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Ferdinand M. Salazar August 19, 2013
B.S. ECE 5A Engr. Alex Maureal
How to Win Friends and Influence People Part 2
Reflection
We, as human beings, are sociable in nature. Part of this innate
characteristic is our desire to feel important and be liked by the people that surround
us. But pleasing people is not that easy since each and every one is uniquely
different and this means that the approach required to make each of these persons
like us may vary. However, Dale Carnegie has come up with 6 principles to follow in
order to gain favor in the eyes of other people. These techniques can be applied in
general but still, it requires a different approach for every person. The effectiveness
of these principles is supported by the stories coming different individuals who have
been successful in making other people like them.
Principle 1
According to Carnegie, we can gain more friends in showing interestin other people rather than trying to make other people become interested in you.
Having been able to read the previous chapter of Carnegies book, I have learned
that nothing makes most people more interested than taking about themselves. This
principle, then, is the application of that knowledge. Knowing that people put
themselves as their top interest, we can make them like us by showing them that we
are also interested in them. What makes two people become friends is having a
common interest. If he/she is interested with himself/herself and you are also
interested in him/her then you have something in common. This, we can say, is the
logic behind the first principle.
Carnegie stresses out that we need to be genuinely interested in
people. Our interest must be for real. People can discern if it is real interest through
our actions. Genuine interest can make other feel good and this is how we will gain
true friendship. This will not only be beneficial to you but also to the person whom
you are interested with. If you do this, you will be welcome anywhere.
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Principle 2
This next principle does not require much from us. It is very simple yet
it can convey different kinds of positive messages. It warms the heart, eases the
mind and soothes the soul. It can lighten up other peoples mood and it can brighten
up your image. A smile; it is a very small gesture but does a tremendous effect.
The expression that a person wears has much more value than the
clothes he/she has put on. You may wear the most expensive and trendy clothes but
you will not be liked by other people if you project a sour face. You have to smile
because it reflects your mental attitude. It shows people that you are kind and easy
to get along with, hence, they will like you. A smile must be sincere, it must radiate
the joy and gladness from within. If the expression is but an insincere grin, people
will know it. Even when talking over the telephone, people will detect if whether or
not the person who is talking is smiling. A smile and a positive attitude is not only
seen but also felt.
A smile will not cost the giver anything, but it could mean so much to
the one who sees it.
Principle 3
No amount of sweet words could ever compare to the sound of your
very own name. Carnegie says that to a person, his/her own name is the most
pleasing sound that he/she could ever hear. That is why it is very important to
remember other peoples names. This technique might not sound very impressivebut it has undoubtedly made wonders for a lot of successful business men. Carnegie
has cited a number of examples wherein a leader, whether in a company or in
politics, has gained favor in the eyes of his/her subordinates by remembering each of
their names.
In history, people try to glorify their names by doing great things so that
they will not be forgotten. People pay so much, even fund an entire expedition, just
to have the honor of having a place named after them. This is the evidence that
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people value their names so much. Ones name is very precious to him/her because
it is a thing that he/she truly owns. No one can take it away from. It is his/her identity
and it is what makes a person unique. If you remember a persons name, it gives him
the sense of importance. The persons feels that his existence has been validated or
recognized by another. If you fail to remember others names, you are definitely
headed for trouble but doing otherwise will make them like you.
Principle 4
Most people like to talk, they want to be heard. They want to share
their experiences, state their opinions and relate stories. But most of all, they love to
talk about themselves. It has been repeatedly stated in the book that the most
interesting topic for people is about themselves. Carnegie states that one of the keys
to make people like you is to listen to them. Try to make a conversation which
encourages them to talk about themselves and then listen intently to what they have
to say. Do not talk too much about yourself because they are more interested in
themselves than in you. Listening to them makes them feel that you are interest in
you and you two will get along with each other very well. This is the secret to being a
good conversationalist. Also, make sure that you sincerely listen and remember the
important things that the other person has told you. Once he/she feels you are
interested in him/her, he/she will also be interested in you eventually.
Principle 5
Aside from talking about themselves, people also want to talk about
their interests. Therefore, we should find out what they want to talk about. We must
have knowledge about the things that the other persons is interested with. This way,
the conversation will not be boring. Both of you can share your insights and
information regarding the topic that he/she is very interested with. Both parties will
benefit in a smart and healthy conversation.
Principle 6
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The last principle is what we might say the gist of the previous
principles. It states that we should be genuinely interested in other people so that
they will like us. We must talk about them, appreciate their good qualities and their
interests. They must feel important and appreciated and in return they will like you.