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Learning Rules

1. Keep beginners’ mind

2. Remember freedom to choose

3. Use available opportunities to learn from one another

4. Enjoy…& have fun

5. Concentrate on ‘take-around’ not ‘take-away’

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At the end of this sessions you will be able: 1. Establish the relationship between leadership development and

personal development 2. Identify some essential components of Personal Leadership 3. Acquire the essential tools of personal effectiveness 4. Gain insight into formal and moral types of authority

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Relationship between Leadership Development & Personal Development

Session 1

Case Study

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Area of Influence

Choice

Area of Concern

Be In Only

Be

Be Be

In Only

In Only

In Only

In Only

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What happens inside the leader before he gets the vision

•What is it that wrecks me? •What is it that I can’t stand •What happens inside the leader before he gets the vision

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THE LAW OF BUY-IN

of the law of Buy-in is that:

People buy into the leader, then the vision.

It took one remarkable man to defeat the British Empire

and free a nation of 350 million people

•His Goal was freedom of India •His Strategy was peace •His Weapon was humanity

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The leader finds the dream and then the people.

The people find the leader and then the dream.

Put first things first

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It is not an EITHER / OR proposition

LEADER VISION RESULT

Don’t buy in Don’t buy in Get another leader

Don’t buy in Buy in Get another leader

Buy in Don’t buy in Get another Vision

Buy in Buy in Get behind the leader

You are the message!

BE DO HAVE

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The Inside-out job: Focus on Personal Development

Session 2

Private Victory Precedes Public Victory.

Stephen R. Covey

Know Thyself, Control Thyself, Give Thyself!

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the LAW of the

LID

Leadership Ability

Determines a Person’s

Level of Effectiveness

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Dedication to Success

Every leader

has lids on his life;

nobody is born without them.

And they don’t disappear when a person

receives a title, achieves a position, or gets

invested with power. The issue is not whether

you have lids, but what you are going to do about them.

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Values 1

“My life is an Autobiography. But what type?”

“Every man gives his life for what he believes. Every woman gives her life for what she believes. Sometimes people believe in little or nothing and they give their lives to little or nothing. One life is all we’ve got and we live it in the way we believe in living it and we are gone. But to surrender who you are and live without belief is more terrible than dying.”

Joan of Arc

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There is greater eloquence

in what you are not saying

ATTITUDE?

State of mind!

The way we communicate our moods to

the environment.

How we response to adversity & difficulty,

when things go wrong.

My attitude is me.

It is the reflection of the person inside.

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Attitude

Internal External

Negative Positive Nature

Presence

There is little difference in people, but that little

difference makes a big difference. The little

difference is attitude. The big difference is whether

it is positive or negative.

-W. Clement Stone

When life hands you lemons

you make lemonade.

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Our attitude toward others determines

their attitude towards us.

Your living is determined not so

much by what life brings to you,

as by the attitude you bring to life...

Not so much by what happens to

you, as by the way your mind looks

at what happens.

Circumstances and situations do

color life, but you have been given

the mind to choose what the color

should be.

John Miller

COLOURS

the LAW of PROCESS

Leadership develops

daily not in a day

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Compound Interest

10,000 Talent is Overrated

Goff Colvin

Deliberate Practice

Hunter/Gatherer

Agricultural

Industrial

Info/Knowledge

Ages of Civilization

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CHALLENGE & RESPONSE

Circle of knowledge

Ignorance

Circle of knowledge

Ignorance

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Education is a progressive discovery of our ignorance

Will Durant

Wisdom

Next of Civilization

PHASES OF LEADERSHIP GROWTH

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I don’t know what I don’t know

I know what I don’t know

I grow & know It starts to show

I simply go because of what I know

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To lead tomorrow, learn today

Essential tools of Personal Effectiveness

Session 3

Effectiveness

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Life

The value of life

THE DAY AMERICANS TOLD THE TRUTH

Things people will be willing to do for $10 million

Abandon their entire family 25%

Become prostitutes for a wk/more 23%

Give up their American citizenship 16%

With hold testimony, letting a murderer go free 10%

Kill a stranger 7%

Put their children up for adoption 3%

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In the use of time

“Time is Life broken into Piece.” Oluyide Falusi

Chronos

Kairos

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Don’t be fooled by

the Calendar

there are only as

many days in the

year as

you make use of

Make us know the

shortness of our Life that we may gain

wisdom.

How much do I have?

1. Decide how long you want to live =100 yrs

2. Subtract your present age from (1) =100 – 50 = 50 yrs

3. We spend 40% =10-12hrs daily being human =20 (40% of 50yrs)

4. 2 – 3 = 30 yrs

5. 30 X 365 = 10,950 days

6. 24 X 10,950 = 262,800 hrs

7. 262,800 X 60 = 15,768,000 mins

8. 15,768,000 X 60 = 946,080,000 secs

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Time Effective Tools

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Urgent Not Urgent

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TIME MATRIX

•Crises management •Pressing problems •Deadline-driven projects •Meetings •Preparation •Burnout •Putting out fire

•Interruptions •Some phone calls, Mail, reports, meetings •Many proximate pressing matters •Many popular activities

•Preparation •Prevention •Values clarification •Visioning & Planning •Relationship building •True re-creation •Empowerment

•Trivia, busywork •Some phone calls •Time wasters •“Escape” activities •Irrelevant mail •Excessive TV

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INEFFECTIVE

•Trivia, busywork

•Some phone calls

•Time wasters

•“Escape” activities

•Irrelevant mail

•Excessive TV

TIME WASTERS

Gist

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Procrastinations

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Being PROACTIVE

EFFECTIVE

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SELECT QUADRANT II ROLES

III IV

What is the most important thing I could do in each role this week to

have the greatest positive impact?

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•Preparation

•Prevention

•Values Clarification

•Visioning & Planning

•Relationship Building

•True Re-creation

•Empowerment

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TYPICAL Vs HIGH PERFORMING PEOPLE

20-25% 60-80%

Less than 1% 15%

50-60% 2-3%

15% 25-30%

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The RUN AROUND DILEMMA

Because we don’t know what is important everything seem important

Because everything is important then we have to do everything

Other people unfortunately see us as doing everything

So they expect us to do everything

But doing everything keep us so busy that we don’t have time to really

think about what is important to us

Anonymous

Formal and Moral Authority

Session 4

LAW OF RESPECT

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Does Leadership inspires respect

OR Respect inspires leadership

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…leaders go their way in a new group

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Natural Alignment

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•The more leadership ability a person has the more quickly he/she recognizes leadership or it lack in others •It is not a guessing game. People don’t follow others by accident. They follow individuals whose leadership they respect. •When people respect you as a person, they admire you. When they respect you as a friend, they love you. When they respect you as a leader, they follow you. •The leader must know, must know he knows, and must be able to make it abundantly clear to those about him that he knows (Clarence b. Randall) •The greatest test of respect comes when a leader creates major changes in an organization

Position

Personhood

People development

Production

Permission

LEADERSHIP LEVELS

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FORMAL vs MORAL

AUTHORITY

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•When people with the formal authority/ position power (secondary greatness) refuse to use that authority & power except as last resort, their moral authority increases because it is obvious that they have subordinated their ego & position power & use reasoning, persuasion, kindness, empathy, & in short trustworthiness instead. •Moral authority exponentially increases the effectiveness of formal authority. Why? •When you borrow strength from position, you build weakness in three places: in self, because you are not developing moral authority; in the other, because they become codependent with your use of formal authority; & in the quality of the relationship, because authentic openness & trust never develops. •The surest way to reveal one’s character is not through adversity but by giving them power – Abraham Lincoln

Might makes right Loyalty above integrity To get along go along The “wrong” is in getting caught The top people don’t live it Image is everything No one told me There is only so much

Right makes might Integrity is loyalty Stubborn refusal The “wrong” is in doing wrong Be a model not a critic “to be rather than seem” Ask, recommend There is enough to spare

POSITION CHOICE

Hitler

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AUTHORITY MATRIX

George Washington

Jesus Many Celebrities

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of the law of Respect is that:

People naturally follow leaders

stronger than themselves.