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Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
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Objectives
to share the lessons that one may learn from this book to generate an acute awareness of the character ethic to equip my friends with a concrete “road-map” for further self-
exploration of the book’s principles on a day to day basis
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IntroductionThe author’s motivations
a personal experience concerning his son
expectancy theory:– how perceptions are formed– how they govern the way we see– & how the way we see governs the way we behave
in-depth study of success literature over the past 200 years
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IntroductionThe Personality Ethic
dominant approach in the past 50 years social image consciousness two paths:
– human and public relations techniques– positive metal attitude approach
inspiring & valid maxims some clearly manipulative & even deceptive techniques
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Introduction The Character Ethic
150 years pre World War I idea that there are basic principles of effective living enduring happiness and success by integrating these into our
basic characters foundational and catalytic
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Introduction Primary & Secondary Greatness
the Personality Ethic is of secondary importance natural systems based on the law of harvest! the “7 habits” are basic - they are primary - representing the
internalization of correct principles upon which enduring happiness and success are based.
“what you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say”
- Emerson
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ParadigmsThe way we see
commonly used to mean: a model, theory, perception, assumption - or frame of reference
a map - but the map is not the territory! Awareness of our own paradigms:
our paradigms, whether correct or incorrect, are the source of our attitudes and behaviors – and determine our relationships with others
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ParadigmsParadigm Shift
Thomas Kuhn: The Structure of Scientific Revolutions instantaneous as well as gradual the learning curve is determined by one’s basic character! Being is Seeing. Seeing is Being.
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PrinciplesThe Principle-Centered Paradigm
the Character Ethic is based on the fundamental idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness
principles are natural laws that cannot be broken constitute the “objective territory” (not just the map) not esoteric, not mysterious, not “religious” self-evident and easily validated by any individual Deep within our conscience and common sense
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PrinciplesGrowth and Change
a process: “a thousand mile journey begins with the first step” the Personality Ethic amounts to “borrowing strength” Inside-Out: private victories before public victories! the way we see the problem is the problem
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HabitsAn Overview
Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits deeply rooted, often unconscious consistent and cohesive express our character
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not and act, but a habit.”
- Aristotle
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HabitsDefinition
the intersection of:
takes all 3 for a habit! iterative spiral: seeing & being
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what to doand why
wantto do
howto do
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The 7 Habits The Maturity Continuum
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Dependence
Interdependence
Independence
PublicVictory
3. Put firstthings first
4. Think Win-Win
1. Be Proactive
PrivateVictory
2. Begin with theend in mind
5. Seek first tounderstand...
6. Synergize
7.
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The 7 HabitsEffectiveness
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for all assets: physical, financial and human
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEOverview
self-awareness– a unique human capability– the reason why we can break our habits
3 social/deterministic maps:– genetic determination– psychic determination– environmental determination
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1. Be Proactive
PrivateVictory
Stimulus Response
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEBetween Stimulus and Response
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ResponseStimulusFreedom
toChoose
Self-Awareness
ImaginationConscience
IndependentWill
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVE“Proactivity” Defined
response-ability = the ability to subordinate a an impulse to a value 3 central values identified by Victor Frankl:
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The CREATIVEThe EXPERIENTIAL
The ATTITUDINAL
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVECircle of Concern /Circle of Influence
Maintaining a proactive focus:
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Circleof
Influence
Circleof
Influence
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEDirect, Indirect and No Control
The problems we face are threefold:
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involvingourbehavior
DirectControl
Possible
IndirectControl
Possible
involvingotherpeople’sbehavior
NoControl
Possibleour past& situationalrealities
solved byworking onour habits
solved bychanging ourmethods ofinfluence
= PrivateVictories(habits 1,2,3)
= PublicVictories(habits 4,5,6)
solved bychanging theway we see...
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Habit 1-BE PROACTIVEAt the Heart of the Circle of Influence
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Circleof
Influence
Our ability tomake
and keepcommitments& promises
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Overview
the most fundamental application: visualization of your death & the graveside perspectives from family, friends, work colleagues and the community
underlying principle: all things are created twice - mental (1st creation) and physical (2nd creation)
default verses design personal leadership verses Management (what and how) imagination and conscience
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PrivateVictory
2. Begin with theend in mind
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Highest Leverage PC Work
whatever is at the center of our lives will be the source of our:
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CENTER
1. SECURITY
2. GUIDANCE
3. POW
ER
4. WISDO
M
- SENSE OF WORTH- IDENTITY- EMOTIONAL ANCHORAGE
- SOURCE OF DIRECTION IN LIFE- INTERNAL FRAME OF REFERENCE- STANDARDS AND PRINCIPLES
- FACULTY TO ACT- STRENGTH & POTENCY TO ACCOMPLISH SOMETHING
- YOUR SENSE OF BALANCE- UNDERSTANDING THE WHOLE
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Alternative Centers
spouse centeredness family centeredness money centeredness work centeredness possessions centeredness pleasure centeredness friend/enemy centeredness church centeredness self centeredness
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle Center (1)
Security– principles do not change (only our understanding of them does)– principles do not react to anything– principles are larger than circumstances
Wisdom and Guidance– principles supply the correct maps
Personal Power– unrestricted by the attitudes, behaviors and actions of others
Only limitation: the natural consequences of the principles themselves - a universal law.
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND A Principle Center (2)
The principle center puts all other centers into perspective
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etc. self
PRINCIPLES
spouse family
money
work
possessionspleasure
friend/enemy
church
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Habit 2 - BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Using a Mission Statement
through conscience (of our own uniqueness) we detect our missions in life by working within our circle of influence
it will take time and should be reviewed regularly the process is as important as the product use your whole brain:
– using imagination to visualize and affirm (right brain activity)– capturing these images and plotting them (left: roles and goals)
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AFFIRMATIONS
- personal- positive- present tense- emotional- visualized
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTOverview
The practical fulfillment of habits 1 and 2 (i.e.the 2nd creation) exercising independent will to become principle centered
through day-to-day effective self-management “Manage form the LEFT” (versus lead from the RIGHT) a measure of the value we place on ourselves! ensuring that your habits are a function of your values - not the
mood and/or circumstances of the moment management amounts to discipline in the area of life and time
management
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3. Put firstthings first
PrivateVictory
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTFour Generations of Time Management
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Notes andChecklists
1. recognitionof demands
+ Calendars and
AppointmentBooks
2. attempt tolook ahead
+ prioritization
3. Setting ofgoals and
short / long term planning
+ Calendars &Appointment
Books
Emergingeffectiveness
approach(relationships &
results)
Satisfactionis a function ofexpectations
& time!
currentefficiencyfocused
approach(things & time)
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant II Activities
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important
not important
urgent not urgent
I.crisespressing problemsdeadline driven projects
II.prevention, PC activitiesrelationship buildingrecognizing opportunitiesplanning, recreation
III.interruptions (some calls)some mails & reportssome meetingspopular activities
IV.Trivia, busy worksome mailsome phone callstime wasters
require moreinitiative &proactivity!
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant I Results
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important
urgent
I.
• stress• burnout• crisis management• always putting out fires• problem minded people• deadline driven producers
you areovercome by“waves” ofactivity!
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant III Results
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notimportant
urgent
III.
• Short term focus• crises management• chameleon character reputation• feel victimized and out of control• inability to set goals and make plans• shallow or broken relationships
you are work-in terms ofother people’sexpectationsand priorities!
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTInto the Danger Zone
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notimportant
Urgent / not urgent
III. & IV.
• total irresponsibility!• Fired from jobs• depend on others for basics
effective peoplestay out of here!
urgent or not,they aren’timportant!
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTQuadrant II Results
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important
Not urgent
II.
• vision, perspective• balance• discipline• control• few crises
The
of effectivepersonalmanagement!
Feedingopportunities& starvingproblems!
P/PC balance!
I.
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTLearn to Say NO
NB: you are always saying NO to something! Quadrants III and IV must make way for Quadrant II a center of correct principles and a focus on our personal
mission empowers us with the wisdom to take these yes/no decisions effectively
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NO.
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTMoving to Quadrant II
A Quadrant II Organizer Tool will meet the following six criteria:
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COHERENCE
BALANCE
QUADRANT II FOCUS
PEOPLE DIMENSION
FLEXIBILITY
PORTABILITY
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTBecoming a QII Self-Manager
Long-Term Organizing:
WEEKLY Organizing:
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MissionStatement
Roles Goals
WeeklyRoles
WeeklyGoals
PlansSchedule
Delegate
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTDelegation: Increasing P & PC
we delegate to TIME (efficiency) or PEOPLE (effectiveness) temptation to delegate to time delegating to people empowers both parties
Producer:
Manager:
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input output
input
output
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Habit 3 - PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTDelegation: Gofer verses Stewardship
stewardship focuses on RESULTS rather than METHODS 5 aspects must be mutually understood:
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DESIRED RESULTS
GUIDELINES
RESOURCESACCOUNTABILITY
CONSEQUENCES
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Public Victory Introduction
self-mastery precedes good relationships the emotional bank account paradigm - 6 major deposits:
– understand the individual– attend to little things– keep commitments– clarify expectations– show personal integrity– apologize sincerely
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PublicVictory
4. Think Win-Win
5. Seek first tounderstand...
6. Synergize
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Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WINOverview
not a technique - but a total philosophy of human interaction one of six paradigms of interaction:
– win / win (a better way)– win / lose (authoritarian approach)– lose / win (loser / peacemaker at all costs)– lose / lose (enemy centeredness)– win (other parties irrelevant)– win / win or no deal
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PublicVictory
4. Think Win-Win
It depends...
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Habit 4 - THINK WIN/WIN5 Dimensions
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(1)win/win
character
(2)win/win
relationships
(3)win/win
agreements
IntegrityMaturityAbundance Mentality
w/wl/w
l/l w/l
cons
ider
atio
n ->
courage ---------->
the emotional bank account
Supporting systems (4) and processes (5)
Performance & Partnership(focus on results not methods)
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Habit 5: Seek first to understand…Overview
within your circle influence four basic forms of communication: speak, read, write and listen character and communication a profound paradigm shift:
emotional bank account deposits understanding of the center when you listen, you learn
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PublicVictory
5. Seek first tounderstand...
ignoring pretendingselectivelistening
attentivelistening
empathiclistening
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Habit 5: Seek first to understand…4 Autobiographical Responses
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1. we evaluateby either agreeing
or disagreeing2. we probefrom our ownframe of reference
4. we advisebased on ourown experiences
3. we interpretbased on our own
motives and behavior
communicationis logical/open
Generally:
asking questionsand give counsel
communicationis emotional
reverting toempathic listening
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Habit 5: Seek first to understand…AND then to be understood
part of win/win!!
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ethos pathos logos
1. 2. 3.
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZEOverview
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PublicVictory
6. Synergize
the whole is greater then the sum of the parts the relationship between the parts is significant
WE LIVE IN AN INTERDEPENDENT REALITY
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZEDefinition
when faced with our greatest challenges… with:
we create NEW ALTERNATIVES - something that wasn’t there before!
the creativity can be terrifying as the outcome is unsure...
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4 unique humanendowments
self-awarenessimaginationconscience
independent will
the truemotive of
WIN / WIN
skill ofempathiclistening
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZELevels of Communication
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Defensive (win/lose or lose/win)
Respectful (compromise)
Synergistic (win//win)
TRUST
COOPERATION
high
high
low
low
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZEThe Middle Way
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a higher way!
com
pro
mis
e
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZEIntrapersonal and interpersonal
Synergy
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L R
The essence of synergyis to value the differences!
• to move beyond our own• perceptual limitations
• to increase our own awareness
• to affirm others
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Habit 6: SYNERGIZEThe Growth & Change Force Field
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restraining forces
driving forces
current level of performance
4 5 6
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Habit 7: Sharpen the SawOverview
PERSONAL PC !
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Sh
arp
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aw
Principles ofBalanced
Self-Renewal
Principles ofBalanced
Self-Renewal
Sometimes when I considerwhat tremendous consequencescome from little things…I am tempted to think…there are nolittle things.
BruceBarton
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Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw4 Dimensions of Renewal
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PHYSICALExercise, Nutrition,Stress Management
SOCIAL /EMOTIONAL
Service, Empathy,Synergy, Intrinsic Security
SPIRITUALValue Clarification &
Commitment, Study &Meditation
MENTALReading, Visualizing,
Planning, Writing
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Conclusion
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