Self-Esteem

Definitions

Self-concept: Picture or perception of ourselves/ a person's mental model of his or her abilities and attributes

Self Esteem: Feelings we have about ourselves

Self Efficacy: The set of beliefs that one can perform adequately in a particular situation.

Contd……………..

Self-ideal: The way we would like to be

Self-actualization A concept in personality psychology referring to a person's constant striving to realize his or her potential and to develop inherent talents and capabilities.

Self-awareness The top level of consciousness; cognizance of the autobiographical character of personally experienced events.

What is Self Esteem?

Self + Esteem

The total, essential, or particular being of a person; the individual: +Worth, Value, Opinion ,judgment

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem refers to th way we see and think about ourselves

Self esteem is your opinion of yourself.

High self esteem is a good opinion of yourself and

low self esteem is a bad opinion of yourself.

What Self Esteem is Not

Self Esteem is NOT dependant upon what other people think of you

Self Esteem is not egotism, arrogance, narcissism/selfishness, or a desire to feel superior to others

Self Esteem is not temporary euphoria

How should we measure self-esteem?

Factors affecting on high and low self esteem

Your self esteem depends on many questions:Is your job worthwhile? Do others respect what you do? Do you?     Do you believe you are successful?  How do you see yourself (your self image)?    - Improve your self esteem- Boost your self confidence-  How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses?   What do you think of your social status?   How do you relate to others?   Can you make your own decisions? A lack of choices leads to low self esteem. 

Development of Self Esteem

A person develops his/her self esteem throughout the life through experiences.

In this regard childhood experiences play an important role in shaping self esteem.

Factors that develop High and Low Self Esteem

High Self EsteemIf you are being praisedIf you are listened toIf you are being spoken to respectfullyIf you are getting attention Experiencing successHaving trust worthy friends

Low Self Esteem Experiencing

Continuous Failure Being expected to

perfect all the time Being Ignored or

made fun of Having physical or

emotional punishment Being criticized

Why Self Esteem is important?

Building esteem is a first step towards your happiness and a better life. If you have low confidence or low self esteem you will find it impossible to be the person you could be and your happiness will be limited.

Self esteem increases your confidence. If you have confidence you will respect yourself and then you can respect others, improve your relationships and become happier....this is not a selfish goal as you will contribute more and share yourself with the world and those around you.

Low esteem causes depression, unhappiness, insecurity and low confidence. Other's desires may take preference over yours. Inner criticism, that nagging voice of disapproval inside you, causes you to stumble at every challenge and challenges seem impossible

Change the bad

Appreciate life

Willing to try

new things Believes in self

Is not a threat to others

Doesn’t submit to

peer pressure

Accept failure

Leader to

others

Good Self

Esteem

Who has contributed to your self esteem?

No one can Make you feel inferior Without your Consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

Tips for building Self Esteem

Learn to be more assertive and not feel guilty about saying no

Think positively Believe on your self Make plans for the future .Set and

achieve goals Do something challenging each day Look your best Eat correctly Do something for someone else Learn a new skill

Contd.

Handle things one at a time Use criticism constructively Ask for help – take advantage of learning

opportunities Allow personal growth time each day Do not say negative things about yourself Reward yourself often List your accomplishments each evening Volunteer to share your skills with others

Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things you can’t change. Be more accepting of others and the things they can’t change.

Try not to compare with others. It’s unfair. You may compare their strengths with your weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your own growth

Have Realistic Expectations – We expect too much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal.

Emphasize your strengths.

Change what can be changed. Some things fast, others gradual, and others never. There are things we inherit but we can change our attitude about it. Try new experiences.

Best Friends

Would you take better care of yourself?Would you be kinder to yourself?Would you be more forgiving of your human imperfections?If you realized your best friend was yourself?

Who is always with you everywhere?Who is on your side when others are unfair?And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?Who will always see you get your share?

And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.And I take me out whenever I feel low.And I make my life as happy as a best friend wouldI’m as nice to me as anyone I know!

There are two different people in the world. One that says “I wish I had” and the one that says “I’m glad I did”. Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in yourself.

“Commercial of Me”

Emphasizing the positive characteristics and capabilities of you, develop an

advertisement or commercial to

“sell oneself”.

It may be a radio or television ad, billboard, sweepstakes, etc.

Due next class period.