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Transcript of STELLENBOSCH UNIVERSITY Sue Bakker & Dr Alan Jansen 1 & 2 November A Mentoring Skills Workshop.
STELLENBOSCH UNIVERSITY
Sue Bakker & Dr Alan Jansen
1 & 2 November
A Mentoring Skills Workshop
Mentoring Agenda
• Introduction to Mentoring• The Learning Process• Integral+ Framework• The Mentoring Relationship• Mentoring Skills• The Mentoring Conversation• Developing a Mentoring Culture
TOWARDS A MENTORING FRAMEWORK Making your mentoring conscious & explicit
Who are you mentoring?To what end, what results
What outcomes?
PERSPECTIVES
PROCESS
PURPOSE
How you mentorMentoring models
Tools & techniques
What do you bring to mentoring?Your experiences & learnings
Your competences and passions
The Case for Mentoring
OrganisationalOutcomes
Behaviour
Personal ContributionDecisions Use of
Interactions made time with others
Thinking Feelings Values &
beliefs
Level of awareness
HAVE
DO
BE
“The success of an intervention
depends on the internal condition
of the intervenor”
Former CEO of Hanover Insurance, Bill O'Brien
Leaving a Legacy
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MENTORING DEFINITION
“Mentoring is a partnership in which a mentee is assisted in making significant advances in knowledge, perspective
and vision in order to develop their full potential; the mentor’s wisdom is utilized by the mentee to facilitate
and enhance new learning and insight.”
COMENSA
Stellenbosch University Definitions
• Mentoring is a sustained, voluntary, supportive relationship between an experienced person and another who is less experienced, where the mentors shares the benefits of their experience and their understanding of the values, goals, practices and culture of the organization.
• The primary goal is the nurturing, guiding and supporting of the junior professional’s personal and professional development. The agenda is based on the mentee’s needs and the learning agenda identified by the mentee.
• Mentoring is a protected relationship in which learning and experimentation occur through analysis, examination, re-examination and reflection on practice, situations, problems, mistakes and successes (of both the mentors and the mentees) to identify learning opportunities and gaps. Mentoring is about helping the mentee to grow in self-confidence and develop independence, autonomy and maturity. It is a relationship built on mutual trust and respect, openness and honesty where each party can be themselves.
Power
Process
Proactive / Reactive
Who setsagenda
Expertise
Differentiating
ABOUT MENTORING AND COACHING
Powerful processes for human development
MENTORING COACHINGSimilar skills
More directive Less directive
Domain specificTransfer of knowledge & skillsWisdom & experienceNetwork access
Non domain specificFacilitation of learningExpertise as coachOften External
CONSCIOUS COMPETENCE LEARNING MODEL
Adapted from Gordon Training
International and David
Baume
Pointer to potentials
that people already
possess but perhaps
are not fully utilising
or expressing
Integral Mentoring Map
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EXTERIOR
INTERIOR
INDIVIDUAL
COLLECTIVE
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P Paisley 2006 ©
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DOMAINS OF EXPERIENCE
A GPS SYSTEM FOR NAVIGATING LEADERSHIP COMPLEXITY
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Inside of Me
What are my beliefs? Values?Mental models?What assumptions do I hold?How do I connect to my emotions?Who am I? Do I cultivate presence?How aware am I?How insightful am I?
Behaviours
How do I show up?What is the state of my health?What language do I use?What explicit skills do I demonstrate?How do I listen?What is my role?Are goals set?
Environment and Systems
What impact does the current environment have on your team? How well does the team/dept/deliver on the strategy? How effectively are the systems implemented?How effective are the networks?
Relationships and Culture
What is the team’s/organisation’s purpose/vision?Who do you feel most connected/ disconnected to in your team?What are the shared values?What is the quality of relationships?How resourceful is the culture?
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THE MENTORING RELATIONSHIP
The Mentor’s World of Experience
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MODEL OF MENTOR COMPETENCE
Johnson, 2003
Abilities
Cognitive
Emotional
Relational
Competencies
Teaching
Mentoring
Communicating
Virtues
Integrity
Caring
Prudence
DOMAINS OF CONCERN
CAPACITY
AVAILABILITY
POTENTIAL
MENTOR’S ROLES
The Teacher
The Facilitator
The Networker
The Source of Information
The Advisor
The Nurturer
What is the Impact of diversity (race, culture, gender, age, personality) on
the mentoring relationship
MENTORING SKILLS
AwarenessActive Listening
QuestioningFeedback
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How Consciousness shows up
How Consciousness shows up
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ENCRYTPTED SCRIPTS BODY LANGUAGE / BEHAVIOUR
SPOKEN LANGUAGE
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Which impacts on …
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HOW WE SHOW UP… HOW WE RELATE…
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TAKE ACTION DATA
The “U” Ladder
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ADAPTBELIEFS
DRAWCONCLUSIONS
MAKEASSUMPTIONS
ADDMEANING
SELECTDATA
LADDER OF INFERENCE
The Essence of Mentoring - Listening
How do YOU listen?
How do WE listen?
What is the QUALITY?
What GETS IN THE WAY?
What are you AWARE of?
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LISTENING DOES NOT MEAN THINKING FOR THE SPEAKER!
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QUESTIONING
Build question frameworks
Asking incisive questions Questions that challenge thinkingQuestions that provide another perspectiveQuestions that open up possibilitiesQuestions that haven’t been thought of…
THE RIGHT QUESTION AT THE RIGHT TIME
Who, what, where, when, how……Avoid “why” questions (Why?)
• What’s working? • What’s not working?
• What would you like to do differently?
• What’s working? • What’s not working?
• What would you like to do differently?
3 STAGE QUESTION FRAMEWORK
Sunny Stout Rostron
What is important to you about ….?
What is important about that?
Anything else?
Ask repeatedly, to drill down to “bedrock” values
VALUES QUESTION FRAMEWORK
QUESTIONS EXERCISE
Develop at least 4 questions which help your mentee:
Develop their goals/outcomes
Understand their current reality
Explore their options
Decide on their actions to achieve their goals
FEEDBACK , given appropriately :
•Is meant to improve effectiveness & be developmental
•Focuses on performance, not personalities
•Is specific, with evidence
•Helps person explore
•Provides acknowledgement
•Is two way!
FEEDBACK
GUIDELINES TO GIVING FEEDBACK
EXTERNAL CONDITIONS• Timing
• make sure it is the right time (as close to the incident as possible)
• You have enough time to discuss the issue.
• Place - privacy and one in which the person feels safe
• Understand what is at stake. How high are the stakes for the person receiving feedback?
GUIDELINES TO GIVING FEEDBACK
INTERNAL CONDITIONS
• Clarify your own intentions. (Is it about helping the other person? Is it revenge? Is it to clear something up? Are you trying to make yourself look good?)
• Surface your own feelings, and try to understand how the other person might be feeling.
• Be humble and non-judgmental. Realise that just as the other person does not see themselves, you too might not see the whole picture.
• Own this as your own experience of the situation.
RELATIONAL CONDITIONS
• Ask if the person would like some feedback from you. Allow them to say no.
• Consider their needs. Be compassionate, listen and respond with empathy.
• Describe behaviour. Do not attempt to interpret.
• Focus on behaviour that can be changed.
• Be specific.
• Express feelings directly.
• Balance objective and subjective statements wisely.
• Allow the freedom to change or not to change.
GUIDELINES TO GIVING FEEDBACK
GUIDELINES FOR RECEIVING FEEDBACK
Be curious
Be open and undefensive
Notice your inner stance-centre yourself
Keep quiet & listen
Repeat & summarise
Check for clarity & understanding, ask for examples
Ask for ideas on how to improve
Explore options
Appreciate!
THE MENTORING CONVERSATION
ContractingTools and ModelsGoal settingLevels of conversationA mentoring programme
INTAKE PROCESS CORE ELEMENTS
1. CONTRACT - time, confidentiality, process
2. LOGISTICS - Intake form and written contract
3. MAKING EXPLICIT - Coaching definition and clarity around process
4. DISCOVERY - Find out your client’s story
5. DESIGNING - Identify the topic for coaching, outcomes, etc.
Adapted from Co-Active Coaching, Whitworth et al
CONNECT - Build rapport
PERMISSION - Is this acceptable?
DESIRED REALITY
CURRENT STATE
Mentoring Conversations
StrategicAwareness Strategic
Approach
StrategicActions
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Old HabitsOld Habits New HabitsNew
Habits
Letting ComeLetting Come
Letting Go
Letting Go
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DESIRED REALITY
CURRENT REALITY
Mentoring Conversations - Dialogue
Creating a new way of thinking
GapAnalysis
PlaceOf
Opportunity
Point ofleverage
StrategicAwareness Strategic
Approach
StrategicActions
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Connect To GROW Practice Model
REALITYWho/what/Where/how
much?
REALITYWho/what/Where/how
much?
TOPICInitial
understanding
TOPICInitial
understanding
OPTIONSWhat’s possible
OPTIONSWhat’s possible
WRAP-UPClarity/
commitment, support
WRAP-UPClarity/
commitment, support
GOALFor session
GOALFor session
CONNECTBuild rapport
CONNECTBuild rapport
PRACTICEWhat will youdo differently
PRACTICEWhat will youdo differently
Adapted from Sir John Whitmore
2. EXPLORING GOALS
3. AGREEING GOALS
CONTRACTING
5. SESSION
6. REVIEWSESSION
4. SESSION
8. SESSION
9. CLOSE1. INTAKESESSION
7.SESSION
MENTORING PROGRAMMEA series of mentoring sessions over time
Time / number depends on goals & mentee’s readiness for change
Begin with the end in mindFirst things first
THINGS THAT COULD HINDER MENTORING
• Too directive• Condescending• Power issues• No confidentiality• Not mature or experienced enough• Not ready to share experience• Poor communication
• Too defensive• Unclear about goals• Dependent• Power issues• Confidentiality• Unwilling to learn• Unclear expectations• Poor communication
• Unclear expectations
• Lack of reward or recognition
• No time or resource
support• Poor communication• Poor relationships• Chain of command
Mentor Mentee Organisational