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TONI SLOMAN Meet Skin Specialist

FASHION FEATURE:

PURSES Function over Beauty

Girl Power in the A.M. We talk to the Morning Team of WFTS ABC Action News!

Life is Meant to be LIVED – Live it Abundantly! Cancer Survivor, Cindy Keehn, gives us words to live by...

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EDITOR-IN-CHIEFLori Samples Duncan

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERSChristina J. Anton, Esq.

Alexanne Beavers Amanda DePippo LMHC, CAP

Lori Samples DuncanSusan Gernhart

Barbara LoFrisco, M.ARo MartinezLydia RamseyMandy RiversElaine SamplesToni Sloman

Rebecca Wallace-KazimirCynthia M. Winter, Esq.

Michelle Wise

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8 Diamonds are a Girl’s Best Friend

9 Say WHAT?! How to Improve Your Communication Skills

Health & Wellness10 Skin Talk with Toni

12 Women’s Addiction Treatment: The Internal Makeover

13 Day-to-Night Makeup Tips: Do’s and Dont’s

Professional14 Meet Skin Specialist Toni Sloman

16 Women, Get Your Affairs in Order!

18 Girl Power in the A.M.

Celebrating the Survivor in You!20 “Life is Meant to be Lived – Live it Abundantly!”

Fashion22 Purses – Function Over Beauty

Personal Note27 Betrayal

Business & Web Directory28 Contact our advertisers

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From the Editor 2 Fall has Arrived!

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Let’s Talk 4 You’re Smoking What?

5 The Etiquette of Sympathy

6 7 Tips for Creating a Parenting Plan that Lasts

7 The Power of Positive Marketing

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hanks so much for making a decision to spend some time in your day reading our publication. It is truly a labor of love that puts this magazine in your hands

every other month. We want to Celebrate, Motivate, and Educate the REAL Women of Tampa!!! We know how strong, courageous, and capable you are.

It’s October, and the whole world focuses on Breast Cancer this month. However, the reality is cancer happens 365 days a year 24 hours a day. Thankfully, we as a society have done a great job educating people about early detection. We are all so excited about the new advancements that are made daily to help women survive this incredible ordeal. In this issue, we want to remind you that you are a Survivor!!! Read our survivor story on page 20 to be inspired!

Susan Gernhart had the pleasure to speak with an amazing group of women — the ladies of ABC News. They had a great chat, and we hope you enjoy reading about them as much as Susan enjoyed interviewing them.

As always, we have given you some useful information from your local skin specialist, Dr. Toni Sloman in our SkinTalk column. If you have questions or would like to comment on her informative articles, we would love to hear from you. I had the pleasure of interviewing Toni for our cover story and she was delightful. I would trust her with my skin and skin care regimen without question.

Thank you for all of the feedback on our last issue. We were overwhelmed by your response to the article Learn to Love Your Curves! If you know a Tampa woman who should be featured in Tampa Woman, please feel free to give us a call or send us an email. I look forward to hearing from you.

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Psalms 111:1Praise the LORD! I will thank the LORD with all my heart as I meet with his godly people.


What’s Happening in Tampa?

Little Jan for Big Mayor Charity Golf TournamentNovember 127:00 a.m. registration/8:30 a.m. shotgun start Lexington Oaks Golf Club, Wesley ChapelGet swinging and get giving! This golf tournament is about more than just a hole in one. Proceeds benefit Big Brothers Big Sisters of Tampa Bay and the Greater Wesley Chapel Chamber of Commerce and help Jan Roberts move ahead in the race to become Honorary Mayor of Wes-ley Chapel. Each year, the Greater Wes-ley Chapel Chamber of Commerce holds an honorary mayor’s race. The candidate who raises the most money wins the title and a portion of the money raised ben-efits a charity of the candidate’s choice. Ierna’s Heating and Cooling is sponsor-ing Roberts’ campaign. If you would like

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to donate an item for the chance draw-ing please contact Jan Roberts. The next Honorary Mayor of Wesley Chapel will be announced December 15, 2011. The cost is $100/player, $400/team. Sponsor-ships are available at all levels. For more information, contact Jan Roberts, [email protected] or (813) 997-6881.

Old Hyde Park Home TourDecember 4, 1 – 4 p.m. South TampaResidents of one of Tampa’s most historic neighborhoods are offering the chance to view their homes as a great way to kick off the holidays. The tour features seven homes along Willow Avenue in South Tampa, just off beautiful Bayshore Bou-levard. To add an extra touch of elegance to the tour, local companies will provide their own decorative holiday treatments

to the homes. Young musicians will be playing holiday music throughout the tour to add to a festive atmosphere. In addition, each house will have tour guides to show visitors around and talk about its history. Proceeds will be used to maintain and enhance the historic neighborhood.

To purchase advance tickets for $15, send a check payable to Hyde Park Pres-ervation, Inc., c/o 805 S. Willow Ave., Tampa, FL 33606. Wrist bands will be picked up at will-call for those purchas-es. On the day of the event, tickets will be $20 each at a table outside of St. John’s Episcopal Church, 902 S. Orleans Ave. which is the starting point of the tour. Sorry – no credit cards, only checks and cash will be accepted. For more informa-tion, please call (813) 258-6600 or visit their website.www.oldhydeparkfl.org

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by Mandy Rivers

I ’m a South Carolina girl. Among many, many other things, that means I have a few born-and-bred ideas about barbeque.

For starters, it means I spell it with a “q”. It also means my barbeque sauce is mustard based. And it means pork shoulders and butts. I do own a television so I am aware that somewhere around the Mississippi River, barbeque can also mean beef brisket.

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The only exposure I’ve ever had with beef brisket has been in the bigger barbeque restaurants around town. My experience has been that the meat is almost always overcooked and usually drowning in bar-beque sauce. Errr… no thanks.

I was a little less than enthusiastic when my dad informed me that we were going to have brisket for Sunday dinner. He said my cousin had smoked one and every-one raved about it so he wanted to try it out. Dad found out the particulars of how my cousin cooked his brisket (technique, seasoning, etc.) and set out to duplicate it. No need to try and reinvent the wheel be-fore you know how to roll one, right?

Dad applied a liberal amount of the rub on the brisket then smoked it (fat side up) for about 12 hours using a standard char-coal smoker with charcoal, hickory chips and apple juice. Most home-use smokers slow cook the meat by way of heat (char-coal), smoke (hickory chips) and steam (apple juice).

He let it rest about an hour, thinly sliced it and served it up (sans sauce). It. Was. Amazing. The meat was moist, tender and

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Smoked Beef Brisket

flavored perfectly. The combination of marbling, cooking method and seasoning was simply perfect.

I’m of the mind that if you have to put bar-beque sauce on meat to eat it, then you’ve already failed. Sauce should serve as an accent – not as a means to return moisture to dry, overcooked meat or as a means to provide flavor to something that was un-der seasoned to begin with.

We used Smokin’ Coles BBQ Dry Rub and I could not have been more pleased. It was a perfect compliment to the brisket. The spices offered the right amount of heat and flavor while providing a subtle earthiness, then finished with just the right amount of sweetness. You can buy the rub on their website at: www.smokincolessauce.com

If you are reading this and you love bar-beque, you’re already making mental notes of the comments you could send wherein you inform me about everything I don’t know about barbeque. And you might be right. I’m no barbeque expert. What I am is a food writer who ate some wicked good brisket this weekend and has a new appreciation and respect for it.

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• ¾ cup Smokin’ Cole’s BBQ Dry Rub (approximately)• 1 5-8 pound beef brisket• 4 cups hardwood chips (oak, hickory or mesquite)• 1 bag charcoal• 1 quart apple juice• Water as needed

Pat the dry rub onto the brisket thoroughly (use more or less depending on the size of your brisket to ensure the meat is generously coat-ed) and wrap tightly in plastic wrap. Allow the meat to marinate, refrigerated, at least 6 hours or overnight.

Soak wood chips in a large bowl of water for 1 to 2 hours. Drain water and set aside.

Remove the meat from the refrigerator and let come to room temperature.

Prepare a charcoal smoker* with charcoal and wood chips according to the manufacturer’s instructions. Place the water pan in the smoker and add apple juice to the fill line (use addi-tional water as need to reach the fill line).

Place the unwrapped brisket – fat side up – on the upper rack of the smoker, close the lid and cook, regularly stoking the fire and adding additional wood chips, until an instant-read thermometer registers an internal temperature of 140 to 145 degrees (cooking time can vary from 5 to 12 hours depending on smoker and size of brisket – be sure to follow the manufac-turer’s instructions for your smoker).

Remove the brisket from the smoker. Cover tightly with aluminum foil and let rest for 35-45 minutes before serving. Carve against the grain into thin slices. Serve with barbeque sauce on the side if desired.

*A gas or electric smoker can be used as well. Omit the charcoal and follow the manufacturer’s instructions.


O n a beautiful spring day I was driving home after welcoming my first grandchild into the world. Little Samuel Carroll Niles was whole and healthy, and life was

good – almost. My husband had suffered a serious fall in October and was unable to accompany me. He seemed to be recovering, but I was still concerned about him.

I was nearly home when my cell phone rang. The call was from a friend who had stopped by to visit Hank and became alarmed when there was no response. I drove into my driveway with the lights of the EMS truck flashing in my rear view mirror. I lost my warm, wonderful, gentle husband. With-in a three-week period, I became a grandmother and a widow.

As I attempted to get back to life “as normal,” I found that grief had its own timetable. When I was able to write again, I decided that I needed to address this issue that confronts everyone at some point, person-ally and professionally. It is often difficult to know what to say or do when a death occurs. I want to share what I have learned that may help when someone you know—a client, a colleague, a coworker or a friend—loses a loved one.

It is important to do something. Many of us are so uncomfortable with death that we don’t do any-thing at all—afraid of saying or do-ing the wrong thing.

Attend the funeral or the memo-rial service if you can. Your pres-ence offers inestimable support. Even if you can’t speak directly to the family members, you can sign the book that they will look at over and over again and they will know you cared enough to be there.

Write a note as soon as you can. Personal notes of condolence are

a source of great comfort—more than you can imagine. I was moved by the ways people expressed their sympathy. There were those who simply spoke of their sincere sor-row for my loss. There were those who described what Hank had meant to them personally. Oth-ers wrote about the character and personality of the special person I had lost. I was grateful for each and every one.

Commercial sympathy cards are equally cherished. It was clear to me that the commercial cards I re-ceived had been carefully chosen. Each one came with an additional sentence or two written by the sender. Be sure you take the time to add a short personal note. Send flowers unless the family specifies otherwise. Send them to the fam-ily, the funeral home, the church or the gravesite. Flowers add warmth and are visual reminders of the support of friends. Flowers and personal gifts continued to arrive weeks later to confirm that neither my pain nor I had been forgotten.

Take food and other items for daily living to the house. The last thing the grieving family can think about is grocery shopping and meal preparation. A thoughtful neighbor called me and said, “I am going to the grocery store. What do you need?” My response was a baffled, “I have no idea.” This kind, generous person filled her car with everything from fresh fruit and vegetables to paper towels and

toilet tissue. She even included pet food for the four-legged members of the family.

Make a contribution to the chari-ties indicated by the family. Honor the wishes of the deceased. Give to the causes they chose unless the obituary states that contributions should be made to the donor’s fa-vorite charity. If you missed the funeral notice and don’t have that information, call the funeral home. They will have a record.

Be specific when you offer to help. Most people say, “If there is anything you need, call.” While their intentions were genuine, I didn’t always know what I could ask certain people to do. When our assistant rector uttered those words, my face must have flashed back a message that said, “Like what?” because he immediately followed with a verbal list of all things I could call on him or oth-er church members to do. One neighbor offered to walk the dog. Another proclaimed to be handy with household repairs if anything broke down or stopped working. Someone else volunteered to pick up family members from the air-port. Once people were clear on what they could do, I knew where to turn without hesitation for what I needed.

Make a note of the date of the death. Honor the anniversary with a note or a phone call that says you haven’t forgotten.

Any gesture you make is comfort-ing. A simple word, a hug, a phone call, a card or an offer to run an er-rand are just a few ways to express your sympathy.

Keep in mind that great authors, poets and thinkers have written for centuries about grief and loss, searching for just the right words to console themselves or someone else. When all is said and done, there are no words. Sometimes the best you can offer are the words, “I’m sorry.”

I hope that what I have learned first hand will help you to reach out with confidence and ease the next time someone close to you suffers a loss.

Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate trainer and author of Manners That Sell – Adding The Polish That Builds Profits. For more information about her pro-grams, products and services, visit her web site www.mannersthatsell.com.

The Etiquette of SympathyWhat to do When Someone You Know Suffers a Loss

by Lydia Ramsey

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F lorida family laws require parents who are getting a divorce or establishing paternity to create a parenting plan that resolves parenting issues regarding their common minor children. Parenting plans can be fairly simple,

dealing only with major issues such as timesharing (more commonly known as “custody”). Parenting plans can also be fairly comprehensive, dealing additionally with more specific issues that can range anywhere from how parents will decide which extracurricular activities the child will be involved in to issues revolving around the children traveling domestically and internationally.

7 Tips for Creating a Parenting Plan that LASTS

by Christina J. Anton, Esq. and Cynthia M. Winter, Esq.

In most cases, the more compre-hensive a parenting plan is the more effective the parenting plan will be in the long-term, especially in cases that create a parenting plan is created when the children are very young. Establishing a long-lasting parenting plan is im-portant in keeping the relationship between parents as amicable as possible, and will save the parents the emotional and financial stress of having to go back to court to modify the parenting plan later. The following 7 tips are important to consider in establishing a par-enting plan that will last:

1) Be realisticCreating a parenting plan that is realistic and achievable by both parents and the minor children is the key to a long-lasting parenting plan. An effective parenting plan is not just comprised of one parent’s “wish list,” but rather a plan that takes into account the needs of both parents and the children.

2) Be comprehensiveInclude any and all issues that are likely to arise between the par-ents and the minor children. The parents are most knowledgeable about issues that have come up in the past and are best able to pre-dict issues that may come up in the future.

3) Be specific, yet flexibleBeing as specific as possible in cre-ating a parenting plan ensures that the parents have a clear under-standing of the terms in the par-enting plan, resulting in an effec-tive, long-lasting parenting plan. However, it is also important to stay flexible, so that the parenting plan can adapt to the lives of the minor children as they grow and change.

4) PersonalizePersonalize the parenting plan to the needs of both parents and the needs of the minor children. The parents should work together to

create a parenting plan that takes into account the specific needs of their children, including every-thing from specific activities that the children are involved in, to any special health (or academic?) needs of the children.

5. Think aheadAs children age, their needs change. Including provisions in a parenting plan that address chang-es that are foreseeable will make the parenting plan more effective in the long run.

6. Work togetherBoth parents being able to work together to create a parenting plan sets a positive tone for healthy co-parenting in the future.

7. Keep best interests of children firstBest interests of children should be first and foremost. In creating a parenting plan, the best interests of the children should always be the

first and foremost important factor that the parents take into consider-ation. While ease and convenience of the parents are also important factors in terms of creating a par-enting plan that may be realistically followed, the children’s best inter-ests should always be most impor-tant. Both parents should be ready and willing to make compromises so they can create a parenting plan that is best for the children.

Christina J. Anton, Esq. is a founding partner of Anton Castro Law heading the Marital & Family Law practice. Cynthia M. Winter, Esq. is a family law and bankruptcy attorney at Anton Cas-tro Law. Anton Castro Law is located in downtown Tampa and practices in the areas of Marital & Family, Criminal & DUI Defense, Personal Injury, and Bankruptcy law. For more informa-tion, please visit Anton Castro Law’s website, www.AntonCastroLaw.com, or call (813) 907-9807.

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The Power ofPositive Marketing

by Michelle Wise

The Power of Positive Marketing After five long years selling self-designed t-shirts at weekend street fairs and college dorms along the East Coast, brothers Bert and John Jacobs were on the edge of financial ruin, ready to give up and get real jobs. In one last effort, they printed 48 shirts with a new design: a simple smil-ing face and a message, “Life is good.”

The next day they sold all 48 in 45 minutes at a Cambridge, MA street fair. They were amazed, “We had $78 left between us and then – boom – that pile of T-shirts became cash in our pockets”!

That was 1994. Now their compa-ny is a $100 million business with plans to become a global brand.

The Lesson Learned: A Positive Message Sells. What is it about “Life is good” that made it such a success?

Bert Jacobs believes, “Our culture is inundated with negative mes-sages. It’s fun to celebrate what’s right with the world rather than what’s wrong with it. More than that, it’s healthy and it’s really powerful.”

We say, let’s focus our marketing efforts on positive values, positive outcomes and positive messages. No more advertising featuring clue-less parents who don’t know a cool car from an un-hip one, dumb dads who don’t know how to text, or hapless housewives who don’t know how to do laun-dry or clean a floor.

Want Your Business to Stand Out? If you want your business to standout, take a stand based on the features and advantages that your brand delivers. Start by differentiating your product or service with its unique benefits and portray your customer as the hero of your marketing – not the

butt of a bad joke. After all, who would you prefer to give your business to? Would you choose the company that ridicules its customers or clients or one that respects them?

From Street Vendors to a Multimillion Dollar BusinessBert and John Jacobs turned a simple, positive message into a business that supports great causes including their own Life is Good Kids Foundation.

Wise Marketing Network has helped great local businesses like Shapes Fit-ness for Women deliver smart, posi-tive images that attract more loyal customers than ever.

Ask us how we can help grow your business through the power of posi-tive marketing.

Contact Michelle Wise, PrincipalWise Marketing [email protected]

October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month and Carrollwood Day School has joined the fight to help defeat this illness. Students from the toddlers to the seniors in high school will be “painting” the CDS campuses pink with flowers, ribbons and other decorations that will beautify the campuses throughout the month of October. An important component of the CDS International Baccalaureate program is Com-munity and Service, and CDS will participate in “Paint the Campus Pink”, a school-wide service project to raise funds for Susan G. Komen for the Cure®. Various fundraising events are scheduled throughout October and all proceeds will be donated to “Paint the Campus Pink.”

Students also held a fundraiser where they bought pink shoelaces to wear throughout the month of October. Middle school students assisted the el-ementary students to lace their shoes with pink!

For information on how to help this wonderful cause, call (813) 920-2288.

Carrollwood Day School“PAINTS ITS CAMPUSES PINK”

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D iamonds are a girl’s best friend. We’ve all heard that little decree once or twice. Perhaps you’ve even made the declaration yourself. When looking to purchase that little friend that lasts a lifetime, we would like to

recommend a Jeweler who knows what diamonds are all about.

For a unique and intimate shop-ping experience that you won’t find at any average jewelry store, visit an International Diamond Center showroom. They take great care to differentiate themselves from other, ordinary jewelers in order to earn your business and trust. They are the best place to purchase exclusive bridal jewelry, designer engagement rings, and other fine jewelry. They regularly have a larg-er selection of diamonds and dia-mond jewelry than any other local jeweler or national jewelry store chain. They offer virtually every size, shape, and design imaginable with weights up to 50 carats. They also feature collections from some

of the most renowned jewelry de-signers in the world, like Tacori, Verragio, Ritani, Scott Kay, Henri Daussi, and Martin Flyer. Their selection of designer diamond jewelry includes everything from breathtaking engagement rings and wedding bands to stunning diamond earrings and pendants. They also offer an extraordinary selection of loose diamonds and precious gems.

International Diamond Center has a full staff of certified diamontolo-gists at each jewelry store to assist you with your purchase. And un-like other jewelers, they will never pressure you into making a pur-

chase. Instead, they will offer you guidance when you want it, while giving you the time and space you need to browse their collection freely.

If you’re looking to buy or sell gold, silver, and other precious metals, as well as coins, heirlooms, watches, and collectibles, you’ll find that In-ternational Diamond Center also

offers a superior selling experience. Their in-store buying experts share more than 150 years of wholesale experience and will offer you top dollar for your valuables.

Customers throughout the Tampa Bay and Orlando areas can visit an International Diamond Center jewelry store to purchase spectac-ular engagement rings and other diamond jewelry, or to sell their unwanted gold and other precious metals. Nobody knows diamonds better than the International Dia-mond Center. Check out their website at www.ShopIDC.com or stop in and treat yourself, or that special someone in your life.

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M ost of my clients are concerned with communication issues. Well, actually, that isn’t exactly accurate. Since they are having trouble communicating,

after many questions and back-and-forth dialogue, I realize they have communication problems, and point them out. Then they become concerned. But I digress.

So how do you know you have trouble communicating? Are you often the victim of a “misunder-standing”? Do you feel like people don’t understand your feelings? Do you think that your spouse keeps twisting your words? Assuming you are not married to a sociopath, or have completely self-centered friends, then you may have trouble communicating.

There are two basic ways in which I help clients with their communi-cation skills. One is by teaching “I language”. Basically, “I language” uses this structure: “I feel _____ about _________ and I wish you would _____________.”

Yep, that’s it. Now for the tricky part — you have to understand the difference between a thought and a feeling. Feelings are emotions; they are not opinions you hold or experiences that you have had. There are four basic feeling words: mad, sad, glad and scared. All oth-er feeling words generally fall into one of these categories.

The reason this first technique works so well is that by starting the sentence with the word “I” you are taking ownership of your feelings. By taking ownership of your reaction, you are not blam-ing or accusing your partner, but merely explaining that what they have done has caused you to feel a certain way. If they want you to feel a different way, they will have to change their behavior. Think about it — doesn’t that sound much better than simply accusing them? Without exception, every time I have explained this to cou-ples they agree. I suspect you need an example:

DON’T: “You never take out the garbage!” DO: “I feel overwhelmed when you don’t take out the garbage and it would really help me if you would.”

See the difference? You’re wel-come.

The second way in which I help

people with communication in-volves your partner in a listening exercise. Go find an object in your house that you can pass back and forth. A cell phone or keys will work fine. Here’s how it goes:

Partner #1 (holding object): “I feel neglected when you go out with your friends every night and I’d like you to spend more time with me.” Partner #2 (waits until Partner #1 is finished): “I hear you saying… is that correct?” (Summarizes what Partner #1 has said)

At this point Partner #1 has an op-portunity to correct Partner #2’s interpretation, if necessary. Once Partner #2 has summarized cor-rectly, the object passes to Partner #2, and the roles reverse (Partner #2 is the speaker).

There are a few key elements to this exercise that make it especially ef-fective. (In the absence of other se-vere issues, it has worked on 100% of the couples I have used it with).

One is that it eliminates interrup-tions. Only the person with the ob-ject is allowed to speak. The other is that by requiring the listener to paraphrase, an opportunity is cre-ated for the speaker to make cor-rections. This alone is a beautiful thing! How many times in our lives do we paraphrase what others have said to make sure we get their mes-sage right? Yeah, I know. I wouldn’t have asked the question if I didn’t already know the answer.

There is much more to discuss re-garding communication skills, but these are my top two techniques. And, I’m at my word count again! Until next time…

Barbara LoFrisco, M.A. is a licensed mental health counselor, licensed mar-riage and family therapist and board certified sex therapist. She works with individuals and couples with relation-ship and/or sexual issues in her private practice, located just north of down-town Tampa. For more information, please visit her website, www.counsel-orbarb.com, or call (813) 404-9215.

Barbara LoFrisco, M.A.

SAY WHAT?!How to Improve YourCommunication Skills

by BarbaraLoFrisco, M.A.

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e are fortunate that there are so many wonderful treatments available now to treat the effects of aging. Unfortunately, the people seeking these

treatments have to deal with much confusion, and most times, misconceptions about the treatments they are seeking.

WAs a patient, it is a nerve racking experience to sit in a chair for the first time, handing over hard earned money, as well as personal control and trust, in someone you don’t know anything about their training or experience level, for a procedure you also know little about. So my patients put their concerns in basic terms that they know I will understand, such as “I don’t want to look like a duck or a dog”. Since that’s the last thing I want as well, we discuss not only the considerations of what treat-ment they may be seeking, but also what the realistic outcomes will be.

While our faces are all different, there are basic aging principles that apply to all of us – muscle mo-tion, weight changes, and genetic predisposition, all of which influ-ences our loss of facial volume or fullness. The cheekbones serve as an upper support for the skin that drapes below. The upper jaw helps to support the skin that drapes be-neath it. In the middle, is the “sub malar” area, just below the cheek-bone. When this area loses volume there is atrophy, or a look of ‘hol-lowness’ in the face.

The mouth has a circular muscle surrounding it that enables talk-ing, eating, kissing, and laughing. That’s a lot of function for one muscle group and it’s the reason why the first signs of aging are fre-quently around the mouth. Loss of lip volume, vertical lip creases, and

deepened smile lines are what usu-ally drive us to seek treatment for the first time.

Specifically dealing with dermal fillers, problems occur when the natural anatomy is not examined and filler is injected “textbook” style instead of tailoring the treat-ment to your unique anatomy. A poor result happens when filler is forced into an area that didn’t have significant volume in the first place. Lips that were never full cannot suddenly become full when we are older. If there was no space for genetically determined volume to be present, the tissue will stretch in an unnatural way to accommodate the filler. The over-everted, stretched look is known as “duck lips”.

This “over the top” look is exag-gerated when the volume loss un-der the cheekbone is not treated. When you have too much fullness or overcorrection in the lower

face, and a hollowed depression in the mid face, it is known as the “muzzle effect”. All of these, obvi-ously, are undesirable outcomes, and can be avoided most times with the proper examination and tailoring of the treatment plan.

For the most natural result, the natural anatomy of the entire face should be evaluated and balance restored. The transition from one plane of tissue to the next should be smooth in the entire face, and sometimes this can only be ac-complished by placing filler in the cheekbone, or just below, provid-ing a lifting effect for the lower face. (imagine raising a tent). Variations of this procedure are known as the “Filler Facelift”.

Fillers are certainly an expense, especially if additional syringes are needed to achieve the desired goals. However, these types of products are meant to last longer than some other forms of treat-

ments, and should be considered as part of your lifestyle, much like eating healthier and exercise. There is no worse emotional ex-pense than a poor result, and as more than one patient has told me of previous treatments with poor outcomes: “I feel like a fool”.

It is really a wonderful time to age! Look at your own face in the mir-ror with an artistic eye and make a list of questions and concerns about how your face is aging. Hold your practitioner accountable to educate you. Check credentials and get referrals. And, when you have a great result and get those com-pliments, share with your friends. Believe me, they’ll know it’s not all genetics and you’ll look even more beautiful for sharing!

Toni Sloman is the owner of Skin Savvy Rx in Tampa. See our feature on Toni on page 14 of this issue.

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A merican culture is saturated with makeover shows, ranging from clothing and weight makeovers all the way to extreme home makeovers. I wholeheartedly admit that these shows are very fun to watch; seeing the final

product being triumphantly paraded out is riveting television, and sometimes even inspirational. Nevertheless, as amazing as these transformations are, beneath that new shiny exterior, something is always missing.

What is missing is not small or insignificant; in fact, it is the most important piece of what makes up who we are. It is very easy to focus on external things that need to be changed or altered. It is easy be-cause those external things are easy to see, and provide instant positive feedback. Just like buying a new outfit temporarily brightens your day, or having a lovely Krispy Kreme donut, eating one feels great, and next thing you know, on to the next one, and the next, etc. Those brief feelings of satisfaction only serve to mask the internal feelings

which drive you to the store or the donut counter. We search all day long for these external comforts to help us feel better about ourselves, but in the end, the temporary fix is never good enough. The change has to come from the inside.

Daily, I see struggling women who have searched outside of them-selves and found drugs and alcohol as quick fixes to feel better. There is no doubt these quick fixes were ef-fective short-term. But as with any quick fix, over time, these women began to rely more on the drugs

and alcohol than themselves. Be-fore they knew it, the drugs and alcohol had taken over their lives. The sad irony is the one thing that

made them briefly feel good is now just one more thing that makes them feel worse about themselves. Unfortunately, the stereotype of

WOMEN’S ADDICTION TREATMENT:The Internal Makeover

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There is no one true demographic of an addict. Addiction is an equal opportunist; it does not discriminate against any gender, race, or socioeconomic status.

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an addict being a homeless man liv-ing under a bridge is simply not true. In fact, addiction can affect anyone: housewives, doctors, nurses, teach-ers, attorneys, college students. There is no one true demographic of an ad-dict. Addiction is an equal opportun-ist; it does not discriminate against any gender, race, or socioeconomic status. For many this is a harsh reality, as no one wants to believe an addict could be their doctor or nurse. If this article can do anything, I hope that it will shed light on addiction and pro-vide a glimpse of what women’s ad-diction treatment is all about.

As the clinical director of Healthcare Connection in Tampa, I have the op-portunity to work with people on their internal makeovers everyday. Health-care Connection is a private substance abuse treatment facility that focuses on treatment of addiction and co-oc-curring disorders such as depression, anxiety, bipolar etc. Unfortunately, fe-males are often the most overlooked group when it comes to chemical de-pendency. I believe women take pride in how well they hide their problems. Many women fear they will lose their children or careers if they admit they have a problem. Unfortunately, the re-ality is that these women stand a bet-ter chance of losing their children or careers if they stay in their addiction and refuse help.

Healthcare Connection gears their treatment for women by customiz-ing a plan intended to suit the unique needs of each person. We do not just focus on one specific issue or con-cern, and certainly not on an exterior makeover. Rather, we explore emo-tional, psychological, spiritual, and physical aspects of each of their lives. The goal is to reach the root of their addiction, and work from there out-wardly. Without treating what is un-derneath, recovery will be impossible. It is not a quick or easy process, but it is attainable. Using individual coun-seling, group therapy, 12 step meet-ings, and the therapeutic community, coupled with hard-work and dedica-tion, a person with any addiction can truly have an extreme makeover.

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DAY-TO-NIGHT MAKEUP TIPS: Do’s and Don’ts

ith the holiday season upon us, the need to not only multi-task but also simplifying our beauty routine has become more

important than ever. With these tips, you can switch from day to night with a flawless, easy transition that kicks it up a notch when the sun goes down.

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DO use blotting papers to soak up excess oil and blotches your complexion may have from throughout your day. Blotting papers can be found in the skincare section of any drugstore, and allow you to freshen up your complexion before adding further founda-tion or concealer for maximum coverage.

DON’T apply extra mascara on top of what you already have on your eyelashes. This can lead to a clumpy, spider-like effect.

DO add a darker eyeshadow shade in the crease (see photo) of your eye socket to add dimension to your eyes. You can also apply the same shade to your lower lash line to mimic eyeliner and give a smokey-eye look.

DON’T apply more blush unless you feel the blush you applied during the day has

faded. Circulation increases as the day goes on, often aiding in a natural “blushed” look.

DO add shimmer to your nighttime look. Shimmer can be applied to your upper cheekbones, decolletage, and on your brow bones. Highlighting area’s of your face and body where the sun would normally hit dur-ing the daytime creates a candelit effect at night.

DO amp up your lips with a darker or brighter lipstick shade, such as anything with berry, red, or bright pink tones.

DO use dry shampoo to soak up excess oil in your hair and to refresh your current hair style. A few spritzes can add volume, life, and texture back into your hair before a night out.

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I was a little nervous to sit across from Toni Sloman of Skin Savvy for our cover interview. Toni is a skin specialist. Having spent years in the business of enhancing

women’s beauty and erasing the lines of time from their faces, I was feeling a little exposed. Like many women, I was feeling that perhaps Botox and other treatments were for those a little more vain than me. The fact of the matter is, after four children and on the back side of my thirties, I look in the mirror sometimes and say, “where did that come from?” Sometimes it feels like lines appear overnight.

While I visited with her, Toni ex-plained that women in the south often have damage to their skin before their twenties, which isn’t even our fault, but the by-product of living in a sunny state and not knowing how to protect ourselves from the damaging rays of the sun at an early age.

Toni Sloman was a sheer delight! After spending an hour with her, I left with a huge smile on my face and a pep in my step inspired by her warm openness. I wanted to feature this local business owner for a number of reasons, but one of the most persuasive was the fact that she devotes a majority of her time to creating confidence and a positive self-image to hundreds of women on a weekly basis. What a worthy career choice.

Toni Fravega Sloman ARNP, MSN is the founder and owner of Skin Savvy. After graduating from Flor-ida State University in 1984 and re-ceiving a master’s degree in 1994, she continues her 15 year career in

plastic surgery nursing in Tampa Bay. Her extensive knowledge of skin health, facial muscle function and dermal injections led her to establish a unique specialty prac-tice focused on facial aesthetics. During her time spent as a nurse, Toni realized how much more comprehensive surgery could be when aided by the right skin regi-men, Botox and other fillers. Like so many women, the need to pro-vide women with a better qual-ity of care inspired Toni to begin a business of her own. But Toni didn’t just wake up one morning and decide she would go into prac-tice alone — it was a vision years in the making.

Toni’s first love was art. However, when she started her career, nurs-ing was just “what women did” if they wanted to make a “good” liv-ing. Having that artistic eye may very well have been what gave Toni the desire to do more than just tuck and nip. Today there are “med spas” on every other corner, but when Toni started Skin Savvy,

there was no model on which to base her practice. She just had to dig in with both feet and learn by trial and error. Even today, she sets herself apart by making sure her aesthetician and office staff are as committed to their work as she is herself. Toni takes great pride in the talented women that make up her practice and together they make every effort to ensure the experience for every patient is one filled with compassion, under-standing and tailored to the need of the individual.

Toni says she is inspired to con-tinue her work by the women she helps maintain a youthful appear-ance, and regain self-confidence. As women take better care of ourselves and live longer, we are working longer. Many times Toni treats women who are simply try-ing to compete in the job market with younger women. Although these women are very qualified for positions maybe even more so, sometimes the younger , “fresher” face wins out. Helping women to

age gracefully is art to Toni, and she is allowed to sculpt every sin-gle day. The skin care lines carried at Skin Savvy span various price points and work along with the procedures offered so that patients can realize the best possible benefit.

It is hard not to be ex-cited about Toni Slo-man and what she has built here in Tampa. Any time someone is pas-sionate about what they do, the passion is evident and the qual-ity of their work far out-shines that of a person who is simply earning a paycheck. Toni and her staff are passionate about educating and changing the lives of real women. Stop by Skin Savvy today, and see if you don’t leave with that smile on your face and pep in your step.

See Toni’s SkinTalk column on page 10 of this issue.

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D espite the enormous strides made toward gender equality there is one area where women still lag behind men far too often says Diane Tone, a senior business development officer at Republic Bank in Temple Terrace,

Fl. That is in financial planning, especially relating to retirement. Even today many women are accustomed to their husbands doing the heavy financial lifting, she says. As a result they are often caught short when disaster strikes. This doesn’t have to be the case, Tone says. Whether married or single, young or old, there are some basic things any woman should do in order to ensure her financial future.

“The real crux of it for women is them having their affairs in order,” says Tone. She adds this includes keeping excellent financial records that are kept in an easily accessed place, and all together. Part of this organizational process also includes knowing her household budget, assets and liabilities. Wills, estate plans, and social security income also should be known and set up well in advance.

Tone also recommends that at least once a year women sit down and review all their key financial docu-ments: life insurance, disability in-surance, mortgage insurance. Spe-cifically women need to be alert as to whether their policy terms have changed in the past year due to changes in life, whether through divorce, a spouse’s death, becom-ing a parent, or inheriting money. She is especially emphatic that ca-reer women need to make certain they have disability insurance if they can at all afford it, as a de-bilitating injuries or medical con-ditions can devastate someone’s savings.

Often the wives of successful busi-ness owners are left with unexpect-ed financial burdens when their husbands die. The wife, a co-owner, can find herself liable for millions of dollars no one has prepared her to manage, says Tone. “I’ve heard spouses say ‘he said sign here.’ He wasn’t trying to keep it from her,

but in five years when he dies she’s not sure what he really meant.”

Tone says she has seen this scenar-io play out on several occasions. For example, a widowed woman could learn the family business has a multi-million dollar operating line of credit that she now is legally obligated to continue to guarantee.

Here are just a few of the issues and questions women in this posi-tion have to ask, says Tone. Are all the agreements for the business in place, like succession planning and the buy-sell agreement? Does she know who the lawyers and CPAs are who advise the business? What about the lawyers who handle the estate planning? “They can’t just sit back anymore,” says Tone.

One problem, Tone says, is that life expectancies are longer now; women have to ensure they have more than enough set aside for the long run. “Years ago you retired at 63,” she says. “Life is not that way anymore. I have 30 more years to live, I have to make sure I have (enough money) set aside, and it has a fair rate of return.”

For younger women having your affairs in order is simpler. The most basic thing they can do is put away some money in their 401(k) or Individual Retirement Account (IRA), because over decades it compounds. You can start with as

little as $15 per pay period. “They won’t miss the money, and when they hit 50 they could have as much as $400,000,” says Tone. She adds it’s critical to do this, even if their salaries are initially low. “So many people say oh no I can’t (af-ford that),” she says. “You can’t af-ford not to.”

Being financially involved and sav-vy not only can secure the future, but also the present, says Tone. “When it comes to happy, long-term relationships you need to be self-sufficient before you become dependent on anyone else.”

If you have any additional questions Republic Bank Senior Business De-velopment Officer Diane Tone may be reached at (813) 989-2809 or [email protected].

Women, Get Your Affairs in Order!REPUBLIC BANK’S DIANE TONE SAYS THAT WOMEN HAVE TO BE MORE AGGRESSIVE WITH THEIR FINANCIAL PLANNING TO ENSURE A COMFORTABLE FUTURE.

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T hey say that behind every good man, is a great woman. At WFTS ABC Action News, the morning news team is comprised of not one, not two, but four FABULOUS women who (along with their colleague Dan

Shaffer) deliver the Bay area’s top news stories, weather and traffic five days a week.

Tampa Woman recently spoke with the stylish quartet of early birds at the ABC Action News studio on North Himes Avenue, just steps away from Raymond James Sta-dium: anchor Deiah Riley, traffic reporter Meredyth Censullo, me-teorologist Stephanie Roberts, and reporter Ashley Glass.

(And in case you’re wondering, YES – these witty ladies are as energetic, friendly and beautiful behind-the-scenes as they are on-camera!)

Tampa Woman: What community do you all live in, and what do you love most about Tampa?Ashley Glass: I live minutes from the studio and love my short com-mute! I enjoy discovering new museums, restaurants and festivals

each weekend. Stephanie Roberts: I live outside of Brandon (in FishHawk), and enjoy the casual lifestyle. Deiah Riley: I love my Land O’ Lakes neighborhood. I’m from At-lanta, and the plan was to stay two years and return to Georgia. But after one year, my husband and I decided to stay and raise our chil-dren here. Meredyth Censullo: I’m in Lutz, so Deiah and I are neighbors.

TW: What is your sleep schedule like?AG: I’m in bed by 7pm, and the alarm goes off at 2am. I usually hit snooze until about 2:15am on a good day; 2:45am on a tough morning!SR: I have two children (ages 7 and 11), so I’m going to sleep until

about 10 or 11pm. I have a middle schooler who is often up doing homework until 10:30pm. And then I’m back up by 2:30/3am.MC: I usually turn in after I’ve had my bedtime snack and I’ve watched “House Hunters” at 7pm. By that time, my brain and body knows it’s time to shut down and say good night!DR: My daughters (ages 3 and 4) are actually night owls, but in a perfect world, I try to be in bed by 8:30am, and asleep by 9am.

TW: How do you manage to do it all, and what advice do you have for other working women?DR: Fortunately, I have a really good support system including a fantastic husband who steps in to help. Although I’m up at 2:30am, I get to have dinner with my kids

and put them to bed every night, and I can’t ask for more!SR: …it’s great that we have the rest of the afternoon and evening to be with our families.MC: My day ends at 9am, so I have the benefit of going to the gym and picking my stepdaughter up from the bus stop around 3pm. I’m also lucky that my husband likes to cook and is a fabulous dad. SR: You just have to keep pushing. I’m a (single) mom of two kids, so our day is filled with homework, sports, and activities. After I leave here, the most important and stressful of my two jobs (as mom) kicks in. It’s not always easy, but I know I’m very lucky. DR: That’s where a lot of great make-up comes in!SR: And caffeine… there’s a lot of caffeine in my life!

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AG: I don’t even pretend to have a full plate compared to Deiah and Stephanie, but I am now fully pre-pared when I do reach that point of my life!

TW: Most of you have reported in other areas (Meredyth – feature reporting & weekend weather an-chor; Stephanie – news & sports), so how did you land in your cur-rent role, or “specialty”?MC: I started out in weather and then moved on to anchoring. I left the field for about two years and entered the public relations industry. I saw an ad for a fill-in traffic reporter, which I had never done before. I got the job and you could say it was one of those “fake it until you make it” situations. They offered me a full-time posi-tion at Channel 10 and now I’m in my seventh year. I get to do four hours of live, unscripted TV in a climate-controlled studio without my hair blowing around and I’m really happy!SR: For me, it was a conscious de-cision. I spent my first ten years as anchor reporter, but as a mom who wanted more kids, I couldn’t keep covering breaking news in the field. I obtained a second degree in meteorology at Mississippi State and switched to full-time weather. I’m a news woman at heart, but this was the best decision for my family.MC: Steph and I approach our jobs from a news background. I con-sider traffic a “news story.” We like to think that what sets us apart is that we go beyond just presenting information; we convey it from a news angle – how do these con-stant developing situations impact your life?AG: This is all I’ve ever done…DR: Same with me. Reporting was my first job out of school. In fact, I missed graduation for my first job.SR: I did too! You never want to jeopardize that first job. Besides, Deiah doesn’t care about sports and is scared of most weather situ-ations, so this is perfect for her!

TW: What is the first thing fans want to know upon meeting you?DR: What time I wake up!AG: Me too!SR: I’m usually told that I look much taller on air.MC: First they ask what the weath-er is going to be… I guess they just remember me standing in front a screen pointing at stuff…AG: Are you really friends? Do you all get along?DR: When we started out and it was just Dan, Wayne (Shattuck, meteorologist), they’d always ask me if we were really friends too, because we got along so well on-air.

TW: In April, ABC Action News was awarded (7) first-place awards, and (12) overall by the Florida As-sociated Press including an award in the coveted “Overall” category. What did that mean to you as a team?DR: It validated the hard work that we do. We drag ourselves in here five days a week at an ungodly hour and it’s nice to be recognized; to know that viewers appreciate what we do. And that’s not some-thing we take for granted.SR: It’s definitely a team effort – a lot of resources, fact checking and trolling around in the dark takes place here every morning, and it’s great to know that others are see-ing it.

TW: Over the years, Tampa has emerged as a big city. What sig-nificant changes have you noticed, and what do you foresee for the future?SR: There is a solid group of peo-ple here who have pushed Tampa to be known in the national spot-light; people who have recruited large-scale events such as politi-cal conventions and Super Bowls. They have worked hard to make it known that Tampa is important to the fabric of the community, and the world.DR: Next year’s National Republic Convention will bring a lot of eye-balls onto Tampa, but it’s also im-

portant that we maintain our small town community feel. Hopefully, that will attract families to come here and build or buy houses to help boost the economy.

TW: You all have great wardrobes! How would you classify your per-sonal style?DR: I’m not sure if I have one… sometimes it’s just whatever fits and looks good!SR: We are encouraged to wear bright colors. I’ll wear black on the bottom, but I don’t even own a black top anymore.

AG: We all own a couple of identi-cal pieces such as this Banana re-public wrap dress, so we have to be careful not to all wear them on the same day!MC: One day Steph and I had the same exact shade of yellow on…DR: And then there was the time Meredith and I had the same sweater on, in different colors at least! I’m waiting for the day that we all come in wearing the same exact thing!MC: We came close one day when we all had red on. I’m just under 5’1”, so I don’t wear anything less than a four inch heel.SR: And I hate heels; sometimes Ashley and I wear flip flops since no one sees our feet!AG: I dwarf them all, so sometimes I’ll even go barefoot!

TW: So obviously, you do all get along really well…AG: You are all my role models in different ways – I mean that!

DR: We are the wind beneath her wings! SR: That sort of scares me…AG: I pluck out the good stuff! Se-riously though, I’ve never been in a situation like this…DR: When I look at her (Ashley), I really do look at her like a little sis-ter. We give her advice even when she doesn’t ask for it!SR: Ashley will call me from Macy’s to tell me about a cute dress she’s looking at, and I’m in my kitchen fighting about the alphabet, think-ing, “there’s no Macy’s in my fu-ture… unless it’s Macys.com!”

DR: …Yes, we do a lot of online shopping!MC: I had this weird mark on my leg and I immediately tweeted Steph about it, so yes, we defi-nitely have a relationship outside of work!

TW: Guilty pleasures?DR & SR: Wine! SR:…And I take responsibility for sending Deiah down that road!AG: Reality TV.MC: Same with me… “Mob Wives,” “Teen Mom,” Project Runway”…AG: We need to get our programs in sync so we can swap stories the next day!SR: Funny how the moms prefer the wine to television!

Catch Deiah, Stephanie, Meredyth, and Ashley every weekday morning start-ing at 5:00am. For more information on WFTS ABC Action News, please log onto their award-winning website at: www.abcactionnews.com.

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LIFE IS MEANT TO BE LIVED –

LIVE ItAbundantly! by Alexanne

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C indy Keehn guides her life by this quote. The significance of it’s meaning became all the more real when she was diagnosed with Chronic Myeloid Leukemia (CML) in the early months of 2006, as this menacing blood cancer

began to threaten her ability to live abundantly.

A 51 year-old Clearwater woman active in her faith and now an advocate of The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, Cindy began to prepare herself for the realities of her CML diagnosis – endless hours at the hospital away from fam-ily and friends, extensive chemotherapy ses-sions and aggressive side effects, and precious time stolen away by this relentless disease. As these truths began to weigh on her, Cindy’s on-cologist introduced her to a “miracle pill” called Gleevec, which had been proven to target and eliminate the defective gene that causes CML

cells. Gleevec also gave Cindy the chance to continue living her life without extended hos-pitalizations and IV chemotherapy:

“I never went through the grueling IV chemo with its awful side effects, so I am humbled by those who did, and especially those who con-tinue to persevere for the Leukemia & Lympho-ma Society cause.” One Gleevec pill a day allowed Cindy to fight her cancer in the comfort of her own home,

and eventually return to work as the treatment continued. Six months later, Cindy was in full remission with 0% Leukemia cells. Although overwhelmingly good news for Cindy, she came to know there were many others who were not as fortunate. As she watched her close friend, Kim, struggle to conquer Acute Lymphoblas-tic Leukemia, she felt she had to do something more. It was these trying life events that began her journey with the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society’s Team In Training sports endurance program.


Team In Training is a major fundraising initiative of the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, raising millions each year as athletes train for marathons and half-marathons, triathlons, 100-mile bike rides and adven-ture hikes. The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society pro-vides professional coach-ing and the camaraderie of a team while the participants raise funds to support cancer research and patient services. As Cindy de-scribes it, “the unique part of the Team in Training program is that they have specially trained coaches who make couch potatoes into marathoners.”

Cindy learned that 75% of funds raised through the Team in Training program go to fund research and patient programs to find a cure. Her unfaltering commitment to the Team In Training endurance program was only further ingrained as she learned that it was a team of Leukemia & Lymphoma So-ciety-funded researchers who helped to dis-cover Gleevec, the drug therapy that saved her life.

Today, Cindy is training for the Inaugural Rock ‘n’ Roll Savannah Half Marathon, her 6th Team In Training event since joining the program. She walks to raise valuable funds

to find a cure for blood cancers, knowing that any day a breakthrough treatment like Gleevec could be found to treat other can-cers. She walks because she has felt the per-sonal effects of blood cancer, and knows she is only one among millions fighting for life. She walks in honor of Kim, who passed away from her cancer two months after Cindy’s first event with Team In Training. Cindy does not take a moment of her abundant life for granted:

“I know I am blessed. Most people with blood cancers never achieve my level of health and activity despite their treatment courses, even those on Gleevec...I am the success story we want all blood cancer victims to have.”

For more information, please visit www.team-intraining.org/sun or call the Suncoast Chapter’s TNT staff at 813-963-6461.

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In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, please take the time to do a self-examination. Taking a few minutes once a month can make a lifetime of difference. Nearly 70% of all breast cancers are found through self-exams and with early detec-tion the 5-year survival rate is 98%. If you find a lump, schedule an appointment with your doctor, but don’t panic—8 out of 10 lumps are not cancerous.

In the ShowerFingers flat, move gently over every part of each breast. Use your right hand to examine the left breast, left hand for the right breast. Check for any lump, hard knot, or thickening. Carefully observe any changes in your breasts.

In the MirrorInspect your breasts with your arms at your sides. Next, raise your arms high overhead. Look for any changes in the contour of each breast, a swelling, a dim-pling of the skin, or changes in the nip-ples. Then rest your palms on your hips and press firmly to flex your chest mus-cles. Left and right breasts will not exactly match—few women’s breasts do.

Lying DownPlace a pillow under your right shoul-der and put your right arm behind your head. With the fingers of your left hand flat, press your right breast gently in small circular motions, moving vertically or in a circular pattern covering the entire breast. Use light, medium, and firm pres-

sure. Squeeze the nipple; check for discharge

and lumps. Repeat these steps for your left breast.

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Ask any mom and she will tell you 24 hours is simply not enough to do the things she needs to accomplish in one day. Add to a busy sched-ule the fact that most moms work. Some take care of aging parents, making the equation even more complicated. Purses must double as diaper bags and do triple duty as overnight and laptop bags. A good structured bag with compartments is as important as quality. Moms need bags with pockets on the outside as well to keep track of their keys, cell phones or other often-used items.

Match the Role with the Right PurseMomAsk any mom and she will tell you 24 hours is simply not enough to do the things she needs to accomplish in one day. Add to a busy sched-ule the fact that most moms work. Some take care of aging parents, making the equation even more complicated. Purses must double as diaper bags and do triple duty as overnight and laptop bags. A good structured bag with compartments is as important as quality. Moms need bags with pockets on the outside as well to keep track of their keys, cell phones or other often-used items.

Business WomanAs a business woman, I know the importance of being organized. With a limited schedule I do not want to waste time looking for important papers, especially in front of a client. My bag has to be large enough to carry my files, laptop or iPad and anything I may need to take notes or keep track of my meetings. Large is not the only criteria; the bag must also be padded to protect my electronics and have a comfortable adjustable strap for business trips. On my list of requirements is that the bag be attractive and not too heavy to carry. I have picked up bags that were heavy even before I filled it with my business tools. StudentYoung people and the not so young who have returned to school need a purse or backpack that fills many roles and must be roomy enough to carry books, electronic equipment, note pads, pens and pencils, calculators and the list goes on. My son had a teacher who graded the students on organization and she performed regular checks on the students’ bags. What an important lesson she taught her students. The more organized the student was, the better they fared in her class and in my opinion later on I

I t is not unusual for women to have hectic schedules and go from daycare to work, and then off to

the grocery store and a dinner date all in the same day. We are busier than our mothers ever were.

We must be prepared for any scenario: Band-Aids for the children, makeup bag to freshen up and cell phones for texting. Having a purse that can perform a variety of functions is a way of simplifying our daily routine. While a glitzy bag is attractive, what really matters to women is functionality. If a bag simply looks good but cannot hold all of our valued possessions, then it is no bargain. No one wants to carry a cute purse plus a tote bag for the items that do not fit, such as baby wipes, reading glasses or hand sanitizer. As moms, business women or students we must rely on our purses to hold everything we need throughout the day.

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life. The proper bag can help you stay organized if it has compartments that are easy to reach. Since students are rough on their bags, durabil-ity is one factor to consider as well as style. Hav-ing a bag that repels water is an added bonus.

TravelerSince I find myself traveling on a regular ba-sis for both business and pleasure, I have tried many types of bags. I currently use a black diaper bag with interior and exterior compart-ments as my travel bag of choice, even though my son is grown. The bag makes finding my passport and reading glasses a snap. There are many styles that may work for you. Before you make a purchase, consider everything that must go in your travel bag: wallet, passport, reading material, light-weight sweater, snack and more. Other bag options are a small duffel bag, tote bag or back pack. Do not stress if your travel bag does not match the rest of your luggage. Have fun but keep function foremost in mind.

DateWhen going on a date, especially if your event is a formal one, you may choose a bag that is styl-ish and more fashion forward than any other bag. This is the only time you do not need to


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A bag is an essential part in a young girl’s life. It expresses how you feel and your personality. Unfortunately you can’t always get a fashion-able purse that is able to carry what a girl needs, like makeup for touch-ups, hairbrush, calendar and so on. Let’s face it; usually it doesn’t fit into your favorite couture bag! So shop in unexpected places and your favorite bag may just be a bargain bag!

— Victoria Mann, Student

Initially the theory was that the smaller and more petite a purse was, the more often I would be forced to clean it out and reorganize. This usually just resulted in an overstretched, worn-out purse that was so jam-packed items would fall out of it constantly. Gradually over the years my purses have gotten larger and larger with more and more pockets and organizing pouches sewn in. Personally, through much trial and error, I have found the purses that work the best are medium-sized to large structured ones that are able to stand up on their own. Two to three sewn-in pockets or additional smaller matching coin purses are perfect for keeping all my various necessities close by and easily accessible. Whether it’s hand sanitizer, important papers, a cell phone, or keys, I always know exactly where to look in the right type of purse.

— Ashley Stroble, Business Woman

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worry about com-partments and the size since you will carry just a few items like a lipstick, pow-der, cell phone and keys. You will also need your license, credit card and a few dollars for tipping the valet. Gold and beaded purses lend themselves beautifully to these occasions and are my favorite. Un-usual vintage bags are what I reach for when I am going out. Whether you select a clutch or a

small bag with a handle is entirely up to you.

FashionFashion means different things to different people. But one thing is for sure, a fashionista who loves a good bag will put an entire out-fit together around her purse. What is of interest to them is that their purses have style, color and stand out. This ac-cessory is their jewelry and the piece that anchors their look. Although function is still key, cost is never an issue.

I disagree with the say-ing “The bigger the bag the more you put in it.” My bag is big because of everything that must go in it, not the other way around. Larger bags need to have compartments to help with organization. Zoëy Bloom, the boutique who pro-vided the beautiful purses and jewelry you see photographed, has an organizer available that comes in many patterns and can easily be transferred from bag to bag. If you are one of those people who like to change purses to match your outfit you no longer have to re-

arrange or organize your bag each day. All you have to do is lift the organizer out of one bag and insert it into your new bag of the day.

“Imagine the amount of stress that this alleviates,” shared Lindsay Nici, actor and busy mom. “No longer digging into your purse searching for that one item you want to put in your other bag. Or that toy your child has to have to play with in case you have to wait anywhere. It’s all there, in your or-ganizer. Who wouldn’t love to have this? If you are like me, you have stuff everywhere and are constant-ly looking for something and can never seem to find it. It is usually my cell phone, as it rings and I’m searching franticly to try and find it before the person decides to give up because it’s taking me too long to find it. This can be a thing of the past.”

Zoëy Bloom is a unique boutique in Tampa that offers a wonderful shopping experience for custom-ers of all ages. This meticulous, well-lit and inviting urban setting will make you feel right at home. Although most their merchandise looks like couture pieces, you get the sense they want you to linger and enjoy yourself, regardless of how much money you have in your wallet. The purses photographed are only a small representation of

the many items they carry. Visit their website to see more.

James Sontag, Owner of Zoëy Bloom said:Zoëy Bloom coined the term ”MALL-ternative shopping” as a way to let our potential customers know that they will find an assort-ment of handbags, jewelry, acces-sories and gifts unlike anything cur-rently found in mall stores. Rather than displaying a huge selection of one designer, Zoëy Bloom creates their own collections utilizing very few items from numerous designers. This type of merchandising allows us to provide our clients with an ed-ited point of view of today’s fashion and style. It allows our customers to see unique merchandise, many from up and coming new designers, and to create and nurture their own per-sonal style. While our handbag and jewelry prices typically top out in the $600 range, it is quite common to find a $36 earring next to a $360 earring or a $40 clutch displayed with a $300 one. The less expensive styles blend with better ones so well because they all reflect the same point of view; they really don’t stand out as looking inexpensive. We are able to supply a beautiful selection of accessories to fit most budgets. Enjoy your quest for the perfect purse and if you cannot decide be-tween one and the other, why not

get both? Some of us collect shoes, others purses!

Ro Martinez, author, model and mod-eling coach, has been in the business for 25 years. Her multimedia exposure includes TV, film, and commercials. She has appeared in catalogs, newspa-pers and on magazine covers. Ro has even appeared on the Internet and on billboards!

Ro holds modeling and acting work-shops focusing on people of all ages, sizes and ethnic groups, and guides them toward successfully entering the exciting and glamorous field of model-ing. Her book, Modeling at Any Age is a step-by-step, comprehensive, easy-to-read guide for modeling and how to flourish in the industry.

For information on becoming a model or actress, visit www.modelingatanyage.net or email Ro at [email protected]

Rather than displaying a huge selection of one designer, Zoëy Bloom creates their own collections utilizingvery few items from numerous designers.

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ave you ever been betrayed by a friend? Has anyone every taken advan-tage of your kindness or your friendship? What about you professional

ladies? Has someone ever taken the love, kindness and knowledge you poured into them and used it for their gain and your detriment? Unfortunately, I can answer yes to all of these questions.

I think as women we are easy prey for this type of betrayal. We share our hearts, our thoughts, and our lives with people because we want the best for them. If we have good information we like to share it. Therefore, sometimes we share things that will give people the impression they can take advantage of our kindness and trust.

I am not writing to discourage you from sharing. I am writing to encourage you to stay you. Don’t allow the bad intentions of other people or the fact a friend may not really be a friend cause you to become jaded. Guard yourself, but don’t stop believing in the best of people. Unfortunately, I believe our bad experiences with other people sometimes cause us to miss out on the blessings of other friendships and relationships. We keep punishing new people in our lives for the sins of others.

Some people in this world are still honorable. Some people in this world still have integrity. Some people in this world still care about others. I am always amazed at how strangers will come together to help folks in a time of need. A neighborhood child whose home has burned down will find themselves the recipient of the love and kindness of complete strangers. A town ravaged by a hurricane or a tornado will find a gathering of strangers from across this great country to help their community rebuild. People are still created to love one another. It’s unnatural not to love and be loved.

Betrayal happens at many different ages, in many different circumstances in our lives. Don’t get angry and ask why, say thank you and see what lesson you learned from the betrayal of that person. Life is too short to hold anger and un-forgiveness in our hearts, We forgive people because it hurts to much to hang on to the hurt. We forgive people because it’s better for us to forgive than to be consumed by the anger and the energy that it takes to hang on to the betrayal.

The holiday season is approaching once again. This is a time when families come together to be thankful. What if we take a few moments to be thankful for the hurts and heartaches that have helped make us more loving and more compassionate people? Every experience can be a positive one if we learn something or grow from it.

God Bless you,

Lori Samples Duncan

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Psalm 22:6Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

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