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Resolving Conflict and Handling Difficult People Problems
Presented by:Andrew C. Marris, MBA
Learning and Development Manager
FRONTLINE LEADERSHIP SERIESSESSION 4
INGETEAM | February 2015INGETEAM | February 2015
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AGENDA
This program has been designed and will be conducted to help you:
Know the sources of conflict
Identify strategies to constructively handle conflict
Deal with difficult coworkers
Understand how change can cause people to become difficult
CONFLICT AND THE PROACTIVE QUESTION
Example:
Why is there so much conflict in the workplace?
CONFLICT DISCUSSION
1. Is conflict negative or positive?
2. When is conflict a positive event?
3. What kinds of things can cause a conflict to turn negative?
4. What can a leader do to help the conflict move in a positive direction? Can you think of an example?
CONFLICT: THE ROOT CAUSE
Knowing where the conflict comes from is the key to resolution.
The source of most conflict comes from
Conflict is intensified when there are great differences in the amount and the source.
CARING.
SOURCES OF CONFLICT
Caring
Information
Methods
Goals
Values
VALUE CONFLICT AREAS
“Older” “Younger”
Employees Employees
Loyalty
Technology
Work/Lifestyle Balance
Perception of Authority
Change
CONFLICT RESOLUTION: BETWEEN YOU AND ME
The Process of “Talking It Out”
Steps:
Step 1: Define the problem
Step 2: Listen to get their story
Step 3: Explain your side
Step 4: Get agreement
Step 5: Work out a solution together
CONFLICT MANAGEMENT STYLES
Aggressive/Confrontational
Assertive/Persuasive
Avoiding/Reactive
Observant/Introspective
Su
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Non-supportive Supportive
DIFFICULT PEOPLE AND THE PROACTIVE QUESTION
Example:
Why do people have to be so difficult to work with?
DIFFICULT PEOPLE
Think of a difficult person that you currently work with, or a difficult person that you have worked with in the past. Identify specific behaviors that make this person difficult.
EMPLOYEE DEFENSIVE TACTICS
Intimidator
Bellyacher
Dummy (like a fox)
Dodger
Wimp
STRATEGIES FOR DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE
1. Review the situation
2. Identify inappropriate behaviors
3. Identify negative results
4. Plan new actions
5. Give feedback
6. Document
7. Stay calm
JUST-CAUSE STANDARDS
Reasonable
Uniform
Known
Active
Investigated
Mitigating/Aggravating Circumstances
PERFORMANCE FEEDBACK
“I” Message Technique
When ___________________________________ (Factually describe the behavior)
The effect on me is ________________________________
(Describe the results of the action)
I feel ____________________________________________
(Give an honest description of your feelings)
I hope/prefer that you ______________________________
(State your expectations of behavioral change or continuity)
STEPS FOR RECEIVING FEEDBACK
1. Stay calm and take charge of your emotions
2. Listen
3. Ask for clarification or additional information if needed
4. Ask for suggestions
5. Consider the information; agree with any truth
6. Acknowledge and respond to the message
VIOLENT EMPLOYEE PROFILE
White (75% probability) male (80% probability)
25-50 years of age (90% probability)
History of violence, family, or marital problems
Is a loner
Is an angry person—crying out for help—with few outlets for that anger
Has a history of interpersonal conflict
Has temper control difficulties
Strong political and religious views
Socially withdrawn, low self-esteem
Becomes paranoid of others
VIOLENT EMPLOYEE PROFILE
Exhibits self-destructive behavior, such as drug or alcohol abuse
Frequently complains about working conditions, environment, or stress
Blames others for his or her problems
Has fascination with, access to, and is familiar with guns
Makes direct or veiled threats
Intimidates or instills fear in others
A triggering event, such as a loss of job, financial, legal, or other personal problems
Possible history of military service
WHY PEOPLE RESIST
1. Loss of control
2. Excess uncertainty
3. Surprise, surprise
4. “Difference” effect
5. Loss of face
6. Concerns about future competence
7. Ripple effects
8. More work
9. Past resentments
10. Sometimes the threat is real
11. Disagreement with change
12. Lack of ongoing information on progress
SUREFIRE WAYS TO ESCALATE CONFLICT AND INCREASE DEFENSIVENESS
1. Use the words “always” and “never”
2. Be judgmental
3. Speak without thinking
4. Argue
5. Use a loud tone of voice
6. Use closed-ended questions only
7. Remain fixed in your thinking
8. Lecture
9. Remain indifferent
10. Be patronizing
11. Air your own issues
12. Counter-attack
13. Make “you” statements
INGETEAM | February 2015INGETEAM | February 2015
THANK YOU!THANK YOU!
Resolving Conflict and Handling Difficult People Problems
Presented by:Andrew C. Marris, MBA
Learning and Development Manager
FRONTLINE LEADERSHIP SERIESSESSION 4