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The Leader’s Journey
The Leader’s Journey
Accepting the Call to Personal and
Congregational Transformation
Accepting the Call to Personal and
Congregational Transformation
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Beyond the Problem FocusBeyond the Problem Focus• Observing self more• Thinking through
our own principles• Attending to our
needs and interests• Attending to our
own adult relationships
• Seeing the part played by nuclear and extended family systems
• Observing self more• Thinking through
our own principles• Attending to our
needs and interests• Attending to our
own adult relationships
• Seeing the part played by nuclear and extended family systems
• Seeing the part we play in the problem in the organization
• Maintaining positive emotional contact with others
• Working with others around the problem based on facts and thoughtfulness
• Seeing the part we play in the problem in the organization
• Maintaining positive emotional contact with others
• Working with others around the problem based on facts and thoughtfulness
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About TheoryAbout Theory
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How Successful Leaders Think:Organizations are Living SystemsHow Successful Leaders Think:
Organizations are Living Systems
• Concept 1: Triangles• Concept 2: Scale of
Differentiation of Self• Concept 3: Nuclear
Family Emotional System
• Concept 4: Multigenerational Emotional System
• Concept 1: Triangles• Concept 2: Scale of
Differentiation of Self• Concept 3: Nuclear
Family Emotional System
• Concept 4: Multigenerational Emotional System
• Concept 5: Family Projection Process
• Concept 6: Sibling Position
• Concept 7: Cutoff• Concept 8: Societal
Emotional Process• Concept 9: The
Spiritual Journey
• Concept 5: Family Projection Process
• Concept 6: Sibling Position
• Concept 7: Cutoff• Concept 8: Societal
Emotional Process• Concept 9: The
Spiritual Journey
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When one person make some basic changes,
When one person make some basic changes,
the whole system does.
the whole system does.
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Murray Bowen:Murray Bowen:“When any key member of an emotional
system can (1)control his own emotional reactiveness
and(2)accurately observe the functioning of the
system and his part in it, and (3)he can avoid counter-attacking when he
is provoked, and (4)when he can maintain an active
relationship with the other key members without withdrawing or becoming silent, (then)
the entire system will change in a series of predictable steps.”
“When any key member of an emotional system can
(1)control his own emotional reactiveness and
(2)accurately observe the functioning of the system and his part in it, and
(3)he can avoid counter-attacking when he is provoked, and
(4)when he can maintain an active relationship with the other key members without withdrawing or becoming silent, (then)
the entire system will change in a series of predictable steps.”
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A B C =D
Linear ThinkingLinear Thinking
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BC DMultiple CausationMultiple Causation
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A
B
C
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Systems ThinkingSystems Thinking
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Two Variables At Work
Two Variables At Work
1. Level of Emotional Maturity
2. Level of Anxiety and Tension
1. Level of Emotional Maturity
2. Level of Anxiety and Tension
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Emotional ReactivityEmotional Reactivity
The capacity to react without thinking
The capacity to react without thinking
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The Triune BrainThe Triune Brain
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AnxietyAnxiety
Reaction to threat or perceived threat
Reaction to threat or perceived threat
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Acute AnxietyAcute AnxietyReaction to threat that
is REAL and TIME-LIMITED
Reaction to threat that is REAL and TIME-
LIMITED
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Chronic AnxietyChronic AnxietyReaction to threat that is
IMAGINED or EXAGGERATED and NOT
TIME-LIMITED
Reaction to threat that is IMAGINED or
EXAGGERATED and NOT TIME-LIMITED
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Chronic AnxietyChronic Anxiety• Imagined or Exaggerated
• Not time-limited
• Ambient level in a family’s life
• May begin with an acute crisis
• Develops a life of its own
• Requires two poles to function
• Additive
• Contagious (actually, everything is contagious)
• Imagined or Exaggerated
• Not time-limited
• Ambient level in a family’s life
• May begin with an acute crisis
• Develops a life of its own
• Requires two poles to function
• Additive
• Contagious (actually, everything is contagious)
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Characteristics of an Anxious SystemCharacteristics of an Anxious System
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Characteristics of an Anxious SystemCharacteristics of an Anxious System
• Heightened Reactivity– Automatic– Instinctive– Interruptions– Thinking for each other– Finishing sentences– Take things personally– Make things personal– Organizes around the
least mature member
• Heightened Reactivity– Automatic– Instinctive– Interruptions– Thinking for each other– Finishing sentences– Take things personally– Make things personal– Organizes around the
least mature member
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Characteristics of an Anxious SystemCharacteristics of an Anxious System
• Herding Instinct– Pressure to
conformity– Discouraging
dissent– Peace over
progress– B&W, all-or-
nothing thinking
• Herding Instinct– Pressure to
conformity– Discouraging
dissent– Peace over
progress– B&W, all-or-
nothing thinking
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Characteristics of an Anxious SystemCharacteristics of an Anxious System
• Blame Displacement– Looking outward
for explanations rather than inward
– Victim attitude– Diagnosing,
focusing on others– Failure to take
responsibility
• Blame Displacement– Looking outward
for explanations rather than inward
– Victim attitude– Diagnosing,
focusing on others– Failure to take
responsibility
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Genesis 3
The Blame Game
Genesis 3
The Blame Game
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Characteristics of an Anxious SystemCharacteristics of an Anxious System
• Quick Fix– Expect others to
solve our problems
– And to do it now– And painlessly– Symptom focused– Recycles anxiety
elsewhere
• Quick Fix– Expect others to
solve our problems
– And to do it now– And painlessly– Symptom focused– Recycles anxiety
elsewhere
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Characteristics of an Anxious SystemCharacteristics of an Anxious System
• Poor Leadership– No clear vision– No well-thought-
out principles– The chronically
anxious system is ultimately leaderless
• Poor Leadership– No clear vision– No well-thought-
out principles– The chronically
anxious system is ultimately leaderless
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Concept One: TrianglesConcept One: Triangles
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A
BC
TrianglesTriangles
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A
BC
TrianglesTriangles
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Concept Two: Scale of Differentiation of Self
Concept Two: Scale of Differentiation of Self
0
100
Intellectu
al
Emotional
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Concept Two: Scale of Differentiation of Self
Concept Two: Scale of Differentiation of Self
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100100
EqualEqual SeparateSeparateOpenOpen
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0
Completely FusedCompletely Fused
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Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
The Four Human Strategies for Dealing with Anxiety
The Four Human Strategies for Dealing with Anxiety
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Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
ConflictConflict
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Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
DistanceDistance
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Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
Overfuntioning/
Underfunctioning
Overfuntioning/
Underfunctioning
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Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
Concept Three: Nuclear Family Emotional System
TrianglingTriangling
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Concept Four: Multigenerational Emotional System
Concept Four: Multigenerational Emotional System
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The Multigenerational Emotional System
The Multigenerational Emotional System
• Each nuclear family is the product of 62 nuclear families in the five generations that precede it, and of over 1000 nuclear families in the nine generations that precede it.
• Each nuclear family is the product of 62 nuclear families in the five generations that precede it, and of over 1000 nuclear families in the nine generations that precede it.
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Understanding the Generations of our Families
Understanding the Generations of our Families
• Will require action on our part
• Will help us see we are part of a long process
• Will require us to take up the role of researcher
• Will help to minimize cutoff as a pattern
• Will require action on our part
• Will help us see we are part of a long process
• Will require us to take up the role of researcher
• Will help to minimize cutoff as a pattern
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Concept Five: Family Projection ProcessConcept Five: Family Projection Process
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Concept Five: Family Projection ProcessConcept Five: Family Projection Process
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Concept Five: Family Projection ProcessConcept Five: Family Projection Process
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Concept Five: Family Projection ProcessConcept Five: Family Projection Process
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Concept Five: Family Projection ProcessConcept Five: Family Projection Process
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Why Children in the Same Family Turn Out So Differently
Why Children in the Same Family Turn Out So Differently
• Families deal with different amounts of anxiety at different times
• Families deal with different amounts of anxiety at different times
• Families focus on children differently
• Families focus on children differently
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How do Children come to be the focus of family anxiety?How do Children come to be the focus of family anxiety?
• What was taking place at the time of birth or pregnancy
• Same position as another in the family who did not do well
• Sibling position
• What was taking place at the time of birth or pregnancy
• Same position as another in the family who did not do well
• Sibling position
• Birth defect or problem birth
• Anything that makes a child different
• Birth defect or problem birth
• Anything that makes a child different
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Sometimes families are totally unaware of how they are “doing in” some of their family members or how they might be able to handle anxiety differently had they a different way of thinking about relationships and anxiety.
Sometimes families are totally unaware of how they are “doing in” some of their family members or how they might be able to handle anxiety differently had they a different way of thinking about relationships and anxiety.
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And sometimes we even grow anxious over that!And sometimes we even grow anxious over that!
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Parents working from family systems principles do not try to treat each child the same.
Parents working from family systems principles do not try to treat each child the same.
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They will, however, know that an anxious focus on children is detrimental to their development and life course.
They will, however, know that an anxious focus on children is detrimental to their development and life course.
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They try to contain their own anxiety, processing it within the self, with each other, and the extended family system, rather than developing anxious, focused relationships with the children.
They try to contain their own anxiety, processing it within the self, with each other, and the extended family system, rather than developing anxious, focused relationships with the children.
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B. 1978 B. 1981
x x
D. 1985
…………………………………………………………………………..
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B. 1978 B. 1981
x x
D. 1985
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B. 1992
1994 Difficulties at work
1995 Clinical Depression
D. 1994
D. 1996
1994 Expelled for
Drug Use
1988 Stroke moved in with
family
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B. 1978 B. 1981
x x
D. 1985
…………………………………………………………………………..
B. 1992
1994 Difficulties at work
1995 Clinical Depression
D. 1994
D. 1996
1994 Expelled for
Drug Use
1998 Trouble with law
1996-97 Continued Drug Use
D. 1998
1988 Stroke moved in with
family
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Concept Six: Sibling PositionConcept Six: Sibling Position
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Oldest Brother of BrothersOldest Brother of Brothers
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Youngest Brother of BrothersYoungest Brother of Brothers
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Oldest Brother of SistersOldest Brother of Sisters
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Youngest Brother of SistersYoungest Brother of Sisters
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Male Only ChildMale Only Child
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Oldest Sister of SistersOldest Sister of Sisters
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Youngest Sister of SistersYoungest Sister of Sisters
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Youngest Sister of BrothersYoungest Sister of Brothers
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Sibling PositionSibling Position
Female Only ChildFemale Only Child
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Special Sibling Positions
Special Sibling Positions
The Middle ChildThe Middle Child
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Special Sibling Positions
Special Sibling Positions
TwinsTwins
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Resulting RelationshipsResulting RelationshipsPositions Without Rank or
Sex Conflict Positions Without Rank or
Sex Conflict
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Brothers
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Brothers
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Resulting RelationshipsResulting RelationshipsPartial Sex Conflict Partial Sex Conflict
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Brothers
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Brothers
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Resulting RelationshipsResulting RelationshipsRank or Sex Conflict Relationships Rank or Sex Conflict Relationships
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Sisters
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Resulting RelationshipsResulting RelationshipsRank and Partial Sex Conflict
Relationships Rank and Partial Sex Conflict
Relationships •Oldest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Brothers
•Oldest Brother of Sisters and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Sisters and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Brothers
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Brothers
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Resulting RelationshipsResulting RelationshipsRank and Sex Conflict Relationships Rank and Sex Conflict Relationships
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Only Children
•Oldest Brother of Brothers and Oldest Sister of Sisters
•Youngest Brother of Brothers and Youngest Sister of Sisters
•Only Children
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Concept Seven: CutoffConcept Seven: Cutoff
Extreme form of distancing
Extreme form of distancing
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Creech Family DiagramCreech Family Diagram
Rosser MartinScottCryerCreech Cocke Culpepper Culpepper
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Concept Eight: Societal Emotional Process
Concept Eight: Societal Emotional Process
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Concept Nine: Spiritual JourneyConcept Nine: Spiritual Journey
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Personal ObediencePersonal ObediencePersonal ObediencePersonal Obedience
A Community of A Community of Grace and TruthGrace and Truth
A Community of A Community of Grace and TruthGrace and Truth
Reflective LivingReflective LivingReflective LivingReflective Living
The Threefold Process of Personal Transformation
Fig. 1.1
The Threefold Process of Personal Transformation
Fig. 1.1
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Engaging New Behaviors
Engaging New Behaviors
ConsciouslyConsciouslyIncompetentIncompetent
UnconsciouslyUnconsciouslyCompetentCompetent
UnconsciouslyUnconsciouslyIncompetentIncompetent
ConsciouslyConsciouslyCompetentCompetent
ConsciouslyConsciouslyCompetentCompetent
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