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Revolutionize and ResetYour Thinking
In 21 Days
Dr. Lovella P. Mogere
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© by Dr. Lovella P. Mogere the author of Revolutionize and Reset Your Thinking In Just 21 Days. Revolutionize And Reset Your Thinking In Just 21 Days, Dr. Lovella P. Mogere retains solecopyright to her contributions to this book.
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Table of ContentsIntroduction...................................................................................7Day 1.............................................................................................8
Change Your Thinking..............................................................8Day 2............................................................................................11
Self Improvement....................................................................11Day 3...........................................................................................14
Self-Awareness.......................................................................14Day 4...........................................................................................15
Gratitude.................................................................................15Day 5...........................................................................................17
When Will Things Get Better?................................................17Day 6...........................................................................................19
Conquer Your Fear..................................................................19Day 7...........................................................................................21
De-clutter Your Mind..............................................................21Day 8...........................................................................................23
You Are Significant................................................................23Day 9...........................................................................................25
Life Is A Gift..........................................................................25Day 10.........................................................................................27
You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting.................................27Day 11..........................................................................................29
Wherever You Are, Be There.................................................29Day 12.........................................................................................31
Perception...............................................................................31Day 13.........................................................................................33
Get A New Perspective ..........................................................33Day 14.........................................................................................35
Have An Open Mind...............................................................35Day 15.........................................................................................37
Words Are Seeds ....................................................................37Day 16.........................................................................................39
Will Excuses Be Your Defeated Foe? ....................................39Day 17.........................................................................................41
Old Pain Reopen Wounds.......................................................41Day 18.........................................................................................43
So You Need Approval? ........................................................43
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Day 19 ........................................................................................45Time Wasters...........................................................................45
Day 20.........................................................................................47 Get Unstuck!..........................................................................47
Day 21.........................................................................................49Your Esteem............................................................................49
Books by Lovella Mogere...........................................................51
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Introduction
“Reset Your Thinking 21 Day Challenge”
t's a new year, a time for new resolutions, setting goals
and revamping one's lifestyle. A time in which you're
reinventing yourself, and envisioning a futuristic you.
But, it goes beyond that. It requires a new mindset, new
rules in communication, a shift in perspective … from word
to visual.
IIt's time to evaluate, be selective of the information
that you receive, and put together the pieces that will form
a new picture of the future YOU. This 21-day challenge will
impact mindsets as they pertain to business, politics,
government, ministry and your personal lifestyle.
It's time to Reset (set again or make different) Your
Thinking. Experts recommend that we cleanse our minds
regularly from toxic thoughts that build up and hinder us
from a positive outlook, just as we detox our bodies to
eliminate toxins. The more you reset - set again or make
different - your thoughts by putting into practice
intentional thinking, the easier it becomes, and soon your
new mindset will be an intrinsic part of you. Become the
futuristic YOU.
Dr. Lovella P. Mogere
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Day 1
Change Your Thinking
“There is a law in psychology that if you form a picture in your
mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that
picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you
have been thinking.” —William James
Reset You Thinking!
ou will become exactly what you have been
thinking. What are your thoughts about the
futuristic you? Did you know that your thoughts
control what happens to you? Thoughts help you create
your reality your experience. Whether that experience is
good or bad, all of them are determined by your thoughts.
Thoughts dictate your emotional state. They affect your
health. Thoughts even influence what you do and say to
people. No matter what the situation or circumstances,
everything you do stems from thought. Then, the thought
turns into feelings, which turn into actions.
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Would you believe many of our thoughts are
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centered around worry? Sometimes, we are not aware of
this, nevertheless they are. When we worry about
something, we have no control over it. What is actually
happening is that our fear has been turned inside. Usually,
this is a result of some type of mental programming that
tells us about all the bad things that will happen, even
before the event happens.
In order for you to become productive in life, you
must learn to control and change your thoughts. And,
because thoughts turn into words, we must learn to use the
right types of words to correspond with that which enters
our minds daily. Also, remember that not all thoughts
produce actions that lead to results. The only thoughts that
will elicit results are those that are predominating. Because
our thoughts are powerful, and can dictate what happens to
us, we must learn to control and change them.
But, what happens in situations when we start
thinking negative thoughts? This happens to all of us from
time to time. You may be in a very stressful situation, and
find that you are thinking the worst worst-case scenario,
instead of thinking positively. While you are thinking
negatively, emotions come into play and accompany those
thoughts. You begin to panic, and our heart races. You start
thinking of things clearly imagined, and you become
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irrational. What can you do in this situation? At this time,
you will need to stop, remind yourself of the Law of
Attraction, and get your thinking back on track. So what
should you be doing at this very moment? Remove and
change negative words from your vocabulary (e.g., “ever,”
“can’t” and “try”). Identify those times when you tend to
use negative words. If you say something negative, follow
up that statement with a positive one. For example: “I just
can’t run.” Follow up: “I can run in the park or on a
treadmill.”
Start today and write each positive affirmation
thought that you have choose chosen on a whiteboard
throughout the day.
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Day 2
Self Improvement
“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change
anything.”― George Bernard Shaw
Reset Your Thinking!
tillness, which is the loudest, your thoughts or your
soul? Which cries for your attention? Though you
cultivate your gifts, don't starve your soul. Too
many times we build, cultivate and nurture the imagery of
which we are, and forget the soul. You and your soul are
one.
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When your soul is empty your mind wonders, not
being open and willing to learn and consider all pieces of
information; like a child discovering something for the first
time. As you develop knowledge and expertise, your mind
naturally becomes more closed. You tend to think, “I
already know how to do this”, and you become less open to
new information.
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There is a danger that comes with expertise. We tend
to block the information that disagrees with what we
learned previously, and yield to the information that
confirms to our current approach. We think we are
learning, but in reality we are steamrolling through
information and conversations. We are waiting until we
hear something that matches up with our current
philosophy or previous experience, and information to
justify our current behaviors and beliefs. Most people don’t
want new information, they want validating information.
Here are a few practical ways to begin your self-
improvement.
1. Get moving- Inactivity is beat only by movement. Once
you get going, momentum builds up and inertia is no longer
a factor.
2. Ignore failures-We will always give in to temptation.
Plan for it, accept it, and move on. There’s no need to beat
yourself up.
3. Motivate yourself. Most importantly, you want to
really want it. It’s not enough to feel pressure to do
something; you have to really desire it. I mean, really desire
it, not just think it’s something you should do, or that you’ll
be a better person for doing it.
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4. Be accountable. Laziness, the second perpetrator, is
beat by a bit of public pressure. We all get lazy from time to
time (or, to be more honest, all the time), and there’s
nothing wrong with that. But to beat laziness, we must
apply a bit of pressure, in the form of accountability.
Reset your thinking, read something inspirational,
such as a devotional, self-improvement or self-help book
for 30 minutes. Write each positive affirmation you choose
on a whiteboard, or a notebook throughout the day.
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Day 3
Self-Awareness
“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do
next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding
the answer.” –Denis Waitley
Reset Your Thinking!
elf-awareness means you are in touch with yourself,
with your feelings, your actions, and your desires.
Having a clear perception of who you are, your
strengths, weaknesses and your beliefs, allows you to
understand how others perceive you, and helps you
understand others’ reactions to you, as well.
SThe more you develop your self-awareness, the
better you are able to direct your own path, and adjust your
thoughts and actions to align with your goals. Resetting
your thoughts is one of your 2016 goals. This is a great time
to focus on something you’ve been putting off. Now you can
create a detailed plan on how you will finish it.
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Day 4
Gratitude
"Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel, to say your
nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to
overcome evil and welcome good.” -Maya Angelou
Reset Your Thinking!
e aware of your feelings and how you savor this
gift in your imagination. Take the time to be
especially aware of the depth of your gratitude.BRest Your Thinking requires daily gratitude exercises
resulting in higher levels of alertness, enthusiasm,
determination, optimism and energy. Additionally, your
gratitude makes you more likely to help others and achieve
your personal goals.
Research has proven that practicing gratitude
reduces fear, anxiety, high blood pressure, and heart
disease. Bottom line, gratitude can extend your life. Take
the time today to begin your gratitude journal. Take it one
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step further and write down 5 things that you're grateful
for, and tell a close friend.
Let me recap. Your gratitude results in …
1. Less depression and stress
2. Higher levels of alertness
3. More enthusiasm
4. More energy
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Day 5
When Will Things Get Better?
“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.”
-Kenji Miyazawa
Reset Your Thinking!
top waiting for different results with the same
pattern of thinking and methodology. Everyone’s
circumstances are different, but in a society where
hope can seem unattainable, it can be easy to come to the
conclusion that things can’t get better. No matter how dark
your circumstances are, life is happening. Even as you cope
with all that has changed and what you may have lost, do
you take the time to see how much you have? This is a good
time to count your blessings.
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Hope is "confident expectation”. Hope is a firm
assurance regarding things that are unclear and unknown.
Your present day truth (reality) will conflict with your
subconscious (your perceptions) of yesterday. For a greater
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you, your greater mind must embrace change for a better
outcome. Hope helps us push through some of the toughest
times in our lives, and gives us the strength to get to that
finish line when we don’t think anything else will. We’re all
human beings who make mistakes, and have to live our
lives the way in which they were meant to happen. Allow
your hope to propel you into the unknown, the next chapter
of your life. No matter who you are, no matter what you
did, no matter where you’ve come from, you can always
change and become an improved version of yourself.
Let's face it, many great things can be done in a day,
if you don’t always make that day tomorrow. Don’t let your
fear of making a mistake stop you. A life spent making
mistakes is not only more enjoyable but more useful than a
life spent doing nothing. Things will get better when you
start to live life without regrets.
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Day 6
Conquer Your Fear
"Energy and persistence conquer all things"
-Benjamin Franklin
Reset Your Thinking!
ear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief
that someone or something is dangerous, likely to
cause pain, or is a threat. Fear is in the
background, an it convinces us we can never accomplish
our dreams, tells us to keep quiet, and separates us from
the ones we love. Fear suffocates us, and it has an
unparalleled ability to freeze us in our tracks, and limit
what we are willing to try. Fear makes us lead a mediocre
life.
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It's time to face your fears. It is important to note
that some fears are healthy, while some situations should
be avoided for your own personal safety. There are no hero
points awarded for going into a personally threatening
situation. However, if the threat is more mental than
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physical, actually doing the thing that you’re afraid of can
be the best antidote.
Don’t forget that it is often easiest to do this in steps.
If your biggest fear is public speaking (and it is for the
majority of us) don’t offer to address the room at the next
stock director’s meeting, but do try something smaller.
Consider leading your next departmental meeting, or give a
small talk at your next group meeting, something with a
small audience and familiar faces; then, work your way up
from there. Facing your fears is a process. You, and only
you, can face them.
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Day 7
De-clutter Your Mind
“Clutter is the physical manifestation of unmade decisions
fueled by procrastination” – Christine Scalise
Reset your thinking!
mind that sometimes cannot find the calm that
we so desperately seek is a cluttered mind. There’s
something a lot worse than having a cluttered
home or workspace, and that’s having a cluttered mind. A
cluttered mind is restless and unfocused. It tries to move in
many different directions at once, and the result is that very
little gets done.
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A good way to start is by resetting your thinking, and
clear out some space in your head. You can get started by
following the 10 ways to de-clutter your mind, and free up
mental space, which follows:
1. De-clutter your physical space – (physical clutter
leads to mental clutter)
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2. Write your thoughts down – (write what’s stored in
your brain)
3. Let go of the past – (let go of the mistakes, the guilt)
4. Stop multitasking (organize/de-clutter any area of
importance)
5. Keep a journal – (download your inner chatter)
6. Monitor the amount of information coming in (stop
the overload of information)
7. Be decisive (make a decision)
8. Prioritize – (focus on what’s important)
Have a regimen about your day – plan and organize
the details of your day. Learn to meditate – focus the mind.
Mental clutter leads to congestion in our inner world. It
gets in the way of us being able to think clearly, and to focus
on what really matters. This year begin by Resetting Your
Thinking.
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Day 8
You Are Significant
“I’m still thinking and hoping there’s an opportunity for people
to have better lives and that significant change can occur.”
–Tracy Chapman
Reset Your Thinking!
ou may have been rejected by the other kids at
school, never fit-in with the crowd, and always
felt like you were different. This may have
caused you to believe that there is something wrong with
you. It may have made you afraid of getting close to people.
It may have made you more introverted than you naturally
are.
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Or you may have heard a lot of criticism and negative
talk from the people closest to you. This may have affected
your self-esteem, making you feel worthless. You may live
in fear and doubt your ability to do anything. You may
struggle to accept the unconditional love of God. Or you
may have had experiences when someone has broken your
trust, taken advantage of you or abused you. This may
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cause you to be cold and hard-hearted towards people,
building up barriers to prevent anyone from hurting you
again. Trusting others and even God may be really
challenging for you.
Know This! The Creator made you in His image and
He does not make mistakes. When He created the world,
He saw that it was good. When He created male and female,
He saw that it was very good! When you were born God
saw that you were very good! You were created by Him, for
His glory. Say a prayer today. Ask God to show you your
significance and write them down.
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Day 9
Life Is A Gift
“God predetermined the destiny of my life, the moment I was
conceived in my mother’s womb. All the distractions of life,
never prevented God to fulfill His purpose for my life.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita
Reset Your Thinking!
f you take your life seriously, you truly understand
and appreciate each day is a gift. Sometimes, because
our life is so busy, we forget how fragile life is. It is so
ironic that we get a glimpse of this, when someone is dying,
diagnosis with a chronic disease, or when we see or hear
something terrible happening around us. But, in the here
and now, we tend to forget to live life to the fullest.
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Quality of life should not be quantified, nor should it
be compared to another's. Your life itself is the best gift
ever. It is a precious gift, nothing more, nothing less. Unless
you understand this truth, you can waste it and take life for
granted.
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Appreciation goes a long way. Avoid complaining
today (crazy traffic, have a bad hair day). When you find
yourself getting ready to complain, instead, say something
for which you’re grateful.
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Day 10
You Are The One You’ve Been Waiting
“Just keep coming home to yourself. You are the one you’ve
been waiting for.” – Bryron Katie
Reset Your Thinking!
ife wants us to see that all of the qualities and
experiences that we are longing for are outside of
ourselves. As we grow, and evolve life has its way
of letting us see the reality of things. As awareness takes
place, and cycles are broken over and over again, and
dimensions of present day truth are revealed, we begin
laying a new foundation. This doesn’t mean we don’t need
anyone or anything outside of ourselves, but it means that
we truly get it, that the power for everything we want begins
with US.
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What you’ve been waiting for to get you to the next
level, the next phase in life, begins with you. Though you’re
waiting on people, you fail to realize that it is your
substance, intellect, skills, and talent that draws people of
your caliber. So, why wait for something to happen or for a
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specific someone? You can create it now, because the
resources to do it are within you.
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Day 11
Wherever You Are, Be There
“Perhaps the most “spiritual” thing any of us can do is simply to
look through our own eyes, see with eyes of wholeness, and act
with integrity and kindness.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Reset Your Thinking!
s we go through the day, we may find ourselves
focusing on past experiences or future
possibilities. We are so involved in yesterday
and tomorrow that we never notice that today in
slipping by. We go through the day rather than getting
something from the day. We are everywhere, at any given
moment in time, yet we are not living in the present
moment of time.
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Wherever you are, be there, stop living in the past.
Stop bringing your past into your future. “Just be where
you are, when you’re there”. Maybe you are not there
yet, because you’re getting over your past. Instead, of
dwelling on it, look at where you are now, and how far
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you’ve come. Not only are you closer to your goal than
when you started, but there are many things to be grateful
for all around you that you do not want to miss.
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Day 12
Perception
“We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define
us.” –Virginia Satir
Reset Your Thinking!
he way that you interpret your life experience
creates your identity. So, what does it take to
become the best version of you? Why are you so
hard on yourself? From the time you were born, you’ve
received both positive and negative messages from your
surroundings.
TAll those messages indelibly programmed into your
subconscious to create your belief system. They become the
filters through which we create our reality … our self-
image, acting on them as if they’re true. While they don’t
change the world around us, they filter our life experience
until we believe them to be true.
You become the person you think you are. If you
think you’re someone who will never amount to anything…
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guess what? You’re right. These beliefs and how we respond
to them become your “head-space!” What exactly is head-
space? Head-space is that place in your mind where your
thoughts, (both positive and negative) and judgments about
yourself and your environment combine to create your
reality.
So, are we doomed by our perceptions of the past?
Can we never get out of our negative head-space? Of course,
we can! But it takes work. You can improve your head-
space and improve the quality of your life. If you believe
you are a person who cannot succeed, then success will
evade you. You will subconsciously create failure as a self-
fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you are a person who can
succeed, then you will act accordingly! Again, this becomes
a self-fulfilling prophecy!
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Day 13
Get A New Perspective
“The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a comedy to those
who think.” ― Horace Walpole
Reset Your Thinking!
ou know what the real enemy to happiness is?
It’s not sadness, or failure or fear… it’s
complacency. It’s becoming so comfortable with
just being comfortable that we stop trying to make things
better. We even stop trying to make things different. .
YWe go on and on, satisfied with being good enough,
and we don’t realize that nothing is really all that good,
until we wake up one day and find ourselves miserable.
Sometime, before we reach that point, there are chances,
windows that can be thrown open to let in some fresh air
and sunlight. Changing your life doesn’t always mean
turning your entire world upside down; sometimes it’s just
about getting a new perspective about yourself, and the
world around you.
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Take time to be quiet and meditative. Open yourself
to receiving guidance and new information about your life.
Simply by having the intention to be open to receiving
guidance can often set off a new stream of experiences,
naturally directing your next steps on your path to greater
prospects.
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Day 14
Have An Open Mind
“The trouble with having an open mind, of course, is that peoplewill insist on coming along and trying to put things in it.” –
Terry Pratchett
Reset Your Thinking!
eing open-minded can be really tough sometimes.
Most of us are brought up with a set of beliefs and
values, and throughout our lives, we tend to
surround ourselves with people who share the same values
and beliefs. Therefore, it can be difficult when we’re faced
with ideas that challenge our own. Though we may wish to
be open-minded, we may struggle with the act of it.
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One of the scariest (and greatest) things about
seeing the world through an open mind is that one must be
vulnerable and transparent. In agreeing to have an open-
minded view of the world, you’re admitting you don’t know
everything, and that there are possibilities that you may not
have considered. This is the perfect time to consider
RETOOLING (equipping) YOURSELF. Be spontaneous,
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have new experiences, challenge your beliefs to do
something out of your norm. It can be very liberating to
look at the world through an open mind.
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Day 15
Words Are Seeds
“Think twice before you speak, because your words and
influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the
mind of another.” –Napoleon Hill
Reset Your Thinking!
eeds are powerful and have great potential for good
or harm, depending on what is locked up in the
seed. Seeds have limited potential, but God’s have
unlimited potential. That is why it is important we speak
God’s words and not just our own.
SWe do not know how the seed grows but it does! God
speaks in outcomes and then the processes are released to
manifest that. We are to plant God’s outcomes in our heart
and continue to water our faith in those outcomes by our
confession of faith.
The growth process works the same towards the bad
as well as the good. So many people have deeply rooted
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problems in their life because of wrong believing and
wrong confession. They have believed a lie and have
spoken in line with it so long that it is deeply rooted in their
lives and bearing a lot of bad fruit! You can uproot these
wrong plants by renouncing the lies and by beginning to
sow good seeds and watering them. It will not happen
overnight but it can start today.
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Day 16
Will Excuses Be Your Defeated Foe?
“Leadership is about taking responsibility, not making excuses.”
–Mitt Romney
Reset Your Thinking!
he dangers of excuses ... Excuses are devastating
to marriages, businesses and relationships.
Excuses will cause you to become self-focused and
selfish. Excuses cause you to lose sight of your purpose,
missing the mark for your life. Excuses justify where you
are - complacency. Excuses validate mediocrity, causing
one to validate why they are broke, stagnated and non-
progressive in their life.
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Excuses, are beginning projects, books, business,
ministry with excitement, and not finishing them. Excuses
champion a defeated outlook and mentality. Will excuses
be Your defeated foe? The adversary is not to blame; rather
it is simply one’s way of thinking. Excuse is he language of
victims. Are you still a victim of your circumstance? Know
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this, the problem is not the pain of trial, and it is not the
trial itself. It is our response. What will your responses be
today? Stop the excuses, and respond to the situation at
hand with an open mind.
Let today be the day. Write down what you have
been avoiding, what you didn’t confront, what needs your
attention, then pray, ask the Lord to guide you, and give
you ways to handle the situation gracefully.
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Day 17
Old Pain Reopen Wounds
“Turn your wounds into wisdom.” ― Oprah Winfrey
Reset Your Thinking!
hat horrible pain that you are feeling right now
will go away, since time heals everything. Just
keep that in mind and don’t beat yourself up if you
still haven’t managed to get past your former relationship,
even if you broke up with your partner quite some time ago
or there was a disagreement between you and your closest
friend, time still heals all wounds.
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Sometimes it’s not so easy to walk away when that
unfortunate event leaves some pretty nasty scars on your
emotional well-being. Sometimes, love fades and there’s
nothing you can do to change that. There’s no point in
wondering obsessively about what happened, what you did
wrong or what you could have done to prevent it, because
most of the time it’s nobody’s fault if you have outgrown
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your partner or that friend, these things just happen. It’s
time to move on and leave the past behind.
1. Give yourself time will heal –give yourself
enough time to heal
2. Learn to forgive –him/her for what was
said/done
3. Write a letter –say everything you wanted
to say to end the madness
4. Have a symbolic ceremony –get rid of
clothing, pics, delete texts, SAY
GOODBYE!
5. Empty Chair –say what you wanted to say,
get it off your chest
6. Don’t forget yourself –time to build self
again #appreciate self
7. Apologize – for your wrongdoing, then
forgive yourself
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Day 18
So You Need Approval?
“Courage, not compromise, brings the smile of God’s approval.”
–Thomas S. Monson
Reset Your Thinking!
pproval is like a killer drug (it induces stupor or
insensibility to your identity). You approval
seeking becomes addictive, and you quickly
develop a need for more. When you have a need for
approval you value the beliefs, opinions and needs of others
above your own. Their opinion of you is far more important
to you than your own view of yourself.
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Receiving disapproval becomes a painful
(heartbreaking) experience. Your entire decision-making
processes are eventually taken over by your need for the
approval of others. You cannot take any decisive action
without their approval. You’ll sacrifice your own dreams
and ambitions in order to have their approval. Why? You
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may argue that you do not engage in approval seeking
behavior. However, there are common behaviors that you
may fail to recognize as approval seeking. Do you?
1. Change your position, because someone appears to
disapprove
2. Pay insincere compliments to gain approval
3. Feel upset, worried, or insulted when someone disagrees
with you
4. Express agreement (verbally or non-verbally) when you
do not agree
5. Do something which you do not want to do, because you
are afraid to say ‘No’
Behavior that is contrary to your identity and
purpose, or conflicts with your core beliefs, is generally
done to gain the approval of someone else. One of the
easiest ways to avoid approval seeking is to live a life that is
true to your own values and true to yourself.
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Day 19
Time Wasters
Better three hours too soon than a minute too late.”
–William Shakespeare
Reset Your Thinking!
o you have a “time-waster,” of which you are
guilty? Mine is being on the Internet too long. I
find that if I go online at the end of my workday
or at least until I finish the most important tasks of the day,
I am more productive and less likely to “wander” around in
cyberspace.
DTime is a very precious resource. The fact is that
regardless of how well you manage time, at the end of a day,
you will still only have had 24 hours. In one year there are
still only 8,760 hours. The key is using your time efficiently
and eliminating time wasters from your day. Your attitudes
and behaviors affect how you use your time. Below are
some examples of ineffective use of time. By substituting
what’s not working for you with a more effective behavior
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and/or attitude you’re on the road to managing your time.
You can start with:
1. Less Interruptions/Distractions
2. Organizing and planning your day
3 Implementing ... stop putting off things to do-
procrastinating
4. Being easy on yourself, lighten up perfectionist
5. Stop trying to do everything yourself
6. Evaluating the task – take on only as much as you can
handle
7. Having a crisis management plan in place
8. Limiting your socializing (have a time frame)
9. Retooling yourself if you’re lacking in skills
Time is of the essence. This is the time to be more
productive, more efficient. Stop wasting time. Take the time
to reflect, access and document how and where you’re
wasting your time.
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Day 20
Get Unstuck!
“I need to find creative diversity because if I get stuck, I get
unhappy.” –Jill Scott
Reset Your Thinking!
he year has just begun. Do you feel you hit a
plateau in life? Do you feel like you’re going
through a phase that lacks significant progress?
Are you still trying to figure out what to do with your life?
TSome people refer to this as being “stuck in a rut.” I
just call it stuck. And once identified, sometimes it’s a
mystery as to how to get unstuck. Your lackluster outlook
might have you encountering a sense of “blah” - not happy
or depressed, or you are just not content and are craving
something different. You might also feel exhausted, off-
track, unmotivated or worried. All of those are normal
experiences that you may not give much thought to when
you’re at your best, but every once in awhile these
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unwelcome little obstacles catch up and it’s a struggle to
move forward. So what do you do to get unstuck?
My number one job as a Leader is supporting people
as they move forward, primarily because they’re stuck,
stuck in jobs, relationships, health and more. So here are
some ways to help you get out of a rut:
1. Face your fears - What exactly is stopping you from
moving forward?
2. Define your goals – run a vision board workshop at
the change of every season, because one vision board per
lifetime (or year, even) is never enough.
3. Set a reward for breakthroughs –Determine short-
term milestones and rewards. What are your turning
points?
Once you apply these steps above, you will have a
sense of direction. Your will break significant barriers and
become unstuck making new achievements. Take one step
at a time in order to come out of the rut you’re in.
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Day 21
Your Esteem
“Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them
with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle
with your demons will cause your angels to sing.”
-August Wilson
Reset Your Thinking!
ow self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself.
This type of evaluation usually occurs when some
circumstance we encounter in our life touches on
our sensitivities. We personalize the incident and
experience physical, emotional, and cognitive arousal. This
is so alarming and confusing that we respond by acting in a
self-defeating or self-destructive manner. When that
happens, our actions tend to be automatic and impulse-
driven; we feel upset or emotionally blocked; our thinking
narrows; our self-care deteriorates; we lose our sense of
self; we focus on being in control and become self-
absorbed.
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Self-esteem is not set in stone. Raising it is possible, but not
easy. Your self-esteem grows as you face your fears and
learn from your experiences. You can start by doing these
steps.
1. Practice self-care. Make new lifestyle choices by
joining self-help groups and practicing positive health care.
2. Stop and take notice. Pay attention to the familiarity
of the impulse. Our tendency is to overreact in the same
way to the same incident. Awareness of the similarity can
be the cue to slow our reactivity.
3. Choose response. Hold self-defeating impulses. Act in
a self-caring and effective way. By choosing to act in a more
functional way, we take a step toward facing our fears.
Your Esteem is the building up of your self. Begin
today by practicing self care, pay attention to your impulses
and choose carefully your response to every situation.
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