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SacramentofMatrimonyNovember 30, 2016Sarah Flowers and Deacon Phil Flowers
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INTRODUCTIONDefinition and Motivation
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3TypesofCatholicWeddings
Catholic marrying …
1. a Catholic= sacrament
2. a Orthodox or Protestant* = sacrament
3. a Jew or Pagan = natural marriage**
Required Form for all types
• Bride• and GroomMinisters
• Bishop• or Priest• or Deacon
Official
• 2 witnessesWitnesses
3* Validly baptized** Baptism makes marriage sacramental
TestScenario Sacrament? Natural?
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Catholic Carol marries Methodist Mel in Catholic ceremony
Catholic Carol marries Hindu Harry in Catholic ceremony
Catholic Carol marries Catholic Charlie at justice of the peace
Methodist Mel marries Lutheran Lucy in Presbyterian ceremony
Lutheran Lucy marries Mormon Michael in Mormon ceremony
WhystudyMatrimony• Teaching & Discernment• Marriage Prep• Baptismal Prep• RCIA• Catechetical in general• Liturgical ministers
• Evangelization• couple “together” not married
• divorced and re‐married
Marriage PrepI. Remote• Love, values, virtues
II. Proximate• Relationships,
SacramentsIII. Immediate• Freedom to marry?• Pastoral (human +
religious)
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SACRAMENT 6
Ephesians5.31‐32
Sacrament = ‘”symbol”◦ signifies ◦ and communicates grace
Sacrament of Matrimony1. Public Commitment –
Church2. Loving presence of Christ3. Participation in Church’s
mission
“For this reason a man shall leave father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.This is a great mystery [sacrament], but I speak in reference to Christ and the Church.”
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SymbolofGod’slove
The wedding day of the Lamb has come, his bride has made herself ready. (Rev 19.7)
8Jesus is the Bridegroom
Importance&Dignity• Matrimony = Mystery of unity & fruitful love
• Help each other ⇒holiness
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ThreeEssentials
Forever
Faithful
Fruitful
• Indissolubility• Covenant
• Faithfulness• fountain of divine love
• Children• Other purposes of Matrimony not of less account 10
LITURGYCelebration
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LiturgyofWord
Common Readings• Genesis 2.18‐24
• “The two of them become one flesh”
• Psalm 85• The earth is full of the
goodness of the Lord
• 1 Corinthians 12.31—13.8a• “Love is patient … love never
fails”
• Matthew 19.3‐6• “What God has joined
together, no human being must separate”
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Celebration ofMatrimony• Consent• I take you to be my {husband | wife}. • I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health,
• To love you and to honor you all the days of my life.
• Rings• Receive this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit
• Nuptial Blessing 13
LiturgyofEucharist(Mass)
Marriage Partners Mass? Note
Catholics With Mass
Catholic & baptized non‐Catholic
Without Mass (OCM chap II)
Permission for Mass is possible, with or without Communion
Catholic & non‐Christian or Catechumen
Without Mass (OCM chap III)
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ANNULMENTSA wedding doesn’t make a marriage
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Marriage→divorce→re‐marriage
• Irregular marriage• Common problem
• Solution is Annulment• Bishop’s Declaration that 1st marriage was invalid
• Consequences• Relationships resolved• Children still legitimate• Parties free to marry
FIRSTAnnulment of
previous marriage
THENConvalidation of current marriage
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AnnulmentGrounds• e.g. Catholic married by Elvis‐impersonator at Vegas
Lack of Form
• e.g. ordainedLack of Freedom
• usually lack of commitment to:Lack of Consent Forever
Faithful
Fruitful
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RCIAandMarriage
• RCIA teams • inquire about married state• to allow Holy Communion
# Inquirer status
Partner status
Annulment needed
When Initiation
When Catholic wedding or Convalidation
2 Never married
Fiancée divorced
Fiancée Usual time After annulment
6 Married 1sttime
Spousedivorced & remarried
Spouse After Convalidation
After annulment
• Stories• candidate surprised• RCIA director surprised
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PastoralCare
Divorce
• Sensitivity to pain of divorce • remain close to Lord • with reception of sacraments, esp. Holy Communion
• remarry with no annulment• can participate in parish life • but no Holy Communion
Support
• enhance marriage
• troubled marriage
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CONCLUSION 20
AmorisLaetitia
• Christ the Lord ‘makes himself present to the Christian spouses in the sacrament of marriage’ (67)
• authentic love also needs to be able to receive the other, to accept one’s own vulnerability and needs, and to welcome with sincere and joyful gratitude the physical expressions of love found in a caress, an embrace, a kiss and sexual union (157)
• The love they pledge is greater than any emotion, feeling or state of mind, although it may include all of these. (163)
• I do not recommend a rushed reading of the text. The greatest benefit, for families themselves and for those engaged in the family apostolate, will come if each part is read patiently and carefully, or if attention is paid to the parts dealing with their specific needs.
• It is likely, for example, that married couples will be more concerned with Chapters Four and Five, and pastoral ministers with Chapter Six, while everyone should feel challenged by Chapter Eight. (7)
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My Favorite Quotations
SacramentofMatrimony1. Presence of Christ• Grace: God’s life• Faith expressed
2. Public Commitment• Marriage covenant
• Sealed by Christ’s Church
• Family & community
3. Participation in the Church’s mission
• Channel of God’s grace22
Wedding at Cana (John 2.1‐11)Center: groom & brideLeft: Jesus & MaryRight: guestsForeground: water/wine servants