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Akram Youth March 2015 | English Dada Bhagwan Parivar 12

19th March. Our very own Niruma's 'nirvaan diwas'. It has been 9 years since she left her mortal body but as Pujyashri very rightly stated that, 'Gnanis' never die. When they feel that they are unable to fulfill their mission through this body, they leave behind one mortal body and continue their mission of 'jagat kalyan' through another body as if they are fulfilling the task left incomplete the previous day. They continue this mission till their final ‘nirvana’ (ultimate salvation).

To commemorate this auspicious occasion, every year on this day a fresh batch of young 'brahmachris' (celibates) join 'aaptsinchan' and surrender themselves to fulfill Dadashri and Niruma’s only dream that the world should not remain in this miserable state. The significance, motive and the purpose of 'sinchan' is highlighted in the article 'Gnani with Youth'. We hope it shall provide a new perspective to all our readers.

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Carry on Dada's mission; Our presence shall forever be in Simandhar City – Pujya Niruma.

Dimple Mehta on behalf ofMahavideh FoundationSimandhar City, Adalaj -382421. Dist- Gandhinagar

Mahavideh FoundationSimandhar City, Adalaj -382421. Dist- Gandhinagar

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Akram Youth | 03

Editorial

Dada’s Book Excerpt | Generation Gap

Story | Real Understanding

Gnani's Scientific Solution

Priming

Gnani with youth | Why Aaptsinchan?

Gnani...An Idol of Astonishment!!

Solutions to our Problems

Glimpses of Great Souls | Kapil Dev

Summer camps schedule

You Can be everything | Persistant

19th March. Our very own Niruma's 'nirvaan diwas'. It has been 9 years since she left her mortal body but as Pujyashri very rightly stated that, 'Gnanis' never die. When they feel that they are unable to fulfill their mission through this body, they leave behind one mortal body and continue their mission of 'jagat kalyan' through another body as if they are fulfilling the task left incomplete the previous day. They continue this mission till their final ‘nirvana’ (ultimate salvation).

To commemorate this auspicious occasion, every year on this day a fresh batch of young 'brahmachris' (celibates) join 'aaptsinchan' and surrender themselves to fulfill Dadashri and Niruma’s only dream that the world should not remain in this miserable state. The significance, motive and the purpose of 'sinchan' is highlighted in the article 'Gnani with Youth'. We hope it shall provide a new perspective to all our readers.

Download free ebook version of all issues of Akram Youth

by scanning this QR codeOR Visit - http://youth.dadabhagwan.org/Galaxy/Akram-Youth

Carry on Dada's mission; Our presence shall forever be in Simandhar City – Pujya Niruma.

Dimple Mehta on behalf ofMahavideh FoundationSimandhar City, Adalaj -382421. Dist- Gandhinagar

Printed & Published by

Owned by

Printed atAmba Offset

Basement, ParshvanathChambers, Nr. RBI,Usmanpura, Ahmedabad-14.

Published atPublisher & Editor:Dimple MehtaYear : 2, Issue : 11Conti. Issue : 23March 2015

email: [email protected]: youth.dadabhagwan.orgstore.dadabhagwan.org/akram-youth

Contact :Gnani Ni Chhayama (GNC),Trimandir Sankul, Simandhar City,Ahmedabad-Kalol Highway,Adalaj, Dist. Gandhinagar,Gujarat-382421Phone: (079) 39830100

Total 24 Pages with Cover page

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02 | March 2015

Akram Youth | 03

Editorial

Dada’s Book Excerpt | Generation Gap

Story | Real Understanding

Priming

Gnani with youth | Why Aaptsinchan?

Gnani...An Idol of Astonishment!!

Glimpses of Great Souls | Kapil Dev

Summer camps schedule

You Can be everything | Persistant

Dada’s Book Excerpt Do not drink alcohol even in a dream

Dadashri: Do you drink alcohol? Do you contaminate your body in this way? Questioner: Yes, sometimes I do, when there is stress at home. I am being honest with you. Dadashri: Stop your drinking. You have become a slave to it.It is not right for you. This is Dada's agna, so you must not touch alcohol at all. Only then will your life run smoothly and you will no longer need to drink. If you read 'CharanVidhi' (booklet given after the GnanVidhi), you will not need to drink at all. The CharanVidhi will fill you with bliss. Questioner: Of course Dada. But cocktail parties have become the norm of the day and one has to attend those parties if one has to make progress and maintain contacts in business circle. But otherwise I avoid having it. What you state is very much true; one has to keep away from such vices. Dadashri: I am trying to convey this message especially to the youth. Nowadays even these youngsters get these thoughts of having alcohol.

this veil over the awareness, how can it be removed? Dadashri: There is no solution for that. Time is the only remedy. The longer a person abstains from drinking alcohol, the clearer his thinking will be as the veils of ignorance disperse. He will begin to notice the difference as time goes by, but not immediately. Understand that pleasure derived from eating meat and consuming alcohol will have to be repaid. The repayment for this will be that in his next life, he will have to take birth in a lower life form, in the plant and animal kingdom. Every form of external happiness one enjoys will have to be repaid, so one must understand the gravity of this obligation. The world is not haphazard; it will demand a repayment. Only the experience of one's inner bliss does not need to be repaid. So remember you will have to pay back whatever you borrow. Questioner: A person will have to repay by being born in lower life form in his next life, but what are the consequences of eating meat and drinking alcohol in this life? Dadashri: In this life his ignorance will increase. As a result he will become callous and beastly. People around him will not give him any respect.

habit, then you will remain addicted and bound by it.

Consuming Alcohol and Non Vegetarian diet will take one to animal life form. Questioner: They say that if a person has been drinking and using drugs for a long time, it will affect his mind and the effects will last for a long time afterwards. How can one become free from such chronic effects? Dadashri: These remaining effects are the reactions from the addiction. All the sub-atomic particles (parmanoos) within the body need to be cleansed. Once the drinking stops, what should he do then? He needs to keep repeating to himself that it is wrong to drink. He should never say that drinking alcohol is good. He must be absolutely convinced that drinking alcohol is wrong and that it is harmful. In this way he will be free from his addiction. If he ever supports drinking, then by thinking or saying that there is no harm in it he will suffer a relapse. Questioner: What damage does alcohol cause to the brain? Dadashri : A lcohol makes you lose awareness. When you drink alcohol your awareness is shrouded by the veils of ignorance. These veils of ignorance will accumulate and never leave. You may believe that they have dispersed, but they instead become denser and will turn you into a dull and ineffective individual. You will not be able to think positively or clearly. Those who have managed to overcome their addiction to alcohol have developed a positive attitude and thinking. Questioner: Once the alcohol has created

Questioner: Absolutely true. This kind of thinking needs to be ingrained since childhood. What I want to understand now is, what needs to be done if a childhood friend coming from a very good social background happens to fall a prey to this addiction of smoking. Except for this one vice, he is a very good person. In that case what should be done? Should one break the friendship? Dadashri: To be sincere in our 'gnan' and to maintain relations with such addicts, both won't be possible together. Questioner: But what needs to be done if one is compelled to stay in such company? Then how should one avoid such vices? Dadashri: One should avoid staying with such addicts. Questioner: How can I be free from addiction? Dadashri: You must be convinced that the addiction is wrong and this belief will free you from it. Your conviction should not falter at all and your resolve to be free of the addiction should never change. Only then will you overcome it. But if you say that there is nothing wrong with your

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Dada’s Book Excerpt Do not drink alcohol even in a dream

Dadashri: Do you drink alcohol? Do you contaminate your body in this way? Questioner: Yes, sometimes I do, when there is stress at home. I am being honest with you. Dadashri: Stop your drinking. You have become a slave to it.It is not right for you. This is Dada's agna, so you must not touch alcohol at all. Only then will your life run smoothly and you will no longer need to drink. If you read 'CharanVidhi' (booklet given after the GnanVidhi), you will not need to drink at all. The CharanVidhi will fill you with bliss. Questioner: Of course Dada. But cocktail parties have become the norm of the day and one has to attend those parties if one has to make progress and maintain contacts in business circle. But otherwise I avoid having it. What you state is very much true; one has to keep away from such vices. Dadashri: I am trying to convey this message especially to the youth. Nowadays even these youngsters get these thoughts of having alcohol.

this veil over the awareness, how can it be removed? Dadashri: There is no solution for that. Time is the only remedy. The longer a person abstains from drinking alcohol, the clearer his thinking will be as the veils of ignorance disperse. He will begin to notice the difference as time goes by, but not immediately. Understand that pleasure derived from eating meat and consuming alcohol will have to be repaid. The repayment for this will be that in his next life, he will have to take birth in a lower life form, in the plant and animal kingdom. Every form of external happiness one enjoys will have to be repaid, so one must understand the gravity of this obligation. The world is not haphazard; it will demand a repayment. Only the experience of one's inner bliss does not need to be repaid. So remember you will have to pay back whatever you borrow. Questioner: A person will have to repay by being born in lower life form in his next life, but what are the consequences of eating meat and drinking alcohol in this life? Dadashri: In this life his ignorance will increase. As a result he will become callous and beastly. People around him will not give him any respect.

habit, then you will remain addicted and bound by it.

Consuming Alcohol and Non Vegetarian diet will take one to animal life form. Questioner: They say that if a person has been drinking and using drugs for a long time, it will affect his mind and the effects will last for a long time afterwards. How can one become free from such chronic effects? Dadashri: These remaining effects are the reactions from the addiction. All the sub-atomic particles (parmanoos) within the body need to be cleansed. Once the drinking stops, what should he do then? He needs to keep repeating to himself that it is wrong to drink. He should never say that drinking alcohol is good. He must be absolutely convinced that drinking alcohol is wrong and that it is harmful. In this way he will be free from his addiction. If he ever supports drinking, then by thinking or saying that there is no harm in it he will suffer a relapse. Questioner: What damage does alcohol cause to the brain? Dadashri : A lcohol makes you lose awareness. When you drink alcohol your awareness is shrouded by the veils of ignorance. These veils of ignorance will accumulate and never leave. You may believe that they have dispersed, but they instead become denser and will turn you into a dull and ineffective individual. You will not be able to think positively or clearly. Those who have managed to overcome their addiction to alcohol have developed a positive attitude and thinking. Questioner: Once the alcohol has created

Questioner: Absolutely true. This kind of thinking needs to be ingrained since childhood. What I want to understand now is, what needs to be done if a childhood friend coming from a very good social background happens to fall a prey to this addiction of smoking. Except for this one vice, he is a very good person. In that case what should be done? Should one break the friendship? Dadashri: To be sincere in our 'gnan' and to maintain relations with such addicts, both won't be possible together. Questioner: But what needs to be done if one is compelled to stay in such company? Then how should one avoid such vices? Dadashri: One should avoid staying with such addicts. Questioner: How can I be free from addiction? Dadashri: You must be convinced that the addiction is wrong and this belief will free you from it. Your conviction should not falter at all and your resolve to be free of the addiction should never change. Only then will you overcome it. But if you say that there is nothing wrong with your

Mr. Sharad a senior executive at a national bank was used to shifting at short notice. His wife along with their two sons Akash and Nikhil too had gradually adapted to this nomadic lifestyle. Having been promoted to the regional headquarters of the bank located in Baroda, he was fortunate enough to find a fully furnished bungalow in the same society where his classmate, a very dear friend resided. Both his sons too were enrolled in the same school where Suruchi, his friend's daughter was studying. He felt relieved that his family had settled down prior to his taking charge at the bank.

They had just settled down in the new surroundings when it was already their first day at school. Both Akash and Nikhil were excited as they had eagerly awaited this day in anticipation of making new friends. Dressed in their crisp new uniform, they waited impatiently for Suruchi who was to meet them at the main gate of their society. On seeing Suruchi coming, both the brothers called out in unison, “Hey, come on. Let's get going.” Suruchi, a cheerful young girl studying in Class X, soon joined them. All three exchanged pleasantries and began walking towards school which was just a few

Real Understandingaside and tied her kerchief over the wound on Akash's knee. Then holding his hand she gently blew away dirt from his bruised elbow. Trying to pacify Akash she asked him, “But how did you fall down?” Amidst sobs Akash replied, “I was trying to catch a butterfly. But before I could lay my hands on it, it flew away and as I tried to lunge forward I slipped.” “Oh, so you too like butterflies?” Suruchi continued trying to draw his attention away from the pain. Akash simply nodded. Suruchi took out a candy from her pocket and after removing the colourful wrapper, handed it to Akash. This worked, as by now he had completely forgotten the pain. Suruchi then folded the wrapper to give it the look of a butterfly. Handing it to Akash she said, “Well, now you have your own butterfly and it won't even fly away. Do you like it?”

Feeling extremely pleased with the

care and concern shown by Suruchi, he

embraced her saying, “Thank you didi.”

Holding his hand, Suruchi then resumed

their walk towards school.

Nikhil was feeling totally out of

place and annoyed at the way Suruchi

managed to win over his brother.

Although he was following them he was

lost in his thoughts, 'Since it was her first

time, she could do so patiently. Let's see

how she manages him once she gets to

know of his careless behaviour. I too have

tried to deal patiently with him but he is

not the kind who understands easily. He

has to be dealt with strictly. Besides what

difference does it make to her? I am his

elder brother. I have to discipline him,

even if that needs scolding him or

behaving harshly with him!’

Now let's see what Dadashri has to

say about scolding and getting angry…

blocks away. Both, Nikhil a class VIII student and Suruchi got engrossed discussing academics. Akash the youngest of the three followed them, enjoying the pleasant morning as he jumped across the puddles formed due to early morning showers. They had hardly walked a few steps when Akash saw a beautiful butterfly sucking nectar from flowers across the compound wall. Tempted to catch the butterfly, he stretched himself over the wall but before he could grab it in his outstretched hands, the butterfly flew away. Trying his best to catch it, he lunged forward but slipped on to the wet pavement, getting injured and dirtying his fresh new uniform. Feeling pain and shock, he immediately began crying at the top of his voice. Nikhil and Suruchi immediately turned around and ran towards him. Seeing his little bro in such a messy state Nikhil began

scolding him, “You fool, can't you even walk properly ?” Furiously brushing off the dirt from his brothers shirt he said, “Look what a mess you have made of your new uniform.” A bit upset with Nikhil's attitude, Suruchi barged in saying, “Nikhil, stop being a bully! Can't you see he has injured himself very badly?” But Nikhil did not even bother to look at her. Grabbing Akash's hands Nikhil jerked him up on to his feet as he hollered, “How irresponsible of you. We shall be late on the first day itself. Now let's get moving. We shall arrange for first aid in school.” Realizing that she had to take charge, Suruchi pushed Nikhil

“You fool, can't you even walk properly ?” Furiously brushing off the dirt from his brothers shirt he said, “Look what a mess you

have made of your new uniform.”

How to win over?How to win over?How to win over?

LoveLoveLove

Reprimand Reprimand Reprimand ororor

Mr. Sharad a senior executive at a national bank was used to shifting at short notice. His wife along with their two sons Akash and Nikhil too had gradually adapted to this nomadic lifestyle. Having been promoted to the regional headquarters of the bank located in Baroda, he was fortunate enough to find a fully furnished bungalow in the same society where his classmate, a very dear friend resided. Both his sons too were enrolled in the same school where Suruchi, his friend's daughter was studying. He felt relieved that his family had settled down prior to his taking charge at the bank.

They had just settled down in the new surroundings when it was already their first day at school. Both Akash and Nikhil were excited as they had eagerly awaited this day in anticipation of making new friends. Dressed in their crisp new uniform, they waited impatiently for Suruchi who was to meet them at the main gate of their society. On seeing Suruchi coming, both the brothers called out in unison, “Hey, come on. Let's get going.” Suruchi, a cheerful young girl studying in Class X, soon joined them. All three exchanged pleasantries and began walking towards school which was just a few

Real Understandingaside and tied her kerchief over the wound on Akash's knee. Then holding his hand she gently blew away dirt from his bruised elbow. Trying to pacify Akash she asked him, “But how did you fall down?” Amidst sobs Akash replied, “I was trying to catch a butterfly. But before I could lay my hands on it, it flew away and as I tried to lunge forward I slipped.” “Oh, so you too like butterflies?” Suruchi continued trying to draw his attention away from the pain. Akash simply nodded. Suruchi took out a candy from her pocket and after removing the colourful wrapper, handed it to Akash. This worked, as by now he had completely forgotten the pain. Suruchi then folded the wrapper to give it the look of a butterfly. Handing it to Akash she said, “Well, now you have your own butterfly and it won't even fly away. Do you like it?”

Feeling extremely pleased with the

care and concern shown by Suruchi, he

embraced her saying, “Thank you didi.”

Holding his hand, Suruchi then resumed

their walk towards school.

Nikhil was feeling totally out of

place and annoyed at the way Suruchi

managed to win over his brother.

Although he was following them he was

lost in his thoughts, 'Since it was her first

time, she could do so patiently. Let's see

how she manages him once she gets to

know of his careless behaviour. I too have

tried to deal patiently with him but he is

not the kind who understands easily. He

has to be dealt with strictly. Besides what

difference does it make to her? I am his

elder brother. I have to discipline him,

even if that needs scolding him or

behaving harshly with him!’

Now let's see what Dadashri has to

say about scolding and getting angry…

blocks away. Both, Nikhil a class VIII student and Suruchi got engrossed discussing academics. Akash the youngest of the three followed them, enjoying the pleasant morning as he jumped across the puddles formed due to early morning showers. They had hardly walked a few steps when Akash saw a beautiful butterfly sucking nectar from flowers across the compound wall. Tempted to catch the butterfly, he stretched himself over the wall but before he could grab it in his outstretched hands, the butterfly flew away. Trying his best to catch it, he lunged forward but slipped on to the wet pavement, getting injured and dirtying his fresh new uniform. Feeling pain and shock, he immediately began crying at the top of his voice. Nikhil and Suruchi immediately turned around and ran towards him. Seeing his little bro in such a messy state Nikhil began

scolding him, “You fool, can't you even walk properly ?” Furiously brushing off the dirt from his brothers shirt he said, “Look what a mess you have made of your new uniform.” A bit upset with Nikhil's attitude, Suruchi barged in saying, “Nikhil, stop being a bully! Can't you see he has injured himself very badly?” But Nikhil did not even bother to look at her. Grabbing Akash's hands Nikhil jerked him up on to his feet as he hollered, “How irresponsible of you. We shall be late on the first day itself. Now let's get moving. We shall arrange for first aid in school.” Realizing that she had to take charge, Suruchi pushed Nikhil

“You fool, can't you even walk properly ?” Furiously brushing off the dirt from his brothers shirt he said, “Look what a mess you

have made of your new uniform.”

How to win over?How to win over?How to win over?

LoveLoveLove

Reprimand Reprimand Reprimand ororor

SOLUTI ON

nce a young boy and his uncle were Ojogging in a beautiful garden which had flowers blooming all over. Birds

chirped away merrily, adding a touch of sweetness to the already pleasant atmosphere. After some time they decided to take a break. While they sat on a bench, the young boy noticed that one corner of the garden was very dirty with litter strewn all over. The leftover was attracting stray dogs in search of a meal. Feeling disappointed he said to his uncle “The garbage and dogs are spoiling the entire beauty of this lovely garden.” Deciding to take this opportunity to impart a very crucial message to his nephew his uncle asked, “What do you think should be done?” The boy replied, “It's obvious. The garden needs to be protected by erecting a fence all around to prevent these dogs and other unsocial elements from entering the garden.” His uncle then probed further saying,

“That means none shall enter the garden, which also means that nobody shall be able to jog or play here as well.” The boy swung his hands in the air and replied. “Of course, there should be a gate.” His uncle again asked, “That's fine. But then the dogs too shall enter through the gates. Won't they? This got the young chap thinking. Upon finding a solution he leaped with enthusiasm saying, “It's simple. We can arrange for a watchman to keep a check on who should be allowed and who should be prevented from coming in.” His uncle continued, “Just by looking at the garden your mind processed a lot many thoughts like, it's dirty, it should be protected, how we should protect it, a watchman can be appointed and so on.

All these thoughts were provoked just on viewing the garden. This correlation of image and thoughts is known as 'priming.' Our thoughts are continuously influenced or

PrimingLove Can Conquer All:Questioner: We have a lot many

responsibilities in our lives and it is

our duty to fulfill them. In the

process of carrying out these

responsibilities, occasionally

some harsh words have to be

used. Is that considered a sin?

Dadashri: What are the emotions

mirrored on your face when you

utter these words? Are they

pleasant like a beautiful rose? If

there is disgust on your face,

u n d e r s t a n d t h a t y o u h a v e

committed a sin. So whatever you

have to say, do so calmly with poise

and without using bitter words.

S p e a k c a l m l y w i t h l o v e a n d

understanding, using only a few

words and one day you will win him

over. If you use harsh words, he will

want to enter into confrontation

and you will bind negative karmas.

He too will bind negative karmas

and think, 'you can abuse me while I

am young, but you wait till I grow up.

I shall see you then'. So do not do

such a thing. Instead make him

understand. Love and compassion

will win one day. You might not reap

its rewards immediately so continue

showering your love for some time

and then see its results.

Questioner: What should we do if he

does not understand even after we

have put in our best efforts?

Dadashri: Just shower your love on

him. At the same time you should

a l s o g e n t l y t r y t o m a k e h i m

understand

Questioner: What should be done if our suggestions to

help correct someone's mistake results in that person

feeling hurt? How should one resolve the issue?

Dadashri: There is no problem in guiding him. But you

should know how to do it.

Questioner: How should I guide him?

Dadashri: If you tell him, 'Stupid fellow, you are just like a

donkey' won't he feel offended? Doesn't he have self

respect too? If your boss were to tell you the same words

at work, how would you feel? Therefore avoid using such

foul language. You only have to guide him.

Questioner: How should I do it?

Dadashri: Sit with him and tell him gently that civilized

and respectable people do not do such things. You

should talk to him gently and lovingly. Instead, what you

do is beat him and scold him. How can this be acceptable?

Without love there can be no solution. In fact, even when

you grow a plant, you have to nurture it with love. Merely

pouring water over it will not suffice.

SOLUTI ON

nce a young boy and his uncle were Ojogging in a beautiful garden which had flowers blooming all over. Birds

chirped away merrily, adding a touch of sweetness to the already pleasant atmosphere. After some time they decided to take a break. While they sat on a bench, the young boy noticed that one corner of the garden was very dirty with litter strewn all over. The leftover was attracting stray dogs in search of a meal. Feeling disappointed he said to his uncle “The garbage and dogs are spoiling the entire beauty of this lovely garden.” Deciding to take this opportunity to impart a very crucial message to his nephew his uncle asked, “What do you think should be done?” The boy replied, “It's obvious. The garden needs to be protected by erecting a fence all around to prevent these dogs and other unsocial elements from entering the garden.” His uncle then probed further saying,

“That means none shall enter the garden, which also means that nobody shall be able to jog or play here as well.” The boy swung his hands in the air and replied. “Of course, there should be a gate.” His uncle again asked, “That's fine. But then the dogs too shall enter through the gates. Won't they? This got the young chap thinking. Upon finding a solution he leaped with enthusiasm saying, “It's simple. We can arrange for a watchman to keep a check on who should be allowed and who should be prevented from coming in.” His uncle continued, “Just by looking at the garden your mind processed a lot many thoughts like, it's dirty, it should be protected, how we should protect it, a watchman can be appointed and so on.

All these thoughts were provoked just on viewing the garden. This correlation of image and thoughts is known as 'priming.' Our thoughts are continuously influenced or

PrimingLove Can Conquer All:Questioner: We have a lot many

responsibilities in our lives and it is

our duty to fulfill them. In the

process of carrying out these

responsibilities, occasionally

some harsh words have to be

used. Is that considered a sin?

Dadashri: What are the emotions

mirrored on your face when you

utter these words? Are they

pleasant like a beautiful rose? If

there is disgust on your face,

u n d e r s t a n d t h a t y o u h a v e

committed a sin. So whatever you

have to say, do so calmly with poise

and without using bitter words.

S p e a k c a l m l y w i t h l o v e a n d

understanding, using only a few

words and one day you will win him

over. If you use harsh words, he will

want to enter into confrontation

and you will bind negative karmas.

He too will bind negative karmas

and think, 'you can abuse me while I

am young, but you wait till I grow up.

I shall see you then'. So do not do

such a thing. Instead make him

understand. Love and compassion

will win one day. You might not reap

its rewards immediately so continue

showering your love for some time

and then see its results.

Questioner: What should we do if he

does not understand even after we

have put in our best efforts?

Dadashri: Just shower your love on

him. At the same time you should

a l s o g e n t l y t r y t o m a k e h i m

understand

Questioner: What should be done if our suggestions to

help correct someone's mistake results in that person

feeling hurt? How should one resolve the issue?

Dadashri: There is no problem in guiding him. But you

should know how to do it.

Questioner: How should I guide him?

Dadashri: If you tell him, 'Stupid fellow, you are just like a

donkey' won't he feel offended? Doesn't he have self

respect too? If your boss were to tell you the same words

at work, how would you feel? Therefore avoid using such

foul language. You only have to guide him.

Questioner: How should I do it?

Dadashri: Sit with him and tell him gently that civilized

and respectable people do not do such things. You

should talk to him gently and lovingly. Instead, what you

do is beat him and scold him. How can this be acceptable?

Without love there can be no solution. In fact, even when

you grow a plant, you have to nurture it with love. Merely

pouring water over it will not suffice.

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“Son, you must have observed how a photo can influence our choice of alphabets. It means that merely by viewing an image we associate a lot of things, views and thoughts with that image in our sub-conscious mind. You won't think of the term 'soup' when you see a washroom. And when you see a bowl of soup you will never use the alphabet 'a' to fill the blank. This is because the moment you see the image, a second detailed image is automatically 'primed' in your mind. Now if only 1 picture can have such an influence, can you imagine the kind of impact a video can have on you? It processes approximately 25 to 30 photos per second. Hence, it is said… 'A picture speaks a thousand words & a video speaks a thousand pictures.' T h e a b o v e a c t i v i t y i s a p a r t o f experiments conducted by Josephson in 1987. He studied the effect of priming based on violent media. He gathered young boys and divided them into two groups. One group saw a

violent movie clip for 30 seconds while the other group saw a non-violent clip for 30 seconds. After viewing this, the boys were interviewed and then sent to the playing field to play hockey. Josephson observed them both on and off ground for aggressive behaviour such as pushing other boys down and using abusive and foul language. He found that boys who had watched the violent clip acted more violently than those who had watched the non-violent clip. Hence we can clearly say that you should be very selective of what you choose to watch or play. If you watch videos which promote violence and bad deeds, your entire mind will be primed with such thoughts. Likewise, if you are surrounded by bad influence, then your mind will be primed accordingly. Ultimately it's your inner thoughts that can make you happy or unhappy. If you play a violent game, your mind will be primed for being violent and this in turn will make you aggressive. Thoughts of

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aggression will ultimately make you unhappy. So it is up to you to choose either creative and constructive priming or destructive priming.” His uncle continued further, “Just as a watchman was needed to take care of the garden, we too need a watchman to take care of our mind and nourish it with good, creative and positive thoughts. Now the question is who do you think is the best watchman for your mind?” The boy thought aloud, “Who can be the best watchman? My parents? Teachers? Friends? ” To this his uncle replied, “Your parents, friends and teachers can only act as the fence around the garden and can tell you what is good or bad for you. But it is YOU who needs to act as a watchman. No other person can do that for you.” He then added, “Your mind is like a beautiful garden full of creation, igniting ideas and fruitful thoughts. As soon as you saw stray dogs in the garden, you immediately reacted and started thinking about it. This is priming. You felt irritated because of the filth you observed in the otherwise beautiful garden. This made you unhappy. This filth is also present within us in the form of 'kashaays' (Anger, pride, deceit, greed). These 'kashaays' can make your mind dirty and unhealthy. Like you suggested erecting a fence to protect the garden, similarly you should also protect your mind and ensure that none of the 'kashaays' enter it. For the safety of the beautiful garden you also suggested to appoint a watchman. Likewise, you are the watchman of your mind. It depends solely upon you whether you want to allow 'kashaays' to enter your mind or not. If 'kashaays' enter your mind they will definitely make you…” “UNHAPPY”, said the boy completing the unfinished sentence. He continued, “From now on I shall be aware of 'kashaays' and won't allow them to cross the fence. And of course if there is garbage in the garden, I will clean it rather than complain.”

Examples We can play games like SimCity (iOS), Sudoku, Candy Crush etc which are much more

constructive and creative and do not instigate any form of violence within ourselves. We can choose to watch channels like National Geography, Discovery, History channel etc which will feed us with lots of general knowledge. We can also choose to read books on self development as well as spiritual books which will ultimately 'prim' the image for us and radiate both our inner and outer self.

motivated by external and internal evidences (surroundings) and factors. To help you get a better understanding of the above statement, let us go through a fun activity. Just fill in the blanks while looking at the pictures…”

Conclusion - Our behavior is influenced by subtle things that lie beyond our conscious awareness.

When we watch an image, it is deciphered (interpreted) in our sub-conscious mind with a larger image.

For example – if you simply watch the image of restaurant, a much

larger image of various cuisines will form in your sub conscious mind.

This is priming.