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Feedback &
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Coaching, Part 1
October 19, 2015Ed Batista@ the Stanford Class Presidents
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Who am I?
Executive coachInstructor & GSB alumwww.edbatista.com HBR Guide to Coaching Your Employees
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Why feedbackmatters to me…Touchy FeelyChanged my view of myselfImpact on my professional path & life
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& why coachingdoes, too
Started as a clientChanged my view of leadershipImpact on my clients & GSB students
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Where are weToday: Feedback as an interpersonal skillNext time: Coaching as a leadership tool
going?
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How will weDiscussion (~40 min)Exercises & debriefs (~1 hr 15 mins)Work as a group & in pairs
get there?
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Concepts #1Today’s headlineThe simplest feedback modelFeelings
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The headlineFeedback is stressfulSo critique with skill& express more heartfelt appreciation
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The simplestWhen you do [X], I feel [Y].
feedback model
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FeelingsDisclosing feelings = vulnerableBut feelings influenceAnd vulnerability closenessComfort with discomfort
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Concepts #25 levelsHierarchy of needsSafety, trust, intimacySocial threatSCARF model
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5 levels
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Richard FranciscoIn what ways do we communicate?Increasing levels of difficulty, risk & learning
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5 levels1: Ritual2: Extended Ritual3: Content4: Feelings About Content
5: Feelings About Each Other
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5 levels
5: Feelings About Each Other
HardestRiskiest
Most powerful for feedback
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Hierarchy of needs
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Abraham MaslowWhat motivates us as human beings?
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Hierarchy of needs
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Physiological
Safety
Love & belonging
Esteem
Self-actualization
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Hierarchy of needs
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Parallels in groups & relationships
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Hierarchy of needs
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Psychological safety, trust & intimacy
Experiments, risk-taking & vulnerability
Learning, self-awareness & change
In groups & relationships…
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Safety, trust,
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intimacy
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Safety, trust,intimacySafety = I won’t get hurtTrust = I believe you & you believe meIntimacy = We can make the private public
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Safety, trust,intimacyFeedback can create these qualitiesBut there’s a problem…
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Can I give you
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some feedback?
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Feedback and
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social threat
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Threat responseaka “Fight, flight or freeze”
Physiological
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Threat responseaka “Fight, flight or freeze”
Emotional
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Threat responseaka “Fight, flight or freeze”
CognitiveDecision-makingProblem-solvingCollaboration
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Social threat(Some) social situations ≈ Physical threatsMany times/dayMost common location?
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Social threat
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Social threatPhysiological/emotional response plus…Cognitive impairmentDecision-makingProblem-solvingCollaboration
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Social threatResult?Massive communication failureWe give feedback ineffectivelyWe receive it poorly
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SCARF modelDavid RockWhat social situations trigger a threat response?How can we minimize the risk of social threat?How can we create safety?
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SCARF modelStatusCertaintyAutonomyRelatednessFairness
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Use the modelWhen giving feedback…Be mindful of statusMinimize uncertaintyMaximize autonomyBuild the relationship*Play fair*
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Use the modelWhen getting feedback…Cultivate in-the-moment awarenessRecognize our threat responseManage our emotionsSlow things down
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RelationshipsJohn GottmanWhat characterizes successful relationships?
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RelationshipsFeeling known by the otherA culture of appreciationResponding to “bids”Mutual influence
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The netDavid BradfordHow to improve communication?How to minimize defensiveness?How can we play fair?
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The netMe You
Yourrespons
e
Mybehavi
orMyintention
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What I knowMe
Myintention
Mybehavi
or
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What I don’tYou
Yourrespons
e
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What you know
You
Yourrespons
e
Mybehavi
or
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What you don’tMe
Myintention
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Use the modelIntent ≠ impactMy intention doesn’t guarantee your responseImpact ≠ intentYour response wasn’t necessarily my intention
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Use the modelStay on our side of the netFocus on observed behaviorDisclose our responseWhen you do [X], I feel [Y].
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Use the modelResult?Lower risk of social threatLess chance of defensivenessIncreased sense of fairness
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To sum upBuild safety, trust & intimacyRemember SCARF & the NetMinimize social threatLess stressful feedbackMore learning
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Thank you!
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