Tell Me A Story UMW 2014
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Froswa’ BookerDrew Tell Me a Story
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Presentation by Froswa' Booker-Drew, given at the United Methodist Women's Legislative Event, January 26-28, 2014.
Transcript of Tell Me A Story UMW 2014
Froswa’ Booker-‐Drew
Tell Me a Story
§ 20+ years nonprofit experience; 10+ years consul=ng
§ Graduate of UTA, Oklahoma City University, aKending An=och University (PhD in Leadership and Change—PhD candidate)
§ Trained facilitator on the work of Kegan and Lahey of Harvard’s work, Immunity to Change
§ Trained on Rela=onal Cultural Theory
§ Currently Na=onal Community Engagement Director, World Vision US Programs
§ Member, Texas Nonprofit Council
§ Author, Rules of Engagement: Making Connec=ons
Who am I?
§ Pick a partner § You have two minutes to share with your partner about who you are
§ The partner can only listen
§ Repeat
Ac=vity and Discussion
§ “the stories people construct and tell about themselves to define who they are for themselves and for others” (McAdams, Josselson, & Lieblich, 2006: 4).
Narra=ve Iden=ty
§ Share our Iden=ty § Share our Rela=onships (Strong or Weak)
§ Share our Emo=ons and Well-‐Being
§ Share the Strength or Stagna=on
Our Narra=ves
§ Is….“an individual’s posi=ve psychological state of development and is characterized by: (1) having confidence (self-‐efficacy) to take on and put in the necessary effort to succeed at challenging tasks; (2) (op=mism) about succeeding now and in the future; (3) (hope) in order to succeed; and (4) when beset by problems and adversity, sustaining and bouncing back and even beyond (resilience) to aKain success” (Luthans et al., 2007, p. 3)
Psychological Capital
§ High quality connec=ons create las=ng impressions.
§ High quality connec=ons allow the expression of emo=ons (good and bad)
§ Can endure tension, changes and setbacks
§ People are engaged and par=cipa=ng
High Quality Connec=ons
§ Engagement
§ Empathy
§ Mutual Empathy
§ Rela=onal Authen=city
§ Mutuality
§ Difference/Diversity
§ Empowerment and Mutual Empowerment
Markers of Good Connec=on
Our en=re well-‐being depends on being included, belonging, engaging in safe rela=onships and
contribu=ng to others.
Our Well-‐Being: The Case for Connec=on
The Role of Social Capital and Stories
§ Social capital is a sociological concept, which refers to connec=ons within and between social networks.
§ Just as a screwdriver (physical capital) or a college educa=on (human capital) can increase produc=vity (both individual and collec=ve), so do social contacts affect the produc=vity of individuals and groups".
So What is Social Capital?
§ Variables such as educa=on, income and employment are associated with the size’s of one’s network. The composi=on of one’s network is determined by the status of employment as well. (Moore, 1990)
Social Capital can Inform the Story
§ Marital status also plays a part in the establishment of social networks. “Married mothers stand out as different from women in all other categories in that their friends are most similar to them in terms of income, educa=on, and age. Lone mothers and never married and divorced or separated women not living with children have friends that are more ethnically diverse. Lone mothers do not have as extensive a network—informal or through organiza=ons—to fall back on as mothers in intact families have” (Ravenera and Rajulton, 2007)
Social Capital can inform the Story
§ For women of color, there is oren an assump=on that they lack the social and cultural capital required for social mobility. (Yasso, 2005). The experiences of women of color are compounded oren due to race, class, and gender.
Social Capital can inform the Story
And my Story begins…
My Parents
My Father—College Graduate and Exposed to Entrepreneurship Early
My Childhood—The role of my Mother
My Childhood-‐-‐Family
High School Gradua=on—The Fire, The Impact Sharon SeKlemire and Caddo Magnet High School
College Gradua=on—The role of Student Involvement at UTA
First Job—A Result of Volunteering on Weekends
Master’s Degree—The Move to OKC and my new world at OCU
Marriage
My Husband’s Family—Cross Cultural Understanding
South Dallas Cultural Center—Employed by City of Dallas
Pregnancy
Kazai Kiara Drew
Loss of Family
Sue Sullins, India, and the Life Changing Experience
Ph.D program—Cohort 10 at An=och University
Rela=onships have been the key to my story and growth!
The Present—author, student, mother, wife, leader, friend and mentor
– Strong =es – Weak =es – Bonding Social Capital – Bridging Social Capital
Types of Rela=onships that a part of our Stories
§ The role of the leader is a central component of their self-‐concept.
§ “An Authen=c leader has achieved a high level of self-‐resolu=on or self concept clarity.”
So how does knowing your story help leaders?
§ A leader must recognize the value of self-‐awareness in order to address the possible conflicts, tempta=ons, and confusion that can arise.
Understanding Your Journey Will Help You Lead Others
§ Leaders “….know emo=ons are contagious and that their own emo=ons are powerful drivers of their people’s moods and ul=mately, performance.”
Understand Your Emo=ons
How does percep=on impact our stories?
Madoff Abu-‐Jamal
Neighborhood as a child/Ethnic
background
Home in Middle income, Jewish
community in New York
Projects in poor area of Philadelphia, African
American
Parents Father and mother in home Father died at nine; single mother headed
household
High School Graduated Dropped out and returned later
College Graduated from Hofstra University and
aKended one year of Law School
AKended Goddard University briefly
Stories of Two Criminals: Madoff and Mumia
Employment Entrepreneur Part Bme writer, radio personality and taxi
cab driver, author (in prison)
Socio-‐Economic status Millionaire Poverty level
Community Involvement Served on several boards of
colleges and pres=gious
educa=onal and cultural
organiza=ons
Black Panther Party,
Black United Libera=on Front, and supporter
of MOVE
First Bme offender/Age at Bme of offense Yes; In seven=es Yes; In twen=es
Accusers/Witnesses/Process Reported by several individuals
through the years but due to
relaBonships with SEC, invesBgaBons
were not thorough
Arrested immediately; ConflicBng tesBmonies
of witnesses and invesBgaBon quesBonable
AQorneys Yes Yes; Ini=ally self-‐ represented; limited resources
Children Yes; two who were involved in family
business and grew up with father
Yes; Seven who grew up without father in the
home
Circles of Influence Connected to wealthy individuals Circles of influence limited un=l arer
incarcera=on due to celebrity, na=onal and
interna=onal coverage
§ 1. The role of bridging social capital is important in moving people from different classes, genders, and ethnic backgrounds for change.
§ 2. Stories are important. Without a beKer understanding of a person, it is easy to stereotype and lack compassion on who we are and how we arrived to our current place in life.
§ 3. Stories share our psychological capital. In building healthy rela=onships, we create a posi=ve iden=ty about ourselves and the world around us.
§ 4. Recognizing our narra=ve is important. Stories have power to influence, educate, and inform. Taking =me to listen to the stories of others is cri=cal.
§ 5. Exposure to other narra=ves opens your mind to new ideas, perspec=ves and reali=es. This exposure can cause us to change the way we make meaning of the world and even changes our mindset.
Final Thoughts
“Go to the People, Live with them, Love them, Learn from them, Work with them, Start with what they have, Build on what they know, and, in the end, when the work is done, the people will rejoice and they will say, ‘We have done it ourselves.’”
-‐Lao Tzu – China 700 B.C.
Final Thought to Build Highly Connected Rela=onships that Transform
Froswa’ Booker-‐Drew Na=onal Community Engagement Director
World Vision, US Programs W: [email protected] P: [email protected]
214-‐500-‐4608
Book: Rules of Engagement: Making Connec=ons Last www.aus=nbrotherspublishing.com
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