RomanceWhat

should I do?

Mental States

Emotional States

Physical States

Altered States

Atmosphere

SensesSensual

Putting the kink in it

Chapters

What should I do?

Mental

• A woman need to be mentally stimulated in order to acknowledge a man’s intention.

Emotional

• A woman wants to be emotionally stimulated.

Physical

• Sensual touch vs. sexual touch is an important distinction.

Altered Stated

Atmosphere

• Creating a romantic atmosphere can be simple or complex, depending on the mood.

Senses

• Stimulation of the senses can enhance romance.

• Smell • Tactile• Visual

Sensual

• Sensual touch vs. sexual touch can communicate romantic messages.

Timing

• Timing is important for romance

Putting the kink in it - The Basics

NegotiationPleasure and pain

Spank meTie me up, tie me down

Candles can be fun

D and STools of the trade

Fetish WearPhysiologyToo Much?

Chapters

Negotiations

• In a vanilla relationship there are a lot of power struggles.

• During the “Scene” you must agree on who is “Dominant” and who is “Submissive”.

• The “Safe Word” must be established.• The submissive drives the scene and can end it

with a word.

Communication is key

• Communication is the key to any relationship. • Communication of your fantasy and interests

must be mutual.• Communication of your fantasy and interests

must be honest.

Pleasure and Pain

• Pleasure can be derived from some minor pain.

• Remember that if you can’t laugh while you’re playing, its too rough.

Spank me

• Spanking is a fine art.• Warm up is necessary and desirable.• Spanking can be fun!

Tie me up, Tie me down

• Bondage can be fun!• Use smooth and sensual materials.– Silk Scarves– Smooth RopeTie loosely, in a comfortable position, your partner

should be able to “escape” with little effort.

Candles can be fun

• Pure paraffin candles – light colors• Use at height• Don’t light your partner on fire!• Wax is hot, messy and a wonderful sensation!

D and S

• D = Dominant• S = submissive• The Dom(me) sets the scene, plans for it and

seduces the sub.• The sub drives the scene (see negotiation) and

allows the Dom(me) to take control.

Out of the bedroom

• D and s is over when the scene is over.• The normal relationship resumes outside of

the bedroom.• D and s is not to be abused, it is a mutual

decision.

Tools of the trade

• There are many “tools” one can purchase on line for lots of money OR you can go to a hardware store and find plenty of “tools”

• Cane• Clips• Tape• Paint stirring sticks• Smooth rope cut by the foot

Fetish Wear

• Fetish wear can be expensive, but is fun!

CorsetsGlovesBootsHeelsStockings

Physiology

Too Much?