Relational DynamicsRelational Dynamics

AttractionAttraction

Similarity

Complementary

Reciprocal

AttractionAttraction

Competence

Disclosure

Proximity

IntimacyIntimacyDimensions:

Physical

Intellectual

Emotional

Shared Activities

Developmental ModelsDevelopmental Models

Self DisclosureSelf Disclosure

Occurs in Dyads

Occurs in Increments

Few involve high levels

Relatively scarce

Occurs in positive relationships

Reasons for Self DisclosureReasons for Self Disclosure

Catharsis

Reciprocity

Self Clarification

Self Validation

Reasons for Self DisclosureReasons for Self Disclosure

Identity Management

Relationship maintenance

Social Control

Manipulation

I. FriendsI. Friends

A. Three Types

1. reciprocity = based on equality

2. receptivity = imbalance of giving and receiving

3. association = cordial, but not intense

B. Needs of Friendships

C. Stages of Development

1. initial contact & acquaintanceship

2. causal friendship

3. close & intimate

4. cultural differences

5. gender differences

6. love & communication

II. LoversA. Types of Love

II. LoversA. Types of Love

1. Eros = beauty & sexuality, sudden & dramtic

2. Ludus = a fun game, playful2. Ludus = a fun game, playful

3. Storge = companionship that lacks passion & intensity, friendly

4. Pragma = practical & traditional (rarely deteriorate)

4. Pragma = practical & traditional (rarely deteriorate)

5. Mania =Extreme, Obsessive, Passionate5. Mania =Extreme, Obsessive, Passionate

6. Agape = compassionate & selfless

6. Agape = compassionate & selfless

CommunicationCommunication

• Show Respect• Don’t sweat the small stuff• It is a package deal• Make daily choices to

enhance intimacy