Resilience
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If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew to serve your turn long after they are gone, and so hold on when there is
nothing in you except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’… Yours is the Earth
and everything that’s in it,…
Rudyard Kipling
Emotional numbing
Derealization
Increased irritability and anger outbursts
Difficulty concentrating
Hyper-vigilance
Exaggerated startle response
Rate Your Anger• Ears are hot• Skin is red• Gritting your teeth• Staring down the other
person• Balled-up fists• Cursing
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He who… to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life in fruitless efforts and
multiply the grief which he purposes to remove.
Samuel Johnson
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to
choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
Viktor Frankl
Stimulus Response
Silence after telling
an edgy joke.
I’ve offended him
He dropped phone laughing
There is a dropped call
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Why WhatPlaces blame
Looks for excuses
Antagonistic
What is the worst part of that for me?
What does that mean to me?
What happens next?
… the holistic experience that people feel when they act with total involvement.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
http:// www. viacharacter. org
Identify Strengths in yourself and others
Energizes
Comes natural
Achieve Flow states
Another way to say ‘rewarding’
Strengths
Of all the things which wisdom provides to make life entirely happy, much the
greatest is the possession of friendship.
Epicurus
Constructive Destructive
Passive
Active Joy Multiplier Joy Thief
Conversation Killer
Conversation Hacker
You do not have to suffer to learn. But, if you don’t learn from suffering, over which
you have no control, then your life becomes truly meaningless.
Viktor Frankl
Meaning is web of connections, understandings, and interpretations that help us comprehend our experience and formulate plans directing our energies to
the achievement of our desired future. Meaning provides us with the sense that our lives matter, that they make sense, and that they are more than the sum of
our seconds, days, and years.
M. Steger
The quality of a person’s life is in direct proportion to their commitment to
excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.
Vince Lombardi
Re-label Emotions
Frustration
Worry
Dread
Flustered
Alarmed
Pressured
Fear
Desire
Concern
Caution
Excited
Curious
Courted
Anticapated