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RESILIENCY: BOUNCING BACK “If we focus on the child’s behavior and neglect the reasons behind it, then we’ll concentrate only on the symptoms not the cause.” Dr. Daniel Siegel, No Drama Discipline

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RESILIENCY: BOUNCING BACK

“If we focus on the child’s behavior and neglect the reasons behind it,

then we’ll concentrate only on the symptoms not the cause.”Dr. Daniel Siegel, No Drama Discipline

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AGENDA:CARING

COMPETENCE

CONNECTION

CHARACTER

COPING

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OBJECTIVES:

The participant will develop resiliency traits:

Connecting, Coping, Competence, and

Character Strengthening.

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STRESS HAPPENS

Aids in survival.

Emotions play a role in how we experience stress.

The way we think about stress and what we choose to do about it can affect the impact of stress.

QuarantineSocial distancingFace masks

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NAEYC TIPS

David J Schonfeld, MD, FAAP [email protected] Dr. Schonfeld is the Director at the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement [email protected] Children’s Hospital Los Angeles

• Give hugs.

• Show love.

• Welcome: “Under my mask, I’m smiling!”

• Show me on the chart how you feel today.

• Restore predictable routine! Expect shorter attention spans.

• Focus on life skills rather than “Catch up.”

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CARING MEANS

Teach children to care for themselves even if it takes longer than doing it for them.

Teach them how to relieve stress beyond what notto do.

Model that feelings are expected for all ages.

Focus on accomplishments more.

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CHILDREN …

Who realize that they can control the outcomes of their decisions are more likely to realize that they can bounce back.

Can live up or down to our expectations.

Need to be connected to an adult with unconditional love.

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DISCIPLINE

Should be about teaching not punishing.

Means learning that actions produce consequences.

Means teachers are consistent not rigid.

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ENERGIZER: SHAKE IT OFF

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COMPETENCE BUILDS CONFIDENCE

EMPOWER PROBLEM-SOLVING

COACH PERSISTENCE AND KINDNESS

RECOGNIZE WHAT EACH CHILD HAS DONE

WELL

PRAISE HONESTLY TEACH THEM SOCIAL SKILLS, ANGER

MANAGEMENT SKILLS AND STRESS-REDUCTION

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TEACHABLE MOMENTS

Use children mistakes as a teachable moment.

Guide better choices. Adults are the “self-talk” coach until age 7: “Oops. Everyone makes mistakes,” rather than, “That was dumb.”

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CHARACTER STRENGTHENING

Demonstrate how behavior affects others

Help the child see themselves as a caring person

Time for life skills

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COPING

Coping with stress helps children deal with challenges in life. Model positive coping consistently.

Guide the children to develop coping strategies, such as breathing, movement, music, books.

Avoid shaming, raising your voice, over-talking, and an intimidating posture.

Build sense of safety.

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KEEP CALM WHEN YOU REDIRECTWait until the child is ready and be consistent with some flexibility. (birthday, grandparents)

R = Reduce words.

E = Embrace emotions.

D = Describe and don’t lecture; listen more.

I = Involve the child in the discipline lesson.

R = Reframe a no into a conditional yes if possible.

E = Emphasize the positive.

C = Connect before and after.

T = Teach without criticizing. Source: No Drama Discipline

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WHEN CHILDREN ARE EMOTIONALPROVIDE CHOICES

Offering two acceptable options upshifts from emotional to executive

Move brain into receptive rather than reactive.

Provide encouragement once the child selects one of the options. Ex: Three-year-old playing with foodtig is walking through hard times when children are emotionally suffering just like we do if they are physically suffering. We build resilience and independence.

– No Drama Discipline

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Connecting is walking through hard times when children are emotionally suffering just like we do if they are physically suffering. We build resilience and independence.

– No Drama Discipline

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BOUNCING BACK SUMMARY: CONNECTING IS KEY.

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QUESTIONS?

TRAINING: [email protected]: [email protected]

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SOURCES

David J Schonfeld, MD, FAAP [email protected] He is the director at the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement [email protected] Children’s Hospital Los Angeles.

www.Healthychildren.org; Building Resilience in Children. American Academy of Pediatrics. Downloaded 12/10/19

Building Resilience in Children and Teens. Kenneth Ginsburg, MD. Publisher: American Academy of Pediatrics. 2015.

No-Drama Discipline. Bantam Books. New York. Siegel, Daniel, M.D., Bryson, Tina, PhD. 2016.

Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion. Gary Chapman. Moody Publishers. Chicago.2015.

Conscious Discipline® Dr. Becky Bailey, 2015. Loving Guidance, Inc.

Thriving Family magazine 2014 Todd Cartmell; Thriving Family.com 9/2015

Unselfie, Michele Borba, Ed.D. Touchstone. 2016.

Zero to Three National Center: Key Findings for Early Childhood Professionals and Teachers from Millennial Connections. Oct 3, 2018