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4 Investing in early childhood Active childrenAsk your pediatricianYour child at playGood dental habits start earlyI love when we talk My child says the most amazing things Drop-in Activity calendarsEarly Years ResourcesDelight in your child Happy toddlers at the table Triple P provides simple strategiesDads do make a differenceLentil soup with beef and barley

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The Greater Nanaimo and Ladysmith Early Years Partnerships are pleased to present the ninth edition of the Greater Nanaimo Ladysmith Family.

The magazine is a collaborative effort of bothcommunities who have come together to create anawareness of the importance of the early years. It is with great appreciation that the Partnerships acknowledge the funding and support provided by Success by Six, Children First and the NanaimoBulletin/Black Press.

A total of 40,000 copies of the Greater Nanaimo& Ladysmith family magazine will be distributedin Ladysmith and Nanaimo through the LadysmithChronicle and Nanaimo News Bulletin.

Copies are also available at health units, libraries, participating businesses and family agencies.

The views expressed by the advertisers do notnecessarily represent the opinions of the editorial committee of this magazine.


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BY SHELLEY ANDERSONJust over four years ago a group of people

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As we go to print for our 9th edition of the Nanaimo/Ladysmith Family magazine we continue our commitment to support parentsand communities in creating healthy, nurtur-ing environments for our youngest children, so that by the age of 6 they are physically,socially and emotionally ready to succeed in school.

During the past four years the Early Child-hood Development Initiatives Success by 6and Children First along with community partners, Greater Nanaimo Early Years Part-nership, Ladysmith Early Years Partnership School District 68, Vancouver Island Health Authority, Vancouver Island Regional Library and The Ministry of Children and Family Development as well as service providers tonumerous to mention have collaborated toeducate the community and specifically busi-

ness on the importance of the Early Years. The message?... 90% of the brain developsby age 5, and that the right experience at the right time is crucial to a child’s successfuldevelopment. Research indicates that chil-dren’s early experiences have far reaching and life-long effects on the development of their brains and behaviours.

Today as I write this message the impor-tance of the Early Years is once again beinghighlighted on a Province wide level through-out the media. The powerhouse partnershipof The Vancouver Board of Trade and the Justice Institute of British Columbia recently hosted a press conference that highlights alandmark report making economic case forearly childhood investment: Pay now or pay more later.

The report released in early Septemberunderscores what our community has been saying for years, Investing in early childhooddevelopment, particularly before the age of five, will save governments and society mil-lions of dollars. In the report, Kids ‘N Crime:Economic Aspects of the Development andPrevention of Criminality among Children and Youth, the business organization takes aneconomic approach to the benefits of posi-tive early childhood intervention, resulting in

enhanced productivity, GDP growth, reducedcrime and a drastically decreased financial burden on health, justice and social programs needed throughout adult life.

As you flip through the pages of the Fam-ily magazine it is our hope that you will find activities, connections and group seminars and articles that resonate with you as the par-ent or caregiver of a young child. Please email - we welcome your feedback. Healthy chil-dren are the foundation for a healthy commu-nity. Investing in childhood beginnings can change our community forever.

Success By 6Shelley Anderson, Central Island Early Years

Coordinator – Ladysmith, Nanaimo, Parksville,Oceanside, Port Alberni, West Coast/Ucluelet

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School District 68Elizabeth Pennell, School District 68 Early

Years Coordinator [email protected]

Children FirstAmber Bruner, facilitator, Ladysmith and

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Gone are the days when children were sent out the door to play in the early morning and told to make sure they were home before it got dark. Children are seldom seen playing on the streetsanymore and when they are, people are suspi-cious that they are up to no good.

The 2010 Active Healthy Kids Canada reportcard paints a grim picture of the lifestyle led by many children in our communities. Less thanhalf the Canadian children under five are get-ting regular physical activity as part of a daily routine. Only 12% of Canadian children andyouth are meeting Canada’s Physical Activity Guidelines. This gives us an “F” grade in physi-cal activity.

Canada’s Physical Activity Guidelines recom-mend that children age one to five get 2 hours of physical activity each day. Children and youth need 90 minutes per day and adults should aimfor 30 to 60 minutes of physical activity each day. Research shows that lifestyle patterns beforethe age of five can predict obesity and level of health in later childhood and through the adultyears.

Children today are spending more time infront of the television or computer screen than ever before. Kids spent roughly 6 hours each

weekday on screen time and 7 hours on theweekend days. This is equivalent to an adult’swork week spent sitting still with no physical activity. According to the Active Healthy Kids Canada report card, we get an “F” grade on screen time too.

Too much screen time is associated with nega-tive psychological effects like lower academicachievement, less sleep, more aggressive behav-

ior in both words and action and engaging inhigh risk behavior at a younger age.

For healthy development, it is recommendedthat children under age two should have no exposure to computer or television screens. Exposing infants and toddlers to high levels of colour, movement and sound can affect healthand development. For now, the recommenda-tion is to avoid all screen time until age two andafter two, parents need to select less than one to two hours of quality TV or video exposure per day for all children.

If the television and computer are only inuse for one or two hours of the day, this freesup most of the day for outdoor play. Childrenneed to spend time in the yard or playgroundin unstructured activity every day. For childrenunder five, playing freely with other children iscritical for healthy development. This kind of play builds social skills, imagination and self-esteem. Active chores around the house also contribute to skill building and physical activity. Teach children to vacuum, rake leaves, carry fire-wood, help in the garden and use their bodies inactivities that promote physical health.

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I am worried that my child is over-weight. What can I do?

Dr. Wilma Arruda says:Coronary heart disease is the leading cause

of death in Canada. Evidence links certainrisk factors in children with heart disease. It is important to achieve a healthy active lifestyle inchildhood.

Over the past 20 years the number of chil-dren that are overweight has increased from5-6% to an astonishing 30-40%. At this rate of increase it is estimated that obesity will reachepidemic proportions within the next 10 years. This trend is of particular concern because obesity in childhood and adolescence has beenassociated with increased risks of high bloodpressure, type II diabetes, high blood choles-terol and early atherosclerosis (narrowing of the arteries) as well as increased risk of adult obesity.

This rapid rate of increase in the number of overweight and obese children is associatedwith:

Eating too much - easy availability of non-nutritious foods (junk food);

Eating the wrong foods – increased intake of high fat/calorie foods along with adecrease in fruit and vegetable intake;

Sedentary lifestyle - not getting enoughexercise.

What can you do?◆ Be a model for healthy eating and physical

activity for your child.◆ Cook healthy meals at home using Cana-

da’s Food Guide as a guide.◆ Encourage sit down meals together as a

family without distractions such as TV.◆ Prepare one meal for ALL family members

and resist making a separate meal for someone

who “doesn’t like that”.◆ Reduce the amount of saturated fat and

cholesterol in the diet.◆ Increase the amount of vegetables and

fruit in the diet – a healthy plate of food is half salad/vegetables, one quarter starch (potatoes, rice, etc), and one quarter protein (meat/poul-try/fish/soy).

◆ Limit portions of food and second help-ings. Provide portions that are appropriate for the age of the child.

◆ Limit eating out, especially fast food.◆ Eat when hungry – avoid snacks before

mealtimes.◆ Avoid high calorie snacks as treats or

rewards.◆ Breast feed infants. ◆ Play with your kids;◆ Walk or bike instead of drive;◆ Increase the number of family outings that

involve walking, hiking, cycling, swimming, or other recreational activities;

◆ Limit screen time (TV watching, playing video games and computer use). Very youngchildren should spend less than 1 hour/day on these activities.

By Dr. Wilma Arruda, Community Pediatri-cian, Nanaimo.

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Watch your little one at play. Sure she’s hav-ing fun, but take a closer look and you’ll findthere’s more to this picture than meets the eye.

Through play, your child develops the foundations she’ll need to succeed in life,from problem solving and social skills tobasic literacy, math and science. Playing withblocks is how she learns about shapes andmeasurements. Playing with other childrenis an important part of social and emotional development and learning to negotiate and toshare. Playing in a sand table, or sand at thebeach, she will learn about math and balance and structure.

Problem solving skills are necessary for socialand academic success, and children developmost of their early problem solving abilities through play.

Toys like jack-in the box help him learnabout cause-and effect relationships. More open ended objects like empty boxes, bowls,and stacking cups provide opportunities forhim to explore size and volume and to manipu-late objects in different ways. Children at play make predictions, such as whether or not one object will fit inside another, then they test those predictions as they learn to make sense of

the world.Pretend play also helps develop important

reading skills. When your child pretends that around block is a bottle and he is going to drink from it, that’s a symbol of something, and once he understands symbols, then he can start tounderstand that letters stand for a word and that a printed word stands for something he understands.

Give your child rich and varied experi-ences with verbal language through talking,

singing ,and reading together. Don’t forget that books can be wonderful play objects, cultivat-ing a love of reading and literacy awareness from infancy. Read to your children daily, butgive them books to play with too. Childrenlearn about books long before they can read them. Encourage your child to read to her dolls or stuffed animals.

Unstructured play is also very valuable. Itis really where your child learns to explore, toimagine, and to get along with other children. When it comes to play, let your child take thelead. You always want to supervise your youngchild, but you also really want to let her create her own games. Give her a lot of options, then allow her to make her own choices. When youjoin in your child’s play, let her take the lead.

Children develop healthy self-esteem whenparents respect their imaginary play and allow them to be in charge for a change. You’ll gainvaluable insight into how he thinks, how he feels, and what interests him. And by enteringhis world on his terms, you’ll nurture a strong parent-child bond that will last a lifetime.

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Good dental health is an important part of a child’s overall health. Research shows us thatdental decay is a preventable disease, yet tooth decay for young children is the number one reason for hospital day surgery in our province. As parents and caregivers we have a responsi-bility, to our children, to ensure that they have good dental health. Taking care of your child’steeth is not always an easy task. It can be very rewarding if you succeed in your children never having to experience dental decay. What are some of the things we can do to prevent early decay?

Care for yourself! Dental decay is caused by bacteria. Children are not born with a highlevel of decay causing bacteria in their mouths. If, as parents, our own mouths are not healthy we may be spreading the cavity-causing bac-teria to our children by something as simple as kissing our child good night on the lips.Bacteria can also be spread by licking a soother to clean it, sharing toothbrushes or tasting orchewing our children’s food.

Begin cleaning as soon as the first tooth erupts. Clean teeth twice daily with a small,soft toothbrush and a tiny smear of fluoridetoothpaste. Graduate to a pea-sized drop of toothpaste around age 3. Parents should clean

their child’s teeth until at least age six. Chil-dren are able to brush themselves, with parent supervision, when they can tie their shoe laces and write (not print) their name.

Hold baby while feeding. If bottle feeding,

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often as breast milk can also cause decay.Some babies suck on the bottle/sip cup to

soothe themselves. There are other ways to pro-vide comfort to a young child. These including cuddling or rocking the baby, rubbing their back while holding them, singing or reading a story

Start giving baby sips from a cup around six months. Children should be drinking well from a cup by 12 months of age. Sippy cups should only contain water or milk. Frequent use of juice, even if diluted, can increase the risk of dental decay.

Lift the Lip! Check teeth monthly for early signs of tooth decay, such as whitish lines or brown areas along the gum line. Check behindthe front teeth where tooth decay often starts invery young children.

Visit the Dentist by age one. Tooth decay can occur shortly after baby’s teeth first appear.The dentist will check the teeth, review feedingand comforting habits and give tips on how to brush your child’s teeth.

For more information on healthy dental habits for young children please contact your community Dental Hygienist at 250-739-5845– local 57562

Thank you so much to the families and friends who helped us create this DVD.

Thank you to our supporters and funders whose generosity took the DVD from idea to reality.

Thank you to Leah Tremain whose cre-ativity and professional eye made the DVDsomething beautiful as well as useful.

The idea for a DVD showing families talking with young children was born in aconversation in the spring of 2008. UsingLeah Tremain’s previous two DVDs as amodel, a small group of local people (LeahTremain, Elizabeth Pennell, Sandy Weeks, Barbara Pollard, and Lynne Patrick) shaped the original idea into its present format.

The DVD follows two key themes: the importance of having conversations withyoung children and the value of story, par-ticularly oral story, in influencing children’s language development. The hope wasthat through the DVD, families would be

encouraged to engage with their childrenin meaningful conversations, would realizethe wisdom of building a child’s vocabulary,and would understand the power as well asthe delight within the simple act of story telling. An additional key intention was to honor the languages and oral story telling tradition within First Nations and other cultures.

We hope that families will see themselvesin this DVD.

We hope that they will glimpse the power-ful impact that everyday conversations andstory can have on the development of their child’s communication skills. We hope they will see that strong communication skillsbegin at birth and go beyond talking to lit-eracy, learning and leadership.

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250-756-9777radio to listen to the weather report for the day. We were planning a pic-nic. He came back saying it was going to snow for heaven’s sake! Snow in August!? When I questioned him about what exactly the weathermansaid, he replied: “Well he said: ‘isolated showers’ and that means snow.”.

My son was 4 years old then. I thought he was very clever. Althoughintelligent, my son grew up to have a significant learning disability. When he was four, I knew nothing about how to help him learn. I knew nothing about how language skills in young children affect their learning, their thinking, their memory, their social skills, their play and even their success in school. I wish I had known more, so that I could have helpedhim sooner.

Here is what I know now:◆ Even before they can talk, babies are listening and communicating.

They learn how to use their voice and body to gain attention. They are encouraged when adults respond quickly and warmly to their efforts.

◆ Children who have adults that talk to them about interesting things have more words and sentences than children that don’t engage in fre-quent talking with adults.

◆ Children who have toys that are interesting and age appropriate learn how to focus and are stimulated to be curious, an important partof learning. However, too many toys can be confusing. Play is importantfor learning.

◆ Children who have interesting books to share with adults learn more words. Talking about the pictures or reading the story over and overbuilds word knowledge. Allowing your child to participate in the story is even more effective.

◆ Children have more ideas, experiences and topics to talk about whengrownups take them on outings and do things with them.

◆ Children who are allowed to plan and help carry out specific activi-ties have more opportunity to learn the language that goes with organiz-ing tasks and objects.

◆ Parents have a huge impact on children’s ability to talk and listen. Talking and listening skills are learned from important adult models andfrom play with other children. Young children learn language through many conversations not through videos or television.

◆ Children who have challenging behaviours may be telling us that they don’t know how to use language to get what they need.

◆ You can play listening games that are fun and that teach children thejoy of listening!

◆ Rhyming shows that a young child is beginning to listen to the sounds within words not only the meaning of words. Rhyming books,nonsense rhymes, nursery rhymes, songs and finger plays are ways to teach children the fun of rhyming. Rhyming is one of the earliest steps towards reading and spelling.

Children are truly word wizards as they learn to communicate. Makesure your little word wizard is able to get his message across to oth-ers effectively. If you are uneasy about your child’s communicationskills, call your local Health Unit to speak with a Speech Pathologist. InNanaimo/Ladysmith call: 740-6827

Lynne Patrick MSLP, S-LP(C), Speech Language Pathologist, Nanaimo Health Unit

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Family Resource Program9:30 am – 12:00 noon (drop in)

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LaFF’s Family Frolics Drop-in Gym Time(children walking - 6 yrs)

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Triple P Positive Parenting Program*6:30 pm - 8:30 pm

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Ladysmith Family and Friends (LaFF) Family Resource Program

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Born Healthy Pre-natal Program10:30 am - 1:30 pm

Ladysmith Resources Centre Family House250-245-3079

Storytime (Birth - 17 mos.) Drop-In11:15 am - 11:45 am

Ladysmith Library 250-245-2322Preschool Storytime (3 - 5 yrs)*

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Parent Child Mother Goose(newborn to 15 mos)

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Ladysmith Dads’ Group(Drop-in breakfast for Dads & their children)

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8:45 am – 11:45 amFairview Community School

250-740-3516McGirr Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

8:45 am – 11:45 amMcGirr Elementary School

250-740-3516Rutherford Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

8:45 am – 11:45 amRutherford Elementary School

250-740-3516Georgia Ave. Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

9:00 am – 12 noonGeorgia Ave. Community School

250-740-3516Cooking With the Good Food Box*

(One Monday per month)9:30 am – 11:30 am

Princess Royal Family Centre250-753-7470

Healthy Fair and Immunization Clinic(fourth Friday of every month starting

October 2010)9:30 am – 2:30 pm

Hope House Gabriola Island250-247-8730

Family Place (Parent & Tot Drop-in)9:30 am – 11:30 am

Lantzville Boys & Girls Club250-390-4001

Woodbank Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)10:00 am - 1:00 pm

Woodbank Primary School250-740-3516

Bayview Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)9:00 am - 12:00 noon

Bayview Elementary School250-740-3516

Healthy Beginnings (Pre-natal - 12 mo.)10:00 am - 11:30 am

Princess Royal Family Centre250-739-5845

Creating Healthy Families11:00 am - 1:00 pm

Tillicum Lelum Health Centre250-753-6578

Quarterway Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)12:30 pm – 3:30 pm

Quarterway Elementary School250-740-3516

Bellies to Babies and Beyond*(Pregnant women & parents of infants)

10:00 am - 12:30 pmPrincess Royal Family Centre

(childminding available)250-740-3516

Prenatal Yoga Drop-in6:30 - 7:45 pm

Nanaimo mother & Baby Society250-754-5090

Fairview Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 am – 11:45 am

Fairview Community School250-740-3516

McGirr Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 am – 11:45 am

McGirr Elementary School250-740-3516

Rutherford Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 am - 11:45 am

Rutherford Elementary School250-740-3516

Georgia Ave. Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Georgia Ave. Community School250-740-3516

Drop-in Play Group (birth - 5 yrs)9:30 am - 10:30 am

Woodgrove Centre (near food court)250-756-2022

Woodbank Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)10:00 am – 1:00 pm




Healthy Beginnings (6 - 12 mos)10:00 am - 11:30 am

Nanaimo Health Centre250-755-3342

Child Development Centre Community Playgroup (birth - 4 yrs)

10:00 am - 11:30 amChase River Boys and Girls Club

250-753-0251 ext. 259Parent Child Mother Goose

10:15 am - 11:45 amHope House Gabriola Island

250-247-8730Building Better Babies Pre-natal Class

and Drop-in10:30 am - 12:00 noon


Babytime (birth - 17 mo)*11:15 am - 11:45 amHarbourfront Library

250-753-1154Quarterway Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

12:30 pm - 3:30 pmQuarterway Elementary School

250-740-3516Healthy Beginnings (Pre-natal - 6 mo.)

1:30 pm - 3:00 pmNanaimo Health Centre

250-755-3342Postnatal Yoga

4:00 pm - 5:00 pmNanaimo Mother & Baby Society

250-754-5090Prenatal Yoga

5:00 pm - 6:00 pmNanaimo Mother & Baby Society

250-754-5090Evening Familytime*

6:30 pm - 7:00 pmWellington Library

250-758-5544





Rutherford Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 am - 11:45 am


Georgia Ave. Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)9:00 am – 12:00 pm




Bayview Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)9:00 am – 12 noon


Mom and Baby Drop-in10:30 am - 12:30 pm

Nanaimo Mother & Baby Society250-754-5090

Kinder-gym1:00 - 2:30 pm

Cedar Heritage Centre1644 McMillan Rd.

250-722-2100Parent Child Mother Goose

(12 - 24 mos)*9:30 - 10:30 am

Nanaimo Aquatic Centre250-756-5200

Family Place (Parent & Tot Drop-in)9:30 am – 11:30 am

Lantzville Boys and Girls Club250-390-4001

Parent Child Mother Goose (6-12 mos)*10 - 11:00 am

Chase River Country Grocer(Community Room)

250-756-5200Rug Huggers (Parent & Tot Drop-in)

10:00 am – 11:45 amHope House Gabriola Island

250-247-8730La Leche League Meeting

(Breastfeeding support)10:00 am – 12:00 noon every 2nd Wed.

Call for location250-754-5853 (Bridget)

Moms, Dads & Babies Drop-in10:30 am – 12:00 noon


Parent Child Mother Goose(6 - 12 mos)*

11:00 am – 12:00 noonNanaimo Aquatic Centre

250-756-5200Pre-natal Lunch Bunch

12:30 pm – 2:00 pmPrincess Royal Family Centre

(Childminding Available)250-739-5845

Quarterway Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)12:30 pm – 3:30 pm

Quarterway Elementary School250-740-3516

Parent Support Circles7:00 pm – 9:00 pm

Bowen Park Complex1-877-468-9658

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* Prenatal Classes. Free classes areoffered at theNanaimo HealthCentre (VIHA)throughout the year. Please call 250-755-3308 for informationand to register.

* Please also check with Nanaimo Parks, Recreation& Culturefor additionalrecreationalprograms forparents andpreschoolers.250-756-5200

Fairview Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 – 11:45 am


McGirr Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 – 11:45 am


Rutherford Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 – 11:45 am


Georgia Ave. Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)9 am – 12 noon






Healthy Beginnings (Pre-natal - 6 mo)10:00 am - 11:30 am

Nanaimo Health Centre250-755-3342

Storytime* (3 - 5 years)10:15 am - 10:45 amHarbourfront Library

250-753-1154Building Better Babies for Pregnant and

New Moms (babies aged birth - 6 mos)10:30 am - 12:00 noon


Babytime* (0 - 17 mo)11:15 am - 11:45 am

Wellington Library250-758-5544

Cooking With the Good Food Box(One Thursday per month)

12:00 pm - 2 pmNanaimo Food Share Centre

250-753-7470Quarterway Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

12:30 - 3:30 PMQuarterway Elementary School

250-740-3516Connections: Young Parents

Support Group1:00 pm - 2:30 pm

Princess Royal Family Centre(Childminding starts at 12:45 pm)

250-739-5845Healthy Beginnings (6 - 12 mos)

1:30 pm - 3:00 pmNanaimo Health Centre

250-755-3342Parent Child Mother Goose (6 - 24 mos)*

3:00 pm - 4:00 pmLittle Ferns Early Learning Centre

250-756-5200Dads Make a Difference

6:00 pm - 9:00 pmPrincess Royal Family Centre

250-716-1551





Rutherford Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)8:45 am – 11:45 am


Georgia Ave. Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)9 am – 12 pm


Building Better Babies Home Visits and Drop-in

9:00 am - 5:00 pmTillicum Lelum Health Centre

250-753-6578Central Vancouver Island Multicultural

Society Woman’s Group9:30 am – 12:00 pmMulticultural Society

250-753-6911Parent Child Mother Goose (12 - 24 mos)*

10:15 am – 11:15 amOliver Woods Community Centre

250-756-5200Family Place (Parent & Tot Drop-in)

9:30 am – 11:30 amLantzville Boys and Girls Club

250-390-4001Woodbank Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

10:00 am - 1:00 pmWoodbank Primary School

250-740-3516Bayview Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

9:00 am - 12:00 noonBayview Elementary School

250-740-3516Child Development Centre -

Time Together Parent and Tot Drop-in10:00 am – 11:30 am

Brechin United Church250-753-0251 ext. 248

Storytime (3 - 5 yrs)*10:15 am - 10:45 am

Oliver Woods Community Centre250-756-5200

Parent Child Mother Goose (6 - 12 mos)*11:30 am - 12:30 pm

Oliver Woods Community Centre250-756-5200

Cooking Out of the Box(One Friday per month)

11:00 am - 1:00 pmNanaimo Women’s Centre

250-753-0633 Quarterway Strong Start (birth - 5 yrs)

12:30 pm – 3:30 pmQuarterway Elementary School

250-740-3516Toddlertime (18 - 36 mo)*

1:15 pm – 1:45 pmWellington Library

250-758-5544

Toddlertime (18 - 35 mos)10:15 - 10:45 am

Harbourfront Library250-753-1154

Morning Familytime10:30 - 11:00 am

Wellington Library250-758-5544

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Birthright 1.800.550.4900Crisis Pregnancy Centre of Nanaimo 250.716.1633Hope House – (Gabriola Island) 250.247.8730Ladysmith Resources Centre Association 250-245-3079Ladysmith Community Health Centre 250.739-5778Maternal Health Program - Intertribal Health Services 250-753-3990Nanaimo Mother and Baby Centre 250-754-5090Nanaimo Health Centre 250-755-3342Nanaimo/Ladysmith Nursing Intake Line 250.755.3388Nanoose First Nations Headstart Program 250-390-0003Options for Sexual Health 250-753-9511Princess Royal Family Centre 250-739.5845Snuneymuxw First Nations Health Centre 250-740-2337Chemainus First Nation Health Centre 250-245-8551Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-6578

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Hope House – (Gabriola Island) 250-247-8730Ladysmith Community Health Centre - Switchboard 250- 739-5777Nanaimo Health Centre 250-755-3342La Leche League Breastfeeding Support 250–7545853Nanaimo Mother and Baby Centre 250- 754-5090Princess Royal Family Centre 250.739.5845Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-6578

Food and Nutrition

Good Food Box – Ladysmith 250-245-3079Dial-A-Dietitian 1-800-667-3438Ladysmith Food Bank 250-245-3079Loaves and Fishes Community Food Bank 250-754-8347Meals on Wheels 250- 753-1300 or 250- 245-2307Nanaimo Community Kitchens Society 250-753-7470Nanaimo Community Gardens Society 250-816-4769Nutritionist – Princess Royal Family Centre 250-739–5845Nanaimo Food Share Society 250-753-9393Salvation Army Meal Program / Community Services 250-754-2621Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-65787-10 Club – The Family Soup Kitchen 250- 714-0917

Health

BC Nurse Helpline 811BC Poison Control 1-800-567-8911Child and Youth Mental Health 250-741-3600Ladysmith Community Health Centre 250-739-5778Nanaimo Health Centre 250-755-3342Nanaimo Regional General Hospital 250-754-2141Nanoose First Nation Head Start Program 250-390-0003Princess Royal Family Centre 250.739.5845Snuneymuxw First Nations Health Centre 250-740-2337Chemainus First Nation Health Centre 250-245-8551Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-6578

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Early Years Program, School District #68/Strong Start Centres 250- 740-3516• Bayview Strong Start• Georgia Avenue Strong Start• Fairview Strong Start• Quarterway Strong Start• Ladysmith Primary Strong Start• McGirr Strong Start• Rutherford Strong Start• Woodbank Strong StartLadysmith Resources Centre Association 250-245-3079Literacy Nanaimo 250-754-8988Parent and Child Mother Goose Programs• Nanaimo 250- 756–2022 ext. 32• Gabriola 250-247-8730Speech and Language Pathology/Nanaimo Health Centre 250-740-6827Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-6578Vancouver Island Regional Libraries:• Gabriola Island Library 250-247-7878• Ladysmith Library 250-245-2322• Nanaimo Harbourfront Library 250-753-1154• Nanaimo Wellington Library 250-758-5544

Child Care

Boys and Girls Club of Central Vancouver Island• Chase River 250-753-2464• Forest Park 250-751-8937• Ladysmith 250-245-8921• Lantzville 250-390-4001• 5th St. 250-754-3215Child Care Subsidy Program 1-888-338-6622Community Care Facility Licensing 250-739-5800Pacifi cCARE Child Care Resource and Referral 250-756-2022Supported Child Development –Nanaimo (Child Development Centre) 250-753-0251Supported Child Development – Ladysmith 250-245-3466Vancouver Island University Early Childhood Educationand Care 250-740-6248

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Autism Society of BC 250-714-0801Big Brothers and Big Sisters 250-756-2447Central Vancouver Island Multicultural Society 250-753-6911Foster Parent Support Services Society 250-390-9686Hope House – Gabriola Island 250-247-8730Kwumut Lelum Child and Family Services 250-246-3336LAFF (Ladysmith Association of Family and Friends) 250-210-0870Ladysmith Resources Centre Association 250-245-3079Ministry of Children and Family Development 250-741-5444Nanaimo and Area Resource Services for Families 250-754-2773Nanaimo Child Development Centre 250-753-0251Nanaimo Family Justice Access Centre 250-741-5447Nanaimo Family Life Association 250-754-3331Nanaimo Family Resource Programs 250-753-2177Nanaimo Men’s Resource Centre 250-716-1551Nanaimo Women’s Centre 250-753-0633Nanaimo Youth Services 250-754-1989Parent Support Services of BC 1-877–468–9658People for a Healthy Community (Gabriola) 250-247-7311SOAR Mentoring Program for women– Intertribal Health Authority 250-753-3990Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-6578

Recreation

Beban Park Recreation Centre 250-756-5200Bowen Park Complex 250-756-5200Ladysmith Community Centre 250-245-6424Nanaimo Aquatic Centre 250-756-5200Nanaimo Ice Centre 250-756-5200

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Autism Society of B.C. 250-714-0801BC Safe School Centre 1-888-224-7233Crisis Centre 250-754-4447Haven Society and Transition House 250-754-0764Help Line for Children 250-310-1234Kids Help Phone 1-800-668-6868Nanaimo Child Development Centre 250-753-0251Nanaimo Community Hospice Society 250-758-8857Rainbows Children’s Grief and Loss Support Group- Nanaimo 250-751-7888Tillicum Lelum Health Centre 250-753-6578

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Greater Nanaimo Early Years Partnership 250-756-2022Ladysmith Early Years Partnership 250-245-8183Success By Six® Initiative 250-616-5820


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For more information about our programs, please contact the ECD Team at our Health Centre:

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LDad’s and Babes Group and much more!

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Phone for your FREE package 250-756-9794

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“If you can give your son or daughter only one gift, let it be enthusiasm.” (Bruce Barton)

What are the things that delight you about your children? It may seem like a simple question, but it is very important, as childrenneed the adults in their lives totake delight in their existence. I first heard this idea – about thelink between delight and theattachment between parents andchildren – from Vancouver psy-chologist, Gordon Neufeld. In his book, Hold on to Your Kids,Neufeld notes that researchershave placed “emotional warmth,enjoyment and delight at the topof the list as effective activators of attachment. If we have a twinkle in our eye and some warmth in ourvoice, we invite connection thatmost children will not turn down. When we give children signs that they matter to us, most children will want to hold on to the knowl-edge that they are special to us

and are appreciated in our life.” (p. 222). As a parent it is reassuringand encouraging to know that by showing our children that they bring us joy, we are doing one of the most important things we can do as parents.

Where it gets hard sometimes,is in sustaining those feelings of delight and enthusiasm through the harder days we all face asparents. There are days (andweeks) when it is really hard to

get in touch with those feelings.We all have times where we feel tired, frustrated and discouraged.However, if you believe that it isimportant to take delight in your children, it becomes okay to makedifferent choices about the priori-ties in your life. Maybe it is moreimportant to spend time havingfun with your family than vacu-uming the living room. Perhaps it is worth it to leave the lawn for another day if you get to spend theday exploring the beach with yourseven year old. My hope is that my children will remember those moments and won’t care aboutthe dust and clutter on the coffee tables.

Another option is to find waysto make the chores we need to doa fun family event. My husbandis great at getting the kids outin the garden and we all delight in turning the compost to find worms – we spent hours doing that this summer and I loved the conversations we had about worm

poop, rot, and dirt. (Composting is a miracle – take all that kitchen waste and make soil!) It is also really neat that the kids are way less squeamish than I ever wasabout bugs. It is easy to forget thatchildren love to learn, contributeand be included – and as parents,seeing this can be another sourceof delight.

Finally, remembering the importance of delight makes it okay to be honest with yourself about the things that you justdon’t enjoy. Sometimes I think we force ourselves to do things our kids like “for their sake”. Andthat is fine. But it is also okay tolet your children know that it is not something you enjoy and try to find something that you can allbe enthusiastic about. Find things about your kids that bring you joy and let them see it in your eyes,because each child needs someonewho thinks they are absolutely wonderful.

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The most common laments that I hear from parents almost daily is,” I can’t get my child to eat.” Other ones include “my child is a picky orfussy eater” and “how do I get food into my child.”

The Golden Rule for feeding Children is as follows:◆ The Parents Decide: What is offered to eat and when it is offered.◆ The Child Decides: Whether to eat and how much to eat.

As long as both of you are responsible for your own jobs, there will beharmony at the table.

The Child’s ResponsibilityParents need to put nutritious foods in front of their child at reason-

able time intervals. They are not allowed to say how much the child will eat or whether that child eats at all. After the nutritious food is put on the table in a small reasonable quantity, parents should step asidebecause their work is done.

As parents, we want to nurture our children. We want the food on theplate to be in the child, and we will go to any length to accomplish that task. Unfortunately, some of our tactics are not nurturing or kind.

How do we know how hungry that child is? How do we know how much they need to eat? We are their parents, but only the child knows whether or not they are hungry and how much food it will take to rem-edy the problem.

Rewarding children who eat well or who finish their plate teaches themthat they are only good if they ignore their natural hunger cues. In time, they will not be able to tell whether they are hungry or not and will only eat to please themselves or others. This can lead to obesity or abnormaleating practices.

Telling a child who doesn’t finish or eat well that they will be punishedmakes mealtime an unhappy time. They do not feel safe at the table because if they can not finish what is put in front of them they will be in trouble. For these children, food becomes something to fear or dislike. Again they have an unhealthy relationship with their food.

Parents spend too much time worrying about things that are the child’sresponsibility. Let the child decide what to eat and whether to eat at all. Often, the most content eaters are the children from large families. Itell parents that if they had six children, a child’s eating would not be anissue because they would not have time to notice what the child was eat-ing. After the food is served, pretend that you do not care whether they eat or not and focus on something other than food.

The Parent’s ResponsibilitySince the parent cannot interfere with the child’s responsibility, the

reverse is also true. It is the parent who decides what is served and when it is served. Many families let the child take over this role and chaosreigns at the dinner table. I hear from parents, “my child only eats maca-roni and wieners”. When I ask if they are given only those two foods, theparents reply that at least they are eating something. Actually, the childmight as well be eating nothing at all because a steady diet of macaroni and wieners is keeping the child full but certainly not meeting theirnutritional needs.

Catering to a child is the first step to creating a monster at the table. As the parent, your job is to provide healthy nutritious food. It is not thechild’s responsibility to decide what that food will be. When you cater


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to the desires of your child, they will see how far they can go in getting you to prepare what they want. Every day they will eat fewer foodsjust to see if you can come up with somethingthey like. Eventually, they will not like anything

and the child is becoming less well nourished with each passing day. The issue is no longerabout food, it is about who is in charge. Youare unhappy because your child will not eat and the child is unhappy because there are no

routines in place. Content children have limitsand a predictable routine.

As the parent, prepare one healthy, nutri-tious meal and serve it to your family. Thechild will then only have one choice to make. Their choice is whether to eat the food or not. If they do not eat it in a reasonable period of time, assume that they are not hungry and takethe plate away. Dinner is over. If your childdoes not eat over several days, look at what the child is eating or drinking throughout the day. Children who drink too many bottles or cups of milk or juice are not hungry at mealtimes. Children who have unlimited snacks or free run of the kitchen will nibble throughout theday and come to the table full. Allow plenty of time for active play in the afternoon and offer only water as a beverage between meals.

When we focus too much on how a childeats and what they eat, we give food too muchimportance in life. It is only food. Sit togetheras a family and enjoy a variety of healthy foodsand talk about things that make you happy.

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The Triple P Positive Parenting Program provides parents with simple strategies to help solve current behaviour problems & prevent future problems before they arise. Triple P isnot just a Vancouver Island Program but is being used in 14 countries around the world to help parents become more confident in their own parenting skills and give them the ability to balance work and family without constant stress and worry. For more information about Triple P providers in your area, visit our web-site at www.triplepvip.ca. credit to the Building Connections Team, U.S. Triple P System Popu-lation Trial

* Want Happier Children? Focus on the Posi-tive

Parents need to be aware of how their chil-dren see themselves and be ready with ways to help their children feel good about themselves and their accomplishments.

Here are some ideas for promoting a positiveself-image in children:

*Pay attention and notice things your child does well.

* Focus positive attention in the efforts achild makes to do well. While the result may not be what was hoped for (for example, a poortest grade), did the child put forth good effort?

* Talk about things your child does well.* Encourage your child to set goals for the

next time they face a similar talk or situation.* Let your child express how they feel and

listen carefully.

If children fall into a trap of speaking orthinking negatively about themselves, here are some ideas you might wish to try:

*Talk about mistakes or challenges that youface to help them understand that no one is

good at everything*Encourage your child to continue to try.*Encourage realistic thinking.*Be optimistic.

Parents can set a good example for their chil-dren by showing them how they solve problems or challenges. Encourage family meetings to calmly discuss problems and work out solu-tions. Teach children problem solving steps

such as:*Clearly stating the problem*Trying out the solution*Brainstorming solutions*Talking about how and whether the solution

worked.This can help children become more inde-

pendent at problem solving and can apply to many different areas of life.

Triple P provides simple strategies for behaviour problems

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This 8 week course for parents of children 2-12 and 11-14 years of age will provide educa-tion in Triple P basics. In the group, parents will learn effective parenting strategies, how to promote their child’s development, how to manage common child behavior challenges andsome principles to help deal with almost any situation that might arise.

Please call 250 755-6265 to register for the free 8 week group seminars

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Seminar 1 – Tuesday Sept. 14, 6:30-8:00pm Ladysmith Health Center

Seminar 1 – Tuesday Sept. 21, 10-11:30am Princess Royal Family Centre

Seminar 2 – Tuesday Oct. 12 , 6:30-8:00pm Ladysmith Health Center

Seminar 2 – Monday Oct.18, 6:30-8:00pm Grant Avenue Health Unit

Seminar 2 – Tuesday Oct. 19 , 10-11:30 am Princess Royal Family Centre

Seminar 3 – Monday Nov. 15, 6:30-8:00pm Grant Avenue Health Unit

Seminar 3 – Tuesday Nov. 9, 6:30-8:00pm Ladysmith Health Center

Seminar 3 – Tuesday Nov. 16, 10-11:30 am Princess Royal Family Centre

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Triple P POSITIVE PARENTING SEMINARSERIES, For Parents of 2-12 year olds

Seminar 1 - The Power of Positive ParentingChildren of all ages need a safe, secure and loving

environment to do well. Positive Parenting is an effectiveapproach to raising children that is positive. It involves creating a family environment that is loving, supportive and predictable. Come hear some suggestions about how to use positive parenting in raising your children.

Seminar 2 - Raising Confident, Competent Children

The values, skills and behaviors to encourage in chil-dren are the choice of every individual parent. However,some core skills are important for everyone. Childrenare more likely to be confident, succeed at school and geton well with others when they develop certain life skills. These life skills include being respectful and considerate,communicating well with others, thinking positively and having healthy self-esteem, being a good problem solver,and becoming independent. Come hear some ideas onhow to help children learn these important life skills andbecome confident and competent individuals.

Seminar 3- Raising Resilient ChildrenOne of the most important tasks of parenthood is

helping children learn to deal with their emotions. Allchildren experience periods of stress in their lives andneed the emotional skills to deal with it. Children’s abil-ity to cope with their feelings is important to their long-term happiness. Come hear about the six keys skills tohelp children build emotional resilience.


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THE BUILDING BLOCKS OF LEARNING

Give your child a solid foundation in

learning and life by focusing on physical,

social, emotional and intellectual

development.

While mothers have traditionally been the primary caregivers in many families, fathers have an extremely important role to play.

Working together both parents providecomplimentary influences and inspire chil-dren toward balanced and healthy growth.

Although society readily acknowledges the nurturing and protective care mothers pro-vide, we often undervalue the unique contri-butions fathers can make.

Both fathers and mothers have an equalcapacity to be loving and capable parents.

This may mean that at times mom may need to struggle with her protective instincts,let go and allow dad to take full charge of some situations. This will help him to learn on the job, and build confidence in his abilities, the same process that all moms gothrough.

Both mom and dad need to know how to best provide ongoing support for their part-ners.

Here are some important facts that demon-strate how “Dad’s make a difference”

Research has shown that toddlers securely bonded with dad are better to handle strangesituations, are more resilient, have higher development of mental and motor skills,

relate more maturely to strangers and moreindependent.

Boys with involved fathers are at less risk fordeveloping violent anti-social or otherwise aggressive behaviours and are 80 percent less likely to go to jail. Girls show more compe-tencies in mathematics, and later in life are better able to develop healthy relationshipswith men. They are 50 per cent less likely tobecome teenage mothers.

The parenting guidance which fatherscontribute to both boys and girls encour-ages their ability to take risks, enables themto tolerate stress, increases problem solvingskills and builds resilience. A healthy ability to compete is fostered and experimentationin play is encouraged, especially in discovery and variety.

Children with involved fathers are less likely to fail a grade, have poor attendance at school, have difficulty paying attention or be argu-mentative and confrontational.

They are more likely to show respect for them-selves and authority, have less difficulty social-izing, and are more likely to finish school. They tend to have higher grade point averages, and perform a year above their expected age level.

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From page 21In their emotional development they are less likely to

choose deviant peers, and express less symptoms suchas ; disruptive behaviour, anxiety and depression, lying,sadness, emotional distress and suicide.

In general they experience more overall life satisfac-tion. They display greater cognitive control, apply self initiative and self direction in life, and feel more self confident and independent

The key to achieving this potential is balanced, shared, and involved parenting.

It is important to note that in the case of divorce and separation father involvement is still essential. Dads ask, “I have so little time with my family, how do I make the most of that time?”

Simple acts on a consistent basis build permanent bonds. In this sense quality is more important thanquantity. Babies love massage, discovery, touch, move-ment and sound. Toddlers like to pretend, explore, tohelp and work. That means lots of opportunity for dads to play and to model work. Find an activity that isfun for you, too. Consider taking a parenting course, or join a parent support group.

When both partners are confident that they havethe skills needed and feel mutually encouraged andsupported by the community they are in the ideal posi-tion to address this great work in progress, providingtheir children with “Roots and Wings” not “Loot andThings”!

Article excerpt courtesy of Michael Beechey – for more information contact the Nanaimo Men’s Resource centre at 250-716-1551.

Serves 12

½ lb ground beef (0.3 kg)

1 large onion, chopped

1-3 cloves garlic, finely chopped

1cup split lentils, washed

¼ cup barley

8 cups beef, or vegetable stock, or

bouillon

2 stalks celery, diced

2 large carrots, diced

1-28 oz c a n d i c e d t o m a t o e s

(796mL)

1 bay leaf

½ tsp thyme

½ tsp basil

pepper

How to make:In a large pot, brown beef lightly with

onion and garlic. Drain off fat. Add lentils, barley, vegetables, beef

stock, and seasoning. Bring to boil; reduce heat and simmer, covered until lentils and barley are nearly tender,about 30-40 minutes.

Add pepper to taste.

Note: Any other vegetables you have on

hand may be added: turnips, potatoes, cabbage, cubed squash, etc.

If you don’t like lentils use red len-tils as they cook quickly and “dissolve” so you don’t see the individual lentil pieces.

Submitted by Nanaimo Community Kitchens

Check out www.NanaimoCommuni-tyKitchens.org to find their latest cook-book called “You Can Cook” which hasalmost 200 pages of tips and recipes forsimple cooking and good nutrition.

Lentil Soup with Beef and Barley

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