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Transcript of Self Love Secrets
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Secrets to Loving Yourself!
by Aine Belton
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“If there is a panacea, or cure-all to life,
it is self love.” ~ Paul Solomon
Self-love will positively restore and transform all areas of
your life. It will not only reward greater joy, peace,
empowerment, intimacy, giving and receiving, and improved
relating with all, but will manifest as greater success in all
life areas in general.
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Love is a magical magnet that attracts the best of
everything. When you access and develop this love within,
life become’s brighter and more abundant in all ways.
Loving yourself is easy when you own your inherent
innocence and worth and acknowledge the soul and spirit
that you are.
Your essential self – the you beyond your personality,
identity and self-concepts - is ineffably beautiful, loving
and magnificent.
In the light of self-love you come to realize that you are
not your darkness, failings or mistakes, and that your
negative self-beliefs are sourced in misunderstandings
about yourself and life; faulty beliefs that you can change.
To not love yourself is to be blind to your true nature and
the loving nature of the universe, caught in the lies of ego
and self-defeating traps such as guilt, shame, judgment,
undeserving and insignificance.
“There is nothing but love, and all else is illusion.”
- Dr. John Demartini
When you awaken to your inherent nature, self-love is
inevitable.
Forgiving yourself for perceived ‘wrongs’ and ‘mistakes’ can
help you let go of and release more of what you are not so
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you can open to experience and embrace more of who you
are and the love at the heart of your being.
It is easy to love what’s beautiful in you, but it is the ugly
parts that need your love the most.
To truly love your self is to love yourself unconditionally
beyond reasons why. To love yourself because you did a
good deed, got a pay rise, secured a new job, are popular,
funny, attractive or wealthy is conditional.
Love yourself for who you are; your strengths and
weaknesses. Furthermore, love yourself because you are -
that you exist. The essence of who you are is love itself.
You are born of love, returning to love.
There is nothing you need do to win that love and nothing
you can do to lose it, for you are loved completely.
Pain and constricting thoughts and feelings that say
otherwise, are symptoms that you are out of alignment with
the truth of who you are.
Self-love equates with self-knowing in the ultimate sense.
It is accepting yourself in entirety and understanding that
you are more than your personality and identity. You are a
spiritual being having a human experience, whatever
traumas, trials and stories that human experience has
entailed.
All that your heart desires is yours to create and receive.
Love unlocks the door to that receiving. When you awaken
to the love that you are you allow greater abundance, and
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there is a renewed flow of giving and receiving between
yourself, others and the universe.
In the wake of love, dreams come true, wounds heal, the
pain of separation dissolves, and deeper brighter treasures
of self are unveiled and realised.
You become free from ego games and agendas, self-
punishment and judgment, that can otherwise thwart your
growth and success and side-track you from the truth.
Fear, worthlessness, loneliness, guilt, control,
perfectionism, shame, self-loathing, and other constricting
states dissolve and transform in the light of love.
"There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
no disease that enough love will not heal; no door that
enough love will not open."
- Emmet Fox
When you love yourself, neediness subsides and you
relinquish futile attempts to ‘get love’ from ‘out there’, and
the control, manipulation, dependency, sacrifice and
struggle that can otherwise ensue.
The ego’s quest to earn love, and to compete, compare and
prove your lovability dissolves in the nourishing repose and
revitalizing wonder of self-love.
Instead of trying to prove you’re worthy, you acknowledge
and accept you already are. Self-esteem comes from within,
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and no amount of outside validation or approval will ever give
it to you. You can though.
You are the one you have been waiting for; it is your love
and the truth of your being that lies within to be awakened,
received and enjoyed.
If you’re not having the types of experiences you want in
your relationships, and the levels of love, trust, intimacy,
connection, respect, and responsiveness you desire and
deserve, the key is to look at your relationship with self
(which all outer relationships will mirror) and begin to
awaken the oasis of love and open to receive this limitless
reservoir of love to heal and transform you within.
When you do so you will begin to experience greater self-
acceptance and greater love and intimacy with others.
Your Higher Self, the eternal transcendent being that you
really are, loves you more than you may ever now. It loves
you totally and unconditionally.
The cliché ‘No one can love you until you love yourself’ is
true in the sense that, until you love yourself you will not be
able to fully receive love from others. You will not be
available or receptive to that love, or truly believe it.
You may be blind or blinkered to that love. You may deny,
discount or avoid it. You may be cynical and doubt it. You
may push it away or sabotage it. You may feel you do not
deserve it. You may even fail to attract it in the first place
due to blocks around your lovability and limiting self-beliefs
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that stand in the way of receiving love from yourself and
others.
When you love yourself you fill up with nectar from within
and can radiate and share that sweetness with others and
the world.
In exuding the wondrous vibration of love you will
accordingly attract happy, harmonious, beautiful realities in
line with your heart’s desires.
Love attracts all things good and true, solves and
transforms problems, and brings clarity and truth.
You are source, not subject, of your world. When you love
yourself, the world loves you back.
The relationship you have with yourself is like a blueprint
that sets the nature and quality of relationships with
others.
The secret to creating and attracting a successful loving
relationship with another, whether you have found that
'other' yet or not, lies in loving yourself.
Self-Love will enhance any existing relationship, ironing out
problems and taking it to the next level, as well as attract a
healthy, optimum relationship at an appropriate time if you
are currently single.
Furthermore, it will quench the 'need' for a relationship,
and bring inner contentment, peace and fulfilment and the
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enjoyment and appreciation of time on your own. You can
experience being single and its gifts in a rewarding,
nourishing and empowered way.
When it comes to love relationships, you may think about or
list the qualities you want to show up in a partner, yet how
many of those qualities do you show yourself?
Are you considerate, kind, loving, and generous to yourself,
for example? Do you acknowledge your gifts, beauty, and
attractiveness? Do you celebrate YOU and enjoy your own
company? Are you intimate, honest, and respecting of
yourself? Are you committed and faithful to you?
"Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works
miracles in our lives." - Louise L. Hay
Your relationship with yourself will be mirrored in your
relationships with others. What you cannot give to or
receive from yourself, you will lack the ability to do so with
another.
Your worth is a given. It is inherent by virtue of your
existence. You are a spark of divinity, and an integral part in
all of creation.
“Each (of us is) a miracle of love.”
- A Course In Miracles
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Some of the primary blocks that stand in the way of you
loving yourself are your beliefs - the beliefs you hold about
yourself.
These are formed largely during childhood years, as well as
at other key times in your life, and can be influenced and
programmed by your parents, family, friends, media and
society.
Limiting self-beliefs might include 'I am not good enough',
'I am bad', 'I am wrong', 'I am unlovable', 'I don't
deserve', 'I am unworthy', 'Nobody loves me', 'I am alone in
the world', etc.
These negative self-concepts and faulty ‘assumptions’
fracture perception and mar your self-image and the way
you perceive and relate to yourself, others and the world.
You can clear your limiting self-beliefs, replace them with
positive empowering ones, and experience more of your
innate loveability and the innocent truth of your being.
There are numerous techniques nowadays for doing this,
from the Belief Buster Kit, NLP, EFT, Theta Healing, Psych-
K and others.
Another major block to self-love is a lack of self-
forgiveness. People may find it easy to let others off the
hook but can be very hard on themselves.
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When you love yourself you judge others less since you
judge yourself less. Compassion is a natural by-product of
self-love.
In loving yourself you are more connected to your Higher
Self – the eternal transcendent being that you really are..
You become less self-conscious and more spontaneous, less
self-absorbed and more giving, less of a victim and more of
a victor, leader, contributor and inspiration to others.
When you are in the resonance of love, life is graced with
ease, joy and flow. Problems and struggle lessen and cease.
You stop fighting yourself and others and start joining,
giving forth, connecting, celebrating and having fun!
You revel in the wonder that you are, the love of the
universe, and the love the universe has for you!
Practical ways to love yourself!
There are, of course, infinite ways to love yourself. The
possibilities are endless, and will depend on what is most
appropriate for you at a given time, what brings you
greatest joy, and what honours and fulfils your heart’s
wishes and soul’s purpose.
It is worth noting here, however, that loving yourself is not
so much what you do, but how you think and feel about
yourself (which, of course, drives your behaviour). Love is
more a state to open to and allow. Love exists within you
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already inside your heart. It has always been there and will
always be there. It is not something you make happen by
force or control, but you can create an environment that
encourages the experience of more of that love within.
Self-love is not a doing, but an inner experience from which
self-loving behaviour is born. It is reflected in the doing,
yet can also be strengthened and invited through that
action.
Loving yourself is essentially about letting go of what you
are not, negative self-concepts and beliefs, and any guilt,
shame or self-judgment that stands in the way, and
embracing the truth of who you are, your innocence and
inherent worth.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but... the barriers
within yourself that you have built against it.” – Rumi
You are born of love, returning to love.
You already do love yourself, likely more than you are aware.
Your Higher Self – the aspect of your consciousness closest
to source - loves you immeasurably.
If self-love feels ‘new’ to you and you want to experience
and develop more of it, there’s no shame in starting with
self-loving behaviours, even if it may initially feel like you
are ‘faking it ‘till you make it’.
When you start to act more loving to yourself you will ignite
a renewed relationship with yourself and step onto a path to
blossoming path towards loving horizons. You will also begin
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to program your subconscious mind with a new way of
relating with yourself.
Whilst loving yourself may involve pampering and treating
yourself in luxurious ways, yet it may also include far less
glamorous endeavours, for self-love is about doing what
most serves you at a given time, and honouring and
respecting yourself accordingly.
Loving yourself could be:
Cleaning your home, organising papers and accounts,
eating healthy food, paying bills, clearing debts, etc.
Seeking the healing, insights and support that will help
you release the attitudes, encumbrances and negative
emotions that keep you from experiencing the wonder of
your true self.
Ending sabotaging patterns, habits or addictions.
Changing self-limiting beliefs.
Setting new inspiring and enlivening goals, raising your
standards and reaching for more.
Doing 'nothing'; spending time relaxing, reflecting, de-
stressing and simply ‘being’ to allow greater intimacy and
connection with yourself.
No longer sacrificing to please others.
Respecting boundaries and saying ‘no’ when it feels right
to.
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Not settling for less or compromising your dreams or
values.
Living somewhere that you truly love, or transforming,
decorating or renovating your existing home to surround
yourself with an environment that is beautiful, meaningful
and heart-warming.
Nourishing and caring for your body, such as eating
healthy food and exercising regularly. You might join a gym,
get a personal trainer, or begin fun healthy activities like
salsa, yoga, or a new sport or activity like hiking or running.
Treating yourself to the pleasures of massage, a facial,
pedicure, beauty treatments or a new hair-do.
Buying new clothes that reflect your truer self.
Taking up or renewing a creative hobby or passion, be
that singing, writing, walking, painting, sailing, or
photography, for example.
Being honest and intimate with yourself, and listening to
and honouring your feelings.
Going on weekends away, short breaks and holidays to
inject greater fun, happiness and adventure into your life.
Being in touch with friends and loved ones, and
expressing the love you have for them, which will be
nourishing not just to them, but to you as well.
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Speaking kindly to yourself, seeing your value and
goodness, affirming your positives and being grateful to
yourself.
Having a night out on the town: going out for a fabulous
dinner, dancing, to the movies or theatre, whether alone,
with a friend a friend, or romantic partner.
Meditating and allowing time for greater connection with
yourself and quieten the voice of ego.
Being true to yourself, upholding principles and standing
your ground.
If you tend to save or hoard money, it could be having a
care-free ‘splurge’.
Treating yourself does not need to be a great expense,
however, and can be having breakfast in the garden on a
sunny morning, taking a walk in the afternoon, having a
bubble bath, a candlelight dinner in, going for a swim or
watching the sunset.
Spending time in nature to bask in its beauty and grace.
We all have favourite nature spots. For some it is the ocean
side, for others the beauty of a spring meadow, for some it
is to walk down country lanes, or enter a forest or grove.
Perhaps you love riversides or waterfalls, or wide vistas and
open landscapes with far reaching views, or hill tops and
mountains.
Appreciating yourself for all your gifts, qualities,
strengths and achievements, and having compassion and love
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for any perceived 'ugly sides', weaknesses, stresses, trials
and tribulations.
Forgiving yourself for all 'mistakes' the lost or wounded
you may have made, and letting go of negative self-concepts
and beliefs.
The Self-Appreciation Technique
How are you appreciating YOU?
If you are not receiving acknowledgement, recognition or
appreciation from others in your life where you might like
it, it can reflect where you are denying giving that to
yourself.
Take some time at the end of your day to either write down,
or say to yourself in the mirror:
At least 5 qualities you appreciate about yourself
(perhaps that you witnessed that day, or perhaps from
a past time or event - whatever comes to heart and
mind).
Recognize and acknowledge positive qualities, gifts,
attributes, strengths, talents, successes and
achievements, where and how you make the world a
better place simply by being in it, your love, your care,
your desire and willingness to grow, and so on.
At least 5 things you are grateful to yourself for
(again, either that you are grateful for from that day,
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or from a past time or your life in general - whatever
comes to mind).
Own and acknowledge the goodness that you are. Appreciate
and be grateful for you!
Your goodness, innocence and light is the truth of who you
are. Whatever ‘mistakes’ you may have made in your life,
born perhaps of pain, ego, fear, hurt, anger or being lost,
fragmented and self-loathing, know that these mistakes are
not who you are. Have compassion for yourself. Forgive
yourself.
Look to the truth of who you are, the light, and you will
begin to feel better and better about yourself, for this is
your true nature, and the more you recognise it, the more it
will blossom and radiate in your life.
Self-Worth Exercise
1. Write down 5 or more ways in which you think you
are not valuing or honouring yourself.
It could be in any area - relationships, work, health, fun,
etc.
1.__________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________
4.__________________________________________________________
5.__________________________________________________________
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2. How can you start to value yourself more here? What
attitude, choices, and behaviours would be more
honouring and valuing of you?
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3. Write down 5 ways you are currently honouring and
valuing yourself:
1.__________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________
4.__________________________________________________________
5.__________________________________________________________
4. What else could you do in your life to love, value and
honour yourself more at this time?
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5. Write down 1-5 things (gifts, qualities, behaviours,
traits) you feel are, or tend to be, under-recognised and
under-acknowledged by yourself and others.
1.__________________________________________________________
2.__________________________________________________________
3.__________________________________________________________
4.__________________________________________________________
5.__________________________________________________________
6. Now take some time to acknowledge and own those
things about yourself. Recognise and appreciate these
qualities in you. Thank yourself and compliment yourself
for these.
You can take a few moments each morning and evening
in the bathroom mirror to do this, lovingly
acknowledging who you are, such as with the ‘Self-
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Appreciation Technique’ Above.
You can end your mirror appreciation exercise above
with an acknowledgement of unconditional love. Say
whatever words feel right. Below are a few as examples:
“I love you just as you are right now. You do not need to
be or do anything else for me to love you.
I love you unconditionally. You are loved, loving and
loveable ever and always, and are always deserving of
love. I love, value and respect you just as you are right
now. Thank you for being you. I see your beauty, love,
light, kindness and wonder. I love you so very much.”
Use whatever words resonate with and will support
and nourish you.
The Pink Bubble of Love Technique
Below is a simple exercise using the healing frequency of
pale pink to align your vibration and open you to the
experience of more love in your life.
Pale Pink is a soft healing energy of unconditional love that
invites self-acceptance, self-love and self-forgiveness.
It is nourishing on all levels, resonates with the heart
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chakra, and brings the experience and joy of loving and
being loved, aligning and raising your energy accordingly.
The vibration of pale pink also helps to dissolve that which
stands in the way of unconditional love and blocks to
experiencing self-love.
The Exercise
Visualize being surrounded in a bubble of pale pink light.
Imagine this pink light of love (perhaps as a sphere or oval
shape) immersing you in the energy of love, and washing
away and dissolving any resistances to that love (hurts,
wounds, loss, grievance, loneliness, pain, isolation, grief,
etc.).
Imagine this pale pink light entering into your body, and
being absorbed into your very cells, to nourish, soothe and
gift you with the wondrous healing power of love.
Bathe in the vibration of this pink bubble of love and let it
heal and transform you.
"All my limitations are self-imposed and my liberation
can only come from true self-love."
- Max C. Robinson
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Love,
Aine Belton
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