoint down a notch. If theperfect viewpoint were 100, perhaps David is now 99. For to him, bugs are nolonger a source of wonder, but something to kill. And so it begins.

Now David believes it’s fun to destroy insects, to be sure, but everyonehas to start someplace, and qualification comes into David’s life.

Thou shall not kill—except, of course, for bugs. Later qualifications:snakes, certain animals, even people under special conditions. And the positiveviewpoint goes down another notch.

By the time David is of school age, numerous rules and regulationsof what to like and what to dislike have started to ingrain themselves withinthe belief system, and he believes that certain things are right and certainthings are wrong.

Enough negative thinking has come into the positive viewpoint tobring it down to perhaps 85 on our mythical scale. David is arriving in thereal world. Then comes school and, all too often, an exhortation not to playwith so and so because he or she is a whatever. And social, religious, oreconomic prejudice begins.

And down goes David’s viewpoint once again. If David is lucky, bythe time he becomes an adult some awareness of life will come, through readingor training or perhaps by the example of a respected authority, and with thatawareness his viewpoint will suffer somewhat from that of his not quite-so-aware peers. Few people know how much this positive viewpoint we calllove affects their every experience.

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The daily chore of going to work is distasteful to many unfortunatepeople—primarily because of the manner in which they view their occupationor profession. Because they are so low on the scale—let’s say below the 50point—they view their work from a negative aspect, dislike, instead of apositive aspect, love. It thus becomes a thing to be avoided and yet must bedone.

Many people troop toward work like a bunch of automatons, waitingonly for the moment when they can finally trudge home, looking forward toFriday—some even wearing buttons proclaiming “Thank God, it’s Friday.“

Such people hate the entire week. How much better they would be ifthey could look forward to Monday. How much better they would feel if theycould view their work from a positive viewpoint. “But,” many would say, “Ido hate my work.” That hate results from viewing the experience of work inonly its negative aspects. Of course they dislike their work!

If people see work from a positive viewpoint, through the eyes oflove, attitude changes. Work, like all other things, cannot change because it isneither good nor bad. It is neither negative nor positive. It simply is. It seemsto change only as our viewpoint of the situation changes and it is how weview the various aspects of work that causes it to be either negative or positive.

Fire, as an example, is neither good nor bad. Fire simply is.

If it is cooking your food it is good. If it is warming you it is good.But it is only your viewing it as good that makes it good. That same fireburning your finger or your home suddenly becomes, from your point of view,bad. But fire is neither. It simply is.

Work becomes something else again when we view it through apositive viewpoint. To change a negative preoccupation about work, we simplychange some of our thoughts.

Instead of saying or thinking, “I hate my job,” change that to, “I amgoing to be more creative on my job. I am going to be more creative in myoccupation. I am going to be more creative in my profession.”

Tomorrow, you might say early in the morning on your way to work,“I am going to be more creative.” Simply that! And that alone will begin tochange your viewpoint toward work from a negative viewpoint of dislike tothe positive viewpoint of love.

Soon you find yourself being inspired with all of the various aspectsof creativity regarding your work. For through the statement “I am going to

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be more creative,” you open a great many doors that have been blocked bythe weight of hate.

Soon you begin looking forward to your works knowing that eachday will bring new concepts for you, new abilities, and new manners in whichto become creative. You have opened the door. The key to opening that dooris, of course, love.

Love is a positive viewpoint.

Relationships are based on needs. The stronger the need that is filled,the more intense the relationship. When a person has a strong need and thatneed is filled, you have a good relationship, when a strong need is not filled,the relationship has problems. Everyone has needs, the problem is most peopledo not know of their own needs much less someone else’s. The best way todiscover a partner’s needs is through communication. But allow me to speakof the energy of a relationship.

Every person, well every living thing but we are only concerned herewith people, every person has a field of energy surrounding them. It issometimes called the energy field, the aura, prana, the halo, the glow, andmany other descriptions depending on the language of the country definingthe words. I will call it what I believe it is, your energy field. These fieldsvibrate at an infinity of frequencies and just as though there are no identicalfingerprints so there are no identical energy field vibrations.

Picture a sound, a perfect sound that a violin is making. The vibrationsof that violin go out into the air and meet with a tiny bone in your ear thatvibrates in unison with the sound from the violin. Your brain interprets thatvibration and converts it so that you hear the beautiful music. There was ameshing of energies. That is on the physical scale——to some degree thesame thing happens on the mental scale. Just as everyone’s body sends outthis energy so does the mind. That old axiom, as above so below, as below soabove, comes into play. As it is on the physical, with regard to energies, so itis on the mental. Waves of anything are energy.

A radio wave is energy flowing through the air, or a wire. TV sendsout waves of energy. We know the brain sends out waves of energy as brainwaves are measurable. The mind as well sends out an energy field. A mentalaura. This field goes out and away from the body weakening with distance.There are many people; more than you would imagine, who believe the field

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continues all around the earth. This field touches every other field, but it isespecially strong from the person to a distance of 18 feet, after which the fieldbegins to weaken. However when the energy fields are identical, distancedoesn’t matter. One of my acquaintances, Edgar Mitchell, 6th man to walk onthe moon sent mental messages to earth from the moon. More on that on theCD # 18, Connecting to your Psychic Self.

When you are thinking of another person and the phone rings andthere he or she is, that’s an example of a meshing of energy fields. For a briefmoment in time you were one with regards to the energy field. Distance isimportant, but not crucial when you are both on the same wave length.

When you are close to another person you are involved with eachothers energy fields. Energy fields fluctuate constantly, what controls the fieldis your emotions. An emotion is any thought that has like or dislike attachedto it. When you see or think about another person that person will be somewhereon a scale of either like or dislike, to some degree. If you like that person youremotion might be at say 122 on the scale. (Now that’s purely arbitrary I haveno idea what degrees might be on a scale like that) but say it’s 122 for examplessake. Another person you love; that person might be 356 on the scale. Youlove that person, you’re more emotional about that person. A third personcomes onto the scene, you don’t like this person. Your scale flattens out andgoes into minus 27. If we could quantify this energy production it wouldchange constantly because in your home, or office, or place of business youchange constantly. There are always things about, that you like or dislike.Look at what’s in front of you, if you look around there will be things you likemore than other things. Most things you see are simply neutral in your sight;those are the things you don’t notice or pay attention to.

Love is a positive emotion and the more love the higher on our scaleyou would be. Say that your love for the other person in the relationship is atthe 475 degree mark on the scale. So you are vibrating at 475 and that energyis thrust out from you. No one, including you, can see it, but it’s there. Just asyou and everyone else on earth are surrounded by radio waves, so you aresurrounded by energy field waves. A radio transmitting on 1120 frequencieswould not be heard unless a receiver was tuned to 1120. 1115 won’t do it.Neither will 1125. It has to be set to 1120.

If your energies at that moment are at 475 and you meet someonewho is also at 475 what the Sicilians would call the ‘Thunderbolt’ wouldstrike, there would be a perfect blending of energy fields and the result is thehighest and strongest kind of love. Hopefully you have been there; or will beone day. People often ask me if there is a way to tell when someone is in love.

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Yes there is.

A perfect love; not many of them around but they are there; a perfectlove would sprout a viewpoint towards other person that was absolutelypositive. That means the couple could only see positives. Whatever the otherperson did, whatever the other looked like would be wonderful. Let me tellyou a quick story that kind of exemplifies what I said.

A couple gets married, the first night they are alone together they areinvolved with a perfect love, and they can only see the positives in one another.The young wife is brushing her teeth, she has on a raggedy bathrobe, the dooris ajar, she’s drooling as she brushes. The young groom looks at her andsmiles, “Gee.” he thinks, she even looks good when she’s drooling, and thatbathrobe it’s a rag but she wears it like a queen. And she has the cutest walk,she kind of hops every other step. The perfect love. He can see only positives.

Time goes by, and we hear him say, “Honey would you close thebathroom door when you brush your teeth; I know you don’t realize it but youdrool. And I wish you would buy a new bathrobe, the one you have isembarrassing.”

He still loves her, but it isn’t perfect any more, he sees more andmore negatives. But on another level their energy fields are no longer inharmony, she may still be at 475 frequencies and he may have dropped to435.

Now the question becomes clear, how can I control the frequenciesof my energy field?

There is a way. When you can control your energy field you haveopened a wide door to power. Here’s how to do it. Think about a vegetable,oh say a carrot. No I didn’t pluck that out of your mind, most people willthink about a carrot when you ask them to think about a vegetable. So you arenow thinking about a carrot. Tap, with your fingers, tap on your leg, eitherone. So you should be tapping now. Note the frequency of the taps and try toremember it. Tap a little more. Now switch your thought to horses racing ona track and notice your tapping. It’s changed hasn’t it, and you’re probablytapping faster when you think of the horses running than when you think ofthe carrot. The Tapping Technique allows you to control emotions.

What that tells you is that there is a sense of rhythm in every thingyou think, with every mental image you create. Create a horrifying negativemental image and tap, then create a delightful positive image and tap and youwill see your energy field change in a few seconds. Herein lays the control,the power. And a big secret of relationships.

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Love is a positive viewpoint. The more positives you see in a thing orperson, the more love. To control the feeling of love simply view the object ofthe love in various aspects of activity through the eyes of your positive attitude.Whatever the person does, you see it in a positive manner. The power of yourenergy field will be directed to whatever direction you point it. Take a negativeviewpoint towards someone and see everything they do with a negative attitudeand you will have an immediate change towards that person. You will beginto dislike them. The degrees of the field begin in you mind, with your mentalimagery.

It has been said that the greatest sexual organ you have, is your brain.Actually it’s your mind, instigating chemical changes in the brain. This canbe controlled by controlling the energy field.

Now another experiment. Think of a person you dislike. Tap yourfingers on your thigh to get the approximate rhythm. Now think about a personyou like and tap your fingers on your thigh and you will find you are tappinga different tempo. This is the key to changing the degree of your energy field.Here’s how it works. Now then, while continuing to tap the frequency, andthereby the energy of the person you like, think of the person you dislike, andnote there will be a slight change in the dislike; it will have lessened a bit.

The tapping shows you that you have different levels ofelectromagnetic energy emanating from your energy field. When you controlthe field, you control what the energy field represents. An easy way to proveto yourself that the field changes with your emotions is to think about yourfavorite food. With the favorite food in mind tap on your thigh while thinkingabout your favorite food. Note the frequency of the tapping,

Now think about a food you hate and with that food in mind tap onyour thigh while thinking about the food that you hate. Note the frequency

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1. Personal rhythm changes with each emotion, each thought. Thoughtprecipitates rhythm, rhythm stimulates thought.

2. Think about a thing you like and tap on the side of your thigh with afew fingers. Note the frequency of the tapping.

3. Think about a thing you do not like, and tap the frequency of thething you like, and you will begin to like the thing you didn’t like.

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has changed. Use the Tapping Technique and control your likes and dislikes.

The key to a perfect relationship is to set the degree of the frequencyof the energy fields of both people to the same meshing level. The way to dothis is to have the couple create an aura of the same mental image, with thesame amount of energy going into the blending of the pair. If they’re boththinking about the same exact thing, (pre determined) their energy fields willmesh.

Two people sit comfortably either on the floor or on two chairs, closeto one another, but not touching. The two people go to their meditation levelat the same time (all this will be on the next track where I’ll guide you throughit) and when they are calm and peaceful, they go to a mental place of relaxationthat has been predetermined to be the same for both. Once meditating and atthe place of relaxation, each individual visualizes themselves with the otherperson at that place of relaxation.

They sit quietly picturing the other person alongside, each personthinks of the other and senses mentally, they are coming together, then mergingone entire body each into the other so that now the two are one. They dance asan auric energy form spiraling up and moving joyously about the room like aperfect musical note.

At this point still in the meditation zone, again through the magic ofvisualization, they separate, and then they both create an image of doingwhatever the other person would enjoy.

View this particular event facing the other person, deep into the zone,for one, five, ten, or twenty minutes. The time depends upon the peopleinvolved, their viewpoints, how deep within this realm they wish to be. Aftera strong visualization, a dynamic visualization, a power visualization, thecouple open their eyes. The one who comes back to the outer level first gentlyspeaks to the other person, saying, “I’m going to count from one to three.When I reach the count of three, you will open your eyes, be wide awake andinvolved with me.” Then very slowly and very gently, count one—two—three. With both parties-just out of meditation, all energies entwined, it onlyremains to allow nature to follow its natural course. The experience will belong remembered.

Use this technique only if you wish to truly enhance your relationship.

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CHAPTER EIGHT

SECRETS TO MASTERING YOUR EMOTIONS

Emotions drive brain waves and the stronger the emotion the higherthe brain wave. In addition to that you learned that the higher the brain wavethe less you are able to think in a clear, constructive, logical manner. We willnow address the emotions themselves. But first the definition. What is anemotion?

An emotion is any thought, that has like or dislike attached to it.

When you are neutral about a person, and event, or a thing, there isno emotion and you have better control over the situation. Unfortunately thehuman psyche practically demands we show some sort of feeling towardseverything we do. You either like it, or you dislike it, and by harboring thesefeelings emotions come into play.

The true captains of their souls are those who have control over theiremotions. Or, to state it more plainly, those who control their likes and dislikes.You learned about changing your attitude towards things you have strongemotions about but cannot avoid. Have a strong feeling of dislike to washingdishes? Don’t wash dishes, sparkle up the kitchen. This may seem like tradinga half dozen, for six, but it does allow you to control your emotions when youbegin to see the power residing therein.

To simply say switch your attitude may sound like anoversimplification of the problem but often the simplest explanation is thecorrect one. During the Meditation exercise in CD #9 you will be programmedwith a pair of power glasses.

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When you put on your Power Glasses, you automatically see thepositive nature of the thing you’re doing. To put on the Power Glasses youtouch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth, and say the words,‘Power Glasses on’ and imagine the glasses are in place. See the next chapterfor more information on power glasses.

Metaphors, or symbols, such as the power glasses example, can helpto achieve success in controlling emotions. We use many Power Metaphorsin our trainings as they are often the key to instant success in achieving whatwe want. You’ll note that our Mind Box Home Seminar Kit is loaded withPower Metaphors. But what distinguishes a ‘power’ metaphor from a simplemetaphor.

The Power, or Meditation Metaphor allows you to control theparadigm. Your paradigm is simply the example of a thing that you set foryourself. Your model of what you see is your paradigm. The paradigm of aforest, as seen through the eyes of a hunter would be different than those of aland developer, or a lumber merchant as example.

All of our Meditation Metaphors give you the ability to utilizeadditional resources to effect, and to control change. When your emotions areunder your control, you are then truly the master of your destiny, the captainof your soul.

Now I would like to introduce you to another Power Metaphor to addto your mind box resources. I call this one, the Power Shield. This metaphoris designed to protect you from someone else’s emotions. It has stood manypeople well over the years and I have received many positive testimonialsand much feedback from people who have used it. I recall one woman, hername was Cynthia, had a rather messy divorce. Emotions ran high with bothher and her ex husband. There was money involved, children, and other familymembers. She had come to the seminar because she heard we train people tomeditate among other things. But unfortunately for Cynthia every time sheattempted to reach the meditation state, thoughts of her ex husband wouldappear and she would be frustrated and stressful. She sat through the classhalf listening until we came to the emotional shield; the Power Shield. Thatperked her up.

But let me back up a bit. I wanted to show the people attending thatthe shield, although a mental construction was a real thing. Emotions are alsomental and so the shield, built on the physical level by the power of the mind,being on both levels was effective in blocking energies. Going over to Werner,

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a gentleman in the front row, I whispered in his ear so that only he could hearme. “I want you to build a wall, a mental wall, somewhere between the frontof the room and the back of the room. Just imagine a solid wall of energygoing from floor to ceiling and wall to wall. Don’t tell me where it is, but youmake note of where it is.”

He did so. I took a wire hanger and bent it into an L shape so that itbecame a horizontal dowsing rod. Starting at the front of the room, my handwrapped around the foot of the L with the tip pointed out and away from me,I slowly walked to the back of the room. When I reached a point about threequarters of the way back, the wire pulled to the right. I said to Werner, “Youbuilt the wall right here.”

He smiled and nodded. I then told the class why I had whispered inhis ear. Had I told him to build his mental wall so that everyone could hearthere would invariably be someone there who would also build a wall andthey would be all over the place.

I told the class that these mental constructions were very often realthings. They did not have enough energy to forestall anything physical, butthey were definitely strong enough to block mental energies. An emotionalcharge from a person who is sending negative thoughts to you can be enoughto cause you misery. Cynthia’s husband, she reported, was doing just that.She couldn’t sleep, her appetite was gone, and she was fearful all the time.She just knew that her husband was at the bottom of her distress. Was it all inher own head? No way to tell, but now she had the means to block whateverenergies were coming from her husband.

I told her to build a wall, just like the one I had built, except her wall

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1. Start with the Bagha then imagine a psychic shield, or a wall ofenergy, between yourself and who or whatever you want protectionfrom.

2. To put on the shield, touch the roof of your mouth with the tip ofyour tongue and say, ‘Shield protect’ and imagine the wall of energybetween you and whatever mental energies you want protection from.

3. To remove the shield, simply say, ‘Shield off.’

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was to stave off all negative energy that was directed towards her. She askedhow is that done, and this is the technique for the Emotional Power Shield.

You mentally sense a wall, a psychic shield if you will, between youand where you believe the person you are shielding yourself from is. If youdo not know exactly where they are then surround yourself with the shield.Just imagine this shield surrounding your body. That’s all you have to do.

Cynthia did me one better she reported later. She wasn’t satisfiedwith the shield and so she built, with her mind of course, a wall that wasmirrored on the side she believed her husband was at the time.

Cynthia reported that she had a good night’s sleep that evening forthe first time since the problem with her husband began. She smiled and saidshe couldn’t say the same for her husband.

I’ve used the Power Shield many times as have many people whohave learned the technique and the reports from others who have used it aretruly astounding. After it is programmed during the Meditation exercise onthe following track you have only to touch the roof of your mouth with the tipof your tongue and say the words, Power shield protect, and imagine theshield between you and the person you feel is directing negative energiestowards you.

There are places as well as people who have strong energy fields.Jails as example will always have a strong negative, disruptive field that isdisturbing even when driving or walking past. Hospitals also have a disturbingenergy due to the pain and fear of the people inside. Places of a spiritualnature such as temples, churches and mosques have a calming positive energyfield. You can actually test this. If there is a police station in your neighborhood,and if there is a temple or church in your neighborhood, have a friend driveyou by the both of them and have your eyes closed. You will know which oneyou are passing simply by the way you feel as you are driven past the structure.

The power shield will protect you from the negative energies of placesas well as that of people.

This technique will give you power and control over the emotions ofothers and the energies of places and situations. During the track followingthe next meditation training track you will learn techniques for controllingyour own emotions and why it is important to do so.

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are emotional you have a strong sense of either like or dislike about a thing.So then if you are emotional you are displaying a high degree of either like ordislike. The more like, the more emotional you will be, the more dislike, themore emotional you will be. Knowing that we can focus in on the real culprit—like and/or dislike. Now the question becomes, How would you control yourlikes and dislikes?

Now that we are focusing on likes and dislikes you are getting closerto control of your emotions. Let’s take a thing you like; oh say an article ofclothing. There are clothes in your closet that you like more than other thingsthere. Take your favorite sweater or jacket. You wouldn’t exactly say that youare emotional about a jacket but if you like it more than other jackets in yourwardrobe you are indeed emotional about it. Anger and fear may be subjectsyou associate with emotions but anything you demonstrate attachment ordetachment to also bring about an emotion. When you learn to deal with aninsignificant emotion, using the same process you can deal with a significantone.

Say that you can’t find your favorite jacket. You’re going out andwant that one in particular; you look all over for it but you can’t find it. Youmust have that jacket; you love it and have to have it. Where is it? You don’tknow. Now this is a rather insignificant thing but it does elicit an emotion.Virtually everything you are involved with brings out an emotional responsewith respect to feeling a degree or more of like or dislike.

You can be emotional about anything. During CD number 2 in thisset, Weight Power, you will find that the problems people have with food areemotional. Some foods are enjoyed so very much that the emotions run highand the person must satisfy the need they feel. This brings up still anotherfactor, emotions bring forth needs. The more intense the emotion, the strongerthe need.

An emotion can be controlled by either diminishing or enhancing thelike or dislike of the thing that is causing the emotion. Another method ofcontrolling an emotion is to control the need.

The missing jacket, without a need for it, becomes simply an articleof clothing that can’t be located for the moment. So you pick another one. Butif there is a strong need for that jacket, say you got it for your birthday from agood friend and you are meeting that friend and want to wear the jacket. Thenneed does indeed come into play and emotions will run high.

Needs and wants stem from attitude and so we come to the one thingthat we can control and by doing so all emotions can be directed to whereverwe wish them to be. Attitude control will automatically bring about the degreeof emotion we want to bring about.

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Control your attitude and you control your emotions. And now wecome to it, a new way to control your attitude. I’ve found the quickest, mosteffective way to control attitude is to first of all to defuse the attitude youwant to change by neutralizing it. The way to do this is with the Power Shout,coupled with your Power Glasses. This practically guarantees an instant changeof attitude.

Let’s take a hypothetical situation, or better yet, we’ll use the missingjacket as an example. You are looking frantically for the jacket, it’s in yourmind. You have created a mental image of it; it’s in all your thoughts. You canbe assured of this as the same mind set would come about with anything youwere that emotional about.

Focus your thoughts on the missing jacket and mentally shout as loudas you can: Stop! That will put the thought into neutral. Then touch yourtongue to your palate and mentally say ‘Power Glasses on.” Power Glassesare programmed in CD #9. Power glasses are programmed so that when youmentally put them on you will see the positive aspects of all things. With yourPower Glasses on your attitude will shift and you will suddenly see a differentjacket that will suit you just as much as the missing one.

As soon as you feel the need for the new jacket, and with your PowerGlasses on, do a Power Tensing by standing straight and quickly tensing yourfeet, calves, thighs and up the body to your head. Hold the tension for a fewseconds and release it. (More on tensing in the next chapter.) You will findyour attitude has changed and you no longer have a desire for the missingjacket.

Of course the jacket is a metaphor for anything in your life that youare emotional about.

To go through the process once again. Any time you are emotionalabout something and you do not want to be emotional about the person, thing,or event. Allow the thought to come into your mind, then shout, mentally,with all the mental volume you can muster, STOP!

Immediately after mentally yelling stop, touch your tongue to theroof of your mouth and say ‘Power Glasses on” and imagine the Power Glasseson your head. With the Power Glasses on you will see the situation from itspositive aspects.

With the glasses in place tense up from feet to head and you will findthe emotions changing to where you want them to be. And that is emotioncontrol.

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CHAPTER NINE

SECRETS TO ACHIEVEMENT

All actions are preceded by an energy to create that action. The energyis built up by the thought of what the energy is to be used for. Example; angerbegats fighting and so the energy of anger is strong, immediate, fierce andtemporary. Whereas the energy built by the thought of making one’s familymember feel good is of an entirely different octave. The latter energy is mild,grows with time, is gentle and lasting.

When you continually build a fierce energy that force sifts into otheremotions and so a person angry at his boss can very well take that energyhome with him and direct it at wife and children.

The thought that creates the mental images that bring about the energyto perform the action is in itself created - by some stimulus. The hierarchyhere is Stimulus, Thought, Energy, Action. No action can be taken withoutthe energy to act. No energy can be formed without an intentional thought.And no thought is ever formed without the stimulus of some agency to fire offwhatever that stimulus has been anchored to.

I like to make difficult concepts clear and so I will clarify the subject asbest I can so that you may use the concept to better your life if you so desire.

Good heath and wellness are predicated basically on four things.

1. A healthy diet.

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3. A happy attitude.

4. A relaxed state of mind.

Assuming that you are aware of what constitutes ‘a healthy diet,’ wewould carry on with a short walk, eventually a brisk walk. Working up to, ifyou are not comfortable walking already, an hour brisk walk, every day.

A relaxed state of mind can be easily achieved by going to a meditationlevel, and working at least three goals per week, say one on Monday, one onWednesday, and the last on Friday. You will be amazed at how relaxed youget when you are conceptualizing a goal. Take your time at it. Take a fewminutes to get to your meditation level and spend another couple of minutesvisualizing your goal. This will open your ESP channel and enhance a relaxedstate of mind more so than anything else you can do.

And last, and most important of all, a happy attitude. How to achieve ahappy attitude when circumstance tell you otherwise. You seldom knowwhether the thing is good or bad except in retrospect.

If you are going through hard times in some aspect of your life or otherit could very well be a message that you are on the wrong road and shouldtake another. Remember it is never the event that causes the emotionalproblems that cause ill health, it is your attitude towards the event. Changeyour attitude and change the event.

My favorite attitude metaphor is the one about the dirty dishes. Almosteveryone hates to wash dishes whereas everyone loves a sparkling cleankitchen.

To change your attitude, don’t wash dishes - sparkle up the kitchen.The dishes will be in the way of that and you will have to wash them, but youare not washing dishes, you are sparkling up the kitchen. To use the modernpopular jargon, put a different spin on it.

That simple change of attitude can help you keep in good health and bewell.

Don’t study, learn. Don’t curse the dark, let in the light.

Attitudes direct your life more than relationships, more than money,more than sex, more than education, more than anything. When you directyour attention towards an event it is invariably your attitude that creates peaceor havoc in your life. Many a healthy millionaire has done himself harmbecause of a wrong seeing attitude.

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change that person’s attitude. One changes from a fearful, phobic, failure inmany aspects of life to a person with faith in the future, courage in dealingwith the minor and major events in life, and a realizer of the fact that failuredoes not exist except as a learning experience.

You can ‘fail’ a dozen times, you only have to succeed once.

Not to take an action is to fail, for if the action is not taken you cancertainly not succeed.

Actions are more likely when your attitude towards the thing the actionis directed is that of a positive nature. Action requires energy. But what exactlyis energy. Let’s see.

The generally accepted scientific definition of energy is: The ability todo work. If something enables something to work, there’s energy involved.The mind works, and so it is energized. But by what? Let’s say that you’re outof coffee and you have to go to the store to get some if you want coffee athome. The desire for a cup of coffee is the energizer to get you to go to thestore. Desire therefore stimulates energy. Desire is what gets you out of bed,to work, to play. Some degree of desire is behind ever act, every action. Desireis a mental thing, and just as intangible as is the mind, and yet there it is, theinstigator of work. How does the mind create desire? Does it simply appear?Or is there some stimulating factor that comes about? All of the things thathave happened to you in the past are what make you the person you are. Yourdesires are the result of all those happenings. All that resides in your memory,and so we must add memory to the list, memory is energy, potential energy.What triggers memory? Let’s see if we can uncover an answer.

People who are coffee drinkers have a desire for a cup at differenttimes. Some desire a cup when they get up in the morning, some when they sitdown for a rest, some when they smoke a cigarette, some after a meal, somewith a meal, but note that always, the coffee is attached to something else.Something that causes a desire for a cup of coffee. A stimulus. And so it iswith all things, Stimulus creates desire and desire triggers the action. If wewere to diagram this it would be, Stimulus, Desire, Energy, Action. Advertisingis designed to create a strong stimulus that brings about a desire in you topurchase the product. The desire builds an energy that is satisfied by the actionof purchasing the product.

Desire is a thought, a mental construction. There can be no energyfor an action without a thought preceding the energy.

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THE ANSWER TO CREATING, ENHANCING, ORDEPLETING ENERGY LIES IN THE MIND. THOUGHT.

You have no control over the stimulus you are confronted with daily,it’s all around you. In things, people, and events. Stimulus comes at you throughthe media, billboards, movies, friends, and virtually everywhere. You do notcontrol it. But you do have control over your thoughts. Your thoughts canmake you, or break you. Thoughts too are things. Every thing you see, wasonce a thought. A pencil, before it was a pencil was a drawing on a piece ofpaper. A battleship, an aircraft carrier, was once a drawing on a piece of paper.Drawn by engineers who were thinking of the configuration of the pencil orthe battleship before it was manufactured. All things were once thoughts.Including you.

Let’s now see how to control the controllable and bring about energyat will. But first, does thought really control energy? Think about this, youget bad news, this weakens you so much that you may have to sit down. Youget good news, this strengthens you so much you feel like dancing. But it’sreally all in the mind. Your mind is the source of your energy.

How using about a Power Mind Trick? Say that you have a sink fullof dirty dishes and you hate washing them. You have no desire, and thereforeno energy available to wash them. How would you change the stimulus of thedirty dishes to build desire? The answer is really very simple. You changeyour attitude.

To make the change easy for you, I have developed a mentalconstruction to help you to change your attitude. I call the technique, PowerGlasses. What are Power Glasses? They are a mental construction to changethe negative aspects in your life to that of a positive nature. When you put onyour mental Power Glasses, you tell yourself to see the positive nature of thething you’re doing. To put on the Power Glasses you touch the roof of yourmouth with your tongue, ‘the Bagha’, and say the words, ‘Power Glasses on’and imagine the glasses are in place. Your imagination, along with the attitudethat this will work, will make it work. With the Power Glasses on you will beable to adjust your attitude and enhance your energy as they will enable youto see the positive nature of what you will be doing.

Let’s get back to the dirty dishes in your sink. What is the end resultof your washing the dishes? The end result is a sparkling clean kitchen ofcourse. The way to change your attitude is not to think about a sink full ofdirty dishes but rather the end result; a sparkling clean kitchen. With your

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Power Glasses on you will see a sparkling clean kitchen not dirty dishes, thedishes will be in the way, but you won’t be washing dishes, you will besparkling up the kitchen.

Don’t wash the dishes; sparkle up the kitchen.

A young lady came to my seminar with her father. She hated to study.I asked her why she did it if she hated it. She said she had to learn the materialshe was studying. I asked her if she liked to learn? She said she loved to learn.I said, well then, the next time you open your books, don’t study, Learn. Shelooked at me and said “But it’s the same thing.”

“No it’s not.” I replied, “How can it be the same thing if you love oneand hate the other?”

She learned the Majestic Sight technique and uses it all the time.

My friend, it is not the same thing. Washing dishes and sparkling upthe kitchen may get the same result, but they are not the same thing. Not ifyou love one, and hate the other.

How many things in your life are there to be ‘sparkled up?”

If you have a lack of energy, you can bet it’s because there are toomany dirty dishes in your life. So start sparkling up the kitchens.

On the following track is a meditation exercise featuring the MajesticSight technique that has been designed to help you change your attitude towardsthings and double your energy.

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1. Start with the Bagha. Imagine a pair of special positive viewspectacles are in place over your eyes.

2. Whenever you want to see things in a positive manner touch theroof of your mouth with your tongue and say ‘Glasses On’ and imagineyour positive viewpoint glasses are in place.

3. With your positive viewpoint glasses on imagine that you seeeverything as a majestic looking sight.from its positive aspects only.

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You can see for yourself how effective the Majestic Sight Techniqueis by thinking about tomorrow morning when you get up. Whatever it is youhave to do, if there is anything that you do not enjoy doing, ask yourself whyyou are doing it. The end result will be what you have a desire to do. Use yourimagination. Put on your Power Glasses and concentrate on the end result.Sparkle up the kitchen.

Carol Lacey, during a break in the seminar, told me how much shehated going to work. Carol is a kindergarten teacher and the 16 four and fiveyear old children in her class were driving her crazy. She had so little energyshe could barely get into her car to drive to work. She would get home eatsomething and go to bed. She was going to quit teaching; were there anysuggestions for her?

Put on your Power Glasses, I told her.

Who are your favorite people? I asked, Historical, fantasy, movie,personal, famous, who do you like best? Here is a piece of paper, write downtheir names. After a while she had 22 names on her list.

Now write down your students names, every one of them. She did. Isaid now put one of the personalities next to each of the students. She did. Ilooked at the list and noted the name Anna. Next to it was Marilyn Monroe.Another name was Alex, and next to it Brad Pitt. Consuela became JulieRoberts, and a particularly obnoxious young lady became Britney Spears.She had placed a personality that she liked, next to each of her students. Aftercompleting the list she looked at me quizzically. “What now?” she asked.

Keep this list on your desk and tomorrow, put on your power glassesand see the child as an adult, growing up to be one of these personalities.Anna will still be Anna but you see her as a young Marilyn Monroe. Alex willstill be Alex, but in your mind he is going to grow up to be Brad Pitt. And dothe same with each of your students.

Carol Lacey did that and her attitude changed completely. Schoolbecame a game to her. She actually looked forward to her students. Theyhadn’t changed. They still shouted, and cried and complained, but Carol hadchanged. She saw them in a different light and her energy soared.

Then there are those who set impossible goals for themselves likehaving to be in two places at the same time knowing they won’t make thesecond appointment. But they try and their adrenaline skyrockets creating a

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chemical surge of energy. Not the best thing to do as after the high comes acrashing low. Natural energy strengthens the immune system and sustainsyouthful vigor. All you have to do is to change your attitude. Put on yourPower Glasses and sparkle up the kitchen.

The meditation exercise following this track will help you to do exactlythat. Play it whenever anything is bothering you to the degree that it is sappingyour energy.

And be sure to listen to both the training and the meditation followingthe next track. You’ll learn ‘Power Tension’ one of my power techniquesdesigned to bring in energy in less than one minute without stirring from yourposition, its dynamite/

In 1920 Angelo Siciliano, a skinny young man got tired of being pickedon and decided to do something about it. He couldn’t afford the weight set hewanted and there were no body building sites at that time and so he spentmany hours at the library until he came across a book about isometriccontraction, an exercise in which you put tension on muscles without liftingheavier and heavier weights. An example of isometric contraction would beputting your two palms together and pushing one against the other.

Then one critical day in his young life he found himself wanderingthrough the zoo. Stopping at the cage of lions he watched as one of them lyingon his side, listless and lethargic lazily stretched. The lion’s paw and leglengthened until it couldn’t go any further, there was a rippling of musclesunder the hide of the beast and the paw was extended still further until itseemed as though it could go not a millimeter more. The muscles wereobviously being tensed and released. The lion then pulled in his leg andstretched out his back paw and leg, muscles rippling merrily under the skinall the while, and then he stood up and roared, seemingly filled with energy.When he saw that Angelo Siciliano had a mind blowing thought. By creatingtension between one muscle and another, the muscle would grow and bestronger.

Angelo Siciliano changed his name. He changed it to Charles Atlasand put together a course in isometric contraction to build muscles and sold itthrough the mail. It was so successful that the Charles Atlas Dynamic Tensioncourse is being sold even today, almost a hundred years later.

The core of what Atlas was teaching would today be called IsometricContraction—exercises in which you put tension on muscles, by pitting oneagainst the other. Machines and weights are not used. Instead, you’re workingwith opposition from other muscles.

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You might wonder what that has to with Motivation and Energy Power.Charles Atlas’s course worked wonders, but he completely overlooked

an even larger benefit of isometrics. He overlooked it just as much as the manwho couldn’t find gold and left the area not realizing he was working in adiamond bearing field. What Charles Atlas overlooked was the fact thatisometric contraction did indeed build muscles in a few short months, but thatisometric contraction could also built energy; in a few short seconds.

That’s what CD-9 is about. Not isometric contraction as we will notbe working with one muscle opposing another. We’re not looking to buildmuscles; we’re looking to build instant energy.

When you work a muscle, you energize it. You extend it, then itcontracts, and back and forth. A concert pianist’s fingers are loaded with energy,allowing the fingers to fly over the keys. If you could look into the muscularstructure of the finger you would find the muscles extending and contractingso quickly they seemed to vibrate with energy, as indeed they would be doing.Any time you work a muscle you energize that muscle. Muscles do not existin a vacuum; when you energize one the neighboring muscles are energizedas well. Work your large muscles in turn and the entire body is energized.

The technique you are about to learn is called Tension Power.When you walk or run there is a constant contracting and releasing of

your leg muscles. In other words, the muscles are working. Work takes energy.Energy flows through the legs and then to the entire body during this process.

Many years ago I asked myself the question: What if a person wouldcontract and release muscular tension while he was sitting still…like CharlesAtlas’s lion?

After a few trials, and feedback from others I tested the techniqueand presented Power Tension during seminars that I presented in the U.S. andEurope. Working the concept out over the years I’ve simplified it so thatanyone, young or old can use it with impunity. The idea of Power Tension isto ease into the technique and discover how much muscle tension it takes to

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1. Standing straight, tense your feet, calves, thighs, buttocks, stomach,chest, neck, face and head.

2. Tense lightly and quickly.

3. After feeling more energy flow through your body, relax.

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produce a particular degree of energy.Let’s say that the energy number of leaping out of your chair and

dancing around is 100. That’s the energy of a thirteen year old child whocan’t stand still but jumps up and down while waiting for someone and alwaysseems to be in motion. On the other end of the scale would be the energy levelof a person who has just eaten a big meal and is sitting on a couch watchingtelevision. His energy level would be about a 15.

Allow me to use the person on the couch as an example as to how theTension Power technique is used. Let’s give him a name and call him Oscar.Oscar just learned Tension Power and is bored sitting on the couch watchingtelevision but he’s so listless he doesn’t have the energy to get up; and so hedecides to use the Tension Power Technique.

He starts at his feet.First he tenses his feet feeling his toes curl in a bit as he does.He tenses for 3 seconds, even to counting 1, 2, 3 after the tensing.Then he tenses his calves for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his thighs for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his buttocks for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his stomach for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his lower back for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his upper back for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his chest for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his shoulders for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his upper arms for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his forearms and tightens his fist for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his neck for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his face for 3 seconds.Then he tenses his head for 3 seconds.

Oscar now has enough energy to get up and do whatever chore hehas. And that is the Tension Power technique. Quick and easy, effective andworkable. You tense the muscles very gently the first time you use thistechnique, you will find that even with a slight tensing, your energy level willrise. After using the technique a few times you will discover the correct amountof muscle tensing to use to develop the energy you need.

The meditation exercise on the next track will offer all this materialto you while you are at your most receptive; in the meditation state. You cancheck the technique very easily right now. Tense your back, and then veryslight tension in your chest, and note how you immediately are sitting or

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standing straight as a pine tree.Tension Power can stand you in good stead as ready asset and resource

all the rest of your life.Whenever you need motivation to a thing you desire to do. Before

doing it, use Tension Power.

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CHAPTER TEN

SECRETS TO OVERCOMING FEARS AND PHOBIAS

To understand fears and phobias you must first understand the basicdefinition of fear. A fear is simply an expectation of something of a negativenature happening. A negative expectation; period. Anxiety is a real, orimaginary negative expectation. A phobia is an irrational expectation. Let’snow see if we can make sense of all that. For the overcoming of fear rests firstof all with an understanding of what it is.

A rational fear is one in which there is fight or flight attached. Fear isnatures response to danger. Your heart speeds up pumping blood and oxygenthrough your body. You breathe faster taking in more oxygen. Adrenalineflows into your bloodstream stimulating and strengthening you; it raises bloodpressure, produces a rapid heartbeat, and acts as a neurotransmitter. After thefear leaves there is a general depletion of energy and lethargy sets in; thedanger is over.

An irrational fear is one in which there is no running, no protectingoneself involved. Fear of flying, fear of the dentist, fear of a loss, or anyperceived negative outcome where there is no perception of getting awayfrom the result.

Rational fear you want to leave alone. Walking by a dark alley atnight you want that adrenaline flow if danger comes at you. You want theenergy to move out of the way. Walking through the woods and seeing arattlesnake directly in front of you; you want that adrenaline flow to get youaway in a hurry. Rational fear is natural and protective.

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about, that kind of fear is imaginary. Because the fear lies in the imaginationwe will use the imagination to get rid of the fear.

Metaphor, or a thing that is used to represent another thing can bevery useful in overcoming irrational fears, in this case we will use the Baghain conjunction with Power Tension. This dynamic pair will be programmedwhile you are at the meditation level of mind during the next track of this CD,but first, an explanation.

To overcome the irrational fear we are going to use a technique thatwas developed centuries ago, I was taught the technique by a good friend andKahuna Master, Dr. Robert Stone..Bob wrote a number of books about Kahunaand was a professor at the University of Hawaii. To describe the Kahunamethod of overcoming fear I will use as an example a common irrational fear,the fear of public speaking. Consider that a metaphor for any fear.

First you think about the worse case scenario, that would be youspeaking in front of a group and forgetting a word, or a line, or becomingsuddenly hoarse, or developing a stutter, and the group laughing at you. Youimagine this scene in the palm of your left hand.

Second you think about the best case scenario, that would be youspeaking easily and with great confidence. The group applauds you with astanding ovation, and you receive the prize for the best talk ever. You imaginethis scene in the palm of your right hand.

With the best case scenario set and in your mind, visualizing it in thepalm of your right hand, you use the Bagha; you touch your tongue to the roofof your mouth for three seconds.

Third, you smash your two hands together destroying the fear at both

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1. Think of the worst case scenario with regards to your fear.

2. Think of the best case scenario with regards to your fear.

3. Visualize the two scenes in the palms of your hands, one in the palmof your left hand the other in the palm of your right hand.

4. Smash your hands together.

5. Use the Bagha and think of the best case scene. Fears gone.

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ends thus neutralizing it so that you have no expectation of failure.

Fourth, thinking about speaking before a group, touch your tongue tothe roof of your mouth, and your fear is gone.

This technique works very well.

So to reiterate: Fear is a negative expectation. When you expectsomething of a negative nature to happen, that’s fear. When you expectsomething bad to happen, that is fear. To overcome any fear you must changethe negative expectation to a positive expectation. Change the expectation ofthe bad to an expectation of the good. Fear is a natural reaction when there isa fight or flight response that is necessary to survival or to protect oneself.Moderate fear makes you stronger, faster, sharpens your survival skills. Whenfight or flight is not necessary, then we have a fear that may get in the way ofour quality of life.

At this time consider one of your fears – only one. You will deal withyour fears one at a time. What is it that you are fearful of? Is fight or flightinvolved with this fear? If it is not, then the fear is an unnecessary one. Letus examine this fear.

Think of the end result of the fear. What can happen that you areafraid of? What is the negative expectation? Examine the negative happening.You have just confronted your fear. You can see that the problem lies in yourexpectation of something negative happening. This is the foundation for anyfear, a negative expectation. The problem resides in the mind so you changeyour viewpoint. You will change the negative expectation to a positiveexpectation and eventually free the mind of the fear.

Now think about the opposite happening. Think about a positive endresult to the same experience. Think about a possible good result to theexperience that you’ve been fearful of. Examine the positive end result. Thinkabout what precedes that end result, what leads up to that end result and thenthink only of a positive end result, only of a pleasant outcome. If you have toswitch your viewpoint, do so. If you have to sparkle up the kitchen instead ofdoing up the dirty dishes with respect to your fear, do so. Sense the scene.Visualize it. Create a scene where you mentally see the good, the positive ofthe experience and see a positive end result. Have a positive expectation.

Then use Kahuna Boldness, and the Bagha.

From this time on whenever you think of the fear on the consciouslevel polarize it with Kahuna Boldness and bring into your mind the positiveexpectation. Sense the good. Think of the benefit. Develop a positive

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expectation with respect to the experience. Develop your desires. Whenpositive things are strongly desired and the expectations are positive, fearswill tend to melt away. Develop your appetite for experience. Develop yourdesires. The more fervent the desire, the more unrestrained will be yourpositive expectation. With a positive expectation a sense of fear, false fear, ismuch less likely. Fear is a negative expectation. Faith is a positive expectation.By changing the fear that a bad thing will occur to the faith that a good thingwill happen, the negative diminishes and the fear tends to leave. Wheneveryou think of the thing, put your tongue on the roof of your mouth and visualizethe positive result of the experience. See the benefit. See the good happening.

To understand courage it is necessary to understand the emotion calledfear. There are two types of fear. The first is genuine fear, natural fear feltbecause of a real threat. Fear is a necessary ingredient for survival in allanimals. It allows one to respond to danger through a chemical jolt of adrenalinethat stimulates the body into instant action. When you pass a dark alley late atnight, the fear you feel that someone might jump out at you helps make youfaster, more focused, and stronger. The fear helps you to get away from dangerimmediately. This is commonly known as the fight-flight syndrome.

However, fear that was designed eons ago to prepare a person for aphysical act in the forest is not necessarily appropriate in the workplace. Anexecutive learns in a meeting that he or she may soon be fired. The thought oflosing a job would create fear in most of us. A fear of change, and the unknownresult of that change. But what kind of physical act or reaction is proper inthis situation? What should be done in response to a nagging anxiety thatcould last for weeks before it is resolved?

Obviously, there is nothing on the physical level that can appropriatelybe done. Yet the physical component of fear, a residue of our prehistoric past,still persists: adrenaline flows; circulation is redirected within the body, andso on. Prolonged fear (creating unremitting stress) can actually damage thebody.

Although the fear itself may be valid, the instinctive response it elicits isall too often out of proportion to the threat. It is impossible to program outthat response, since it is one of our strongest instincts. We can only deal, on apractical level, with its longer-term effects.

Before we get into that, however, let’s take a look at the second category;illusory or imaginary fears.

Though just as genuinely felt, illusory fears are based uponmisperceptions—false commands emanating from a person’s inner conscious.

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idea where it originates. Others suffer from phobias — greatly exaggerated,distorted responses to something perceived as a hazard. Illusory fears are thebane of their existence.

Illusory fears often stem directly (and occasionally indirectly) from aninadequate self-image. The ego, or sense of self-esteem, may not be up tocoping with the complex problems of modern living, and the natural reactionto this is stress caused by anxiety. If the self perceives itself as inadequate tocope, anxiety, always waiting in the wings, is all too ready to pounce and takeover. An inadequate sense of self generally, if not always, stems from childhoodprogramming by authority figures.

Illusory fears are often based on misperceptions. Say you open your doorone day to find a snarling dog ready to leap and bite. You back up so quicklythat you trip over your own feet and fall down. But the dog doesn’t jump. Youtake a second look and discover that the dog is a mop you had left on yourfront porch the night before. Because it was not what you expected to see (theusual clear porch), your mind did not recognize the mop but startled you intoa self-protective mode just in case there was danger. There’s no danger froma bit of dark wet cotton, but a dog, yes; let’s see a dog, says the imagination,just in case we need protection. And when you see the dog instead of a mop,all the defensive reactions of the body spring into place and back you go.

The misperception was quickly cleared up. That was easy. Manymisperceptions, however, are buried deep in the subconscious, and in mostcases they’ve been programmed by well-meaning parents or other authorityfigures. Beliefs, attitudes, and the ways we see things are our perceptiveresources, some of which work to our advantage and some of which do not.What we as individuals accept as truth, (our perception of things,) belong toour overall belief system. Some of these belief systems can be quite resistantto change. No one ever remembers something that happened in its actuality,but only what happened as perceived by that individual. That perception isaffected by mood, emotion, age, company, environment, and even the weather.The same experience that two people may undergo will later affect each in atotally different manner.

Reprogramming illusory fears to convert them to positive expectationsenhances one’s awareness and self-esteem. As the self-esteem improves, onein turn becomes less and less prone to react to illusory fears.

There are ways to deal with illusory fear. First, let’s define the word.Fear is a negative expectation. When you are fearful, you are expectingsomething bad to happen. Once you are aware of this, it becomes easier todeal with the fear. You simply change the negative expectation to a positiveexpectation. It is not difficult to do this; however it does require practice.

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To eliminate a fear, polarize it: switch to a positive result of the thingyou fear. Take, for instance, our example of the executive who is about to befired. The first reaction might be to visualize the difficulties of a reducedincome and the lessened prestige that would likely accompany the dismissal.But what are the positive aspects of losing the job? Our executive might thinkof a period beyond the immediate difficulties and start to see this as anopportunity to do what he or she really wants to do—say move to anotherarea, switch fields, or explore any number of attractive possibilities notpreviously available.

Another benefit of changing your viewpoint is that it helps you identifyand develop your desires. When you hold a positive desire, the result is usuallya positive expectation. And, as we’ve just seen, a positive expectation—faith—serves to diminish a fear.

You might initially think courage, not faith, is the opposite of fear. Butconsider that courage exists only where there is fear to overcome. Withoutfear there can be no courage; you would just act. To ask yourself why you arefearful leads nowhere because fear is an abstraction. Better to ask yourselfwhat you expect of a negative nature to happen; then you begin to close in ona useful answer.

An even more fruitful question would be: what would you be doing ifyou did not expect this negative thing to happen? Suddenly all kinds of positiveanswers come into view. Fear is imaginary just as faith is imaginary—andboth being imaginary; they are subject to your mental control. You can controlfear by changing it to faith. That is the technique that we use for eliminatingfear—to transmute, or change, the fear.

In considering your debilitating fears, ask yourself the question, “Whatwould I be doing, and what would my life be like if I did not expect this badthing to happen?” Now you are transmuting, for your imagination brings intoplay all of the positive possibilities, and at last you have a weapon to fight thefear.

Fear is a necessary part of the systems nature has installed in us. If wewere to wipe out fear from a person’s environment, we would be doing aninjustice, for the trigger of fear is often necessary to remove you from harm’sway should danger arise. However, illusory fear, illogical fear, fear in whichthe fight-or-flight response is not required can only hamper one’s growth. Soidentify your fear. Is it necessary? Is fighting indicated? Is running involved?If not, in all probability it’s a fear that you do not need.

To deal with it, go to your meditation zone. Polarize the fear; visualizethe positive expectations. What would you be doing if you did not have thefear? Go over this again and again. Symbolically smash or erase the negative

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image and do not concern yourself with it again. Whenever you consider thething, visualize only the positive, beneficial results.

If flying is your fear, visualize the positive aspects of the trip you’retaking. Visualize yourself sitting comfortably on the plane. Picture a safe,smooth landing and the successful outcome of the trip. Imagine the thingsthat you would be doing happily if you did not have this fear.

To dominate your fear, you change the negative expectation to a positiveexpectation. You do this with your viewpoint, at a relaxed state of mind, throughmeditation. You do this with that part of your own mind that rules the world,your imagination.

Fear is imaginary; courage is imaginary. The source of courage is in theimagination—your image-making creative ability. Therein lies the ultimatewellspring and true source of courage.

The Three Faces of Fear

Ivan Pavlov, in 1904, discovered that the stimulus produced by the sightof food as well as the aroma of food, two separate representational systems—the visual and the olfactory—traveled along different nerve pathways. Theydo however meet in a common path that stimulates the salivary glands tosecrete mucus to help pre-digest the food. His conclusion was that the finalpathway can also be activated by associated nerve tracts that are not directlyconnected with the response. It was a simple reflex. He called it a ‘conditionedreflex.’

Pavlov discovered that by ringing a bell when a dog was involved withthe smell and sight of food about to be eaten the sound of the bell meshedwith the visual and olfactory along the same nerve pathways. The saliva flowpersisted when the bell alone was sounded, even though there was no food insight. The nerve pathway had been established. This is regarded to this day bypsychologists and physiologists as a fundamental reason for both voluntaryand involuntary behaviors.

Fear is an involuntary behavior. A person who is fearful of flying, knows,on an intellectual level, that flying is safer than taking a bath, and much saferthan driving, but fear has nothing to do with fact. Some event in the past hadset the negative expectation whenever that event is forthcoming. The fearsits waiting along the nerve pathways of the brain. When a like event comesalong, the pathways fire off and one of the three faces of fear comes about—anxiety, fear, or panic.

To eliminate the fear it simply requires another force to travel along thecommon nerve pathway that had been established by the fear. We have asimple method of accomplishing this. As fear is a state of the imagination you

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must use the imagination to intervene.

Here is the technique for Mental Accupuncture.and Chi. Build an imageof yourself very comfortable. Keep that image and create either a sound or atouch that is not a usual sound or touch. Say that you pinch your left earlobewith the first two fingers of your right hand while humming the auumm chant.If you did all that while you were thinking about yourself being verycomfortable, then the pinch, the hum, and the mental image of comfort are onthe same nerve pathway. It will be set and ready to fire off whenever yourequire a state of comfort. The key is that you cannot be fearful and comfortableat the same time; you are either one or the other. To stimulate still anotherpathway for the Chi to come into play imagine a small needle flicking downand piercing your earlobe. That will set the Chi energies and the techniquewill be ready for use.

When you are ready to use the technique think of the thing that causesyou to fear. If it’s flying create an image in your mind of being on a plane.When the fear image is established, squeeze the lobe of your left ear with thethumb and forefinger of your right hand while humming auumm and mentallypiercing the lobe. That will trigger the thought of comfort which will overridethe fear. Result: You no longer fear flying.

That is behavior modification with regards to fear. I call this technique,Mental Accupuncture and Chi. You can use it not only for fear of flying butfor any of the many illusory fears you may have.

This technique can be extremely effective.

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1. Imagine a situation where you are comfortable.

2. Pinch your left earlobe with the first two fingers of your righthand while humming auumm and holding the comfort image.

3. While doing that enhance the chi by imagining a small needlecoming down from your forefinger piercing the lobe..

4. Whenever you are uncomfortable in a situation use MentalAccupuncture by pinching your left earlobe with the first twofingers of your right hand and imagine a needle piercing the lobe.

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CHAPTER ELEVEN

SECRETS TO CONTROLLING YOUR THOUGHTS

Are there any benefits to negative thinking? Let’s see.

The essence of understanding negativity is in the awareness of this fact:Negative thinking is a protection against disappointment. If you know a personwho is a negative thinker it is helpful to understand why. And if you yourselfoccasionally think negative thoughts perhaps the following meditation exerciseto help others will be of help to you as well. When you can block negativethoughts with positive thinking you may well find the spice of life returning.

The negative thinker doesn’t expect anything that is beneficial and goodto happen and is not disappointed when good things do not happen. Mostnegative thinkers develop early in life, but occasionally time chips away atthe positive attitude of an adult, and those who are plagued by constantdisappointment often turn to the protective cloak of negative thinking, therebyavoiding additional pain.

As the negative thinker is never disappointed it would seem that negativethinking has positive results. However, there is a side effect to negativethinking. When one loses the excitement of positive expectations, life becomesdull and bland, a spice less existence.

When people have nothing to look forward to, no goals and few desires,that dullness creates an apathy that brings with it the depressive state that somany in our modern society are afflicted with. And following closely behinddepression is that state of mind that unfortunately afflicts many of the elderly,despair.

Despair is a feeling that what is desired is impossible to attain. Whendespair comes into people’s lives, they care little for anything, feeling that

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anything they want will be impossible to get. They learn to want nothing andlife soon becomes no more than a waiting room for the grim reaper.

Hopefully you are not bothered by this unfortunate affliction, but youmay know someone who is. The easiest way to protect yourself against peoplelike this is to avoid them, if you do not like something or some one, avoid it orthem. Unfortunately it’s not that simple. What if the afflicted is a loved one, aclose friend, a business associate, or an acquaintance you like?

Let us see how a negative thinker is born, for an understanding of thistype of person may help you decide to what degree you may wish to beinvolved.

Betty W. was six years old and a more exuberant, positive, excited younglady would be hard to find. The world was bright and gay and filled withwonder. Every stroll down the street led her to new discoveries. For her, grasswas always green, the sky was always blue. When she woke up in the morning,she could hardly wait to jump out of bed to see what new wonders the worldheld in store.

One day her mother says, “Betty, we’re going to the zoo this weekend,”and Betty is joyful and animated as she tells her friends all about her impendingvisit to the zoo. Friday evening comes and her mother says to Betty, “I’msorry, darling, I know I promised to take you to the zoo, but Daddy has towork this weekend, and we can’t go.”

Betty is desolate. But with her youthful energy she bounces back and isher old self once again by Sunday. A few weeks go by and Betty’s mothersays to her joyfully, “Honey, I know we disappointed you about the zoo butthis time for sure we’re going for a picnic in the park on Sunday.”

And Betty jumps into the air with a great “Hooray!” and runs to tell herfriends. Saturday comes and Betty’s mother says, “I’m terribly sorry, Betty,but I forgot we’re going to Grandma’s house and can’t go on the picnic.”

Now Betty loves her grandmother dearly, but if she were to weigh goingto grandmothers against a picnic in the park, Grandma would lose every time.Once again Betty is disappointed.

It won’t happen the second time, the fifth time, perhaps not even thetwentieth time Betty is disappointed. But one day, when mother says somethinglike, “Betty, we’re going to the amusement park this weekend,” Betty will sayin reply, “Aw, it’ll probably rain Mother, or Daddy will have to work, ormaybe I’ll get sick.” And another negative thinker has been born.

Betty learned that disappointment hurts. She does not want to be hurtanymore and so has figured out for herself that if she does not expect goodthings to happen, she will not be disappointed when they don’t, and therefore

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will not be hurt.

Understanding that a negative person is a person who has had a greatmany disappointments in life brings you to a better awareness of why theythink as they do. It takes a lot of programming and reinforcement through theyears to produce a negative thinker. It is unlikely that you are going to turnone around with a few words. You can, however, put them on the road back tothe positive mode by reversing the process.

Negative thinkers are born through disappointment. The way to turnnegative thinkers around is to make sure that you personally never disappointthem. First step is to change their attitude towards things.

Many of our graduates who have loved ones in rest homes or otherinstitutions for the aged have discovered that for the most part an aura ofnegativity hangs over the place like a cloud of fog, infecting everyone inside.Those who make the attempt to turn someone around face a formidable task—formidable, but not impossible. The feedback that we’ve gotten from graduatesof our program tells us that by reversing the method it took to turn theirdespondent loved ones into negative thinkers, they shortly will swing back tothe positive mode--here’s how to do it.

Call your institutionalized or just plain lonely loved one on the telephoneor write and set an exact time that you will be there to visit. Be there at thattime. When leaving, make up a strange time for your return visit. Say somethinglike, “Dear, I’m visiting a friend in the neighborhood next Tuesday and I haveto leave there at twelve. I’ll be here to see you on Tuesday at twelve-fifteen.”

Make sure that you both have the same time, and make doubly sure thatyou’re there at precisely twelve-fifteen for you can bet that they will be staringat the hands of the clock from the moment twelve o’clock comes along. It willtake awhile, but one day your loved one will begin to come back to life. “Youknow,” you might hear, “the food tastes a little better.” Suddenly, appetitesbegin to return, not necessarily just for food but for experience, for change,for a grain of excitement.

It’s unlikely that a negative thinker will turn into a Pollyanna, but yourgoal should be to carry them as far from despair as possible.

What of those people you feel are impossible to change? Or those peoplewho are not loved ones but who you do not wish to avoid, for whatever reason.If you simply avoid a negative person, then of course you’ve rid yourself ofthe problem. Attitude Management is the answer.

Using the same method of not disappointing them until they are securewith you, you may well find that their negativity is confined to those outside

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the sphere of your relationship.Determine the relationship between yourself and the negative person. It

may be that you have a subconscious need to torment yourself due to somerecent or long-forgotten guilt. If not, change them, you have the technique.

All people have problems that you are not aware of, problems that affecttheir viewpoint, attitudes, and expectations. You will be better equipped tohelp those people as well as yourself by using the visual images of the positivethinker and our dynamic mind box methods.

And if you have children, please, do you best to never, ever disappointthem. Difficult at times but when you do disappoint, the next time make triplecertain, you do the thing you promised to do.

ATTITUDE MANAGEMENT

One way of looking at things is through perception and the other is amatter of attitude. Positive thinking is simply that which is done with a positiveattitude. Then there is the pragmatic, or realistic. Realistic has to do withperception. You observe something and then you choose the way you willfeel about that thing. If you feel good about what you perceive that induces apositive attitude, if you feel bad about what you perceive then it brings abouta negative attitude. One is a matter of perception; the other a matter of attitude.

Perception is information that you receive through your senses.Attitude is how you feel about what you perceive.Many people believe that you cannot have one without the other. That’s

a universal law. You observe and then you feel according to what you perceive.With respect to attitude, there are two types, there’s positive and there’snegative.

Here’s positive thinking in a nutshell. If while you’re thinking it youfeel good, it’s positive. If while you’re thinking it you feel bad, it’s negative.That’s it.

Hundreds of books are written about positive thinking, but that’s it. Ifyou’re feeling good when you’re thinking it it’s positive, if you’re feelingbad, it’s negative.

You can check your body as well. We hear so much about body languageand what the body tells us. Just stop and think at any given moment, ‘How amI feeling right now?’ If you’re feeling good, you definitely know you’re thinkingpositive thoughts, if you’re feeling bad, you definitely know you’re thinkingnegative thoughts.

Can you think of something amusing and funny and have the feeling offear; no. Feelings come because of thoughts. Everything was a thought first.

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You can control your thoughts. Something happens, you observe the event,and perception comes into play, and now comes choice. You choose whatyour attitude will be. Will it be positive, or negative.

Let me illustrate with an actual event. Something that happened to mesome time ago.

The story I told on the first page of this workbook bears repeating as itsums up so many of the Mind Box trainings. It was during the lunch breakthat it happened. I was teaching a positive thinking class in Tarzana, California,not far from my home. I had just explained the difference between perceptionand attitude. It was an all day seminar. Four of the students in the class weregoing to accompany me to a nearby restaurant. We approached my car. It wasbrand new as I had purchased it two days before. When we approached thevehicle we all saw at the same time a very large dent in the right front fender.Someone had apparently backed into my car, smashed the fender and leftwithout leaving a note or trying to locate me.

The students looked at the dent, then at me and smiled. I just knew theywere waiting for me to get mad, curse the person who crumpled the fender, orblow up in some way. How to positive think this one? What’s the positiveattitude towards a smashed up fender in a brand new car? We all observed thesame thing, a dented fender in a new car. That was what we perceived. Theirattitude was something between amusement and curiosity. They were waitingto see how I would take it.

The last story I had told before lunch was the one about the dirty dishesin the kitchen. Don’t think about dirty dishes I had said, if you hate washingdirty dishes but love a sparkling clean kitchen, don’t think about washingdirty dishes, think about sparkling up the kitchen. Reverse your attitude, that’spositive thinking. The dishes will be in the way of the sparkle and will have tobe washed, but you’re not washing dishes, you’re sparkling up the kitchen. Ijust knew those four students were all thinking, how could that apply to mycrushed fender? Using Attitude Reverse, (you’ll find the technique in theMind Box on the next page) I stared at the dent for a second and said, “Let’sget in the car. There’s a body and fender shop a few blocks down the street.”

One of the four said, “You’re not going to get it repaired now are you?”I had no intention of getting it repaired right then, we were, after all, in

the middle of a seminar. “No, but I want an estimate of what it will cost to fixit. Whatever it costs to fix, I am going to make three times that amount ofmoney over and above what I would normally make in the next three months.”

We drove to a nearby shop and I was told that the cost of repairing thefender would be $450.00. I immediately tripled the figure and thought, $1,350;

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I’ve got to earn with something new, $1,350.00. Now whenever I looked atthe dent in my fender I didn’t mentally start cursing the low life who dented itand ran off, no, not at all, now when I looked at the dent I thought, $1,350.00I’ve got to earn $1,350.00. I kept thinking of how I could make that amount ofmoney. It had to be something that I was not doing at that time. I thoughtabout it and thought about it and finally came up with the answer.

Instead of eating myself up, upsetting myself when I saw the fender, Iused the Attitude Reverse Technique and creative thinking was stimulated.

That story happens to be true. I’ve told it many times over the years as itis a perfect example of how to polarize an event when you have positivethinking as a resource in your life.

How many things that have happened to you to cause depression or anyother negative feelings could you have turned around to make for a moresatisfied state of mind?

Rory Graham is a salesman. What he sells is immaterial as the way thathe turned his life around could apply to anyone, anywhere. He read about thepositive thinking method I was teaching, that of reversing the attitude, usingthe dirty dishes, sparkling clean kitchen metaphor. He was going to quit andlook for other work as he was rejected by his customers almost ninety percentof the time. Wow! Nine out of ten of his customers said no. That is enough totread on anyone’s ego.

He asked me how to change his attitude. It was really very simple. Thenegative thinker concentrates on the ninety percent that turned him down.The positive thinker concentrates on the ten percent that bought. He had toconcentrate on the ten percent.

“But how?” he asked.I taught him how to use Attitude Management as a resource. We

determined that he was earning six thousand dollars a month. He usually saw

Mind Box 20 - Attitude Reversal 1. During a negative event, touch the roof of your mouth with your tongue andmentally say, ‘Attitude Reverse’ and switch your thoughts to the positive.

2. Immediately consider the good that can come out of the event. If there is aloss involved, think of things you can do to set up a gain.

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fifty people in a month and according to Rory, forty of them were ‘misses’ ashe called them. The people he sold he called ‘hits’. The misses were causinghim a lot of stress. At night he went over each miss and agonized over hisfailure to sell them. He even qualified people when he first spoke to themtelling himself that one was a sure miss because they had a scuffed shoe, orwere in need of a hair styling. He made negative excuses for everyone he saw.He was getting more and more negative about his job, and it was carryingover into his family life as well.

Attitude Management in Rory’s case was putting all his presentationstogether, that would be fifty, and dividing them by the total amount he madewhich was six thousand. Fifty into six thousand is one hundred and twenty.The positive thinking attitude was that he earned one hundred and twentydollars for every presentation he made, whether they bought or not.

It was like a light going off in his brain brightening his entire world. Hisformer attitude, negative thinking, was that forty people a month rejected hisproduct. His new positive thinking mode was that every time he spoke to aperson about his product, whether they bought or not, he made a hundred andtwenty dollars.

Rory Graham changed. His whole demeanor changed. He was a newman. It showed not only with his work, it showed with his family and friendsas well. His ego grew, he walked straighter, was happier, and actually lookedforward to Monday when he started his week. Thats Attitude Management.

There are always two ways to look at a thing. You can see the dark side,or the bright side. The negative or the positive. One makes you feel good theother makes you feel bad. Generally speaking, when you’re feeling bad, out

Mind Box Bonus - Attitude Management1. If you have to do a number of things for income and some of the things youhave to do have a negative outcome, tally up all of the things and see how muchincome is derived from the successes and the failures combined.

2. Divide the amount of income by the total number of successes and failures.The amount you come up with is what you earn on every single one, whether itwas a success or not.

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of sorts, or ill, if you examine your thoughts, you’ll find they are negativethoughts. And of course the reverse is true as well. Examine your thoughtswhen you’re feeling good and you will find they are positive thoughts.

And therein lies the secret to positive thinking and feeling good. Whenyour thoughts are of a positive nature you feel good. During the meditationtrack of CD-11 you will find guidance to good things. The AttitudeManagement meditation is designed to make you feel good. Play it when youfeel down or unhappy about anything. If you happen to be going through abad time remember those famous words of an unknown author, possibly themost encouraging four words ever spoken. “This too shall pass.”