SOS!!! Help for Parents A Practical Guide for Handling Common Everyday Behavior Problems.

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SOS!!! Help for Parents A Practical Guide for Handling Common Everyday Behavior Problems

Transcript of SOS!!! Help for Parents A Practical Guide for Handling Common Everyday Behavior Problems.

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SOS!!! Help for Parents

A Practical Guide for Handling Common Everyday Behavior Problems

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Why Kids Behave and Misbehave

Good and bad behavior are shaped by the reward a child receives

Sometimes caregivers “accidentally” reward and strengthen a child’s misbehavior

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Example:

It is Jack’s bedtime. However Jack is not ready for bed. He begins to cry, scream, etc. Being exhausted yourself , what do you do?

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Three Child Rearing Rules

Rule 1- Reward good behavior (quickly and often)

Rule 2- Don’t “accidentally” reward bad behavior

Rule 3- Discipline some bad behavior

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Rule One- Reward Good Behavior

When a child gets rewarded for engaging in a particular behavior, the behavior is strengthened or reinforced

People repeat behavior that they have received rewards.

So if you like it-reward it.

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Social Rewards

Works for both children and adults Examples: smiles, hugs, verbal praise,

attention Praise the behavior not the child-it is more

effective

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Material Rewards

This would include materials or activities Social rewards are more powerful than

material rewards Social rewards are usually more convenient Remember to give right after the desired

behavior

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Rule 2: Don’t “Accidentally” Reward Bad Behavior

This strengthens the behavior and makes it more likely for the misbehavior to occur again

This is usually done unintentionally Most common child rearing mistakes

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Rule 3: Punish Some Bad Behavior

Use mild punishment only Mild punishments such as scolding, natural

consequences, logical consequences, time-out, and behavior penalty

Don’t use grim threats, sarcasm, or hard spankings

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Four Child Rearing Errors To Avoid

Parents fail to reward good behavior Parents “accidentally” punish good behavior Parents “accidentally” reward bad behavior Parents fail to punish bad behavior