Self-TalkHow do you speak to yourself?

You’re never going to get this right. Oh no! I hope no-one notices what a bad job I’m

doing!

You’re never going to get this right. Oh no! I hope no-one notices what a bad job I’m

doing!

I’ll have a go – it doesn’t matter if I

get it wrong. This is quite good actually!

I’ll have a go – it doesn’t matter if I

get it wrong. This is quite good actually!

1. The brain doesn’t process negatives

DON’T think of a pink elephant!

The same happens with anxieties

What we say…..

'I don’t want to get fat'

'I hope I don’t mess this up'

'I must not fail this test'

What the brain hears

• Fat!

• Mess this up!

• Fail!

Advertising

Advertisers know this and ‘implant’ messages that go straight into our unconscious without us questioning how they operate.

Can you think of any example of this?

Programming for success

Have you ever noticed how, if someone says something to you for long enough,

eventually you begin to believe it?

'You’re lazy!' 'You’re the pretty one and she’s

the clever one' 'you’ll never go anywhere in

life'…….

others?

Programming your brain

You can also become the voice that programmes your beliefs….

Try using some of these techniques…..

1.turn negatives into positives

2.Using confident phrasing

3.Avoiding negative ‘generalisations’

1. Turn a negative fear into a positive hope….

What we say

'I’m going to get slim and

healthy'

'I want to do a good job'

'I’m going to pass this test'

What the brain hears

• Slim and healthy

• Good job

• Pass the test

2. Use assertive ‘doing’ words

3. Question big general statements

'I’m totally stupid'

'I’ll never get this'

'I’m bad at spelling'

'I feel bad'

What, at everything?

Never, ever?

What can you spell?

All the time?