Raising Kids in a Digital World 2016

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Raising Kids in a Digital World Holly Gerla & Sam Harris, Ethics 4 a Digital World Emily McMason, Evolving Parents

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Raising Kids in a Digital World

Holly Gerla & Sam Harris, Ethics 4 a Digital World

Emily McMason, Evolving Parents

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Who are you raising right

now?

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Brain Anatomy 101

“brain power” by Allan Ajifo (modub.net) is licensed under CC BY 2.0

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The best part of parenting today is what we know

from studying the brain.

Image: Yale University Medical School

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It can also feel like the worst...

20%

80%

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20%

80%

Our job for the next decade (or more) is to be their prefrontal cortex.

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The issues:

• Pre-frontal cortex isn’t fully online

• The ‘brakes’ aren’t wired

• The gas pedal is floored

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The result:

We spend a lot of time asking “what were you thinking?”.

“I don’t know” is the response. They aren’t kidding.

Because…they have “less control over impulsive behavior,

less understanding of the consequences, and fewer tools to

stop the behavior.”

Neuroscientist Frances Jensen

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The result:

“...adolescents aren’t reckless because they

underestimate risks, but rather because they

overestimate rewards – something that can

be partially attributed to the fact that the reward centers of

the adolescent brain are much more active than those

of children or adults.”

Ellen Kate, everyday feminism

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Thesolution:

• Tell them short term consequences, not long term

ramifications. They aren’t planners. It won’t hook

them.

• Shock & awe – give them the jolt to pay attention &

memorize results.

• Be their brakes through the rules you have.

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access:

What apps are your kids using? What are the age

requirements for each one?

• = 13 and

*

• = 14

• = 16

• = 17

• = 18, or 13-17 w/ parents’

permission.

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access:Making a decision...

– Talk to other families or do a quick search for

information

– Compare that to your family’s values and rules

– Read the Terms of Service

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boundaries:

For young children

• consider how expensive the ‘toy’

• how often you will be reminding them of the rules

• and what a child is missing when they are in front of a

screen.

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boundaries:

For young children

• Let’s talk about gaming - MINECRAFT!!!!!

• educational games vs. entertainment

• What is the reward every time you open a new app? start

a new game? beat the next level?

• “what’s the difference between passion and obsession?”

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boundaries:

For tweens & teens:

• No computers, phones, ithings in bedrooms.

• No texting / calling in the car.

• Ideally, no screens 90-120 minutes before bed.

• No (extra) media during homework.

• Know all their passwords.

• Follow & read their digital messages.

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boundaries:

Establish expectations early, but it’s never

too late

Contract examples:

Common Sense Media

● media use guidelines for K-5, 6-9, 9-12

● customizable device contract

Jo Langford, MA

● teen guidelines (many specific to boys)

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instead:

• Weekday... first ___ / then___ expectations.

• Weekend family (fun!) options:

o Game nights.

o Rural walks / hikes.

o Reading times.

o Urban outings.

• Media literacy: consumption, creation, communication.

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Why does media use matter?Because it has a huge impact on non-media aspects of life.

• Attention:

• see vs. watch and think

• 20 second rule

• Fire it to wire it

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Why does media use matter?Sleep:

• 10 hours until age 10, then 9.5 hours

• Remember the nearly 9 & 6 hours of daily entertainment

media?

• Chronic missed sleep leads to:

o depression

o acne

o aggressive behavior

o cognitive problems

o learning difficulties

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Why does media use matter?

Obesity:

o sitting, and sitting in front of a screen or not the same.

o Screen time messes with appetite.

o Kids ate more meals on screen days

o They ate more calories at each meal

o They ate fewer veggies.

o And they reported feeling less hungry before the meal

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The biggest issues we see as

educators...

● Multitasking Myths

● Consumption vs. Creation

● Evaluation of Media for Education and

Personal Use

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What’s actually going on in your brain?

“Multitasking reduces your efficiency and performance

because your brain can only focus on one thing at a

time. When you try to do two things at once, your brain

lacks the capacity to perform both tasks successfully.” (Forbes, 2015)

Multitasking Myths

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Evaluation of Media

S start with someone / something you trust

L listen to your instincts

O observe others around you. What are they

doing? Why?

W wisdom - journal your experiences,

collect your

own wisdom.

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More Resources/Links

Safer Search engines:• Duck, Duck Go

• KidRex

• KidzSearch

• SafeSearchKids

• GoGooligans

Sam and Holly - Ethics 4 a Digital World - (Facebook, Twitter,

Pinterest)

Emily - evolving parents - (Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest,

Instagram)

Browser add-ons or

extensions:• AdBlock Plus

• A Cleaner Internet

• Simple Profanity Filter (for Chrome)

• Ghostery (identify and block

trackers)

• Lightbeam (for Firefox)

• Web of Trust

In terms of devices or networks you use, every family is slightly different. If you’re looking for other tools to

help you manage equipment, wifi, devices, etc. try a Google search using “parental controls” in the search

string. And check with your internet service provider (ISP) for what controls they have available for your in-

home networks.

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Organizations to Follow:• Common Sense Media - (Facebook, Twitter)

• Family Online Safety Institute - (Facebook, Twitter)

• Pew Internet & American Life Project - (Facebook, Twitter)

Adolescent Development:• Julie Giesy Metzger, RN, MN and Robert Lehman, MD, Great

Conversations

• Robin Wright, The Wright Conversations

• Amy Lang, Birds + Bees + Kids

• Jo Langford, Be Heroes

Find even more links on our website. And “Like” us on Facebook or follow

on Twitter for more current information. Thanks for attending our

workshop!

More Resources/Links

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Books!• Bazelon, Emily - Sticks and Stones: Defeating the Culture of Bullying and

Rediscovering the Power of Character and Empathy

• boyd, danah - It's Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens

• Englander, Elizabeth - Bullying and Cyberbullying: What Every Educator

Needs to Know

• James, Carrie - Disconnected: Youth, New Media, and the Ethics Gap

• Jensen, Frances E. MD - The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival

Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults

• Steinberg, Laurence, PhD - Age of Opportunity: Lessons from the New

Science of Adolescence

• Wiseman, Rosalind - Masterminds & Wingmen: Helping Our Boys Cope

with Schoolyard Power, Locker-Room Tests, Girlfriends, and the New

Rules of Boy World

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Q&A