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A Spirit Of GentlenessSpirit Of Gentleness is About...
Our non-violence
Our sense of social justice
Our expression of unconditional love
Our warmth toward those who are cold
Our teaching others to feel safe, loved, loving and engaged
Our teaching a feeling of companionship with the most marginalized
Our forming community
Our sense of human interdependance and solidarity
Our option to be side by side with the most devalued
Basic Assumptions...
Each human being is made up of a mind-body-spirit
Personal change comes from within the heart
Each of us hungers for a feeling of being-with-others
The care giving relationship is based on unconditional love
Personal and community change occurs from the bottom up
Care giving is an act of justice
Hunger for LoveLove Fear of LossLoss
To be connected
To be responded to
To respond to others
To care about others
To love and be loved
To be disconnected
To be ignored
To withdraw
To ignore others
To be scorned
Culture of LifeLife Culture of DeathDeath
Based on companionship
Leading to community
Centered on the person
Involving mutual change that starts with us
Focused on control
Leading to compliance
Centered on behavior
Imposed change under the guise of choice
Feel FearfullFearfull… Feels SafeSafe...Runs away
Cries a lot
Expressionless
Sad appearance
Slovenly
Hits self/others
Sleeps poorly
Complains
Eats poorly
Self-stimulates
Curses
Hordes
Flinches
Stays with others
Expresses joy
Relaxed
Contented appearance
Well-cared for
Respects own body/others
Sleeps well
Expresses love
Enjoys participating
Eats well
Enjoys hobbies
Uplifts others
Shares
PSYCHOLOGY OF
THE SELF PSYCOLOGY OF
INTERDEPENDANCE
Earned reward
External change
Imposed change
Emphasizing compliance
Learning self-reliance
Authoritarian
Unconditional love
Inner change
Mutual change
Companionship
leading to community
Authoritative
Authoritarian Authoritative
Inconsistent
Moral direction based on a “lift yourself up by the bootstraps” attitude
Focused on the self, independence and self-determination
Consistent
Moral direction based on feeling safe and loved, first with us, then others
Focused on others, companionship and community
CompanionshipCompanionship Is Built On Teaching To Feel...
SAFE
LOVED
LOVING
ENGAGED
Feels UnlovedUnloved… Feels LovedLoved...Complaining
Addicted to drugs or alcohol
Poor grooming and dress
Withdrawl
Self-stimulation
Hurting self
Hurting others
Irritability
Running from caregivers/peers
Screaming
Hoarding objects
Hurtfull sexual expression
Sense of worthlessness
Asking for help
Finding joy in others
Pride in self
Socializing
Pride in hobbies
Caring for bodily needs
Helping others
Contentment
Finding joy in caregivers/peers
Sweetly communicating
Loving sexual expression
Sense of self-esteem
Loving Others... Despising Others…
Smiles
Touches warmly
Communicates joyfully
Approaches other
Stays with others
Seeks out others
Shares personal objects
Frowns, cries, clings, curses
Grabs, hurts, disrespects
Communicates harshly
Withdraws
Self-stimulates
Prefers solitude
Hordes
EngagementEngagement is Learning that it is Good...
To be together
To do things together
To do things for one another
To do things for others
Disengagement EngagementIgnores others
Rebels against care givers/ friends/ family
Refuses to share
Sees no joy others & little joy in self
Withdraws
Self-stimulates
Has little pride in self
Prefers to be alone
Dislikes school or work
Seeks others out
Enjoys care givers/ friends/ family
Offers to help
Finds joy in others
Find joy in self
Participates
Has Hobbies
Takes pride in self
Seeks to socialize
Likes school or work
Becoming Engaged Evoking Peace
Rebellious
Passive participation
Doing things together
Ebb and flow of rebellion
Doing things by self
Mutual enjoyment
Pride in being together and doing things together
Be soft, slow and gentle
Do things for the person
Draw the person into activities with you
Always be ready to help or even back off
Give gradual responsibility
Focus on the relationship
Honor the person for being with you and doing things with you