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R E L A T I O N S H I Pt r a n s p a r e n c y & t r u s t

R.E.A.L

Leadership

Retreat

January 2011

Tuesday, January 11, 2011


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Wisdom is knowing what to do nex

skill is knowing how to do it,

and virtue is doing it.

-- David Starr Jordan



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My Background

My Motivation



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My Grid:

Map, GPS, & Blueprint: Design for all of life



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My Grid:




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My Grid:




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My Grid:




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My Grid:




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My Grid:


People MatterTuesday, January 11, 2011


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My Grid:


People MatterYou MatterTuesday, January 11, 2011


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My Experience

Interviewing Leaders who arefinishing well



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My Experience

Interviewing Leaders who arefinishing well

Gen. Chuck Krulak, John Wooden,Ernie Harwell, Archie Dunham,

and many others whom no one would know



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Top Trend of Last 10 Years



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Top Trend of Last 10 Years

Connection



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Relationships are hardIneverthoughtmuchofthecourageofalion-tamer.

Insidethecageheisatleastsafefrompeople.--GeorgeBernardShaw



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Relationships are rewardingIsanypleasureonearthasgreatasa

circleoffriendsbyafire?--CSLewis



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Relationships make us betteIseeinyoureyes...

--Aragorn,TheReturnoftheKing



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Iseeiny

thesame

wouldtak

ofme

comewcourageo

when

forsaken

andbrea

offellowisnot

--Aragorn,ThK



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Relationships touch everyaspect of who we are



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This works everywhere



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As an employee



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As an employee

...a Boss



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As an employee

...a Boss

...a friend



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As an employee

...a Boss

...a friend

...a spouse or parent



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Friends as Family & Family as Friends

As an employee

...a Boss

...a friend

...a spouse or parent



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Jim Collins, author of From Good to Greon Level Five Leadership



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Jim Collins, author of From Good to Greon Level Five Leadership

return to this at the end



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Marcs Seven Laws ofRelationships

The Law of Priorities



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The Law of Priorities

Princeton survey-we act not on what we believe,but what we prioritize; the example we set



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The Law of Proximityor...The Law of Journeying Together



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The Law of Proximityor...The Law of Journeying Together

Frozen trees in Colorado, Frodo and Samwise



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Sam:"Iwonderifpeoplewilleversay,letshearaboutFrodoandtheRi


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p p y

Andtheyllsayyes,thatsoneofmyfavoritestories.Frodowasreally

courageous,wasnthe,dad.Yes,myboy,themostfamousestofhobbits

thatssayingalot."

Frodo:"Youleftoutoneofthechiefcharacters.Samwise,theBrave.IwahearmoreaboutSam."

Frodo:"FrodowouldnthavegotfarwithoutSam."

Sam:"NowMr.Frodo,youshouldntmakefun.Iwasbeingserious."

Frodo:"SowasI."

Sam:"SamwisetheBrave."



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The Law of Listening

Listen not just with your ears, but with your eyes;walk dont run & Annies challenge; watch out forwhat youre thinking about; listening is an art



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The Law of Commitment



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The Law of Commitment

Compassion & Healing (Mead & firstevidence of civilization),



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One day Mead was asked by a student what were the earliest signs ofcivilization, expecting an answer like a tool or clay pot or perhaps a fisor grinding stone. Instead, she answered, A healed femur. Mead exthat no healed femurs are found where the law of the jungle, survival

fittest, reigns. A healed femur shows that someone cared because somhad to do that injured persons gathering or hunting until the leg healedevidence of compassion is the first sign of civilization.



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The Law of the Cathedral


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The Law of the Cathedral

Passion and a mission worth dying for;building something that will endure



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M S L f


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The Law of Tough Love

Telling the truth-Hearing the truth


M Se e L f


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The Law of Intimacy


Marcs Seven Laws of


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The Law of IntimacyConnection between sacrifice & love


Marcs Seven Laws of


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Marc s Seven Laws ofRelationships

No greater love is there than this...


Marcs Seven Laws of


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Marc s Seven Laws ofRelationships

No greater love is there than this...

than a man lay down his life for his frie


Finding Your Band of Brothers / Sister


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Finding Your Band of Brothers / S ister

What you receive



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Finding Your Band of Brothers / Sister


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What you receive

Experience nobil ity - cal l out the best of who yo

Live with courage - rise to the challenge when times




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What you receive

Experience nobil ity - cal l out the best of who yo

Live with courage - rise to the challenge when times

Learn how to love - learning the lessons of every seaso



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Four A s ofRelat ionships



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Four A s ofRelat ionships

Acceptance

an unconditional foundation...



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The Four A s


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Affirmation

of Relat ionships

Acceptance

to state what is positively true.


The Four A s


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Affirmation

of Relat ionships

Acceptance

Accountability


The Four A s


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Affirmation

of Relat ionships

Acceptance

AccountabilityA counting of what happens--the things that mat


The Four A s


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of Relat ionships

Accountability


The Four A s


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of Relat ionships

Accountability

Honesty: I never give em hell. I just give em thtruth, and they think its hell. --Harry S. Truman


The Four A s


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of Relat ionships

Accountability


The Four A sf l h


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of Relat ionships

Accountability

Both sides of the relationship equation:I am also accountable to be a trusted friend.


The Four A sf R l i hi


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Affirmation

of Relat ionships

Acceptance

AccountabilityAuthority


The Four A sf R l i hi


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of Relat ionships

Authority


The Four A sf R l t i hi


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of Relat ionships

Authority

Authority is a covering that makesrelationships safe and thriving.


The Four A sf R l t i hi


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of Relat ionships

Authority


The Four A sof Relat ionships


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of Relat ionships

Authority

Authority serves the needs of the relationship:power, protection, prioritization.



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A homework assignment


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What two qualities can you develop to becomestronger leader ( and person) in the area ofrelationships? (At work/school? At home?)

Personal Code



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