Redo of chapter 12 slides 2010

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Guard your HeartChapter 12

Liz Casteel, M.A., LPC Counselor and Founder, Nikao Counseling Center


I. Overview


I. Overview• How can you “live pure” in an impure

world?



world?• You would come to understand WHY

you have made some of the decisions you have regarding your purity





• Proverbs 2:7-11





• Proverbs 2:7-11– Discretion will protect you…

understanding will guard you.


II. The ABC’s of Discretion


II. The ABC’s of Discretion• A – Accept your call to be HOLY

(…to be set apart)




• B – Be aware(…of your mind and your motives)




• B – Be aware(…of your mind and your motives)

• C – Community(…allow yourself to be in community with people)



A. Accept the call to be holy



A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”



A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”– Check your clothes



A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”– Check your clothes– Check what you watch



A. Accept the call to be holy– I Peter 1 – “Be holy because I am holy.”– Check your clothes– Check what you watch

• You may have to “narrow” your road to be “set apart”



B. Be aware of your mind and your motives



B. Be aware of your mind and your motives– What is it in your mind that is causing you

to do what you do? Think about these thoughts…





– Are you motives attention driven?





– Are you motives attention driven?

• Go back and look at the Wounds chapter in this workshop



C. Get in community



C. Get in community- Authentic



C. Get in community- Authentic- Someone else has to know your stuff



C. Get in community- Authentic- Someone else has to know your stuff- July 4th party



C. Get in community- Authentic- Someone else has to know your stuff- July 4th party- Be willing to USE your community – i.e.,

ask them what they think…go to them for feedback…get help.


Guys vs. Girls


Guys vs. Girls

– Guys are typically driven by physical appearance vs. girls are typically driven by emotional connectedness


Guys vs. Girls


– Guys crave physical intimacy vs. girls crave emotional intimacy


Guys vs. Girls



– Guys are stimulated by what they see vs. girls are stimulated by what we feel


Guys vs. Girls




– Guys give love to get sex vs. girls will typically give sex to get love


Guys vs. Girls




– Guys give love to get sex vs. girls will typically give sex to get love

THIS IS WHY WE MUST GUARD OUR HEARTS


III. How do we guard our hearts?



1. Avoid “faux intimacy”



1. Avoid “faux intimacy”– Leads to a wounded heart



1. Avoid “faux intimacy”– Leads to a wounded heart– Understanding the differences will help you

avoid experiencing these new wounds



1. Avoid “faux intimacy”– Leads to a wounded heart– Understanding the differences will help you

avoid experiencing these new wounds– Above all else guard your HEART!



2. The 3 nothings:



2. The 3 nothings:– Nothing below the neck



2. The 3 nothings:– Nothing below the neck– Nothing lying down



2. The 3 nothings:– Nothing below the neck– Nothing lying down– Nothing taken off



3. Make pure decisions in advance



3. Make pure decisions in advance– You have to make a decision way before

hand…as to what you are going to do and not going to do.





– Recognize the “inertia” of sex





– Recognize the “inertia” of sex• The TRAIN example





– Recognize the “inertia” of sex• The TRAIN example• The SLIDE example





– Recognize the “inertia” of sex• The TRAIN example• The SLIDE example

– YOU MUST MAKE THE DECISION BEFOREHAND!



4. Watch yourself and your surroundings



4. Watch yourself and your surroundings– Watch what you wear



4. Watch yourself and your surroundings– Watch what you wear– Evaluate the music you listen to




• Music triggers things in us




• Music triggers things in us• Are you listening to the right stuff?


IV. Keep a Journal


IV. Keep a Journal

• What are the things that you are doing that lack discretion?


IV. Keep a Journal


• What are some things that you have been doing or have done that have created wounds?


IV. Keep a Journal


• What are some things that you have been doing or have done that have created wounds?

• What are the things you can do today that will cause you to be set apart?


V. Closing Thoughts


V. Closing Thoughts

• Remember, you will swimming up stream…but God will give you the strength to do it.


V. Closing Thoughts

• Remember, you will swimming up stream…but God will give you the strength to do it.

• God is in the business of helping people become victorious…God wants you to experience Nikao in your life.


Guard your HeartEnd: Chapter 12

Liz Casteel, M.A., LPC Counselor and Founder, Nikao Counseling Center

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