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Transcript of Success Secrets of the Motivational Superstars
Steven A. Gedeon, PhD, MBA, [email protected]
Success Secrets of theMotivational Superstars
© Dr. Steven A. Gedeon
Success and Happiness come from Harmony
GOALS
ACTIONS
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Goals
© Dr. Steven A. Gedeon
Goals
© Dr. Steven A. Gedeon
Success and Happiness come from Harmony
VALUES & BELIEFS
GOALS
ACTIONS
© Dr. Steven A. Gedeon
Success and Happiness come from Harmony
VALUES & BELIEFS
GOALS
REALITY
ACTIONS
© Dr. Steven A. Gedeon
Great Goals
• How much Success?
• How much Happiness?
Average Goals and Effort
will Produce an Average Life
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Harmony
• What you Do
• What you Say
• What you Think
• What you Feel
VALUES & BELIEFS
GOALS
REALITY
ACTIONS
HARMONY
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Harmony
• Live “Without Wax” (sina cera > sincere)
• Ensuring Non-Contradictions
• To Thine Own Self be True– Aptitudes – Your Goals Conform to Reality
• Become Great at what you are Good at
– Honesty – Your Words Conform to Reality – Integrity – Your Actions Conform to your Words– Character – Your Actions over Time
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Greatness is Being ProactiveHARMONY
Self-EsteemCreative VisualizationTime ManagementResponsibilitySelf-ControlAdaptabilityBenevolence
VALUES & BELIEFS
GOALS
REALITY
ACTIONS
SUCCESS SKILLS
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Reality
• Productivity– You have to Work to Earn a Living
• Aptitudes– Become Great at what you are Good at
• You Always Get Out what you Put In– You Don’t Get Something for Nothing
• You Can’t Have It All Right Away– You Need to Balance Short and Long Term
Goals – there are Time Constraints
REALITY
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Core Beliefs
• Deeply held, typically non-verbal, Core Beliefs have a powerful effect on your self-esteem and behaviors. For example:– “My Life is Important”– “What Other People Think of Me is Very Important”– “I Deserve to be Happy”– “Life is Unfair”– “I’m Stupid, Lazy, Ugly…”– “It’s a Dog-Eat-Dog World”– “Life Sucks and then You Die”
VALUES and BELIEFS
REALITYREALITY
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Values and Beliefs
• What are Your Core Beliefs?– Do You Agree with ALL of Them?– How did they get there?
• Because we Believe them to be True, we will Act as if they are True
• What are Your Primary Values?– Do you Consistently Act in Accordance with
Them?
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Set GoalsGOALS
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Set Goals
• The Cheshire Cat • The Reason so many Fail to Achieve their Goals
is that they Never Set them in the First Place• By Failing to Plan – They Plan to Fail!• The Mind is like the Homing System of a
Torpedo– It will achieve your good or bad expectations– If no target set, it will wander aimlessly and self-
destruct
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The Well Balanced Life
Men
tal
SocialCareer
FamilyPhysical
Educational
Fina
ncia
l Comm
unity
Long-Term GoalsYearly GoalsMonthly GoalsWeekly Goals
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Set Clear Goals
• SMART Goals:– Specific– Measurable– Action-Oriented– Realistic– Timely
• An Unwritten Goal is Merely a Wish!
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Success Skills
1. Reality-Based Self-Esteem2. Creative Visualization3. Time Management4. Responsibility5. Self-Control6. Adaptability7. Benevolence
ACTIONS
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1: Reality Based Self-Esteem
• Unconditional Love and Causeless Value vs Rational Basis of Lasting Self-Esteem
Reality-BasedSelf-Esteem
Event Control Productivity
REALITY
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Earning Self-Esteem
• You MUST Earn Respect of Others
• You MUST Earn Your Own Respect
REALITY
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Your Self-Esteem Must Ultimately Come from Within
• Seeking others’ approval often pressures us into behaving contrary to our deepest values
• When we seek external validation, we lose control over our lives
• Don’t behave according to someone else’s values rather than your own
• Whenever we accept someone else’s prejudice against us, we give them a degree of control over our lives
• You can be happy and successful regardless of other people’s opinions
REALITY
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2: Creative Visualization
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2: Creative Visualization
• You become what you think, say, and believe about yourself (your self image)
• The Mind’s Guardian (Reticular Activating System)– Your info filter – be careful what you give importance
to
• Most negative values and beliefs are stored, through habitual repetition in our right-brains. You can “re-write” these with Self-Talk
VALUES & BELIEFS
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Creative Visualization
• The Power of Visualization, Affirmations and Self-Talk to “Re-Write Your Beliefs”
• Who you see in your imagination will always rule your world
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Self-Talk
• Self-Talk Statements Concerning Each Major Value, Goal or Core Belief– Use Personal Pronouns (“I”, “mine”,”me”)– Present Tense– Short and Concise– Positive Goal Seeking, not Avoiding
Negatives– Non-competitive, don’t Compare to Others– Strive for Improvement, not Perfection
VALUES & BELIEFS
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3: Time Management
• You Cannot Control Everything – Sometimes you Must Adapt, Roll with It
• Think “Event Control”, not “Time Management”
No Control Total ControlSunrise, Death, BossEarthquakes, TidesOther people…
What I Eat, What I WearMy Reaction to Events…
GOALS
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Taking Control
• There are Events we Can NOT Control, but we Believe we can– We Cannot Control what Other People Do!
• There are Events we CAN Control, but Believe we can’t– Interruptions, Time Robbers, Procrastination…
• Being Busy vs. being Productive
• Being “Efficient” vs. being “Effective”
GOALS
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The 4 Quadrants of Time Mgt
I
III
II
IV
Important
NotImportant
Urgent Not Urgent
GOALS
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Planning Properly
• Find a place that is free of distractions• Review the long-range goals – Put Big Rocks in First!• Make sure the number of tasks and time is achievable• Set specific daily goals for tasks• Prioritize your tasks
– List all your tasks – especially non-urgent ones!– Give a Value to Each Item on the List (A important, B, C trivial)– Give a numerical Value to Prioritize (A2, B3…)
• Character is doing what you say you will do• Character is the ability to carry out a worthy decision
after the emotion of making that decision has passed
GOALS
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4: Responsibility
• Take ownership of our failures and weakness
• We become what we do• Character cannot be counterfeited or put
on and cast off like a garment• Our rewards depend on the quality and
amount of work we put into it• Delay immediate gratification for long-term
goals
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5: Self Control
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The 7 C’s of Self-Control
• We Control the Clock• We Control our Concepts• We Control our Contacts• We Control our Communication• We Control our Commitments• We Control our Causes• We Control our Concerns
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6: Adaptability
• These are “The Good Old Days”
• Problems are Normal in any Era
• Successful people develop Mental Toughness, Strength of Character and Adaptability
• Stress is a Normal Part of Life
• Many Types of Stress – It’s how you Take it that Counts
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7: Benevolence
• The World is your Oyster (What Pearl can you find today?)
• The Explorer’s Premise– Discover New Goals and
Change Goals
• The Abundance Mentality • Think Win-Win• Be Nice to People!
– Take Time for Empathetic Listening
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Greatness is Being ProactiveHARMONY
Self-EsteemCreative VisualizationTime ManagementResponsibilitySelf-ControlAdaptabilityBenevolence
VALUES & BELIEFS
GOALS
REALITY
ACTIONS
SUCCESS SKILLS
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Personal Greatness
• Greatness is Ultimately about being Proactive– Integrated Values, Beliefs, Goals and Actions
• Balanced Living
• Greatness is a Journey, Not a Destination
• You Always Get Out what You Put In – Sow Seeds of Greatness!