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The BECOMING USTM
Family Nest Building Plan
FOR
and for the newly hatched
The postpartum period the ldquofourth trimesterrdquo is a time of adjustment for every member of a new family Becoming a family isnrsquot just a physical transition itrsquos a mental emotional relational and spiritual one too
Create a plan with strong branches and solid roots so you can can focus on the most important things nesting resting and the important work of family bonding
For
Make your health and wellbeing a priority This helps you cope physically mentally and emotionally
Three easy nutritious meals we can prepare or have prepared for us (no worms please) are
Check in regularly with your partner to see how they are feeling physically and emotionally Ask them whatrsquos on their mind This creates connection so important in the postpartum period Your partner has their own stresses and also need downtime I can support my partner by
Give your partner plenty of space to find their own way with the chick This increases confi-dence and self-esteem and lays foundations for their relationship with your little one My partner can
ldquoYour partner may be as sleep-deprived as you are and also finding their own feet as a parent Simple direct clear communication at this time is important Be honest Let your partner know how hard some days are Give them opportunities to have time in the nest without you around so they get it
When you are thinking about or feel appreciative of your partner TELL THEM
Itrsquos important to have things to look forward to so regularly plan something you love Time out for yourself and couple-time together are both important
Once a week I would like to
Once a week I would like us to
Once a month I would like to
If I need to escape the nest occasionally I can
Gentle activity alleviates stress and lifts mood Exercise or activities appropriate for me include
It takes time to find balance in your ldquonew normalrdquo If yoursquore feeling bored or overwhelmed try something simple creative or expressive Even 15 minutes can put more balance in your day Dance sing journal scrapbook play an instrument draw color doodle crochet knit
I enjoy
Once a month I would like us to
For
bull Support your partnerrsquos efforts to pamper and look after themselves itrsquos good for self-esteem
bull Look to other branches for relatives friends or babysitters so you can build quality individual and couple time into your week Ideas for contacts are on the last page
bull Surprise your partner occasionally with a date Days might be best itrsquos hard to compete with sleep
bull Care for your baby as much as possible The positive effects for your whole family will be there for the rest of your lives Fathers or partners who take leave from work tend to end up being more involved later
Ways I can care for my baby include1
2
3
4
5
Negotiate with your partner and take time out for yourself when you need it You may have to scale down some activities for a little while ndash no migrating for days just now
My nest-friendly exercisetime out
1
2
3
Mamas can neglect their own nutrition because theyrsquore focusing on babyrsquos She will appreciate you preparing a healthy snack and glass of water especially if shersquos breastfeeding
Caring for a chick and keeping a clean nest takes more effort than one (or even two) pairs of wings are capable of A postpartum doula or cleaner is cheaper than divorce This need for extra help is limited you wonrsquot need it forever so take advantage of it now
Ways to reduce the load are1
2
3
4
5
Check in with your partner every day to see how she is coping Make sure to cov-er all three wellness domains ndash physical emotional and mental Encourage her to take time out when she needs a breakFind out if your partner needs anything from you before giving advice or prob-lem solving She may just want a listening ear and a strong pair of wings around her I can help my partner by1
2
3
If yoursquore struggling let your partner in but donrsquot burden her If she is struggling too seek help together Otherwise I can help myselfget help by1
2
3
When you feel appreciative of your partner TELL HER
For you both
The more relaxed you are and the more time you take to get to know each other as a new parent and newly hatched chick the smoother the transition into family will be It takes at least 3-5 hours a day of just observing your baby to figure them out
Take the pressure off yourselves and each other Aim to be learners and not experts
Take shortcuts frozen meals takeouts nest-deliveries Plan to spend your time recovering and adjusting
Breastfeeding can be challenging Partner can be supportive by
Sleep is a huge issue for new parents Negotiate night feedingsday napsweekend sleep-ins
Sick baby duty arrangements
Other advice
Some families like to nest uninterrupted for the first few weeks others are eager to share their new addition There is a big difference between visitors and helpers You need helpers especially in the beginning
We can ask visitors to bring
Or to
A good time limit for visitors is
When mama is tired or baby needs a rest we can use this signal
We can ask visitors to leave by saying
An unwell baby is stressful and tiring for all so share the load or get extra help for the one who bears it most
Some things to plan ahead for
Babies tend to be more settled in the first few weeks and then become more fussy often just as partners are heading back to work Babies peak at crying 6-8 weeks postpartum so arrange for more support then
Some conflict in the postpartum period is perfectly normal New experiences steep learning curves sleep deprivation and hormones combine to make it inevitable for 92 of couples Donrsquot panic things will settle down as you work together to create your ldquonew normalrdquo If they donrsquot seek help earlier rather than later
Most couples find it takes longer than the expected six weeks to resume sex A mismatch in sex drive is also common in the first year postpartum It doesnrsquot mean there is anything wrong with your relationship Stay connected in other ways and your sex life will return sooner
If any aspects of the birth were distressing for either of you seek a familiar trusted good listener to talk it through who can refer you on to additional support if needed Birth trauma can affect both parents
The postpartum period can be lonely sometimes so make a list of contacts on the last page Build a support network of local services and professionals so so you have strong branches and solid roots for your nest
Nesthold Chores
Make a list of all the chores that normally need doing including caring for older hatchlings laundry dog walking etc Work out which ones are essential (E) preferable (P) and forgettable (F) Work out who is going to do what keeping in mind itrsquos easy to over-estimate and over-extend and the main priority is nesting and resting Outsource what you can and be willing to negotiate everything as mamarsquos babyrsquos and paparsquos (or partnerrsquos) needs change over the next few months
Chores E P F Person Responsible
When to seek advice from the wise owls in our tree
The baby blues are common for most new mamas but if the following extend past the first couple of weeks postpartum or begin later in the first six months they could be early warning signs of needing extra support
bull Prolonged teariness feeling hopeless or lsquoflatrsquo
bull Not being able to rest or sleep even if the baby is insomnia
bull Worrying excessively about the baby feeling anxious and unable to relax
bull Intrusive thoughts that shock or scare youbull Frequently angry or irritablebull Changes to appetite ndash weight loss or gain
Factors that increase the risk for postpartum mood disorders include bull A traumatic birth experience bull Previous episodes of anxiety or depressionbull Feelings of depression in the third trimesterbull A history of loss especially of a baby
child mother or fatherbull Having to go through prolonged assisted
reproduction prior to this babybull Having unrealistic expectationsbull Expecting things to be perfect or in controlbull Inability to settle down or sleep when
offered the opportunity to do sobull A baby who is restless difficult to settle or
unwell
Papas can experience postpartum depression too symptoms includebull Irritability anxiety and angerbull Loss of libidobull Changes in appetitebull Risk-taking behaviorbull Withdrawal and isolation from othersbull Increased work hoursbull Increased alcohol or drug usebull Feeling of resentment or jealousy towards
the baby
If your experience of the birth was traumatic seek support especially if you experience any of the followingbull Sudden vivid flashbacks of the birth
or nightmaresbull Avoiding thinking or talking about the
birth or people that remind you of itbull Inability to remember important parts
of the birthbull Panic attacks sweating or heart
palpitationsbull Feeling startled hyper vigilant on
edge or on guardbull Intense irritability or anger
I may also need to seek help or advice for other issues including
Ways to increase coping abilitybull Having realistic expectations of
life in a nestbull Building up a support systembull Staying connected with your
partnerbull Making good nutrition rest
relaxation and appropriate exercise priorities
bull Taking your time going with the flow being a learner and not an expert
bull Aiming for happy and relaxed not perfect
Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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For
Make your health and wellbeing a priority This helps you cope physically mentally and emotionally
Three easy nutritious meals we can prepare or have prepared for us (no worms please) are
Check in regularly with your partner to see how they are feeling physically and emotionally Ask them whatrsquos on their mind This creates connection so important in the postpartum period Your partner has their own stresses and also need downtime I can support my partner by
Give your partner plenty of space to find their own way with the chick This increases confi-dence and self-esteem and lays foundations for their relationship with your little one My partner can
ldquoYour partner may be as sleep-deprived as you are and also finding their own feet as a parent Simple direct clear communication at this time is important Be honest Let your partner know how hard some days are Give them opportunities to have time in the nest without you around so they get it
When you are thinking about or feel appreciative of your partner TELL THEM
Itrsquos important to have things to look forward to so regularly plan something you love Time out for yourself and couple-time together are both important
Once a week I would like to
Once a week I would like us to
Once a month I would like to
If I need to escape the nest occasionally I can
Gentle activity alleviates stress and lifts mood Exercise or activities appropriate for me include
It takes time to find balance in your ldquonew normalrdquo If yoursquore feeling bored or overwhelmed try something simple creative or expressive Even 15 minutes can put more balance in your day Dance sing journal scrapbook play an instrument draw color doodle crochet knit
I enjoy
Once a month I would like us to
For
bull Support your partnerrsquos efforts to pamper and look after themselves itrsquos good for self-esteem
bull Look to other branches for relatives friends or babysitters so you can build quality individual and couple time into your week Ideas for contacts are on the last page
bull Surprise your partner occasionally with a date Days might be best itrsquos hard to compete with sleep
bull Care for your baby as much as possible The positive effects for your whole family will be there for the rest of your lives Fathers or partners who take leave from work tend to end up being more involved later
Ways I can care for my baby include1
2
3
4
5
Negotiate with your partner and take time out for yourself when you need it You may have to scale down some activities for a little while ndash no migrating for days just now
My nest-friendly exercisetime out
1
2
3
Mamas can neglect their own nutrition because theyrsquore focusing on babyrsquos She will appreciate you preparing a healthy snack and glass of water especially if shersquos breastfeeding
Caring for a chick and keeping a clean nest takes more effort than one (or even two) pairs of wings are capable of A postpartum doula or cleaner is cheaper than divorce This need for extra help is limited you wonrsquot need it forever so take advantage of it now
Ways to reduce the load are1
2
3
4
5
Check in with your partner every day to see how she is coping Make sure to cov-er all three wellness domains ndash physical emotional and mental Encourage her to take time out when she needs a breakFind out if your partner needs anything from you before giving advice or prob-lem solving She may just want a listening ear and a strong pair of wings around her I can help my partner by1
2
3
If yoursquore struggling let your partner in but donrsquot burden her If she is struggling too seek help together Otherwise I can help myselfget help by1
2
3
When you feel appreciative of your partner TELL HER
For you both
The more relaxed you are and the more time you take to get to know each other as a new parent and newly hatched chick the smoother the transition into family will be It takes at least 3-5 hours a day of just observing your baby to figure them out
Take the pressure off yourselves and each other Aim to be learners and not experts
Take shortcuts frozen meals takeouts nest-deliveries Plan to spend your time recovering and adjusting
Breastfeeding can be challenging Partner can be supportive by
Sleep is a huge issue for new parents Negotiate night feedingsday napsweekend sleep-ins
Sick baby duty arrangements
Other advice
Some families like to nest uninterrupted for the first few weeks others are eager to share their new addition There is a big difference between visitors and helpers You need helpers especially in the beginning
We can ask visitors to bring
Or to
A good time limit for visitors is
When mama is tired or baby needs a rest we can use this signal
We can ask visitors to leave by saying
An unwell baby is stressful and tiring for all so share the load or get extra help for the one who bears it most
Some things to plan ahead for
Babies tend to be more settled in the first few weeks and then become more fussy often just as partners are heading back to work Babies peak at crying 6-8 weeks postpartum so arrange for more support then
Some conflict in the postpartum period is perfectly normal New experiences steep learning curves sleep deprivation and hormones combine to make it inevitable for 92 of couples Donrsquot panic things will settle down as you work together to create your ldquonew normalrdquo If they donrsquot seek help earlier rather than later
Most couples find it takes longer than the expected six weeks to resume sex A mismatch in sex drive is also common in the first year postpartum It doesnrsquot mean there is anything wrong with your relationship Stay connected in other ways and your sex life will return sooner
If any aspects of the birth were distressing for either of you seek a familiar trusted good listener to talk it through who can refer you on to additional support if needed Birth trauma can affect both parents
The postpartum period can be lonely sometimes so make a list of contacts on the last page Build a support network of local services and professionals so so you have strong branches and solid roots for your nest
Nesthold Chores
Make a list of all the chores that normally need doing including caring for older hatchlings laundry dog walking etc Work out which ones are essential (E) preferable (P) and forgettable (F) Work out who is going to do what keeping in mind itrsquos easy to over-estimate and over-extend and the main priority is nesting and resting Outsource what you can and be willing to negotiate everything as mamarsquos babyrsquos and paparsquos (or partnerrsquos) needs change over the next few months
Chores E P F Person Responsible
When to seek advice from the wise owls in our tree
The baby blues are common for most new mamas but if the following extend past the first couple of weeks postpartum or begin later in the first six months they could be early warning signs of needing extra support
bull Prolonged teariness feeling hopeless or lsquoflatrsquo
bull Not being able to rest or sleep even if the baby is insomnia
bull Worrying excessively about the baby feeling anxious and unable to relax
bull Intrusive thoughts that shock or scare youbull Frequently angry or irritablebull Changes to appetite ndash weight loss or gain
Factors that increase the risk for postpartum mood disorders include bull A traumatic birth experience bull Previous episodes of anxiety or depressionbull Feelings of depression in the third trimesterbull A history of loss especially of a baby
child mother or fatherbull Having to go through prolonged assisted
reproduction prior to this babybull Having unrealistic expectationsbull Expecting things to be perfect or in controlbull Inability to settle down or sleep when
offered the opportunity to do sobull A baby who is restless difficult to settle or
unwell
Papas can experience postpartum depression too symptoms includebull Irritability anxiety and angerbull Loss of libidobull Changes in appetitebull Risk-taking behaviorbull Withdrawal and isolation from othersbull Increased work hoursbull Increased alcohol or drug usebull Feeling of resentment or jealousy towards
the baby
If your experience of the birth was traumatic seek support especially if you experience any of the followingbull Sudden vivid flashbacks of the birth
or nightmaresbull Avoiding thinking or talking about the
birth or people that remind you of itbull Inability to remember important parts
of the birthbull Panic attacks sweating or heart
palpitationsbull Feeling startled hyper vigilant on
edge or on guardbull Intense irritability or anger
I may also need to seek help or advice for other issues including
Ways to increase coping abilitybull Having realistic expectations of
life in a nestbull Building up a support systembull Staying connected with your
partnerbull Making good nutrition rest
relaxation and appropriate exercise priorities
bull Taking your time going with the flow being a learner and not an expert
bull Aiming for happy and relaxed not perfect
Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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For
bull Support your partnerrsquos efforts to pamper and look after themselves itrsquos good for self-esteem
bull Look to other branches for relatives friends or babysitters so you can build quality individual and couple time into your week Ideas for contacts are on the last page
bull Surprise your partner occasionally with a date Days might be best itrsquos hard to compete with sleep
bull Care for your baby as much as possible The positive effects for your whole family will be there for the rest of your lives Fathers or partners who take leave from work tend to end up being more involved later
Ways I can care for my baby include1
2
3
4
5
Negotiate with your partner and take time out for yourself when you need it You may have to scale down some activities for a little while ndash no migrating for days just now
My nest-friendly exercisetime out
1
2
3
Mamas can neglect their own nutrition because theyrsquore focusing on babyrsquos She will appreciate you preparing a healthy snack and glass of water especially if shersquos breastfeeding
Caring for a chick and keeping a clean nest takes more effort than one (or even two) pairs of wings are capable of A postpartum doula or cleaner is cheaper than divorce This need for extra help is limited you wonrsquot need it forever so take advantage of it now
Ways to reduce the load are1
2
3
4
5
Check in with your partner every day to see how she is coping Make sure to cov-er all three wellness domains ndash physical emotional and mental Encourage her to take time out when she needs a breakFind out if your partner needs anything from you before giving advice or prob-lem solving She may just want a listening ear and a strong pair of wings around her I can help my partner by1
2
3
If yoursquore struggling let your partner in but donrsquot burden her If she is struggling too seek help together Otherwise I can help myselfget help by1
2
3
When you feel appreciative of your partner TELL HER
For you both
The more relaxed you are and the more time you take to get to know each other as a new parent and newly hatched chick the smoother the transition into family will be It takes at least 3-5 hours a day of just observing your baby to figure them out
Take the pressure off yourselves and each other Aim to be learners and not experts
Take shortcuts frozen meals takeouts nest-deliveries Plan to spend your time recovering and adjusting
Breastfeeding can be challenging Partner can be supportive by
Sleep is a huge issue for new parents Negotiate night feedingsday napsweekend sleep-ins
Sick baby duty arrangements
Other advice
Some families like to nest uninterrupted for the first few weeks others are eager to share their new addition There is a big difference between visitors and helpers You need helpers especially in the beginning
We can ask visitors to bring
Or to
A good time limit for visitors is
When mama is tired or baby needs a rest we can use this signal
We can ask visitors to leave by saying
An unwell baby is stressful and tiring for all so share the load or get extra help for the one who bears it most
Some things to plan ahead for
Babies tend to be more settled in the first few weeks and then become more fussy often just as partners are heading back to work Babies peak at crying 6-8 weeks postpartum so arrange for more support then
Some conflict in the postpartum period is perfectly normal New experiences steep learning curves sleep deprivation and hormones combine to make it inevitable for 92 of couples Donrsquot panic things will settle down as you work together to create your ldquonew normalrdquo If they donrsquot seek help earlier rather than later
Most couples find it takes longer than the expected six weeks to resume sex A mismatch in sex drive is also common in the first year postpartum It doesnrsquot mean there is anything wrong with your relationship Stay connected in other ways and your sex life will return sooner
If any aspects of the birth were distressing for either of you seek a familiar trusted good listener to talk it through who can refer you on to additional support if needed Birth trauma can affect both parents
The postpartum period can be lonely sometimes so make a list of contacts on the last page Build a support network of local services and professionals so so you have strong branches and solid roots for your nest
Nesthold Chores
Make a list of all the chores that normally need doing including caring for older hatchlings laundry dog walking etc Work out which ones are essential (E) preferable (P) and forgettable (F) Work out who is going to do what keeping in mind itrsquos easy to over-estimate and over-extend and the main priority is nesting and resting Outsource what you can and be willing to negotiate everything as mamarsquos babyrsquos and paparsquos (or partnerrsquos) needs change over the next few months
Chores E P F Person Responsible
When to seek advice from the wise owls in our tree
The baby blues are common for most new mamas but if the following extend past the first couple of weeks postpartum or begin later in the first six months they could be early warning signs of needing extra support
bull Prolonged teariness feeling hopeless or lsquoflatrsquo
bull Not being able to rest or sleep even if the baby is insomnia
bull Worrying excessively about the baby feeling anxious and unable to relax
bull Intrusive thoughts that shock or scare youbull Frequently angry or irritablebull Changes to appetite ndash weight loss or gain
Factors that increase the risk for postpartum mood disorders include bull A traumatic birth experience bull Previous episodes of anxiety or depressionbull Feelings of depression in the third trimesterbull A history of loss especially of a baby
child mother or fatherbull Having to go through prolonged assisted
reproduction prior to this babybull Having unrealistic expectationsbull Expecting things to be perfect or in controlbull Inability to settle down or sleep when
offered the opportunity to do sobull A baby who is restless difficult to settle or
unwell
Papas can experience postpartum depression too symptoms includebull Irritability anxiety and angerbull Loss of libidobull Changes in appetitebull Risk-taking behaviorbull Withdrawal and isolation from othersbull Increased work hoursbull Increased alcohol or drug usebull Feeling of resentment or jealousy towards
the baby
If your experience of the birth was traumatic seek support especially if you experience any of the followingbull Sudden vivid flashbacks of the birth
or nightmaresbull Avoiding thinking or talking about the
birth or people that remind you of itbull Inability to remember important parts
of the birthbull Panic attacks sweating or heart
palpitationsbull Feeling startled hyper vigilant on
edge or on guardbull Intense irritability or anger
I may also need to seek help or advice for other issues including
Ways to increase coping abilitybull Having realistic expectations of
life in a nestbull Building up a support systembull Staying connected with your
partnerbull Making good nutrition rest
relaxation and appropriate exercise priorities
bull Taking your time going with the flow being a learner and not an expert
bull Aiming for happy and relaxed not perfect
Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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For you both
The more relaxed you are and the more time you take to get to know each other as a new parent and newly hatched chick the smoother the transition into family will be It takes at least 3-5 hours a day of just observing your baby to figure them out
Take the pressure off yourselves and each other Aim to be learners and not experts
Take shortcuts frozen meals takeouts nest-deliveries Plan to spend your time recovering and adjusting
Breastfeeding can be challenging Partner can be supportive by
Sleep is a huge issue for new parents Negotiate night feedingsday napsweekend sleep-ins
Sick baby duty arrangements
Other advice
Some families like to nest uninterrupted for the first few weeks others are eager to share their new addition There is a big difference between visitors and helpers You need helpers especially in the beginning
We can ask visitors to bring
Or to
A good time limit for visitors is
When mama is tired or baby needs a rest we can use this signal
We can ask visitors to leave by saying
An unwell baby is stressful and tiring for all so share the load or get extra help for the one who bears it most
Some things to plan ahead for
Babies tend to be more settled in the first few weeks and then become more fussy often just as partners are heading back to work Babies peak at crying 6-8 weeks postpartum so arrange for more support then
Some conflict in the postpartum period is perfectly normal New experiences steep learning curves sleep deprivation and hormones combine to make it inevitable for 92 of couples Donrsquot panic things will settle down as you work together to create your ldquonew normalrdquo If they donrsquot seek help earlier rather than later
Most couples find it takes longer than the expected six weeks to resume sex A mismatch in sex drive is also common in the first year postpartum It doesnrsquot mean there is anything wrong with your relationship Stay connected in other ways and your sex life will return sooner
If any aspects of the birth were distressing for either of you seek a familiar trusted good listener to talk it through who can refer you on to additional support if needed Birth trauma can affect both parents
The postpartum period can be lonely sometimes so make a list of contacts on the last page Build a support network of local services and professionals so so you have strong branches and solid roots for your nest
Nesthold Chores
Make a list of all the chores that normally need doing including caring for older hatchlings laundry dog walking etc Work out which ones are essential (E) preferable (P) and forgettable (F) Work out who is going to do what keeping in mind itrsquos easy to over-estimate and over-extend and the main priority is nesting and resting Outsource what you can and be willing to negotiate everything as mamarsquos babyrsquos and paparsquos (or partnerrsquos) needs change over the next few months
Chores E P F Person Responsible
When to seek advice from the wise owls in our tree
The baby blues are common for most new mamas but if the following extend past the first couple of weeks postpartum or begin later in the first six months they could be early warning signs of needing extra support
bull Prolonged teariness feeling hopeless or lsquoflatrsquo
bull Not being able to rest or sleep even if the baby is insomnia
bull Worrying excessively about the baby feeling anxious and unable to relax
bull Intrusive thoughts that shock or scare youbull Frequently angry or irritablebull Changes to appetite ndash weight loss or gain
Factors that increase the risk for postpartum mood disorders include bull A traumatic birth experience bull Previous episodes of anxiety or depressionbull Feelings of depression in the third trimesterbull A history of loss especially of a baby
child mother or fatherbull Having to go through prolonged assisted
reproduction prior to this babybull Having unrealistic expectationsbull Expecting things to be perfect or in controlbull Inability to settle down or sleep when
offered the opportunity to do sobull A baby who is restless difficult to settle or
unwell
Papas can experience postpartum depression too symptoms includebull Irritability anxiety and angerbull Loss of libidobull Changes in appetitebull Risk-taking behaviorbull Withdrawal and isolation from othersbull Increased work hoursbull Increased alcohol or drug usebull Feeling of resentment or jealousy towards
the baby
If your experience of the birth was traumatic seek support especially if you experience any of the followingbull Sudden vivid flashbacks of the birth
or nightmaresbull Avoiding thinking or talking about the
birth or people that remind you of itbull Inability to remember important parts
of the birthbull Panic attacks sweating or heart
palpitationsbull Feeling startled hyper vigilant on
edge or on guardbull Intense irritability or anger
I may also need to seek help or advice for other issues including
Ways to increase coping abilitybull Having realistic expectations of
life in a nestbull Building up a support systembull Staying connected with your
partnerbull Making good nutrition rest
relaxation and appropriate exercise priorities
bull Taking your time going with the flow being a learner and not an expert
bull Aiming for happy and relaxed not perfect
Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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Some things to plan ahead for
Babies tend to be more settled in the first few weeks and then become more fussy often just as partners are heading back to work Babies peak at crying 6-8 weeks postpartum so arrange for more support then
Some conflict in the postpartum period is perfectly normal New experiences steep learning curves sleep deprivation and hormones combine to make it inevitable for 92 of couples Donrsquot panic things will settle down as you work together to create your ldquonew normalrdquo If they donrsquot seek help earlier rather than later
Most couples find it takes longer than the expected six weeks to resume sex A mismatch in sex drive is also common in the first year postpartum It doesnrsquot mean there is anything wrong with your relationship Stay connected in other ways and your sex life will return sooner
If any aspects of the birth were distressing for either of you seek a familiar trusted good listener to talk it through who can refer you on to additional support if needed Birth trauma can affect both parents
The postpartum period can be lonely sometimes so make a list of contacts on the last page Build a support network of local services and professionals so so you have strong branches and solid roots for your nest
Nesthold Chores
Make a list of all the chores that normally need doing including caring for older hatchlings laundry dog walking etc Work out which ones are essential (E) preferable (P) and forgettable (F) Work out who is going to do what keeping in mind itrsquos easy to over-estimate and over-extend and the main priority is nesting and resting Outsource what you can and be willing to negotiate everything as mamarsquos babyrsquos and paparsquos (or partnerrsquos) needs change over the next few months
Chores E P F Person Responsible
When to seek advice from the wise owls in our tree
The baby blues are common for most new mamas but if the following extend past the first couple of weeks postpartum or begin later in the first six months they could be early warning signs of needing extra support
bull Prolonged teariness feeling hopeless or lsquoflatrsquo
bull Not being able to rest or sleep even if the baby is insomnia
bull Worrying excessively about the baby feeling anxious and unable to relax
bull Intrusive thoughts that shock or scare youbull Frequently angry or irritablebull Changes to appetite ndash weight loss or gain
Factors that increase the risk for postpartum mood disorders include bull A traumatic birth experience bull Previous episodes of anxiety or depressionbull Feelings of depression in the third trimesterbull A history of loss especially of a baby
child mother or fatherbull Having to go through prolonged assisted
reproduction prior to this babybull Having unrealistic expectationsbull Expecting things to be perfect or in controlbull Inability to settle down or sleep when
offered the opportunity to do sobull A baby who is restless difficult to settle or
unwell
Papas can experience postpartum depression too symptoms includebull Irritability anxiety and angerbull Loss of libidobull Changes in appetitebull Risk-taking behaviorbull Withdrawal and isolation from othersbull Increased work hoursbull Increased alcohol or drug usebull Feeling of resentment or jealousy towards
the baby
If your experience of the birth was traumatic seek support especially if you experience any of the followingbull Sudden vivid flashbacks of the birth
or nightmaresbull Avoiding thinking or talking about the
birth or people that remind you of itbull Inability to remember important parts
of the birthbull Panic attacks sweating or heart
palpitationsbull Feeling startled hyper vigilant on
edge or on guardbull Intense irritability or anger
I may also need to seek help or advice for other issues including
Ways to increase coping abilitybull Having realistic expectations of
life in a nestbull Building up a support systembull Staying connected with your
partnerbull Making good nutrition rest
relaxation and appropriate exercise priorities
bull Taking your time going with the flow being a learner and not an expert
bull Aiming for happy and relaxed not perfect
Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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When to seek advice from the wise owls in our tree
The baby blues are common for most new mamas but if the following extend past the first couple of weeks postpartum or begin later in the first six months they could be early warning signs of needing extra support
bull Prolonged teariness feeling hopeless or lsquoflatrsquo
bull Not being able to rest or sleep even if the baby is insomnia
bull Worrying excessively about the baby feeling anxious and unable to relax
bull Intrusive thoughts that shock or scare youbull Frequently angry or irritablebull Changes to appetite ndash weight loss or gain
Factors that increase the risk for postpartum mood disorders include bull A traumatic birth experience bull Previous episodes of anxiety or depressionbull Feelings of depression in the third trimesterbull A history of loss especially of a baby
child mother or fatherbull Having to go through prolonged assisted
reproduction prior to this babybull Having unrealistic expectationsbull Expecting things to be perfect or in controlbull Inability to settle down or sleep when
offered the opportunity to do sobull A baby who is restless difficult to settle or
unwell
Papas can experience postpartum depression too symptoms includebull Irritability anxiety and angerbull Loss of libidobull Changes in appetitebull Risk-taking behaviorbull Withdrawal and isolation from othersbull Increased work hoursbull Increased alcohol or drug usebull Feeling of resentment or jealousy towards
the baby
If your experience of the birth was traumatic seek support especially if you experience any of the followingbull Sudden vivid flashbacks of the birth
or nightmaresbull Avoiding thinking or talking about the
birth or people that remind you of itbull Inability to remember important parts
of the birthbull Panic attacks sweating or heart
palpitationsbull Feeling startled hyper vigilant on
edge or on guardbull Intense irritability or anger
I may also need to seek help or advice for other issues including
Ways to increase coping abilitybull Having realistic expectations of
life in a nestbull Building up a support systembull Staying connected with your
partnerbull Making good nutrition rest
relaxation and appropriate exercise priorities
bull Taking your time going with the flow being a learner and not an expert
bull Aiming for happy and relaxed not perfect
Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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Our strong branch solid roots support system
Friends and familyClose friends I can call when I need to talk are
Ones who can hold the chick while I shower or who I trust to take for a walk around the block
Local friends or family we can see
Other friends or family we can call
Online friends or family
ProfessionalsPediatrician Physician Midwife Physiotherapist Chiropractor Postpartum doula Lactation consultantBreastfeeding Relationship CoachTherapist PsychologistPsychiatrist Massage therapist
ServicesDiapernappy service Sleepsettling Infant massage Lactation clinic
Support GroupsParent support group Local play groups Baby friendly fitness classes Breastfeeding Support group Mental Health Support group Online support groups
Home careHouse cleaning Personal shopper Stores that deliver Dry cleaning Take-out
Hotlines for advice and supportBreastfeeding help Sleepsettling advice
Crisis Hotlines Suicide risk Risk of violence Emergency
Useful websitesPostpartum Support International httpwwwpostpartumnet
Recommended reading Becoming Us 8 Steps to Grow a Family That Thrives
Love learn and grow together reach out and build a warm secure nest for
your family
For more see ellytaylorcom
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