Refusal Skills and THE Right to Say “No”
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Refusal Skills and
THE Right to Say “No”
Sexual Health Program Public Health Services
March 2012
Refusal SkillsRefusal Skills
What are Refusal Skills?
Why do we need to learn about refusal skills in relationships?
Refusal SkillsRefusal Skills
Refusal skills are ways to say
“NO” to risky behaviors.
Refusal SkillsRefusal Skills
Refusal skillsRefusal skills help students to resist peer pressure and to maintain their self-respect at the same.
Refusal skillsRefusal skills can be used in situations of crime,
drug and alcohol use, sexual activity
and violence.
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Refusal Skills / Peer Refusal Skills / Peer PressurePressure
Refusal skillsRefusal skills can also be
used in any peer pressure
situations.
Adolescents are very sensitive to
peer pressure and do not want
their peers to make fun of or
ridicule them.
Peer PressurePeer Pressure
Peer pressurePeer pressure can be difficult for some
students to resist.
Why do you think this is?
Peer PressurePeer Pressure
Students may be… - afraid of being rejected by others
- want to be liked and don’t want to lose a friend
- don’t want to be made fun of- don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings- aren’t sure of what they really want- don’t know how to get out of the
situation
Peer PressurePeer Pressure
Saying “no” can sometimes be hard, but you might be surprised how easy it gets with practice.
If you know you are going to be some place where
you might be in a difficult position, plan a
response or action ahead of time.
Refusal Skills TechniquesRefusal Skills Techniques
Some ways that have worked for youth…
Just say “NO” or “NO THANKS”! Keep on repeating it.
Refuse – “Don’t feel like it.” “No way.”
Leave- this way you can't be persuaded to join in. Leave quietly while no one notices or by making an excuse or joke - “You guys are too crazy for me ...see you later.”
Make an excuse. "Can't stop now, got to go....." “I’ll barf.” or “I have to get up in the morning.”
Pretend you haven't heard and walk away
Refusal Skills Refusal Skills TechniquesTechniques
Change the subject – talk about something else
Laugh - "I thought you said… You've got to be joking!" then change the subject or leave - still laughing.
Pretend to be shocked or amazed
Come up with a better idea – “Nah, that doesn’t sound like much fun. Let’s go play video games at my house instead.”
Blame your parents – My Mom can smell this stuff a mile away and I’ll get grounded for months.”
Refusal Skills TechniquesRefusal Skills Techniques
Give friendly advice:
“That could be a dumb thing to do. Whose idea was it? You're too smart to get into that.”
“I'm not doing this because I'm your friend and I don't
want to see you get into trouble.”
“That's a bit unkind. How would you feel if someone did (said) that to you?“”
“Everybody's different, even you.”
“You're entitled to your opinion, I'm entitled to mine.”
More TechniquesMore Techniques
Turn the Tables If the person won’t let up try turning the tables and ask, “why do you care if I do or don’t ?” Be confident in your response.
State the Truth People don’t like being accused of peer pressuring others, so try stating the obvious, “wow, the peer pressure in this room is pretty strong!” then smile and walk away.
Be Proactive If you know you are in a situation where you are likely to be offered alcohol or other drugs, leave before you ever get to that point.
Accept the Person, Reject the Behaviour If the person is giving you a hard time try telling the person,
“I respect your choice to do drugs, respect mine not to.”
NICE TechniqueNICE Technique
N – say “NO” not “maybe” or “later”
I – use an “I” statement – “I do not want to…”
C – “change” the topic
E – have an “exit” plan for leaving a pressure
situation
Sandwich TechniqueSandwich Technique
Sandwich formulaSandwich formula (positive-negative-positive)
1. Compliment the person (positive)2. Refuse or be negative about the activity,
not the person (negative)3. Come back with a positive suggestion
(positive)
Sandwich TechniquesSandwich Techniques
Examples:“I really like hanging with you. Drugs are not my style
though. Besides I would get kicked off the hockey team if I was caught doing drugs.”
“No way man, smoking is stupid. Let’s go see who is playing basketball at the school.”
“No thanks, alcohol is not for me. My parents would ground me for a month if they thought I tried that stuff.”
“I would be very happy to help you with your assignment. I cannot work with you if you are drinking though. Why don’t you come to my house with me after school?”
Can you think of some ???
Refusal Skills Refusal Skills
Whatever you do, speak firmly. Let Whatever you do, speak firmly. Let your friends know that your mind is your friends know that your mind is made up and you will not talk about made up and you will not talk about it any more.it any more.
Encourage others to choose healthful Encourage others to choose healthful and responsible behaviors.and responsible behaviors.
Quote from teens:Quote from teens:
““Be yourself. Be yourself. Don’t do anything Don’t do anything
you don’t want you don’t want to do.”to do.”
Refusal Skills Refusal Skills
Best answer for any type of pressure is
““Good-bye!”Good-bye!”
RightsRights
You have the right to resist anyone or anything that someone is pressuring
you to do.
You have the right to say no, the right not to give a reason why, and the right to just walk away from the situation.
Right to Say “NO”Right to Say “NO”
* Religious/moral beliefs/ values
* Do not want to keep secrets from parents
* To avoid guilt, fear and disappointment * More time for friends and activities
* Can increase personal growth * Can develop a more positive relationships
NONO worries worries about potential consequences
Right to Say “NO”Right to Say “NO”
You are the one who needs to decide what makes you feel happy and comfortable doing.
You deserve to be liked, respected and loved for more than your willingness to participate in risky behaviors.
You have a right to sayYou have a right to say ““NO”NO” at any time! at any time!
QuotesQuotes
“ “ You matter.You matter.You are the sum You are the sum of of your heart and your heart and mind and mind and spirit. ”spirit. ”
QuotesQuotes
Quote by Dr. Suess:
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”
ResourcesResources
AADAC, OYZ Refusal Strategy Toolkit www.family.samhsa.gov www.theantidrug.com
Great to Wait website
www.greattowait.com/parents-educators.html
Public Health Agency of Canada (PHAC)Sex?-A Healthy Sexuality Resource Nova
Scotia Public Health Services www.gov.ns.ca/ohp
Sexuality and U website- www.sexualityandu.ca
Wikipedia
