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Dont think im beaten down.Th is is my take-off po si ti on
So you thought
feminists dont laugh?
NISHA SUSAN
I
m a little baffled when people say femi-
nists have no sense of humour. Id be
less surprised if someone told me femi-
nists laugh too much. To me feminismis not the reasoned explanation that
follows after Ive stopped laughing. It is
the reason Im laughing.
However, I do sympathise with male and
female amateurs who are confused. You have
seen women laughing in the past but you
never thought they were feminists (because if
they were feminists could they have been
laughing?) For future reference heres a
handy guide for L-Board observers of femi-
nism. You might want to cut-and-save it, as
the IIPM ads say.
THE CANT-BELIEVE-YOURE-FOR-REAL LAUGHThis is the most common source of feminist
laughter. Its what cracked me up when Saudi
newspapers reported last week that women
can now ride bikes and buggies. Women are
free to ride bikes in parks, seafronts, among
other areas, providing that they are wearingfully modest dress and a male guardian has to
be present in case of falls or accidents. These
thoughtful suggestions come after years of
Saudi women agitating against the ban
against driving.
Or take Sharanya who is 19 and studies
in a womens college in Bangalore. In Janu-
ary, a student comes to the door of her class
to make an announcement. The college has
organised a protest rally the following day.They are to walk a kilometre to mark the
death of the young Delhi gangrape victim. All
students are expected to participate. All stu-
dents are also expected, the announcement
continued, to be decently dressed. Two
months later, Sharanya still has no words to
express her indignation other than a splutter-
ing and giggling.
A persistent (but perhaps apocryphal)
story has it that in the year 584 a bunch of
bishops met in Lyons, France and decided
that women are not human and have no
souls. If it did happen there was definitely a
lot of this variety of laughter that day.
Note: The cant-believe-youre-for-real
laugh might range from a short snort to
clutching-the-walls-for-support variety. Usu-
ally, its a short snort because we have other
things to do today than hanging around.
THE OMG, YOUVE-NEVER-
READ-ANYTHING GIGGLEThis is how I giggled when, some years ago, I
joined a tiny NGO with three men. I was hired
to run their website. On Day 1 a colleague
asked me to pour out the tea. My colleague
meant no harm and was, genuinely, not being
malicious. It was just that in his world, the act
of asking the only female colleague present to
handle the beverages was not an embarrassing-
ly dated, utterly medieval clich of the My Wife
is The Home Minister vintage. To him, it was
perfectly appropriate. I didnt pour the tea. I
giggled and went on typing. In a while, he
poured all of us tea.
Many feminists and others (its conta-
gious) had this fit of choking laughter recent-
ly when they saw the New York Times obitu-
ary of Yvonne Brill, a scientist who invented a
propulsion system that keeps communicationsatellites in orbit. It began, She made a
mean beef stroganoff, followed her husband
from job to job and took eight years off from
work to raise three children. The worlds best
mom, her son Matthew said. Douglas Mar-
tin, the writer, intended this embarrassing be-
ginning to create excitement when the piece
later revealed that (surprise!) the woman
(surprise!) was a rocket scientist.
After everyone-went-through-the-OMG-
youve-never-read-anything routine, the piece
had to be edited online.
I did think of the power of this variety of
feminist laughter in 2009 when Renu Gora,
an international prize-winning boxer was told
to serve tea, refreshments and wash cups for
random reporters and visiting bureaucrats at
the National Institute of Sports, Patiala. Renu
felt compelled to do as she was told for lots of
reasons. I wished she had laughed and mean-
ingfully stroked her gloves instead.
THE WARNING LAUGHMy friend Lucy specialises in this variety. In
the bus on a sweaty afternoon she grew tired
of the man standing next to her seat and lean-
ing his crotch into her face. She looked up
and uttered this warning laugh, a mere crack.
He must have sensed that her broad, good-hu-
moured face usually did not house these
predatory sounds. He paused in his activity
but he did not move away fast enough. A
minute later, Lucys genial, middle-aged voice
rang loudly through the bus: Take yourmaal
away from my face unless you want me to cut
it off. The man got off the bus.
A-NEEDLE-HIDDEN-INSIDE-THIS-BANANA-THAT-I-LOVINGLY-FEED-
YOU LAUGHThis is a vicious variety and one you should
hope you never see unless you want to be
found dead with your eyes staring in horror.
This is a particularly tough one to spot
because the feminist is likely to be smiling a
fixed smile, soundlessly. It comes without the
warning laugh (see above).
The reason why many people would likefeminists to laugh is not the same reasons
feminist laugh. Other people would like
feminists to laugh so they are easier to like.
They particularly would like women to laugh
along when unfunny things are said so that
they give others permission to continue being
thoughtless jackasses.
Innocuous and bright as summer fruit,
this laugh will fool you into continuing to
do whatever obnoxious thing you are doing
right now (describing a female boss as an
old bitch, talking about how your maid is ex-
ploiting you, about how the maid who was
allegedly raped by Shiney Ahuja should have
been just paid off, why the university
students who said they had been sexually
harassed were definitely paid off, taking
credit for work your female colleagues have
done). You will have no clue the axe is
dangling over your soft, silly neck.
THE THATS-SO-TRUE SMILEThis is a tricky one. Its fleeting and it can go
all the way from a smile to an unplanned, sur-
prised giggle. Often this is when we are think-
ing of our own imperfections and vanities.
Sometimes it is suffused with the warmth of
meeting or reading about someone who has
had the same experience weve had. Its what
you feel when writer Caitlin Moran talks about
oh, anything. Like when she said, To any idiot
who says, You a feminist? Do you burn your
bras, then, huh? HUH? You burn your bras,
you feminist, you must reply calmly, Fool.
FOOL. Bra is my friend. My bosomest buddy.
My inti-mate. Except for that balcony-cup
Janet Reger one that was an inch too small and
cut off the circulation to my head. Yeah. That
one, I covered in gas and torched it outside the
American embassy. Or when she says, When
a woman says, I have nothing to wear! what
she really means is, Theres nothing here for
who Im supposed to be today.
THE IM-SO-PROUD SMILEThis is a cheeky, truly happy one that can run
from the tiny-smile-to-the-rollicking-laugh
spectrum. When we see the little girl once
beaten by her vicious employers now riding
a cycle to school. When your father scolds
the nosy neighbour and says, No, my daugh-
ter is not married. Everyone doesnt need to
get married.
PADMAPARNA GHOSH
TIMES NEWS NETWORK
Why do you think the stereotype of the angry
feminist still endures?
It is because the radical feminism of 70s, the
Andrea Dworkin (a radical American feminist best
known for her tirade against pornography) kind,
really forced itself into the conversation. It was also
very jarring, with the kind of images and language
that they used they were totally foreign. It i s a
very enduring image.
But even more importantly, the real issue is that
this image is sexist. All these women are/were de-
manding change, things need to be fixed and that we
must be angry. But we are not shrieking harridans.
How do you prove that you are not angry? By not be-
ing angry. Sure, we have anger but we dont exist in
this bubble. We are actually pretty happy people.
Laughing is a core human instinct and if you can
make people laugh, then it is the best way to commu-
nicate. Lets take, for instance, a grave topic like
abortion, Caitlin Moran says something funny about
abortion rights and suppose I had a personal experi-
ence with it (abortion) and if both of us can laugh to-
gether at the same thing, it creates a special mo-
ment.
Whether you call yourself a feminist or not, much
of the ideology (of feminism) is ingrained in us. But
the word itself has become undesirable with younger
women. With women today, who are in their early
20s, everything that comes out of their mouth is
feminist but they dont want to be called that. Maybe
we have a branding problem. We have to decide if
this is a branding game. Who knows, 20 years from
now we will be using some other word. We spend so
much time talking about what exactly is feminism
that it kind of defeats the purpose. We spend more
time debating this than the real issues.
Do we need a movement like feminism to be
snarky, edgy to remain relevant with this or
the next generation? Does it make it more
accessible?
Often, laughing along with a joke
changes a mind without the person
even realising it. A joke is easier to
grasp, especially at an emotional level.
Are there some aspects of feminism/gender rights
that can never be joked about?
We actually had a post last year on how to make a
rape joke and whether it can ever be funny, explain-
ing why people say rape jokes are not funny. My opin-
ion is you can make a rape joke but it cannot be
about the victim and the violence. You can joke
about the unfathomable inhumanity of it all. You can
joke about the culture that perpetuates it and make
fun of the rapist. You can make them (the jokes) but
the problem is that the people who are usually mak-
ing these are not talented comedians.
Most feminists do not believe that men should be
part of the movement. What is your opinion? Do
you get a lot of male feedback?
Although we have a predominantly female reader-
ship, a surprising amount of men visit the site daily.
Guys are definitely reading it and sharing it over so-
cial media. It is a cause for women but we cant do
that without men. In the power structure, men are in
power, so, if we are trying to affect change, it will
have to be from the top down. They have to start tak-
ing steps. So many men in my generation (mid-30s)
are very much engaged on this issue on larger plat-
forms and various conversations.
Maybe we have a
branding problem
Smile, snort, grin, giggleand guffaw... the absurdityof sexism can provokeonly one response
Jezebel, one of the mostly widely read feminist blogs,is sassy, irreverent, fun and has had its own share ofis it feminist enough controversies. Jessica Coen,the editor-in-chief of the site that has led the online
estrogen revolution, talks to TOI-Crestabout why
the F word is unpalatable to several young women
Amarsar de papad ve main khandi na/ Tu kar-
dayen aakad ve main saindi na/ Chhadachadak
teri bodi mere haath/ Meri gut tere hath/ Je tu
rakhna hai rakh/ Je tu chhadna hai, chhaad
Idont eat Amritsars papads, I dont take your
attitude either. And if you have my plait in
your grip, I have your top knot in my hand
too. If you want to stick with me, do so or else
go, take a walk. That is a Punjabi bibi sharply be-
rating her philandering husband. If you thought
only an urban woman could take digs at misogy-
ny, its time for a rethink.
Indian folk songs have a long tradition of lay-
ing on the sarcasm thick and strong. Songs sung
on a range of ocassions from weddings to harvest
were remarkably full of subversive stuff and al-
lowed festive license.
Jagori activist Jaya Srivastava, who grew up in
the Bundelkhand region, says that folk songs are
far more blunt and funny about stating the
womans point of view. Laughter has always beenan integral part of folk culture, she says. And
there is a lot of subversion in this humour.
In the Bundeli song,Dil gare atta pe kay
thaari, to the question why do you stand forlorn
in your yard, the singer says the answer is nei-
ther that her husband has ignored her nor that
her mother-in-law is giving her grief. It is that
Maike ke yaar mohe sapte mein dikhe, khaye
hilore, chhaati phate (I am dreaming of my old
lover, and my heart heaves with longing). It cant
get more irreverent than that, says Srivastava.
Many folks songs of UP, Rajasthan, Bihar and
Punjab also have powerful lyrics that help women
vent their angst against the saas, sasur, devar,
jethani, bhabhi. They also portray the wives as
bright but stuck with moronic husbands in re-
pressive clans.
It is temporary catharsis and then the next
day they are back at doing chulha-chakki, says
Kamla Bhasin who has often used these songs,
sometimes remixing them with urban messages,in her work with feminist groups. Malini Nair
BITCHY
BALLADS
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